Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

  1. 3 DAYS AGO

    Romances & Practicalities

    Lindsay Jill Roth, award winning television producer, shares her new book, “Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) In 250 Questions”, how these questions and ultimately the communication they foster can determine the trajectory of a relationship. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Is it time for a talk? My man keeps updating his online profile. Get the book: “Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) In 250 Questions” and follow Lindsay on Instagram @LindsayJillRoth  Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Relationship Questions (00:00:00)   Host Introduction (00:00:13)   Lyndsey's Background (00:02:29)   Creating the System (00:03:51)   Importance of Communication (00:06:08)   Finding Comfort in Asking Questions (00:07:43)   Starting Points for Conversations (00:08:29)   Timing for Relationship Discussions (00:10:35)   Therapy Before Problems Arise (00:11:17)   International Romance Story (00:11:44)   Pivotal Moment in the Relationship (00:13:37)   Creating the System from Experience (00:15:09)   Vulnerability in Relationships (00:16:35)   The Challenge of Modern Dating (00:17:06)   Initial Connection Over Text (00:18:44)   The Disappointment of Zero Chemistry (00:19:20)   Researching a Potential Partner (00:20:04)   Deliberate Communication Choices (00:21:12)   Importance of Getting Offline (00:22:00)   Book Structure and Relationship Progression (00:23:06)   The Role of Money in Relationships (00:25:03)   Communication as a Foundation (00:27:12)   Understanding Conflict Styles (00:28:37)   Self-Discovery Through Relationships (00:31:20)   Future Aspirations and Relationship Impact (00:32:51)   The Importance of Structure in Relationships (34:05)   Defining Spirituality in Dating (34:41)   The Value of Self-Reflection (35:51)   Using Books as Relationship Tools (37:11)   Revisiting Conversations in Long-Term Relationships (38:05)   The Evolution of Relationship Conversations (39:00)   Permission to Not Have All the Answers (39:30)   Unpopular Opinions on Dating (41:10)   The Need for Open Communication (41:39)   Listener Question on Relationship Insecurities (43:21)   Navigating Undefined Relationship Spaces (46:05)   Taking the Initiative in Relationship Conversations (48:40)   Exploring Serious Relationships (00:50:59)   The Power of Vulnerability (00:52:07)   Episode Wrap-Up and Resources (00:52:15)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    59 min

  2. FEB 11

    Tinder Trivia & Getting Ghosted

    Devyn Simone, Tinder’s Resident Relationship Expert, joins Damona in celebration of Valentine’s Day to test Damona’s online dating knowledge in a Tinder Trivia showdown! Whether you’re feeling the love or dodging Cupid’s arrow this year, we’ve got something for you. Then in a special Dear Damona and Dear Devyn, our questions this week are: My matches want to skip getting to know each other and get straight to the date. How do I deal with this? I keep getting ghosted. Am I coming on too strong? You can find Tinder in the App Store or the Google Play Store, and you can find Devyn on Instagram @DevynSimone *This is NOT a sponsored episode* Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Welcome to Dates and Mates (00:00:06)   Introducing Devin Simone (00:02:05)   Catch-Up Between Friends (00:02:41)   Tinder Trivia Game Introduction (00:03:52)   The Evolution of Online Dating (00:04:54)   Importance of Hope in Dating (00:08:06)   First Trivia Question: Tinder's Activity Day (00:09:07)   Burnout in Dating (00:11:27)   Maximizing Dating App Time (00:12:21)   Momentum in Online Dating (00:14:14)   The Importance of Phone Calls (00:14:28)   Trivia Game Begins (00:15:26)   Benefits of Tinder's Passport Feature (00:16:34)   Changing Dating Parameters Post-COVID (00:17:05)   Misconceptions About Dating Options (00:20:49)   Investment in Dating Apps (00:23:44)   Study on Men's Perceptions of Women (00:24:18)   Reality of Men's Relationship Goals (00:27:08)   Understanding Individual Relationship Seriousness (00:28:33)   The Importance of Online Dating Opportunities (00:29:25)   Trivia Game Introduction (00:30:08)   Loud Looking Trend (00:31:14)   Shift in Dating Culture (00:32:11)   Self-Reflection in Dating (00:34:34)   Profile Photo Selection (00:39:31)   AI Photo Selector Tool (00:42:42)   Tinder Data Insights (00:43:24)   AI Tools for Profile Building (00:44:13)   Using Data for Dating Ease (00:45:07)   Support Beyond Profiles (00:45:42)   Confidence through Tools (00:46:11)   Quality of Relationships (00:46:59)   Listener Questions Introduction (00:47:38)   Handling Men on Dating Apps (00:48:43)   Importance of Pre-Screening (00:49:33)   Communication Methods (00:50:49)   Scheduled Mini-Dates (00:52:12)   Ghosting and Quality Connections (00:52:28)   Assessing Dating Patterns (00:53:25)   Self-Inquiry in Relationships (00:54:01)   Defining Quality in Partners (00:56:00)   Closing Remarks and Appreciation (00:56:54)   Closing Remarks and Thanks (00:57:25)   Valentine's Day Episode Mention (00:57:25)   Upcoming Guest Announcement (00:58:32)   Valentine's Day Wishes (00:58:32)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 4m

  3. FEB 4

    Dear Damona: Dating Groove & Twin Flame’s Twin

    Valentine’s Day is around the corner and Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you're navigating dating apps, dealing with relationship questions, or just trying to avoid all those pink hearts in the grocery store…February can be a tricky time! Set the record straight in this all Dear Damona episode with your top questions like: A hot new match has convinced me the dating apps are worth a second go. How do I do this? My dates aren’t taking the time to get to know the real me.Where can I meet matches dating on a deeper level? Is my dating groove too strong? I have two love interests and both work in the same building. Friends say I should put a pause on dating, but I don’t want to. What do you say? And, my identical twin ex couldn’t peel away from his brother for our relationship. Did I ignore red flags? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Listener Questions Begin (00:02:14) Listener's Dating Experience (00:02:17) Mindset and Dating Strategies (00:04:09) Clarifying Dating Goals (00:07:27) Anonymous Listener's Dilemma (00:09:40) Advice on Age and Compatibility (00:11:57) Navigating Workplace Relationships (00:14:16) Empowerment in Dating Choices (00:15:19) Navigating Real-Life Dating Challenges (00:16:28)   Empowering Self-Expression in Dating (00:19:44)   Seeking Connection Amidst Life's Responsibilities (00:23:10)   Understanding Dating Mindset (00:26:13)   Defining Relationship Goals (00:31:39)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    47 min

  4. JAN 28

    How To Be Dateable & Rarely Into Anyone

    Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the Dateable Podcast, share the knowledge and insights from their brand-new book, “How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love.” Whether you're stuck in the dating rut or just looking for that spark of clarity, they’ve got the tools to help you date smarter and connect deeper. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Now that I’ve stopped chasing unavailable men, I can’t seem to find anyone that I am attracted to. What do I do? Go to HowToBeDateable.com to grab a copy of “How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love.” And you can follow Yue and Julie on Instagram @DateablePodcast l LAST CALL to JOIN US LIVE - if you want more tools, support, and community, spend the entire day with Damona and her team while you heal your heart and renew your faith in romance at our one-day-only F the Fairy Tale Virtual Retreat. This live online event is ALMOST SOLD OUT so grab your ticket before it’s gone at DamonaHoffman.com/Retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 6m

  5. JAN 21

    When You Get Dumped & Matches on Mute

    “What To Do When You Get Dumped” author-illustrator, mother-daughter duo, Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman take on heartbreak in a refreshing way in their new graphic novel. Discover tips on healing from a breakup, moving on, and leaning into love again. Plus, we have this week’s Dear Damona question:  Why do my Hinge matches like my profile but then never write to me? Grab your copy of Suzy and Hallie’s graphic novel, “What To Do When You Get Dumped” by visiting: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/what-to-do-when-you-get-dumped-9781639731893/ Let’s get real! Dating feels harder than it should be right now leaving many feeling emotionally drained. That’s why Damona is hosting a special open call: Dealing with Dating Burnout TOMORROW Wednesday, January 22nd at 4p.m. PST / 7p.m. EST. Learn quick tools to protect your energy while staying open to connection, how to recognize if your dating patterns are draining you, and simple shifts to make dating feel more aligned with your values. Visit DamonaHoffman.com/DatingBurnout And if you want more tools, support, and community, spend the entire day with Damona and her team while you heal your heart and renew your faith in romance at our one-day-only F the Fairy Tale Virtual Retreat. This live online event is almost SOLD OUT so grab your ticket before it’s gone at DamonaHoffman.com/Retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Breakups (00:00:00)   Divorce Month (00:01:06)   The Inspiration for the Book (00:03:30)   The Role of Tarot (00:04:51)   Navigating Trauma (00:05:53)   The Healing Process (00:08:25)   Collaborative Writing Process (00:10:16)   Depth of the Story (00:12:38)   Advice and Wisdom (00:15:53)   Encouragement in Writing (00:16:37)   Daily Meditations (00:17:52)   Writing Through Pain (00:18:50)   Forgiveness vs. Moving Forward (00:20:27)   Finding Peace (00:22:50)   Behold the Badger (00:23:10)   Reclaiming Spaces (00:28:14)   Rewriting Memories (00:30:06)   Making a "What Was True" List (00:32:28)   The list of issues (00:34:07)   Personal truths in healing (00:35:47)   Rewriting the script (00:37:21)   Counseling for recovery (00:38:50)   Grief and awakening (00:39:30)   Rediscovering desire (00:41:17)   Unpopular opinions on dating apps (00:43:06)   The value of being single (00:44:26)   Closing thoughts and book promotion (00:46:40)   Dating Apps and Burnout (00:50:56)   Understanding Dating Mechanisms (00:52:20)   Perception of Dating Experiences (00:53:32)   Introducing the Fairy Tale Online Retreat (00:56:08)   Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:57:21)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 3m

  6. JAN 14

    Getting It Right This Time & Paying For Premium

    Orna & Matthew Walters, founders of Love On Purpose, share the knowledge and insights from their new book, “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love”. You’ll learn how you might be standing in your own way when it comes to love and what you can do to get yourself back on track. And our Dear Damona question this week is: I want to pay for Premium on one app? Should I choose Tinder, Bumble, or OKCupid? Grab a copy of “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love” by visiting: https://www.loveonpurpose.com/getting-it-right-this-time/ Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. Enrollment is NOW OPEN for The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat but spaces are limited. Get your ticket now at  DamonaHoffman.com/retreat  Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Guests Introduction (00:00:56)   Background of the Guests (00:02:10)   Discussion on Title Choice (00:03:22)   Challenges in Dating (00:03:41)   Dating in the Modern Era (00:04:25)   Myth of Effortless Love (00:05:03)   Conflict in Relationships (00:06:54)   Understanding Triggers (00:09:25)   Authenticity in Communication (00:11:56)   Patterns in Relationships (00:12:33)   Brain Science of Attraction (00:14:13)   Personal Experiences with Love (00:15:17)   The Impact of Past Trauma (00:15:50)   Contrasting Upbringings (00:16:13)   Subconscious Patterns in Relationships (00:17:23)   Understanding Love Imprint (00:18:36)   Evaluating Relationship Needs (00:20:01)   Misinterpreting Feelings (00:20:56)   Commitment Before Understanding (00:21:56)   The Danger of Rushing Relationships (00:22:41)   Tools for Self-Discovery (00:23:54)   Visceral Responses to Love Imprints (00:25:15)  Meaning in Past Experiences (00:26:10)   Chemistry vs. Love Imprint (00:28:21)   The Complexity of Love Imprints (00:29:16)   Broadening Relationship Perspectives (00:30:34)   Understanding Casual Alcoholism (00:31:16)   Realizing Personal Responsibility (00:31:36)   The Love Imprint Concept (00:32:30)   Navigating Relationship Myths (00:33:36)   Recognizing Relationship Intentions (00:34:39)   The Fantasy of Being Chosen (00:35:36)   Growth Through Relationships (00:37:11)   Using Dating Apps Effectively (00:38:07)   The Reality of Dating (00:39:36)   The Importance of Clarity in Relationships (00:42:37)   Manifestation in Relationships (00:45:40)   Love Imprints and Relationship Dynamics (00:46:25)   Self-Discovery in Relationships (00:47:56)   Unpopular Opinions on Dating (00:48:28)   Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:49:52)   Optimizing Dating Profiles (00:55:00)   Choosing the Right Dating App (00:59:33)   Fairy Tale Therapy Retreat (01:00:44)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 7m

  7. JAN 7

    2025 Love Astrology & Lovebombing Bombshell

    Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer, returns to kick off 2025 with her annual love forecast in an episode packed with guidance and revelations. Whether you’re single and searching, navigating a partnership, or simply curious about how the stars align for you, this episode will illuminate your path to love by highlighting the times you should lean into love, when you should play it cool and when to follow up on old flames. Plus, our Dear Damona question of the week: What’s up with all this lovebombing on dating apps? Map out your year and your journey in love with a Personal Success Calendar from Carol Allen. Head to DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar to get 60% off your personalized astrology daily forecast. Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at DamonaHoffman.com/retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Vedic Astrology (00:00:13)   Understanding Vedic Astrology (00:05:46)   Auspicious Dates for Love (00:11:23)   The Importance of Venus (00:12:42)   Transits and Their Impact (00:15:08)   The Sati Sati Cycle and the US (00:16:09)   Impact of 2020 on Relationships (00:17:15)   Transitioning Relationships (00:18:22)   Rahu Periods and Global Chaos (00:18:55)   Commitment to Joy (00:19:24)   Venus in 2025 (00:20:20)   Venus Retrograde Dates (00:21:05)   Revisiting Past Connections (00:22:20)   Upcoming Venus Favorable Periods (00:24:40)   Navigating Tricky Times (00:25:58)   Mars Retrograde Impact (00:26:21)   April Challenges (00:27:33)   Mercury Retrograde Overview (00:28:40)   Mercury Retrograde Dates (00:29:58)   Jupiter and Marriage (00:31:07)   Jupiter Retrograde Timeline (00:32:21)   Winter Weddings Warning (00:33:05)   Engagement Timing (00:33:20)   Wedding Chart Insights (00:34:25)   Personal Success Calendar (00:34:27)   Astrological Techniques for Love (00:35:07)   Jupiter and Mars Relationship Technique (00:36:32)   Celebrity Astrology Examples (00:37:47)   Taylor Swift's Chart Analysis (00:40:13)   Beyoncé's Astrological Insights (00:42:27)   Personal Success Calendar Benefits (00:44:08)   Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:46:01)   Listener Question on Love Bombing (00:47:59)   Understanding Love Bombing (00:50:09)   Patterns in Relationships (00:51:19)   Recognizing Manipulation (00:52:22)   Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:53:17)   Importance of Offline Interaction (00:54:30)   Evaluating Reactions to Boundaries (00:55:55)   Sorting Out Emotional Manipulation (00:57:29)   Upcoming Fairy Tale Retreat (00:58:36)   Astrological Calendar Offer (00:59:47) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 6m

  8. 12/31/2024

    New Year Love Meditation & Cultivate Grace

    Damona offers a visualization to guide you through the ups and downs of this year and plant seeds for a 2025 full of love in this special minisode. Then, she shares her word of the year along with an exercise that you can try today to begin transforming your love journey. Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at DamonaHoffman.com/retreat The song in this episode is called Meditation On Love and is by Kirk Osamayo. It is from the Free Music Archive, license type CC BY. TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00) Tangible Love Goals (00:09) Visualization and Meditation Introduction (01:04) Year-End Reflection (02:17) Letting Go of Past Disappointments (04:09) Visualizing a Hopeful Future (05:54) The Concept of Grace (09:11) Grace as a Game Changer (10:37) Final Thoughts on Grace (11:53) New Year Exercise (13:01) Invitation for Feedback (14:36) Closing Remarks (15:46) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    19 min
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From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

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  • Creator
    Damona Hoffman - Dates and Mates Media
  • Years Active
    2013 - 2025
  • Episodes
    102
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Dear Mrs D, Inc.
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    Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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