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Feeling butterflies with a match may seem like a good sign for your romantic future, but many times it's a window to the past. Damona busts The Chemistry Myth so that you can stop missing the  true markers of relationship success and stop second guessing your dating choices. Plus, she answers this spicy Dear Damona question: How fast is too fast to have sex with a new person?

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Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!

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(00:00:10) The Chemistry Myth 

(00:00:55) Personal Experience with Chemistry Myth 

(00:04:27) Physiological Aspect of Chemistry 

(00:05:33) Dear Damona Question on Slow Love 

(00:07:42) Tossing out Timelines 

(00:08:41) Safe Sex and Boundaries 

(00:11:13) Joining the Book Squad 

(00:12:24) Conclusion and Invitation

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Swipe apps have gamified dating but that doesn’t mean you have to play it their way! Damona dives deep into The Rules Myth with love and relationship experts Ariel Ford and Francesca Hoagie in one of her favorite panels from the F the The Fairy Tale Forum last year. Together they address how singles are hungry for shortcuts to finding love and reveal why this approach may be preventing them from making fulfilling connections.

Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)

Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!

Follow Arielle Ford on Instagram @ArielleFord_author and pick up a copy of her international bestseller, “THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction”.

Follow Francesca Hogi on Instagram @DearFranny and check out the Dear Franny Podcast!

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TIMESTAMPS
(00:00:00) Dates & Mates Intro
(00:01:06) The rules myth 
(00:02:10) Introduction of Ariel Ford and Francesca Hogi 
(00:04:34) Defining love 
(00:06:30) Navigating dating without rules 
(00:09:08) Evolution of relationships 
(00:13:13) Existence of soulmates 
(00:16:58) Meeting people outside of dating apps 
(00:18:02) The potential of organic connections 
(00:19:52) Manifesting love and the meet cute mindset 
(00:21:36) The abundance mindset and love before first sight 
(00:26:06) Dating in midlife and redefining compatibility 
(00:29:44) Embracing the process of dating and love skills
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Do you date by a list? How’s that going for you? Damona tackles The List Myth in the second episode of the “F The Fairy Tale'' Summer Series. Plus, Damona shares some dating math to illustrate how The List Myth hurts you more than helps you…and what you should focus on instead.

Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)

Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:00) Intro to the "F the Fairy Tale" summer series.
(00:01:09) The list myth 
(00:02:21) Narrowing the list 
(00:05:55) Importance of leaving reviews 
(00:06:58) Announcement of the next episode 
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We are kicking off the “F The Fairy Tale” Summer Series this week with one of our most-asked questions: Online dating doesn’t work for me. How do I meet my match IRL?

Plus, Damona shares dating tips for the summer and her own story of an epic summer romance with a man who went by the name of Mr. Pandemonium.

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Jillian Turecki, certified relationship coach and host of the Jillian On Love podcast, joins us for our Dates & Mates Season 11 finale! She and Damona explore why the fantasy of "The One" captivates us, and how this desire often masks a need for personal healing and growth.

We are bringing back the Romance Rollback this week with:

Surprising Facts About the Evolution of Dating 

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

My dates keep ditching me… for my brother! What can I do?

Follow Jillian at @JillianTurecki and you can become of member of Jillian’s relationship school by visiting JillianTurecki.com/membership

To read the Mental Floss piece on the Evolution of dating visit: mentalfloss.com/article/79140/10-fascinating-facts-about-evolution-dating-and-courtship

Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:03:40) The romance rollback 
(00:11:28) Introduction of Jillian Turecki 
(00:14:52) The myth of the one 
(00:20:34) The concept of "the one" 
(00:23:50) Reasons for being single 
(00:30:04) Challenges in building trust 
(00:35:02) The evolving dating landscape 
(00:36:08) Missions in relationship coaching 
(00:40:16) Making Dating Safer for Women 
(00:42:07) The Responsibility of Men in Dating Safety
(00:51:38) Impact of Attractiveness of Family Members on Dating
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Inessa Freya, international feng shui master and spiritual psychologist, reveals how simple changes in your home can attract new romantic possibilities, improve your current relationships, and bring a sense of harmony and balance that radiates from the inside out. Plus, Damona shares why she credits Inessa for being a part of bringing Mr. Hoffman into her life!
But first we have a surprising dating dish to serve up for you:


Move over healthcare! Could dating apps be the new benefit?



Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

Dating Burnout is real!!! How do I remain positive when I am struggling to find my match?

Follow Inessa on Instagram @Inessa_Freya and learn more about her work by visiting www.fengshuifromtheheart.com

Read the Forbes piece: forbes.com/sites/soulaimagourani/2024/06/04/dating-services-as-a-future-company-perk/?sh=5df2e008459a

Read the Independent piece: https://sg.news.yahoo.com/tokyo-launch-first-government-run-091413507.html

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(00:00:15) The introduction to Feng Shui
(00:02:24) Dating apps as employee benefits 
(00:06:20) Government-sponsored dating apps 
(00:08:59) Introduction to Inessa Freya
(00:10:36) Understanding Feng Shui 
(00:12:39) Personal experiences with Feng Shui
(00:18:01) Clearing up energy and finding love
(00:19:52) Visualizing love and moving for love
(00:24:32) Feng Shui principles and applying them
(00:26:33) Decluttering and space clearing 
(00:33:13) Space Clearing with Intention 
(00:33:47) Impact of Objects on Energy 
(00:35:14) Moving and Arranging Items 
(00:35:55) Feng Shui Rules for Bed Placement 
(00:39:38) Ancient Aspects of Feng Shui 
(00:42:00) Maintaining a Positive Dating Mindset 
(00:47:35) Challenging Societal Narratives 
(00:48:42) Attracting Someone 
(00:49:52) Mindset and Clarity 
(00:50:50) The Five Dating Loops 
(00:51:57) Setting Intentions 
(00:53:03) Upcoming Season Finale 
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