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How The Mood We Choose Affects Personal Growth

In this conversation, I am joined by Matt O'Neill of “The Good Mood Show” to discuss the power of love and positive attitudes in overcoming hate and negative emotions. Our conversation highlights the importance of personal responsibility and choosing gratitude to improve one's mindset. We explore multiple real-life examples of individuals who have overcome hate and discrimination through love and forgiveness. We also discuss the impact of guilt and judgment on our well-being and provide strategies for building unshakable confidence. 
 Matt dives deep in the development of shame and the cycle of hurt that can lead to destructive behavior. He shares personal stories of his family's experiences and emphasizes the importance of finding the truth and realizing that we are all born perfect and deserving of love. Matt also highlights the significance of taking responsibility for our lives and choosing happiness over victimhood. We discuss the power of response and ability, and how embracing challenges can lead to personal growth. The conversation concludes with an invitation to continue exploring these topics on the Good Mood Show podcast. 
Takeaways 
Choosing love and positive attitudes can help overcome hate and negative emotions. Personal responsibility and gratitude are essential for improving one's mindset. Real-life examples demonstrate the power of love and forgiveness in overcoming hate and discrimination. Guilt and judgment can hinder personal growth and well-being, and it is important to counteract them with self-compassion and self-acceptance. Shame can develop from early experiences of feeling not good enough or deserving of love. The cycle of hurt can perpetuate destructive behavior and negative self-perception.  Taking responsibility for our lives and choosing happiness is essential for personal growth and well-being. Embracing challenges as opportunities for growth can lead to a more fulfilling life.Learn more about and connect with Matt O'Neill by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.
What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
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How Feeling Unseen Perpetuates Polarization

In this episode, host Wilk Wilkinson is joined by New York Times columnist, political commentator and best-selling author David Brooks to discuss the issue of societal disconnection and its consequences. They explore the rise of loneliness, sadness, and hostility in modern communities, as well as the damaging effects of siloing and othering. The conversation touches on topics such as the rural-urban divide, the feeling of invisibility, and the power of storytelling in fostering empathy. They also discuss the polarization in politics and the role of emotions in shaping people's beliefs and actions. The conversation explores the themes of political anger, personal stories, moral formation, and community building. In response to a question from David, Wilk shares his personal experience of feeling angry and disillusioned during the Obama administration and his own feelings about the 2016 election. David goes on to emphasize the importance of storytelling and understanding others' perspectives to depolarize conversations. They discuss the decline of moral formation in society and the need for kindness and consideration in interpersonal relationships. Brooks introduces the organization Weave, which supports local community leaders called 'weavers' who work to build social connections and trust.

Takeaways
Societal disconnection is a pressing issue that leads to loneliness, sadness, and hostility in communities.The rural-urban divide and the feeling of invisibility contribute to the sense of disconnection.Polarization in politics is fueled by siloing and othering, where people only engage with those who think alike.Emotions play a significant role in shaping people's beliefs and actions, often leading to voting based on hate or anger rather than policy. Political anger can stem from feeling unheard or misrepresented by the government.Storytelling and understanding others' perspectives can help depolarize conversations.Moral formation and the practice of kindness and consideration are essential for a healthy society.Weave is an organization that supports local community leaders who work to build social connections and trust.Learn more about and connect with David Brooks online by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.




What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
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What is the formula for Listening AND Being Heard When Talkin' Politics and Religion?

In this episode, Wilk Wilkinson and Corey Nathan discuss the importance of having conversations about politics and religion without resorting to personal attacks. They emphasize the need to approach these conversations with openness and curiosity, seeking to understand the other person's perspective rather than trying to convince them to change their beliefs. The conversation covers topics such as confirmation bias, echo chambers, active listening, and recognizing our common humanity. They also highlight the value of nurturing relationships and making people feel heard and valued. The episode emphasizes the importance of attacking positions, not people, and separating personal identity from political or religious beliefs. The conversation explores the importance of effective communication and understanding in divisive times. It emphasizes the need to separate individuals from their beliefs and to avoid making assumptions based on identity or political affiliation. The guests discuss the dangers of identitarianism and the need to prioritize relationships over winning debates. They also highlight the importance of recognizing biases and being open-minded in conversations. The conversation concludes with a call to bridge divides and prioritize understanding.

Takeaways


Approach conversations about politics and religion with openness and curiosity, seeking to understand the other person's perspective.Recognize the dangers of confirmation bias and echo chambers, and actively seek out diverse viewpoints.Practice active listening and reflect back to the other person to show that you understand their position.Recognize and value the common humanity in others, even if they have different political or religious beliefs.Attack positions, not people, and separate personal identity from political or religious beliefs.Nurture relationships and make people feel heard and valued in conversations. Separate individuals from their beliefs and avoid making assumptions based on identity or political affiliation.Prioritize relationships over winning debates and focus on understanding.Recognize biases and be open-minded in conversations.Bridge divides and prioritize understanding to foster a healthier society.



What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
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The Courage To Step Outside Your Silo
A Covid-19 Paradigm Shift

In this episode, host Wilk Wilkinson is joined by Kevin Bass, a scientist who was dismissed from medical school for his COVID-19 advocacy. They discuss Kevin's initial mindset on COVID-19 and his interest in debunking misinformation. The conversation delves into the toxicity of the initial mindset, the difficulty of stepping outside echo chambers, and the fear of speaking out. They emphasize the importance of engaging in conversations with differing viewpoints and finding common ground through open and fearless dialogue. The episode highlights the need to mend the divides in our society and prioritize understanding and empathy.

Takeaways


Stepping outside echo chambers and engaging in conversations with differing viewpoints is crucial for personal growth and understanding.Fear of speaking out and the consequences of challenging the consensus can prevent individuals from questioning or exploring new ideas.Mending the divide and finding common ground requires open and fearless conversations that prioritize understanding and empathy.There is a need to address the polarization and misinformation in society and promote a culture of free and open dialogue.Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast
01:19 Kevin Bass's Background and Interest in Debunking Misinformation
08:28 The Difficulty of Stepping Outside Echo Chambers
11:04 Initial Mindset on COVID-19 and Government's Response
23:18 Understanding Different Perspectives and Depolarization
33:47 Consequences and Challenges Faced by Kevin Bass
37:59 Future Plans and Mending the Divide
41:19 Conclusion and Call to Action

Learn more about and connect with Kevin Bass by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.




What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
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How To Detox From Toxic Political Polarization

In this episode, Columbia Prof. of psychology Peter Coleman joins Julian Adorney to discuss the concept of affective polarization and its role in fostering toxic polarization. He explains how affective polarization operates as an attractor, drawing individuals into cycles of animosity and antipathy towards opposing viewpoints. Coleman emphasizes the importance of sustained contact and engagement with individuals holding divergent political perspectives. He also discusses the need for guardrails and structural changes to combat toxic polarization effectively. The episode concludes with a call to action, encouraging listeners to participate in the Polarization Detox Challenge.

Takeaways
Affective polarization operates as an attractor, drawing individuals into cycles of animosity and antipathy towards opposing viewpoints.Sustained contact and engagement with individuals holding divergent political perspectives is crucial for combating toxic polarization.Guardrails and structural changes are needed to address the deep divisions and hate in society.Times of destabilization present opportunities for individuals and communities to reassess their priorities and choose a more decent path forward.Who is Peter T. Coleman?

Dr. Peter T. Coleman is Professor of Psychology and Education at Columbia University where he holds a joint-appointment at Teachers College and The Earth Institute. Dr. Coleman directs the Morton Deutsch International Center for Cooperation and Conflict Resolution (MD-ICCCR), is founding director of the Institute for Psychological Science and Practice (IPSP), and is co-executive director of Columbia University’s Advanced Consortium on Cooperation, Conflict, and Complexity (AC4).   

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Gratitude
03:15 Understanding Affective Polarization
06:01 Affective Polarization as an Attractor
09:18 Complexity Systems and Affective Polarization
13:00 The Importance of Sustained Contact
21:37 The Prisoner's Dilemma in Politics
25:08 The Rise of Political Violence
27:31 The Need for Guardrails and Structural Changes
32:19 Opportunities in Times of Destabilization
38:42 Taking Action: The Polarization Detox Challenge
45:13 Conclusion and Call to Action

What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
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Hope For Healing & Becoming Our Own Champion

In this episode, Linda Bjork joins Wilk to discuss the power of personal transformation and overcoming the challenges of depression. The conversation covers various themes including taking personal accountability, creating our own happiness, and recognizing our own value. Linda shares her own journey and how she came to the realization that we can be the champions of our own stories. The conversation emphasizes the importance of mindset, self-belief, and taking small action steps towards personal growth and happiness. Linda also discusses the work of the Hope for Healing Foundation and her podcast, Linda's Corner.

Takeaways
Personal transformation and overcoming challenges require taking personal accountability and recognizing our own value.Creating happiness is within our control and comes from our own actions.Taking small action steps can lead to personal growth and happiness.Focusing on gratitude and changing our mindset can have a profound impact on our well-being.Who is Linda Bjork?

Linda is an overcomer, someone who has been able to overcome depression, social anxiety, and trauma. Linda is someone who understands what it means to overcome self-limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, low confidence, low self-esteem and more. She now joyfully lives an authentic and fulfilling life. Linda is passionate about hope, healing and personal transformation. It is because of this passion that Linda created the non-profit, Hope for healing, to help empower others to overcome as well.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast
01:19 Themes: Personal Transformation and Overcoming Depression
04:40 Becoming the Champion of Our Own Story
06:06 Overcoming Depression and Finding Hope
14:41 Personal Accountability and Creating Happiness
25:05 The Power of Focus and Gratitude
27:02 Self-Limiting Beliefs and Self-Sabotage
30:47 Hope for Healing Foundation and Linda's Corner Podcast
35:18 Conclusion and Gratitude

Learn more and connect with Linda Bjork by checking out the full show notes for this episode at DerateTheHate.com.
What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!
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