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Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much of Tinder? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the HuffPost and the New York Times calls one of the ‘Top 10 podcasts about love and sex’. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do as they talk with real daters and experts about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes, and first moves to first loves. Whether you’re looking to DTR or DTF, you’ll have moments of “OMG-that-also-happened-to-me” to “I-never-thought-of-it-that-way-before.”

Tune in every Wednesday to challenge the way you date in this crazy Dateable world.

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Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick | Dating & Relationship Podcast hosts

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 795 Ratings

Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much of Tinder? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the HuffPost and the New York Times calls one of the ‘Top 10 podcasts about love and sex’. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do as they talk with real daters and experts about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes, and first moves to first loves. Whether you’re looking to DTR or DTF, you’ll have moments of “OMG-that-also-happened-to-me” to “I-never-thought-of-it-that-way-before.”

Tune in every Wednesday to challenge the way you date in this crazy Dateable world.

Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Love in the time of Corona' Facebook groupCheck out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.

Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts

    #brunchtalk: What To Do When You're The Last Single Friend

    #brunchtalk: What To Do When You're The Last Single Friend

    So all your friends are all boo'ed up...and then there's you. Single as a Pringle. We've been there before and we get how crappy it can feel to be the only single one in the group. But have no fear! We're diving into how navigate this time so you can feel less alone in the process. We discuss ways to expand your social circles to connect with others who get where you're at, how you can reconnect with your friends despite your different life stages, and ways you can get the support you need.

    Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com

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    • 16 min
    S18E3: Nice Guys Finish First w/ Vince Xu

    S18E3: Nice Guys Finish First w/ Vince Xu

    We've been told nice guys finish last, but we're debunking this myth as we chat with return guest Vince Xu about how being the nice guy actually is what got him the girl. We discuss how we need to reframe "the nice guy" and "fboy" tropes, ways that good guys can make their intentions known in a way that builds chemistry, and how as women dating men we can look at the overall character of the person we're dating.

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    Related Episodes:

    The One Who Got Away w/ Vince Xu and Yurika Yoneda

    How to Fail At Being A F*ckboy w/ Kane Holloway

    Inside The Psyche of a F*ckboy w/ Martin Morrow

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    • 1 hr 10 min
    #brunchtalk: Should You Move For Better Dating Options?

    #brunchtalk: Should You Move For Better Dating Options?

    Could the problem be your city? Is it worth moving for better dating prospects? We're diving into it all as we chat about why (or why not) your location is the problem. We discuss how to evaluate whether or not a move would e good for you, why everyone thinks their city is the worst place to date, and how you can take advantage of your current city even if you think the dating pool has dried up.

    Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com

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    • 14 min
    Friday Quickie w/ Julie: The Single Scale

    Friday Quickie w/ Julie: The Single Scale

    We're trying something new! Welcome to the first installment of “Quickies” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation –in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Julie will dive into the Single Scale: what it is, where you land on it and how it may be impacting finding an actual partner who is the real deal.

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    • 7 min
    S18E2: F The Fairy Tale w/ Damona Hoffman

    S18E2: F The Fairy Tale w/ Damona Hoffman

    Does dating feel like you’re chasing a “happily ever after” that always seems out of reach? We're chatting with dating coach Damona Hoffman about how to break free from the dating myths that keep you stuck on an outdated vision of a relationship that probably isn't even what you want anyways! We discuss why soulmates don't exist, the four pillars of strong relationships, and how you can rewrite the ending to your own love story.

    Follow Damona @damonahoffman, listen to Dates & Mates, and get her book 'F the Fairy Tale' wherever books are sold.

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    Related Episodes:

    Why You're Choosing The Wrong Partners w/ Psychotherapist Marc Sholes

    Deeper Dating w/ Ken Page



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    • 1 hr
    #brunchtalk: What To Do When Someone Won't Stop Talking On a Date?

    #brunchtalk: What To Do When Someone Won't Stop Talking On a Date?

    Ever been on a date when your date won't stop talking? We're back with a new season of brunch talks as we go into how to know if it's first date jitters or narcissistic tendencies. We're discussing ways to insert yourself / redirect the conversation, how to do your own talking-too-much gut check, and when to give the date another try versus cut bait.

    Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.com

    Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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    • 15 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
795 Ratings

795 Ratings

rin wu ,

A newbie dater’s dream podcast!

As an inexperienced dater, listening to Dateable has been such an eye-opening experience. Listening to Julie and Yue chat is a highlight of my commute, since it always feels a chat with friends. The advice they give has been so helpful in contextualizing my past experiences and making me feel ready to take on the dating world. That said, I do have a question for you! At 27 years old, I’ve never had a long term relationship, or really entered the dating scene at all save for one hinge date a year ago. I never cared that much about my love life until that dreaded quarter life crisis, and though I know I’m still very young, it’s hard not to feel like I’m behind in life. I’m also very rejection avoidant due to some experiences in my younger life, which makes it hard for me to put myself out there, especially on dating apps. I find it particularly difficult to chat with people over text as it’s not a skill I have developed nor something I particularly enjoy. How would you suggest I overcome this fear of rejection/fear of dating apps? I’d like to rip the bandaid off and just get some of the awkward first experience over with, but it’s easier said than done.

light be ,

Great, first impression

Searching for an insightful podcast about dating, I find over 95% to be inefficient with my listening time. This one gets to the meat of the program swiftly and delivers thoughtful information in an organized, digestible way. On my first listen here, I consider my time well spent. The eloquent host clearly explained her ideas which happened to provoke me to give serious thought to my own status and to think about how to learn the most possible about the true status of ladies I may date. This topic is compelling, original, and quite useful. I'm subscribing and looking forward to more. Where can I contribute questions or suggestions for topics? I do have a unique dating obstacle which may open a larger topic for listeners about best practices / ethics in online dating. I've conducted some informal research I'd like to share for your consideration and comment. Glad I found the show.
Truly single now, after 20 years of marriage. RB

Mrs. Bird ,

So Helpful

I’ve been listening to Dateable for about a year. It has really helped me (and all my friends) work through some of the common pitfalls and think through our decisions when it comes to dating.

I’m at a place, where I’ve learned to say “No.” to things that don’t feel right, where I used to entertain possible relationships for too long when I knew something was off. I’m in a position now where I have some really great partnership options, and my compatibility meter is going “check check check,” but I’m not sure if I’m attracted enough, mostly because I can find these people attractive in their own ways, but I still feel like I’m holding back or something, and that I’m not sure. I’m not sure if my anxiety is a clue that I should keep with the no train until I find someone for whom I feel completely relaxed — OR — if I should give these great options a try and if after some time it’s not feeling right or enough, than I can step out. It’s like I feel like I have to choose whether this person is “right” for me or not after a few dates. Should I give it more time? Am I crazy for thinking I could be certain about someone in such a short period of time?

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