35 episodes

Every month relationship therapist, Rebecca Wong, LCSW, invites a fabulous, big-thinking guest to talk about what it means to be human together. We’ll have deep conversations about the roots of disconnection and how to consciously restore wholeness in Self and in relationship. Join us as we reconnect the world, one conversation at a time.

Connectfulness Practice Connectfulness Rebecca Wong

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Every month relationship therapist, Rebecca Wong, LCSW, invites a fabulous, big-thinking guest to talk about what it means to be human together. We’ll have deep conversations about the roots of disconnection and how to consciously restore wholeness in Self and in relationship. Join us as we reconnect the world, one conversation at a time.

    Baby Bomb with Stan Tatkin & Kara Hoppe

    Baby Bomb with Stan Tatkin & Kara Hoppe

    Dr. Stan Tatkin and Kara Hoppe, psychotherapists and co-authors of Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, join the podcast to share their wisdom on creating secure, purposeful relationships in a world that is indifferent to us. They explain why this relationship is so imperative, especially when it comes to raising healthy, happy children.
    Stan and Kara both bring a wealth of understanding of neurobiology and personal relational experience to this conversation. We talk about the importance of humor, how suffering can motivate us toward change, and how we can shift from being feeling-centered to purpose-centered in our relationship. All of this ultimately makes us better parents and creates a secure relational foundation for our children. In other words, this is how we parents can make it through the overwhelm, heal wounds for future generations, and begin to create the world we want to live in.
    Whether you’re expecting your first child, are deep in the throes of raising children already, or just want to be a parent someday, this conversation is for you.
    RESOURCES:Learn more about Dr. Stan Tatkin, his upcoming trainings and retreats and more at https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ (https://www.thepactinstitute.com/) Follow him on social media: https://twitter.com/drstantatkin (Twitter), https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute (Facebook), https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/ (Instagram)
    Learn more about Kara Hoppe and her upcoming virtual retreats for couples at https://www.karahoppe.com/ (https://www.karahoppe.com/) Follow her on social media: https://twitter.com/kara_hoppe (Twitter), https://www.facebook.com/karahoppetherapy (Facebook), https://www.instagram.com/karahoppe/ (Instagram)
    Buy their book, Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, on https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Bomb-Relationship-Survival-Parents/dp/168403731X (Amazon) or https://bookshop.org/books/baby-bomb-a-relationship-survival-guide-for-new-parents/9781684037315 (Bookshop.org).
    Listen to Rebecca’s conversation with Dr. Stan Tatkin from Season 1 of the Connectfulness podcast, https://connectfulness.com/episode/006-stan-tatkin (Episode 6 “Why Are Relationships Difficult? With Stan Tatkin”)
    https://connectfulness.com/ (connectfulness.com)
    If you enjoyed this episode and want to dive in deeper, consider joining one of Rebecca’s online offerings to deepen your relational skills and expand your Self care. Learn more at https://connectfulness.com/offerings (connectfulness.com/offerings)
    Also, please check out the new http://whydoesmypartner.com/ (WHY DOES MY PARTNER) short form weekly podcast.
    This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.

    • 1 hr 5 min
    How Has The Pandemic Changed Us? with Paola Bailey

    How Has The Pandemic Changed Us? with Paola Bailey

    The pandemic isn’t over yet, but life is opening back up again. For some of us reopening can feel like whiplash just as much as it did when everything suddenly shut down. This comes as a surprise for so many because who of us didn’t dream about what we were most looking forward to doing when the world reopened again? It turns out it’s not so simple.
    With everything opening up so rapidly, it takes slowing down to reflect and notice what is bubbling up for us. In this episode, we explore windows of tolerance and how we can stay grounded and in our bodies as we test out the different facets of re-entry. We also hold tight to the lessons learned over the last year and question how we can be more intentional in how we redesign our lives going forward. There is wisdom in what we do to survive. For all the challenges, pain, and grief of the past year or more, there is also gratitude, joy, and possibly even a fear of forgetting. As Paola Bailey, Psy.D. says, “We have an opportunity and you have to claim it.”
    This is our last episode of the season. We’ll return in late September with a fresh new season.
    RESOURCES:Paola Bailey, Psy.D. is a bi-cultural, tri-lingual, clinical psychologist who works online with clients in NY and CA thru a feminist psychotherapy and trauma-informed lens. You can find her online at https://www.paolabailey.com (paolabailey.com) and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drpaolabailey/ (@drpaolabailey).
    https://connectfulness.com/ (connectfulness.com)
    If you enjoyed this episode and want to dive in deeper, consider joining one of Rebecca’s online offerings to deepen your relational skills and expand your Self care. Learn more at https://connectfulness.com/offerings (connectfulness.com/offerings)
    Also, please check out the new http://whydoesmypartner.com/ (WHY DOES MY PARTNER) short form weekly podcast.
    This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.

    • 1 hr 2 min
    Boundaries Are An Invitation with Esther Boykin

    Boundaries Are An Invitation with Esther Boykin

    No matter where you are on your healing journey, this episode has much to offer about therapy and setting boundaries. It highlights a gentle way to approach long term healing and reinforces the value of discerning and setting boundaries that keep our selves safe and deepen our relationships.
    Relationships are foundational to our individual and collective wellbeing. Generation after generation of intergenerational trauma have imparted messages that tell us it's selfish/unsafe to focus on our selves. In this episode, we explore how compassionate self inquiry helps expand our understanding of boundaries beyond protection and walls towards invitations for deeper closeness. Healthy relationships feel expansive. Therapy helps us become more expansive, healthier humans, more connected to our full messy, authentic, human selves, to others, and more present in the world. As Esther Boykin says, “therapy is not a dirty word.”
    RESOURCES:Esther Boykin is a psychotherapist who wants to live in a world where everyone believes that Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word. Whether in her role as CEO of Group Therapy Associates, a coach, consultant, author, or media expert, she works daily to make mental health accessible, innovative, and culturally relevant for all people. Find Esther online at https://estherboykin.com/ (estherboykin.com), https://www.grouptherapyassociates.com/ (grouptherapyassociates.com), https://therapyisnotadirtyword.com/ (therapyisnotadirtyword.com), and on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estherbmft/ (@estherbmft).
    https://connectfulness.com/ (connectfulness.com)
    If you enjoyed this episode and want to dive in deeper, consider joining one of Rebecca’s online offerings to deepen your relational skills and expand your Self care. Learn more at https://connectfulness.com/offerings (connectfulness.com/offerings)
    Also, please check out the new http://whydoesmypartner.com/ (WHY DOES MY PARTNER) short form weekly podcast.
    This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.

    • 53 min
    Mother Hunger with Kelly McDaniel

    Mother Hunger with Kelly McDaniel

    Kelly McDaniel, LPC returns to the podcast (she joined us on episode 28: https://connectfulness.com/episode/28-legacy-of-chronic-loneliness-kelly-mcdaniel (The Legacy of Chronic Loneliness)) to explore the legacy of maternal deprivation. Her upcoming book, https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/books/ (Mother Hunger), soothes the legacy of shame that accompanies being under-mothered.
    Mother Hunger addresses the constant search for love —nurturance, protection, and guidance— that may lead to a lifelong quest for what was missing. It’s not about critiquing how you were raised, rather it’s about learning how to heal and re-parent the hungry parts inside. Healing begins with knowing and naming what we are missing.
    If you’re one of many who feel a sense of dread and grief as Mother's Day nears, these feelings may be related to Mother Hunger and I hope this episode helps you feel a little less alone.
    RESOURCES:
    Kelly McDaniel's Website: https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/ (kellymcdanieltherapy.com)
    https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401960855/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_7ND6ZQGX7BMF41CRY7DJ (Preorder the “Mother Hunger” book)
    https://connectfulness.com/ (connectfulness.com)
    If you enjoyed this episode and want to dive in deeper, consider joining one of Rebecca’s online offerings to deepen your relational skills and expand your Self care. Learn more at https://connectfulness.com/offerings (connectfulness.com/offerings)
    Also, please check out the new http://whydoesmypartner.com/ (WHY DOES MY PARTNER) short form weekly podcast.

    This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.

    • 43 min
    Embodying Anti-Racism in Interracial Relationships with Francesca Maximé

    Embodying Anti-Racism in Interracial Relationships with Francesca Maximé

    Our society is constructed to benefit White people, whether they're conscious of it or not. The “norm” we’ve inherited centers an oppressive and privileging system when it comes to equity and power. And it plays out in relationships...
    In this episode, Francesca Maximé joins us to explore how interracial partners can embody anti-racism in their relationship. We explore how blind spots and racial misattunements affect interracial relationships. And we discuss how to build more equitable partnerships.
    White Partners: You may have to practice sitting with discomfort, be honest about what you don't know, educate yourself, and lean into curiously opening conversations with your partner about their experience and how it differs from yours.
    (This episode was recorded at the end of 2020.)
    RESOURCES:
    Francesca Maximé, LMSW is the host of the https://beherenownetwork.com/category/francesca-maxime/ (#ReRooted trauma, neuroscience and social justice podcast on the Be Here Now Network). Learn More about her offerings at https://www.maximeclarity.com/ (maximeclarity.com).
    https://therapywisdom.com/embodied-anti-racism/ (Embodied Anti-Racism: A Mindfulness Way for Therapists and Helping Professionals)
    https://www.embodiedphilosophy.org/embodied-antiracism-examining-whiteness-for-equitable-activism (6-Week Online Course Embodied Antiracism: Examining Whiteness for Equitable Activism)
    More Resources Mentioned:
    http://whiteawake.org/ (Whiteawake.org) "Before We Were White"
    https://www.euroamerican.org (The Center for the Study of White American Culture)
    https://www.cswac.org/building-multiracial-community/ (Building a Multiracial Community)
    https://www.amazon.com/Lifting-White-Veil-Jeff-Hitchcock/dp/193439033X (Lifting the White Veil)
    https://nmaahc.si.edu/learn/talking-about-race/topics/historical-foundations-race (Historical Foundations of Race)
    https://medium.com/@bennessb/social-location-what-people-mean-27dd94c29dd5 (Social location: what people mean)
    If you enjoyed this episode and want to dive in deeper, consider joining the next cohort of Rebecca’s Supporting Your Relational Self 6-week-online-course. We untangle core issues that affect us all in relationships, cultivate sustaining practices, and weave in relational skills to expand your Self care. Learn more at https://connectfulness.com/offerings (connectfulness.com/offerings)
    This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.

    • 51 min
    Introducing the "Why Does(n't) My Partner ...?" Podcast

    Introducing the "Why Does(n't) My Partner ...?" Podcast

    My colleagues Jules and Vickey and I just launched a new podcast and I am super excited to share it with you, so I'm sharing it here!!
    In this trailer, we're sharing the story of how we met, how we've come to work together, how this podcast came to be, and what you can expect in future episodes. We're calling this podcast Why Does My Partner (or Why Doesn't My Partner, it's interchangeable) because these are the questions we hear over and over again in our offices. We believe these questions lead to the GOLD of relational healing and the answers under these questions will bring us deep into the skills at the heart of deeper relational intimacy, greater health, and fulfillment.
    Share your questions with us at: https://whydoesmypartner.com/ (whydoesmypartner.com)!
    If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at http://whydoesmypartner.com/ (WhyDoesMyPartner.com)
    This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

    • 14 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
28 Ratings

28 Ratings

decOatmen ,

Interesting podcast

This is helpful, thank you.

I do wish you would share a content warning at times. For example, in the episode about Inherited Family Trauma, the guest’s detailed descriptions of “experimenting” on animals has haunted me since I heard it.

xnfmly ,

Hope for healing

This podcast offers hope for healed relationships within ourselves and with others. Each episode offers an opportunity for self-reflection.

orit.krug ,

YES to this podcast!

Rebecca takes deep, complex and powerful topics and breaks them down in a way that’s easy to digest, understand, and apply into our lives to become better people, individually and in relationships! So good!

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