Mental Health Bites with Dr. Judy Ho

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Mental Health Bites with Dr. Judy Ho

Welcome to Mental Health Bites with Dr. Judy! In just 10 minutes, we dive into a hot topic, answer your burning questions, and leave you with a practical tip to improve your mental wellness. 🌟 drjudyho.substack.com

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    Mental Fitness for Life: The Brain Longevity Plan You Need to Know

    Did you know your brain can create new neurons even in your 90s? That’s right! Unlike your chronological age—which increases every year whether you like it or not—your cognitive age is something you can actively improve and even reverse with the right habits. And that’s incredible news. Keeping your brain young isn’t just about preventing Alzheimer’s or dementia. It’s about enhancing your quality of life—mentally, emotionally, socially, and professionally. Whether you're 25 or 75, a sharp and adaptable mind allows you to learn new skills, take on fresh challenges, and deepen your connections with others. Research shows that maintaining cognitive fitness reduces stress, sharpens emotional regulation, and protects against anxiety and depression. Think about it—when your brain is at its best, you’re more likely to: * Stay curious and continue growing, both personally and professionally * Engage in active listening, empathy, and effective communication, which strengthens relationships * Adapt to life’s challenges with resilience and problem-solving skills * Feel a stronger sense of purpose and fulfillment The best part? Your brain isn’t set in stone. The process of reversing cognitive aging is called neurogenesis, and it’s fueled by daily lifestyle habits like physical movement, intellectual engagement, and stress management. In this post—and in my latest episode of Mental Health Bites (you can listen right here in substack, on Apple, Spotify, or watch on YouTube), we’re diving deep into how to keep your brain young, why it matters, and the simple, science-backed habits you can start today. Why Keeping Your Brain Young Is Essential for a Fulfilling Life A younger cognitive age isn’t just about memory—it’s about maintaining adaptability, creativity, and resilience as you move through life. When your brain stays sharp, you’re better equipped to solve problems, embrace change, and thrive in new environments. And here’s something fascinating: Cognitive aging doesn’t follow the same timeline as physical aging. While some cognitive functions, like processing speed, may naturally decline, other skills actually peak later in life—giving you a unique advantage with age. Here’s what actually improves as you grow older: * Wisdom & Emotional Intelligence – With experience, people develop stronger emotional regulation and social awareness, allowing them to navigate relationships with greater ease. * Crystallized Intelligence – This is your accumulated knowledge and life experience, which continues to grow and helps you make sharper, more insightful decisions. * Pattern Recognition & Creativity – Older adults are often better at seeing the big picture, identifying patterns, and connecting ideas in innovative ways. So while society often focuses on the negatives of aging, the truth is that many mental abilities actually strengthen with time. That’s why maintaining cognitive fitness isn’t just about preserving function—it’s about unlocking your brain’s fullest potential at every stage of life. Cognitive Longevity in Action: Real-Life Examples of Brain Fitness Need proof that cognitive longevity is possible? Let’s take a look at some real-life examples of people defying cognitive aging: * Jane Fonda (86 years young) credits her youthful mind to daily mindfulness, exercise, and continuous learning. She even joked that her “gray matter feels younger than her gray hair!” * Tom Brady, known for his elite athleticism, puts just as much emphasis on mental training—using visualization, cognitive exercises, and focus techniques to stay mentally sharp. * Vera Wang didn’t even start designing wedding dresses until her 40s. Today, at 75, she’s still a major creative force, leading a global fashion empire. What do they all have in common? They prioritize habits that keep their brains active, adaptable, and engaged. And you can do the same. Brain Longevity Blueprint: The 3-Step Daily Routine for a Younger Mind I use this simple, science-backed routine every single day to keep my brain strong, sharp, and resilient. The best part? It doesn’t require a major time commitment—just a few daily habits that add up to big, lasting benefits. 🧘 Step 1: Morning Mindfulness (5-10 Minutes Daily) Mindfulness is like strength training for your brain. It lowers cortisol (the stress hormone that interferes with learning and memory) while enhancing focus, emotional regulation, and cognitive flexibility. Here’s a simple breathing exercise to start your day: * Inhale for 4 seconds * Hold for 4 seconds * Exhale for 6 seconds * Repeat for 5-10 minutes This small habit has major benefits for brain longevity and stress resilience. Want an even easier way to practice mindfulness? Try Practical Mindfulness—fully immersing yourself in daily tasks like brushing your teeth, drinking coffee, or walking. These small moments become opportunities to train your focus and reduce mental clutter without requiring extra time in your schedule. 🧩 Step 2: Brain Workout (Daily Mental Challenges) Your brain craves novelty—learning new things strengthens neural connections and enhances problem-solving abilities. Here are some easy ways to challenge your brain daily: * Solve a crossword or Sudoku puzzle * Try learning a few words in a new language * Take a different route to work or cook a new recipe The key? Pick something that challenges you but doesn’t overwhelm you. Small, daily challenges keep your brain engaged and continuously growing. 🏃 Step 3: Move It or Lose It (30 Minutes of Exercise) Exercise isn’t just good for your body—it’s one of the most powerful tools for brain health. Physical activity boosts blood flow to the brain, reduces inflammation, and stimulates neurogenesis (the growth of new neurons). You don’t have to be an athlete to reap the benefits. Choose something you enjoy, like: * A brisk walk * Yoga or stretching * Dancing around your house Harvard research found that regular aerobic exercise can cut cognitive decline risk by up to 50%—so every movement you make is an investment in your brain’s future. Your Brain’s Future Is in Your Hands Cognitive longevity isn’t just about avoiding decline—it’s about thriving at any age. The more you nurture your brain, the sharper, more resilient, and more fulfilled you’ll feel. Start incorporating these three simple habits into your daily routine and watch the difference unfold. Have you tried any of these techniques? Let me know your thoughts in the comments—I’d love to hear your experience! If you’ve found this helpful, pass my newsletter along to someone who can benefit. The New Rules of Attachment Paperback! I’m so excited to share that the New Rules of Attachment Paperback was just released on February 11! Order The New Rules of Attachment here: https://bit.ly/3MvuvvF Check out my TEDxReno talk Visit my website! Take my Attachment Styles Quiz! Follow me on LinkedIn Follow me on Instagram Follow me on Facebook Follow me on X Follow me on TikTok About me: Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN is a triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, television and podcast host, and author of Stop Self-Sabotage. An avid researcher and a two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award, Dr. Judy maintains a private practice where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological evaluations and expert witness work. She is often called on by the media as an expert psychologist and is also a sought after public speaker for universities, businesses, and organizations. Dr. Judy received her bachelor's degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA's Semel Institute. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit drjudyho.substack.com

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  2. Mental Fitness for Life: The Brain Longevity Plan You Need to Know

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    Mental Fitness for Life: The Brain Longevity Plan You Need to Know

    Think cognitive decline is inevitable? Think again! 🚀 In this episode of Mental Health Bites with Dr. Judy, we reveal science-backed strategies to keep your brain young, sharp, and resilient—at ANY age. Whether you want to boost focus, prevent memory loss, or stay mentally agile, this episode has you covered. Timely Topic of the Day: 🧠 Brain Age vs. Physical Age: Why your brain doesn’t have to age at the same rate as your body 📊 Science of a Young Brain: Harvard research shows exercise can cut cognitive decline by 50%—but what else works? 🌟 Celebrity Spotlight: How Jane Fonda, Tom Brady, and Vera Wang stay mentally sharp for decades Q&A Segment: "Can food really affect brain health?" Dr. Judy answers a listener’s question on the best brain-boosting foods and the science behind them. Practical Tip: 🔹 Brain Fitness Routine: A daily strategy to keep your mind strong 🔹 Morning Mindfulness: A 5-minute practice to sharpen focus 🔹 Brain Workout: The key to lifelong learning and mental agility 🔹 Move It or Lose It: Why 30 minutes of exercise fuels neurogenesis Want to future-proof your brain? Let’s dive in! 🚀 💡 Don’t forget to: 👍 Like this video if you want more brain-boosting tips 🔔 Subscribe for weekly mental health insights 💬 Comment below: What’s YOUR go-to brain-boosting habit? Follow Dr. Judy on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/?hl=en https://x.com/DrJudyHo https://www.facebook.com/doctorjudyho/ Watch the Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JudyHoPhD Subscribe to Dr. Judy’s newsletter: https://forms.wix.com/f/7130294384544711140 Join us for more episodes where we uncover practical, science-based tips to enhance your mental health and everyday life! 🌿

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    How Attachment Styles and Love Languages Shape Your Connections

    With Valentine’s Day around the corner, love is on everyone's mind. But beyond roses and chocolates, there’s something even more important to consider—how your attachment style and love language shape the way you give and receive love. Whether you're spending Valentine’s Day with a partner, family, friends, or enjoying your own company, understanding these concepts can help you strengthen your current relationships or prepare for healthier connections in the future. In my latest episode of Mental Health Bites (you can listen right here in substack, on Apple, Spotify, or watch on YouTube), I take a deeper dive into attachment styles and love languages, but this newsletter will introduce you to the basics of each concept and how they interact. How Attachment Styles and Love Languages Interact Your attachment style influences how you connect with others, while your love language determines how you express and receive affection. Recognizing these patterns can reveal why certain expressions of love resonate more with you than others. * Anxious Attachment – May prefer words of affirmation, as verbal reassurances help soothe their fears of abandonment. * Avoidant Attachment – Often gravitates toward acts of service or receiving gifts, as these forms of love feel less emotionally intense. * Secure Attachment – Typically values physical touch and quality time, thriving on closeness and emotional stability. * Disorganized Attachment – Love languages may shift unpredictably—some days craving affirmations, other days pulling away despite a desire for closeness. Understanding your attachment style and love language can help reduce misunderstandings, build trust, and create stronger emotional bonds. The Four Primary Attachment Styles Developed by psychologist John Bowlby, attachment theory explains how early caregiving experiences shape the way we bond in adulthood. Here are the four primary attachment styles: * Secure Attachment – Feels comfortable with intimacy and independence, trusts easily, and navigates conflicts in a healthy way. Typically stems from nurturing, responsive caregivers. Studies suggest 25-40% of people have a secure attachment style most of the time. * Anxious Attachment – Craves closeness but fears abandonment. May overanalyze messages, appear clingy, or need frequent reassurance. This often results from inconsistent caregiving. About 25% of the population falls into this category. * Avoidant Attachment – Highly values independence and may struggle with emotional closeness. Often shuts down during conflicts. This can develop from emotionally distant or dismissive caregiving. Another 25% of the population falls into this group. * Disorganized Attachment – A mix of anxious and avoidant traits, leading to unpredictable relationship behaviors. May crave connection but simultaneously push people away. Often linked to early trauma or inconsistent caregiving. Around 15% of people exhibit this attachment style. Understanding your attachment style helps you identify what you need from relationships and which of the five love languages best support your emotional well-being. The Five Love Languages Popularized by Dr. Gary Chapman, love languages describe how individuals express and receive love. The five main love languages are: * Words of Affirmation – Expressing love through verbal appreciation, praise, or encouragement. * Acts of Service – Demonstrating love through helpful actions, such as making a meal or handling errands. * Receiving Gifts – Feeling loved through meaningful and thoughtful gifts. * Quality Time – Valuing undivided attention, meaningful conversations, and shared activities. * Physical Touch – Expressing love through physical closeness, such as hugs, hand-holding, or a comforting touch. How to Discover and Align Love Languages and Attachment Styles Here are some exercises to help you explore how you give and receive love in both romantic and platonic relationships. These techniques foster deeper understanding and emotional connection. Even if you’re single, they can be transformative. For Romantic Relationships: * Take a Love Language and Attachment Style Quiz – Here’s the link to my FREE attachment style quiz here. Compare results with your partner. Discuss how your love language and attachment style influence your relationship dynamics. * Personalized Expression of Love – Tailor daily gestures to match your partner's love language. For example, if they value acts of service, surprise them by completing a task they dislike. If their love language is physical touch, initiate warm hugs or hold their hand. * Core 3 Reflection – Identify which role your partner plays in your Core 3: Are they your Mentor (offering wisdom and guidance), Encourager (uplifting and supporting you), or Challenger (pushing you to grow)? * Show Gratitude – Acknowledge your partner’s role in your life. A simple statement like, “I appreciate how you always encourage me to follow my dreams,” can deepen your bond. For Singles (Friends or Family): * Identify Your Love Language and Attachment Style – Take my attachment style quiz, then reflect on how you prefer to give and receive love. Then, consider the love language of a close friend or family member. * Express Love Intentionally – Show appreciation in a way that aligns with their love language. If they value words of affirmation, write them a heartfelt note. If they prefer quality time, plan an afternoon together. * Core 3 Reflection – Recognize the key people in your support system. Is your best friend your Encourager, always cheering you on? Maybe a sibling is your Challenger, helping you face difficult truths. * Practice Gratitude – Acknowledge the positive impact your loved ones have in your life. Saying, “Thank you for always believing in me,” can strengthen your connection. Strengthen Your Relationships Today By understanding both your own and others’ attachment styles and love languages, you can build more fulfilling, supportive relationships. Integrating the Core 3 framework ensures you nurture connections that encourage growth, trust, and emotional well-being. Sharing is caring—pass this along to someone who might benefit from these insights. I hope these exercises help you deepen your relationships, celebrate meaningful connections, and cultivate gratitude for the roles people play in your life. Because ultimately, that’s what love is all about. The New Rules of Attachment Paperback! I’m so excited to share that the New Rules of Attachment Paperback was just released on February 11! Order The New Rules of Attachment here: https://bit.ly/3MvuvvF Check out my TEDxReno talk Visit my website! Take my Attachment Styles Quiz! Follow me on LinkedIn Follow me on Instagram Follow me on Facebook Follow me on X Follow me on TikTok About me: Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN is a triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, television and podcast host, and author of Stop Self-Sabotage. An avid researcher and a two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award, Dr. Judy maintains a private practice where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological evaluations and expert witness work. She is often called on by the media as an expert psychologist and is also a sought after public speaker for universities, businesses, and organizations. Dr. Judy received her bachelor's degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA's Semel Institute. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit drjudyho.substack.com

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  4. Decode Your Love Style: Attachment and Love Languages

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    Decode Your Love Style: Attachment and Love Languages

    Ever wonder why some people crave constant reassurance while others shy away from emotional intensity? In this Valentine’s Day special of Mental Health Bites with Dr. Judy, we’re uncovering the real reasons behind how you give and receive love—through the lens of attachment styles and love languages. Whether you’re head-over-heels in love, happily single, or somewhere in between, this episode shows you how to avoid romantic pitfalls and truly deepen your connections. ❤️ Timely Topic of the Day: Attachment 101: Explore the four main styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and see how they shape every relationship in your life. Love Languages Unpacked: From “Words of Affirmation” to “Physical Touch,” learn the five ways people show affection—plus, find out why your attachment style may fuel which one resonates most. Celebrity Spotlight: Hear how Prince Harry, Meghan Markle, and Kim Kardashian publicly exhibit their unique attachment and love language combos. Q & A Segment: “Why do I freak out if my partner doesn’t say ‘I love you’ often?” A listener from San Diego feels anxious when she lacks verbal affirmations. Dr. Judy breaks down how anxious attachment and Words of Affirmation can team up to create insecurity—and shares quick tips to express your needs without overwhelming your partner. Practical Tip: Exercise: Align Your Love Language & Attachment Style Take a Quiz: Identify your top love language and attachment style. Daily Expression: Tailor small gestures—like verbal affirmations or acts of service—to your partner’s primary love language. Core 3 Reflection: Recognize whether your partner or close friends are Mentors, Encouragers, or Challengers, and see how that synergy boosts (or hinders) your relationship dynamic. Ready to ditch unnecessary drama and foster true connection? Let’s make this Valentine’s Day a game-changer—starting right now. Don’t forget to: 👍 Like this video if you’re ready to level up your love life 🔔 Subscribe for more mental health insights and practical relationship tips 💬 Comment below with your attachment style and love language—do they match up? Follow Dr. Judy on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/?hl=en https://x.com/DrJudyHo https://www.facebook.com/doctorjudyho/ Watch the Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JudyHoPhD Subscribe to Dr. Judy’s newsletter: https://forms.wix.com/f/7130294384544711140 Join us for more episodes where we uncover practical, science-based tips to enhance your mental health and everyday life! 🌿

    14 min
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    Achieving Unstoppable Motivation: The Secret to Strengthening Your Willpower

    Motivation and willpower are the fuel behind every goal you chase and every habit you commit to. They push you forward, help you resist distractions, and keep you on track when things get tough. But if you’ve ever felt your motivation slip away just when you needed it most, you’re not alone. The truth? Motivation isn’t magic—it’s a skill you can train, just like a muscle. A study from the American Psychological Association found that people with strong willpower are 40% more likely to reach their long-term goals. And research from Stanford University shows that those who believe willpower is unlimited perform 15% better on complex tasks while experiencing less burnout. Yet so many of us still struggle with motivation, feeling drained or stuck when it matters most. In my latest episode of Mental Health Bites (you can listen right here in substack, on Apple, Spotify, or watch on YouTube), I break down why motivation fades, how to sustain it, and how to tap into long-term drive. In this post, we’re going deeper into why motivation slips away—and how you can take control of it once and for all. The #1 Reason You Struggle With Motivation Ever feel like you’re chasing a goal but still feel unfulfilled? That’s often because you’re not pursuing what truly matters to you. Research from the University of Rochester found that people who set intrinsic goals—those tied to personal growth and fulfillment—experience 33% higher sustained motivation than those chasing external rewards like status or validation. Even high achievers struggle with this. Michelle Obama credits her ability to stay motivated to staying rooted in her values—family, education, and community. And Matthew McConaughey swears by journaling to keep his vision clear. Another silent motivation killer? Decision fatigue. Every choice you make throughout the day depletes your mental energy, making it harder to stay on track. That’s why structuring your routines and cutting unnecessary decisions is key to conserving willpower for what really matters. The Challenger: Your Secret Weapon for Unbreakable Willpower Motivation doesn’t exist in a vacuum. You need a support system that pushes you forward, and that’s where the Core 3 comes in— your Mentor, your Encourager, and your Challenger. And when it comes to willpower, the Challenger is your game-changer. A Challenger isn’t just a cheerleader—they push you beyond your comfort zone. They help you grow by: * Calling out self-sabotaging habits * Holding you accountable to your goals * Strengthening your resilience * Helping you silence negative self-talk Challengers keep you on track, remind you of your strengths, and challenge you to push past your limits. They don’t let you quit when things get tough. How to Find a Challenger in Your Life A great Challenger is likely already in your life—you just have to recognize them. Here’s where to look: * Colleagues or Bosses: A professional mentor, coach, or supervisor who pushes you toward excellence while giving you honest feedback. * Friends Who Hold You Accountable: Not just the ones who comfort you, but the ones who challenge you to be better. * A Workout or Study Partner: Someone who shows up consistently and motivates you to push harder. * A Therapist or Coach: If you’re struggling to stay accountable, a professional can help challenge your self-defeating patterns. * A Community or Mastermind Group: Whether online or in-person, surrounding yourself with people who challenge you to grow is powerful. If you don’t have someone in your life who plays this role, be intentional about finding one. Ask yourself: Who in my circle challenges me in a way that makes me better? If no one comes to mind, it may be time to expand your network. And if you’re not ready to seek a Challenger externally, or if you want to supplement your motivation and willpower game even more, consider this: you can become your own Challenger. How to Become Your Own Challenger with a Motivation Vault Think of a Motivation Vault as a mental fuel tank—a collection of reminders that keep you connected to your purpose. Every time motivation dips, this is where you go to recharge. And here’s where the magic happens: Your Motivation Vault can act as your internal Challenger. When no one else is around to hold you accountable, this is the system that will push you forward. You can create your Motivation Vault in two ways: 1️⃣ A Physical Vault: Use a box, journal, or folder where you collect handwritten notes, printed photos, inspirational quotes, or even small mementos that remind you of past achievements. Think of it as a treasure chest of motivation. 2️⃣ A Digital Vault: Use a folder on your phone, notes app, or even a private Pinterest board to store screenshots of encouraging messages, personal goals, video clips, and audio reminders. Some people even use voice notes where they record themselves giving pep talks for future moments of doubt. Here’s What to Put in Your Vault: * Recall Your Wins. Write down moments when you felt unstoppable—big wins, small victories, or times you overcame setbacks. * Gather Your Fuel. Fill your vault with inspiring quotes, supportive messages, or even screenshots of compliments from mentors or friends. * Check In Weekly. Set aside time to revisit your vault and remind yourself how far you’ve come. Pro Tip: Keep your vault in a place that’s easy to access. When your motivation wavers, open it up. Future You is counting on it. Bonus Challenge: Who Can You Be a Challenger For? Motivation and willpower thrive in community. If you have a Challenger in your life, thank them. If you don’t, become your own. And if someone you know is struggling to stay on track, send them this post. And, challenge them to start their own Motivation Vault. That small act might just be the push they need to keep going. Ready to take control of your motivation for good? Start today. Your future self will thank you. The New Rules of Attachment Paperback Drop! The New Rules of Attachment Paperback! I’m so excited to share that the New Rules of Attachment Paperback is going to be released on February 11! Click here to order your advance copy today, and I’m also hosting a giveaway on Goodreads for signed copies. Order The New Rules of Attachment here: https://bit.ly/3MvuvvF Check out my TEDxReno talk Visit my website! Take my Attachment Styles Quiz! Follow me on LinkedIn Follow me on Instagram Follow me on Facebook Follow me on X Follow me on TikTok About me: Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN is a triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, television and podcast host, and author of Stop Self-Sabotage. An avid researcher and a two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award, Dr. Judy maintains a private practice where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological evaluations and expert witness work. She is often called on by the media as an expert psychologist and is also a sought after public speaker for universities, businesses, and organizations. Dr. Judy received her bachelor's degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA's Semel Institute. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit drjudyho.substack.com

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  6. Dr. Judy's Unstoppable Formula for Motivation and Willpower

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    Dr. Judy's Unstoppable Formula for Motivation and Willpower

    Are you ready to break free from half-finished projects and dwindling willpower? In this episode of Mental Health Bites with Dr. Judy, we tackle the real reasons your motivation fizzles out—and how to keep the fire burning until you reach your goals. From the science behind self-control to celebrity secrets like Michelle Obama’s value-driven outlook and Matthew McConaughey’s journaling habit, we’ve got you covered with actionable insights and proven strategies. ✨ Timely Topic of the Day: - Motivation vs. Willpower: Learn why these two forces are the dynamic duo for accomplishing anything—from career ambitions to daily workouts. - Key Studies & Stats: Discover how your brain’s reward system and decision fatigue can make or break your willpower. - Celebrity Inspiration: Hear how figures like Keanu Reeves stay grounded and fuel their motivation even in high-pressure environments. Plus, find out why the “Core 3” approach is the ultimate game-changer for banishing self-sabotage. Q & A: “How can I keep my motivation long-term?” A listener from Fort Worth struggles to finish what she starts. Dr. Judy explains why breaking big goals into smaller milestones triggers dopamine releases, keeping you excited about progress. Plus, learn the role of a Challenger in your support network—someone who holds you accountable when your initial excitement fizzles out. Practical Tip: Create a ‘Motivation Vault’: Recall Moments of Pride: List achievements that made you feel unstoppable. Gather Inspirational Materials: Add quotes, photos, or supportive messages that resonate with your deeper ‘why.’ Reflect Regularly: When willpower wanes, revisit your vault and reignite your drive. By revisiting these personal reminders, you strengthen neural pathways linked to perseverance and self-belief—turning your “I’ll try” into “I will succeed.” Don’t forget to: 👍 Like this episode if you found it helpful 🔔 Subscribe for more mental health insights and science-backed strategies 💬 Comment below with your favorite tip for staying motivated! Follow Dr. Judy on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/?hl=en https://x.com/DrJudyHo https://www.facebook.com/doctorjudyho/ Watch the Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JudyHoPhD Subscribe to Dr. Judy’s newsletter: https://forms.wix.com/f/7130294384544711140 Join us for more episodes where we uncover practical, science-based tips to enhance your mental health and everyday life! 🌿

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    Unlocking Everyday Wisdom: The Secret Skill That Changes Everything

    Wisdom is often seen as an elusive trait that only emerges with age, but that is a misconception. Contrary to popular belief, wisdom is not something that automatically develops over time. Instead, it is a trainable skill—one that can significantly improve mental health, decision-making, and relationships. The best part? It can be cultivated at any stage of life. Maya Angelou once said, "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” This sentiment captures the essence of wisdom—learning, adapting, and evolving. In this newsletter, we will explore the psychology behind wisdom, debunk common myths, and introduce a daily practice to help cultivate it in a meaningful way. We will also discuss the three types of people who can accelerate this process and elevate personal growth. For a deeper dive including my answer to a really interesting question from a reader, check out the latest episode of Mental Health Bites (you can listen right here in substack, on Apple, Spotify, or watch on YouTube). What Wise Individuals Do Differently Wisdom is not simply intelligence or an accumulation of knowledge. It involves emotional regulation, self-awareness, empathy, and the ability to extract meaning from life’s experiences. Research has shown that: * A study from the University of Chicago found that individuals who engage in wise reasoning experience less anxiety and demonstrate greater resilience in difficult situations. * A 2021 study published in The Journal of Positive Psychology found that wise individuals are not necessarily the most intelligent people in a room, but they are often the most emotionally intelligent. * Additional studies indicate that individuals with higher levels of wisdom report greater life satisfaction, lower rates of depression, and stronger relationships. Psychologists have identified three primary components of wisdom: * Cognitive Wisdom – The ability to see multiple perspectives and make well-reasoned decisions based on experience and knowledge. * Reflective Wisdom – The capacity to step back and analyze situations objectively, without bias. * Affective Wisdom – The ability to maintain emotional balance, show empathy, and handle adversity with composure. Ultimately, wisdom is not about having all the answers but about knowing how to seek them. The Three People You Need to Become Wiser Personal growth does not happen in isolation. Surrounding oneself with the right individuals can accelerate the development of wisdom. Wise individuals often display a unique ability to listen without judgment. They offer compassionate but honest feedback, and remain calm in difficult situations. They tend to embrace both success and failure as teachable moments, and people often turn to wise individuals for advice or emotional support. And surrounding yourself with wise people can accelerate your own path to wisdom by exposing you to their reflective habits, insights, and decision-making strategies. This is where The Core 3 comes into play—these are the three essential archetypes I’ve shared about before that foster emotional intelligence, resilience, and strategic thinking. Today, I want to focus on the role of the Mentor. Wise people are often seen as excellent mentors because they give great advice, offers unique perspectives, and in doing so, nurtures personal growth in others. In my research and experience, there are three types of Mentors. Depending on your goals for personal and professional success, you may find yourself especially drawn to one of these specific types of mentors to help foster your growth. 1. The Knowledge Sharer This person offers specialized knowledge and is eager to teach. They have expertise in areas you want to grow in and can guide your development. 2. The Visionary Connector This person expands your horizons and pushes you to dream bigger. They bring new ideas and perspectives, helping you explore possibilities beyond your current path. . 3. The Resilient Role Model This person demonstrates perseverance, overcoming adversity, and navigating challenges with grace. Their experiences inspire confidence and belief in your capacity to handle difficulties These categories are not rigid but serve as a useful framework for considering the types of relationships that support growth and wisdom. Three Myths About Wisdom That Hold People Back When working on cultivating wisdom, it can be helpful to bust a few myths that tend to hold people back from becoming wiser. Let’s start with the first and most common: Myth 1: Wisdom Comes Only with Age While age can bring experience, wisdom is not automatically granted over time. Younger individuals can develop wisdom through intentional reflection, learning from mistakes, and seeking diverse perspectives. Research from UC San Diego suggests that practicing mindfulness and empathy can accelerate wisdom development at any age. Myth 2: Wise People Always Have the AnswersWisdom does not mean having all the answers. In fact, the wisest individuals are comfortable acknowledging uncertainty. They embrace lifelong learning and recognize that adaptability is a key component of intelligence. Myth 3: Wisdom is an Innate TraitAlthough some personality traits may make wisdom easier to cultivate, it is largely a skill that develops through practice. Methods such as journaling, seeking feedback, and engaging in deep conversations all contribute to the development of wisdom. The Most Effective Daily Ritual for Cultivating Wisdom One of the most powerful ways to train the mind for wisdom is through a Daily Reflection Ritual. This practice enhances self-awareness, improves decision-making, and fosters emotional resilience. To practice this ritual, set aside 10 minutes each evening and follow these steps. * Document One Event from the Day – Choose a specific situation to reflect on, even if it seems minor. Write it down factually, avoiding personal judgment. * Identify the Emotional Response – Describe the emotions that arose during the event. Be honest and descriptive. * Extract the Lesson – Use guided reflection questions to analyze the situation: * Was my reaction helpful? * What was driving my emotional response? * Did I make assumptions that may not have been accurate? * How did my behavior align with my values? * What strengths or qualities helped me handle the situation well? * What skill or quality could I improve upon for next time? Let’s see this ritual in action through the lens of a disagreement at work. Here’s a sample journal entry from someone I recently worked with. * What happened? During a project meeting, I raised concerns about a new timeline. A colleague disagreed, and the exchange became tense. * How did I feel? Defensive and embarrassed. I believed my point was valid but did not appreciate being challenged in front of the team. * What did I learn? I initially assumed my colleague was dismissing my idea, but in hindsight, they were simply presenting a different perspective. Next time, I will pause and ask clarifying questions before responding. Practicing this ritual consistently leads to more thoughtful responses, better emotional regulation, and a stronger ability to navigate complex situations. Final Thoughts The journey toward wisdom is not about achieving perfection but about refining how we engage with the world. To put this into action: * Commit to a daily reflection ritual for one week. * Identify the mentors, challengers, and encouragers in your life - focusing in especially on which type of mentor will most enrich your life. * Challenge one common myth about wisdom in your thinking. If this newsletter resonated with you, consider sharing it with a friend. Wisdom grows not only through self-reflection but also through meaningful conversations with others. The New Rules of Attachment Paperback Drop! I’m so excited to share that the New Rules of Attachment Paperback is going to be released on February 11! Click here to order your advance copy today, and I’m also hosting a giveaway on Goodreads for signed copies. Order The New Rules of Attachment here: https://bit.ly/3MvuvvF Check out my TEDxReno talk Visit my website! Take my Attachment Styles Quiz! Follow me on LinkedIn Follow me on Instagram Follow me on Facebook Follow me on X Follow me on TikTok About me: Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN is a triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, television and podcast host, and author of Stop Self-Sabotage. An avid researcher and a two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award, Dr. Judy maintains a private practice where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological evaluations and expert witness work. She is often called on by the media as an expert psychologist and is also a sought after public speaker for universities, businesses, and organizations. Dr. Judy received her bachelor's degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA's Semel Institute. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit drjudyho.substack.com

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    Cultivating Wisdom at Any Age

    Ever feel like wisdom is some elusive gift reserved for gurus or seniors? In this episode of Mental Health Bites with Dr. Judy, we’re shattering that myth and exploring how you can actively cultivate wisdom—no matter your age. From unraveling what wisdom truly is to debunking the biggest misconceptions, Dr. Judy shares the science, stories, and simple steps you need to boost your emotional intelligence, decision-making, and overall well-being. ✨ Timely Topic of the Day (Segment 1, 6-7 minutes): What is Wisdom, Really? Discover the three core components (Cognitive, Reflective, Affective) that shape genuine wisdom. Myth Busting: Learn why wisdom isn’t automatically granted with age and why it’s more about humility than knowing all the answers. Science & Celebrities: Hear about the latest research on wisdom’s impact on stress and how icons like Michelle Obama and Maya Angelou honed their reflective, empathetic sides to lead meaningful lives. Q & A Segment (Segment 2, 3-4 minutes): "How can I stop reacting impulsively and develop wiser habits?" A listener from Seattle asks for advice on overcoming knee-jerk reactions. Dr. Judy offers a quick reflection tool—pause, breathe, and pose three self-check questions—to bridge the gap between impulse and intention. Practical Tip (Segment 3, 2-3 minutes): Daily Reflection Ritual: Describe the Day’s Event: Note what happened without judgment. Identify Your Emotions: Pinpoint how you felt and why. Extract Your Key Learning: Ask yourself, “What can I do differently next time?” This simple practice helps you catch patterns, sharpen emotional awareness, and level up your wisdom game one reflection at a time. Don’t forget to: 👍 Like this episode if you found it enlightening 🔔 Subscribe for more mental health insights and practical tips 💬 Comment below with your favorite wisdom-building strategy—or share a moment that taught you a valuable life lesson Follow Dr. Judy on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/?hl=en https://x.com/DrJudyHo https://www.facebook.com/doctorjudyho/ Watch the Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JudyHoPhD Subscribe to Dr. Judy’s newsletter: https://forms.wix.com/f/7130294384544711140 Join us for more episodes where we uncover practical, science-based tips to enhance your mental health and everyday life! 🌿

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