100 episodes

From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts.
Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

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    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 275 Ratings

From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts.
Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

    Take Back Your Brain & The Texting Trap

    Take Back Your Brain & The Texting Trap

    Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love.

    The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool:

    Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most 

    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

    How can I get more messages from my matches?

    LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop

    Follow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.”

    Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html
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    • 54 min
    Mind Your Manners & Bumble Bummer

    Mind Your Manners & Bumble Bummer

    Sara Jane Ho, etiquette expert and host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, joins to share the definitive etiquette rules for dating, talking, and texting inspired by her new book.

    The Dating Dish story this week comes from CNN: 
    Bumble no longer requires women to make the first move! 

    Then our Dear Damona question this week is:
    My match and I are traveling farther than normal to meet. Does that mean our date should last longer?

    ANNOUNCEMENT: For the first time in a long time, Damona and her team are offering 1-on-1 coaching! Apply to become her next success story at DamonaHoffman.com/application

    Follow Sara Jane on Instagram @SaraJaneHo and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Mind Your Manners: How to Be Your Best Self in Any Situation”.

    Read the CNN article for yourself: cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html
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    • 49 min
    Addicted to Drama & I Can Fix Him

    Addicted to Drama & I Can Fix Him

    Dr. Scott Lyons, host of The Gently Used Human podcast, talks about his new book, “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis & Chaos In Yourself & Others”. This week’s Dating Dish is: HuffPost shares the reasons why we try to “fix” our matches…and what you should probably do instead. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I attract more culturally open matches?

    Follow Scott on Instagram @DrScottLyons and be sure to grab a copy of his book!

    Share the love: Get your copy of Damona’s book  F the Fairy Tale on Amazon too and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode!

    HuffPost article https://www.huffpost.com/entry/taylor-swift-fix-him-relationships_l_662a5511e4b005d7bf0cbef0


    TIMESTAMPS
    (00:01:36) Why do we try to fix people in our relationships?
    (00:08:09) Introduction of Dr. Scott Lyons
    (00:13:32) Causes of addiction to drama
    (00:17:24) Origin of addiction to drama
    (00:18:09) Ecosystem and Turbulence
    (00:19:27) Numbness and Seeking Sensation
    (00:24:02) Addiction to Drama and Dating Apps
    (00:27:00) Attentional Economy and Social Media
    (00:33:13) Interrupting Peace and News Consumption
    (00:35:26) Dating App Activation and Frameworks
    (00:37:21) Awareness and Reflexive Behavior
    (00:38:01) Avoidance Tactics
    (00:38:24) Escaping Chaos
    (00:39:30) Milestones of Healing
    (00:42:41) Processing Trauma
    (00:43:42) Belonging and Identity
    (00:47:02) Cultural Diversity in Dating

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    • 56 min
    His Move & Love After 50

    His Move & Love After 50

    In this all-Dear Damona episode, Damona takes on dating burnout and swipe fatigue by answering your questions, like:

    Is it a bad sign if my Bumble match is taking more than 3 days to reply?

    How do I manage expectations with new partners?

    How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable? 

    And, is it more difficult to find love after 50?


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    TIMESTAMPS
    00:00:07 Is it a bad sign if my bumble match is stuck on his move for days?
    00:02:19 How do I manage expectations with new partners? 
    00:17:27 How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?
    00:18:30 Dealing with fixer-uppers 
    00:27:50 Is it more difficult to find love after 50?
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    • 35 min
    Psychic Matchmaker & Digital Body Language

    Psychic Matchmaker & Digital Body Language

    Psychic Matchmaker Deborah Graham teaches singles to dial into their own psychic intuition. Plus, she shares her experiences as a psychic matchmaker, and her own story of being intuitively matched as well. Then, she gives a jaw-dropping live, on-air love reading. The Dating Dish this week is: Beware of Digital Body Language while you’re online dating. The Dear Damona questionis: What signs indicate that a person might be leaning towards commitment?

    Follow her on Instagram @PsychicDeborahGraham and learn more about her work by visiting psychicdeborahgraham.com

    F the Fairy Tale readers, the Dating Accelerator Program is open for on-going enrollment. Join today and get access to private livestreams with Damona just for VIP clients and Dating Accelerator students at DamonaHoffman.com/program

    TIMESTAMPS
    00:00:00 Intuition in Dating
    00:02:32 Digital Body Language
    00:13:15 Psychic Matchmaker's Introduction
    00:14:39 Realization of Psychic Gifts
    00:16:05 Limitations of Using Psychic Gifts
    00:16:18 Arranged Marriage
    00:17:49 Psychic Abilities
    00:20:18 Beginning of Psychic Matchmaking
    00:23:36 Mission and Intuition
    00:25:48 Reading Energy and Intuition
    00:27:49 Internal Compass and Muscle Testing
    00:30:20 Silence and Energy Communication
    00:30:48 Silence and Intuition
    00:31:44 Psychic Reading for Producer Lindsey
    00:33:27 Revelation about L's Past Relationship
    00:38:33 Dating Rules and Intuition
    00:41:16 Avoiding Ghosting and Dating Process
    00:45:01 Early Phase Dating
    00:46:06 Reframing Expectations
    00:47:18 Enjoying the Process
    00:48:13 Clarity and Guidance
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    • 50 min
    Codependent Patterns & Are We Dating The Same Guy

    Codependent Patterns & Are We Dating The Same Guy

    Fan favorite guest Mark Groves is back! This time he’s joined by his wife Kylie McBeath, to discuss their amazing new book Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this interview they get to the root of codependency and offer ways to heal trauma and date intentionally. The dating dish story is: The Downside of Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook groups. In Dear Damona a listener asks: Why are there so many fake profiles and how can you avoid getting frustrated with them?

    Follow Mark @createthelove and Kylie @beingisbeautiful and pick up your copy of Liberated Love (https://read.macmillan.com/lp/liberated-love/) today!

    Speaking of books - F the Fairy Tale is currently on sale at Amazon. Leave a review on Amazon to have a chance at getting thanked personally on the show!
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    • 54 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
275 Ratings

275 Ratings

abitocd ,

Dating Reality Check

Read the book and can’t stop listening to the podcast! Love Damona’s perspective on dating. She tells it like it is and gives actionable tools you can use dating in the world today!

PRGirl47 ,

Relationship Expert

Great advice, fun podcast. Thanks Damona!

caki diehl ,

Thank you

For the hood work Damona - level headed and sound advice in what can be a crazy dating world!

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