22 episodes

Every month relationship therapist, Rebecca Wong, LCSW, invites a fabulous, big-thinking guest to talk about what it means to be human together. We’ll have deep conversations about the big stuff — life, love, and legacy — and how you can foster connection for yourself and with yourself. Let’s start to reconnect the world, one conversation at a time.

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    • Relationships
    • 5.0, 24 Ratings

Every month relationship therapist, Rebecca Wong, LCSW, invites a fabulous, big-thinking guest to talk about what it means to be human together. We’ll have deep conversations about the big stuff — life, love, and legacy — and how you can foster connection for yourself and with yourself. Let’s start to reconnect the world, one conversation at a time.

    On Self Acceptance with Jane Tornatore, Ph.D.

    On Self Acceptance with Jane Tornatore, Ph.D.

    This episode highlights helpful ways to tend to our selves, reclaim power, and perhaps help us soothe our selves when we don’t have the power to change our situation. My guest, Dr. Jane Tornatore is a Therapist & Speaker Seattle, WA. A recovering perfectionist, she knows the pain of being bogged down by old beliefs and never quite measuring up to expectations. She supports people in converting outdated patterns and stress into more freedom, joy, and authenticity that come from being gentler with the self and living more from the heart. 
    We recorded this episode in February 2020. I’ve been holding onto it given all that’s been uprooted in the world. Contextually, the world was different when we recorded this episode and I wonder how a world filled with pandemic and uprising might have altered the core our discussion. 
     
    RESOURCES:
    Find Jane online at EveryDayLove.me and at DoctorTornatore.com 
    Grab a copy of Jane’s book Everything is PERFECT, Just not ME!: A Roadmap to Self-Acceptance
     
    Learn more about my connectfulness counseling practice at connectfulness.com/work-with-me. 
    Supporting Your Relational Self is a 6-week online group for women starting later this month. Our focus is on your relationship to your Self, your other intimate relations, and we’ll explore core issues that affect us all in relationships and the skills that will expand your Self & relational care practices. 
    You also may recall that just before quarantine I gathered with Terry Real and fellow Certified Relational Life Therapists for an in depth training. I’m now an authorized Relational Bootcamp Facilitator and this fall I’ll begin offering 2-day weekend Relational Bootcamps. I am planning my first Bootcamp Workshop for the Fall of 2020 online via zoom (so you can join from anywhere you have internet). I’ll post more information on my offerings/events page and you're welcome to send me a note if you want me to reach out with details when available.
     
    This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.

    • 49 min
    Antiracist Responsibility

    Antiracist Responsibility

    Systemic racism is real and deeply rooted in society. When we center our society around whiteness but don’t discuss it we’re ignoring the problem of racism. Distancing ourselves from the problem of racism is to perpetuate it by allowing countless more injustices to be committed. When we become conscious we can take responsibility and change course. The opposite of being a racist is not being not-racist. The opposite of being racist is being antiracist.
    In this episode, Robin Mallison Alpern, the Director of Training at the Center for the Study of White American Culture (CSWAC), joins me for a conversation about the work involved in de-centering whiteness and being anti-racist.  It’s important to acknowledge that we’re two white woman having this conversation.
    Listening to this episode, allow yourself to open to new information.
     
    RESOURCES: 
    Visit the Center for the Study of White American Culture (CSWAC) at euroamerican.org for books, workshops, and trainings. 
    SURJ: showingupforracialjustice.org
    The Characteristics of White Supremacy Culture
    The Culture of White Supremacy
    Healing Your Thousand-Year-Old Trauma by Resmaa Menakem
    CSWAC offers this book database for a deeper dive
     
    RELEVANT PAST EPISODES:
    Mending Racialized Trauma: A Body Centered Approach with Resmaa Menakem
    Peeling Back the Layers of Multicultural Competence with Sonya Lott, PhD
    Liberation-Focused Healing: A Call to Action With Shawna Murray-Browne




     
    Learn more about Rebecca’s connectfulness counseling practice at connectfulness.com/work-with-me. 
    This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.
    Join our conversation on instagram & leave us a review on apple podcasts.

    • 1 hr 1 min
    How Stress Affects Sex with Emily Nagoski

    How Stress Affects Sex with Emily Nagoski

    In this episode relationship therapist and host, Rebecca Wong, talked with Emily Nagoski, New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are & Burnout. It goes without saying that we’re all living in a deepened state of stress in this pandemic time. Emily helps us to understand how stress affects sex and learn more about what we can do to reclaim confidence and joy and transform our sex lives.
     
    Resources:
    Emily Nagoski’s mission in life is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. Learn more about her work at: emilynagoski.com
    Learn more about Rebecca’s connectfulness counseling practice, intensives, and our collective for therapists in private practice at connectfulness.com/work-with-me.
    This episode is brought to you in partnership with Coronavirus Online Therapy, a volunteer-based, nonprofit organization developed to connect essential workers across the United States with free or low-cost online therapy during the coronavirus pandemic. Learn more at coronavirusonlinetherapy.org.
     
    This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.

    • 1 hr 1 min
    Storytelling, Connection, & Resilience with Eva Tenuto

    Storytelling, Connection, & Resilience with Eva Tenuto

    I'd like to introduce you to TMI Project, a nonprofit near and dear to my heart, that uses writing and true storytelling for social justice movement building, to ignite human connection and as a healing modality for personal transformation. I have gone through the workshop as a participant and became a trained facilitator of their methodology. I recently sat down with Eva Tenuto, the co-founder and executive director of TMI Project, to talk about how storytelling can enhance connection and resilience during times of social isolation. 
     
    Resources: 
    Eva Tenuto is the co-founder and executive director of TMI Project, a non-profit organization offering transformative storytelling workshops and performances in which storytellers divulge the parts of their stories that they usually leave out. Since 2010, Eva has brought TMI Project from her living room to a host of performance spaces, high schools, colleges, detention centers, mental health facilities, theaters and the United Nations. Eva is the editor and director of multiple solo shows, one of which was awarded Best Comedic Script of 2014 in the United Solo Festival. Her directorial film debut, Vicarious Resilience, a docu-short, celebrated its world premiere at The Woodstock Film Festival in 2018. Her essays have appeared in assorted anthologies and at Longreads.com.​ Learn more at evatenuto.com and TMIproject.org
     
    While these discussions will guide you into the Connectfulness Practice, the podcast is not meant to be a substitute for counseling from a licensed provider. Reach out. Initiate the ripple.
     
    Learn more about my connectfulness counseling practice, intensives, and our collective for therapists in private practice at connectfulness.com/work-with-me. 
     
    This episode is brought to you in partnership with Coronavirus Online Therapy a nonprofit organization with pending 501(c)(3) status whose mission is to deliver free or low-cost online therapy by licensed professionals in all 50 states to essential workers during the coronavirus pandemic. If you’re on the front lines seeking a referral, if you’re a therapist who’d like to join the initiative, or if you’re interested in getting involved in another way, go to coronavirusonlinetherapy.org.
     
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    • 41 min
    Welcoming our Protective Systems in a Disorienting World with Juliane Taylor Shore

    Welcoming our Protective Systems in a Disorienting World with Juliane Taylor Shore

    Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP (AKA Jules) joins Rebecca to discuss the impact of being quarantined at home, experiencing isolation, fear and grief. How these experiences work in tandem with our implicit memory systems, and the effect it all has on our relationships.
    It's such a quick process, we can’t preempt it. Instead the focus shifts towards slowing down and coming into enough relationship with ourselves that our brains hook back on.
    In order hold this level of fear and grief, we need to practice a lot of grace around how often we all will be flipping into protective systems — into neuroceptive danger — it’s constant right now.
    Jules breaks down Polyvagal Theory for us, a theory of the evolution of the autonomic nervous system and she’s shared a PDF so you can follow along (click here to download).
    Jules is a therapist and trainer of therapists in Austin, Texas. She specializes in applying Interpersonal Neurobiology to the healing of trauma and the creation of relational health with the people who comes and see her from all over to do depth work in a brief format. To date, all of Jules’ trainings have been offered in person, but she’s planning to offer online trainings within the year.  If you want to join her mailing list email Jules@IPNBaustin.com with the subject line “mailing list” and she'll be happy to make sure you know about offerings once a quarter or so. Find Jules online at IPNBaustin.com
    Learn more about my connectfulness counseling practice, intensives, and our collective for therapists in private practice at connectfulness.com/work-with-me. 
    This episode is brought to you in partnership with Coronavirus Online Therapy, a collective of thousands of experienced, licensed, private practice therapists who provide free/reduced cost short term online therapy to those serving on the front lines in all 50 US states. If you’re on the front lines, or a therapist who’d like to join the initiative, go to CoronavirusOnlineTherapy.com to learn more.
    The podcast is not meant to be a substitute for counseling from a licensed provider.
    Support the show by sharing and reviewing the episode.

    • 1 hr 17 min
    Embodying Resilience During COVID19 with Dr. Shideh Lennon

    Embodying Resilience During COVID19 with Dr. Shideh Lennon

    Dr. Shideh Lennon, a clinical psychologist and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, joins us to discuss how to embody resilience during the current COVID-19 pandemic. We're talking about simple practices that we can use to bring ourselves back into our bodies. We’re still going to feel it all, but these tools may help increase our capacity by being our biggest, best selves so that we may bear and be with all that's arising.
    Resources:
    Dr. Lennon’s website: slennonphd.com
    While these discussions will guide you into the Connectfulness Practice, the podcast is not meant to be a substitute for counseling from a licensed provider. Reach out. Initiate the ripple. Learn more about my connectfulness counseling practice, intensives, and our collective for therapists in private practice at connectfulness.com/work-with-me. 
    This episode is brought to you by:
    Therapy Notes is a simple, secure, EHR platform that keeps you organized and creates a container for all details that run a private practice -- so you can tend to what really matters. Use the promo code connectfulness and get two months free when you sign up at therapynotes.com  
    Coronavirus Online Therapy is a collective made up of thousands of experienced, licensed private practice therapists who provide free/reduced cost short term online therapy to those serving on the front lines in all 50 US states. If you’re on the front lines, or a therapist who’d like to join the initiative, go to CoronavirusOnlineTherapy.com to learn more.
     

    • 51 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
24 Ratings

24 Ratings

orit.krug ,

YES to this podcast!

Rebecca takes deep, complex and powerful topics and breaks them down in a way that’s easy to digest, understand, and apply into our lives to become better people, individually and in relationships! So good!

Nicole McGrath ,

My First Podcast Ever

I specifically downloaded the Apple Podcast app to listen to Rebecca. I’ve never been interested in podcasts before. I was so delighted with how Rebecca constantly breaks down the larger subject into small sections so that each part can be understood and absorbed. Her voice is utterly perfect for a podcast which makes listening lovely. She also offers examples from her own life and relationships to make situations relatable and understandable. I can’t wait to tune in for more.

Mrs. Gluten Free ,

Honestly wonderful

This has very much become one of my favorite podcast for it joins us together in this connection around universal truths of the lived experience. I so enjoy the luxury of slowing down as I listen and reconnecting and enjoying each guest with new perspectives on how to connect to deeper parts of ourselves.

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