Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

  1. 3 HR. AGO

    When You Get Dumped & Matches on Mute

    “What To Do When You Get Dumped” author-illustrator, mother-daughter duo, Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman take on heartbreak in a refreshing way in their new graphic novel. Discover tips on healing from a breakup, moving on, and leaning into love again. Plus, we have this week’s Dear Damona question:  Why do my Hinge matches like my profile but then never write to me? Grab your copy of Suzy and Hallie’s graphic novel, “What To Do When You Get Dumped” by visiting: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/what-to-do-when-you-get-dumped-9781639731893/ Let’s get real! Dating feels harder than it should be right now leaving many feeling emotionally drained. That’s why Damona is hosting a special open call: Dealing with Dating Burnout TOMORROW Wednesday, January 22nd at 4p.m. PST / 7p.m. EST. Learn quick tools to protect your energy while staying open to connection, how to recognize if your dating patterns are draining you, and simple shifts to make dating feel more aligned with your values. Visit DamonaHoffman.com/DatingBurnout And if you want more tools, support, and community, spend the entire day with Damona and her team while you heal your heart and renew your faith in romance at our one-day-only F the Fairy Tale Virtual Retreat. This live online event is almost SOLD OUT so grab your ticket before it’s gone at DamonaHoffman.com/Retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Breakups (00:00:00)   Divorce Month (00:01:06)   The Inspiration for the Book (00:03:30)   The Role of Tarot (00:04:51)   Navigating Trauma (00:05:53)   The Healing Process (00:08:25)   Collaborative Writing Process (00:10:16)   Depth of the Story (00:12:38)   Advice and Wisdom (00:15:53)   Encouragement in Writing (00:16:37)   Daily Meditations (00:17:52)   Writing Through Pain (00:18:50)   Forgiveness vs. Moving Forward (00:20:27)   Finding Peace (00:22:50)   Behold the Badger (00:23:10)   Reclaiming Spaces (00:28:14)   Rewriting Memories (00:30:06)   Making a "What Was True" List (00:32:28)   The list of issues (00:34:07)   Personal truths in healing (00:35:47)   Rewriting the script (00:37:21)   Counseling for recovery (00:38:50)   Grief and awakening (00:39:30)   Rediscovering desire (00:41:17)   Unpopular opinions on dating apps (00:43:06)   The value of being single (00:44:26)   Closing thoughts and book promotion (00:46:40)   Dating Apps and Burnout (00:50:56)   Understanding Dating Mechanisms (00:52:20)   Perception of Dating Experiences (00:53:32)   Introducing the Fairy Tale Online Retreat (00:56:08)   Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:57:21)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 3m

  2. JAN 14

    Getting It Right This Time & Paying For Premium

    Orna & Matthew Walters, founders of Love On Purpose, share the knowledge and insights from their new book, “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love”. You’ll learn how you might be standing in your own way when it comes to love and what you can do to get yourself back on track. And our Dear Damona question this week is: I want to pay for Premium on one app? Should I choose Tinder, Bumble, or OKCupid? Grab a copy of “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love” by visiting: https://www.loveonpurpose.com/getting-it-right-this-time/ Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. Enrollment is NOW OPEN for The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat but spaces are limited. Get your ticket now at  DamonaHoffman.com/retreat  Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Guests Introduction (00:00:56)   Background of the Guests (00:02:10)   Discussion on Title Choice (00:03:22)   Challenges in Dating (00:03:41)   Dating in the Modern Era (00:04:25)   Myth of Effortless Love (00:05:03)   Conflict in Relationships (00:06:54)   Understanding Triggers (00:09:25)   Authenticity in Communication (00:11:56)   Patterns in Relationships (00:12:33)   Brain Science of Attraction (00:14:13)   Personal Experiences with Love (00:15:17)   The Impact of Past Trauma (00:15:50)   Contrasting Upbringings (00:16:13)   Subconscious Patterns in Relationships (00:17:23)   Understanding Love Imprint (00:18:36)   Evaluating Relationship Needs (00:20:01)   Misinterpreting Feelings (00:20:56)   Commitment Before Understanding (00:21:56)   The Danger of Rushing Relationships (00:22:41)   Tools for Self-Discovery (00:23:54)   Visceral Responses to Love Imprints (00:25:15)  Meaning in Past Experiences (00:26:10)   Chemistry vs. Love Imprint (00:28:21)   The Complexity of Love Imprints (00:29:16)   Broadening Relationship Perspectives (00:30:34)   Understanding Casual Alcoholism (00:31:16)   Realizing Personal Responsibility (00:31:36)   The Love Imprint Concept (00:32:30)   Navigating Relationship Myths (00:33:36)   Recognizing Relationship Intentions (00:34:39)   The Fantasy of Being Chosen (00:35:36)   Growth Through Relationships (00:37:11)   Using Dating Apps Effectively (00:38:07)   The Reality of Dating (00:39:36)   The Importance of Clarity in Relationships (00:42:37)   Manifestation in Relationships (00:45:40)   Love Imprints and Relationship Dynamics (00:46:25)   Self-Discovery in Relationships (00:47:56)   Unpopular Opinions on Dating (00:48:28)   Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:49:52)   Optimizing Dating Profiles (00:55:00)   Choosing the Right Dating App (00:59:33)   Fairy Tale Therapy Retreat (01:00:44)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 7m

  3. JAN 7

    2025 Love Astrology & Lovebombing Bombshell

    Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer, returns to kick off 2025 with her annual love forecast in an episode packed with guidance and revelations. Whether you’re single and searching, navigating a partnership, or simply curious about how the stars align for you, this episode will illuminate your path to love by highlighting the times you should lean into love, when you should play it cool and when to follow up on old flames. Plus, our Dear Damona question of the week: What’s up with all this lovebombing on dating apps? Map out your year and your journey in love with a Personal Success Calendar from Carol Allen. Head to DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar to get 60% off your personalized astrology daily forecast. Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at DamonaHoffman.com/retreat Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Vedic Astrology (00:00:13)   Understanding Vedic Astrology (00:05:46)   Auspicious Dates for Love (00:11:23)   The Importance of Venus (00:12:42)   Transits and Their Impact (00:15:08)   The Sati Sati Cycle and the US (00:16:09)   Impact of 2020 on Relationships (00:17:15)   Transitioning Relationships (00:18:22)   Rahu Periods and Global Chaos (00:18:55)   Commitment to Joy (00:19:24)   Venus in 2025 (00:20:20)   Venus Retrograde Dates (00:21:05)   Revisiting Past Connections (00:22:20)   Upcoming Venus Favorable Periods (00:24:40)   Navigating Tricky Times (00:25:58)   Mars Retrograde Impact (00:26:21)   April Challenges (00:27:33)   Mercury Retrograde Overview (00:28:40)   Mercury Retrograde Dates (00:29:58)   Jupiter and Marriage (00:31:07)   Jupiter Retrograde Timeline (00:32:21)   Winter Weddings Warning (00:33:05)   Engagement Timing (00:33:20)   Wedding Chart Insights (00:34:25)   Personal Success Calendar (00:34:27)   Astrological Techniques for Love (00:35:07)   Jupiter and Mars Relationship Technique (00:36:32)   Celebrity Astrology Examples (00:37:47)   Taylor Swift's Chart Analysis (00:40:13)   Beyoncé's Astrological Insights (00:42:27)   Personal Success Calendar Benefits (00:44:08)   Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:46:01)   Listener Question on Love Bombing (00:47:59)   Understanding Love Bombing (00:50:09)   Patterns in Relationships (00:51:19)   Recognizing Manipulation (00:52:22)   Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:53:17)   Importance of Offline Interaction (00:54:30)   Evaluating Reactions to Boundaries (00:55:55)   Sorting Out Emotional Manipulation (00:57:29)   Upcoming Fairy Tale Retreat (00:58:36)   Astrological Calendar Offer (00:59:47) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 6m

  4. 12/31/2024

    New Year Love Meditation & Cultivate Grace

    Damona offers a visualization to guide you through the ups and downs of this year and plant seeds for a 2025 full of love in this special minisode. Then, she shares her word of the year along with an exercise that you can try today to begin transforming your love journey. Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at DamonaHoffman.com/retreat The song in this episode is called Meditation On Love and is by Kirk Osamayo. It is from the Free Music Archive, license type CC BY. TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00) Tangible Love Goals (00:09) Visualization and Meditation Introduction (01:04) Year-End Reflection (02:17) Letting Go of Past Disappointments (04:09) Visualizing a Hopeful Future (05:54) The Concept of Grace (09:11) Grace as a Game Changer (10:37) Final Thoughts on Grace (11:53) New Year Exercise (13:01) Invitation for Feedback (14:36) Closing Remarks (15:46) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    19 min

  5. 12/24/2024

    2025 Love Predictions & Year In Swipe

    Damona shares reflections on the swiping stats from 2024 based on Tinder and Bumble trends from their year-end reports. Then she looks forward to the future to predict what you can expect in the world of dating and relationships in 2025.  Are you feeling burned out on dating—like you’re giving so much but getting nothing back? Then join Damona on February 1st for a one-day virtual retreat - Fairy Tale Therapy, where you’ll reconnect with yourself and a community of hopeful daters who get it. Together, you’ll set powerful intentions for your love life, uncover new dating tools, and recharge your self-love battery so you can step into the new year with clarity and confidence. Apply asap, spaces are limited and each attendee will be hand-picked by Damona: DamonaHoffman.com/retreat TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Holiday Challenges (00:00) Reflections on 2024 Trends (00:01) Tinder Year in Swipe Report (00:02) Vision Boards in Dating (00:04) Bumble Global Dating Trends (00:05) Micro Romance and Its Impact (00:05) Community Building Through Content (00:08) Emotional Stability in Relationships (00:12) Guy BFFs as Influencers (00:13) Predictions for 2025 (00:14) The Year of the Woman (00:15) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    28 min

  6. 12/17/2024

    Dating While Gray & The Later Daters

    Laura Stassi, author and host of the Dating While Gray podcast, reveals how many of our dating challenges and solutions remain the same, regardless of age, gender, or sexuality. And Laura joins Damona for a special Dear Damona segment to answer your questions, like: I’d like to move to Tennessee and meet a Southern gentleman. Should I start dating long distance in the meantime? I have a medical issue that is lowering my self esteem. How can I move past this and begin dating again? Listen to the Dating While Gray podcast wherever you get your podcasts and be sure to follow Laura on Instagram @DatingWhileGray Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Guest Introduction (00:01:15)   Laura's Background (00:02:19)   Podcast Journey (00:05:41)   Media Representation of Older Daters (00:06:21)   Dating Trends and Challenges (00:10:34)   Dating Attitudes Across Ages (00:11:57)   Learning from Dating Experiences (00:14:04)   Shifting Dating Etiquette (00:15:38)   The rigidity of dating (00:16:16)   Compromise in dating (00:17:22)   Dating models and etiquette (00:18:36)   Older daters' routines (00:19:47)   Generosity in dating (00:20:46)   Communication in dating (00:22:12)   Meeting people offline (00:24:52)   Overcoming fear of being alone (00:27:57)   Reconnecting with past acquaintances (00:29:00)   Long-distance dating considerations (00:31:01)   Exploring Relocation for Love (00:31:59)   Importance of Community (00:32:21)   Dating as Discovery (00:34:13)   Listener Question on Self-Esteem (00:36:20)   Vulnerability in Sharing Challenges (00:37:26)   Stigmas Around Health Issues (00:39:46)   Navigating Disclosure in Dating (00:40:57)   Redefining Sexual Intimacy (00:42:28)   Intentional Dating Post-Pandemic (00:44:01)   Comfort with Oneself (00:45:18)   Closing Remarks and Resources (00:46:14)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    53 min

  7. 12/10/2024

    Matchmaker, Matchmaker & Signs of Interest

    Aleeza Ben Shalom, celebrity matchmaker of Netflix’s Jewish Matchmaking, shares actionable advice to help you find your path on this dating journey with wisdom from her new book “Matchmaker, Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts”. And the Dear Damona question this week is: What are the signs that someone is interested in you? Pre-order your copy of Aleeza's new book, “Matchmaker, Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts”, by visiting: https://marriagemindedmentor.com/book/ And, follow Aleeza on Instagram @AleezaBenShalom! Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00)   Finding your personal dating playbook (00:01:03)   Meet Aleeza Ben Shalom (00:02:14)   Aleeza's journey as a matchmaker (00:02:50)   Date them till you hate them (00:04:02)   The three-date rule (00:05:30)   Clarity in dating decisions (00:06:37)   The importance of staying curious (00:07:25)   Navigating difficult conversations (00:10:30)   Rejection as a form of protection (00:13:20)   The five-day challenge (00:14:42)   Five Day Challenge Explained (00:15:04) Clarifying the No Touching Rule (00:15:49) Tips for the Challenge (00:16:36) Importance of Connection in Dating (00:18:39) Dating Dynamics and Tests (00:19:47) Rules for Same-Sex Couples (00:20:33) Calculating Relationship Compatibility (00:21:06) Interests vs. Core Values (00:22:44) Significance of Family Values (00:24:22) Understanding Timelines in Relationships (00:26:53) Self-Discovery in Dating (00:29:16) The Five-Year Relationship Evolution (00:29:50)   The 555 Dating Rule Explained (00:30:23)   Building Momentum in Dating (00:31:04)   Chemistry and Intentional Dating (00:34:13)   Soulmate Clarity Concept (00:37:38)   Navigating Workplace Relationships (00:40:41)   Dating Gestures and Vibes (00:45:35)   Small Moves in Dating (00:46:29)   Attraction Beyond Age (00:47:22)   Investing in Clear Signals (00:48:52)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    53 min

  8. 12/03/2024

    Dear Damona: Got Ghosted & Romance Reimbursement

    This week’s episode is dedicated to YOU! The holidays are here, bringing all the cozy vibes, family gatherings, and… yep, those inevitable relationship questions. Damona answers all your pressing holiday love questions, from family expectations to finding romance under the mistletoe.She will answer your top questions like: I have been dating a wonderful man for 7 months now and STILL don’t feel a physical connection. Is it time to call it quits? I got ghosted after 4 months of dating, is it something I said? I am interested in some of the singles in my triathlon club. Do I shoot my shot or is it too risky? She made the reservation but then asked for my credit card to reimburse her the deposit. Is that a petty red flag? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00)   Uncertainty in Relationships (00:00:01)   Light-hearted Commentary (00:00:03)   Holiday Dating Dilemmas (00:00:06)   Listener's Voice Memo (00:01:55)   Annie's Relationship Concerns (00:02:01)   Ghosting After Four Months (00:07:58)   Communication Issues in Relationships (00:09:00)   Conflict Resolution Advice (00:12:22)   Triathlon Club Dating Dilemma (00:16:24)   Breaking the Ice in a Club (00:16:46)   The Benefits of Physical Activity (00:17:18)   Navigating Group Dynamics (00:19:50)   Using Dating Apps (00:22:02)   Addressing Gender Roles in Dating (00:23:55)   Finding Common Ground (00:26:12)   Preparing for Holiday Conversations (00:29:38)   Closing Thoughts and Future Episodes (00:30:52)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    34 min
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From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

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  • Creator
    Damona Hoffman - Dates and Mates Media
  • Years Active
    2013 - 2025
  • Episodes
    102
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Dear Mrs D, Inc.
  • Show Website
    Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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