Diary of a Recovering People Pleaser

Jenny Leckey
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Diary of a Recovering People Pleaser

Dive into heartfelt diary-style episodes and candid interviews that explore real world, authentic people pleasing stories and practical healing tools. Hosted by Jenny Leckey, a former English teacher turned Reiki Master and meditation guide, this podcast blends spirituality and psychology to help you break free from people pleaser patterns and embrace self-healing. Cozy up for deep, late-night sofa chat vibes as we touch on topics like Reiki, meditation, journaling, energy work, and more—offering guidance, comfort, and a dose of courage to transform your life. You're not alone on this journey. Let’s heal together!

  1. JAN 11

    Ep 31: Social Media Influencers Don't Know More Than You: Flipping the Script on Learning

    “We're moving away from the hierarchy of 'The teacher knows and the student is learning.' “ - Jenny Leckey In episode 31, Jenny discusses the importance of tuning into yourself rather than seeking external validation. Jenny explores how people often look outside themselves for answers on social media, especially on platforms like TikTok, and how this is slowing down the healing process. She emphasizes that true wisdom comes from within- when you learn something new on your healing journey, it's really awakening dormant knowledge and intuition you had all along. Jenny speaks about the link between people pleasing and abandoning one's true self, explaining how reconnecting with your inner self can lead to personal growth and healing.  Through meditation and self-awareness practices, listeners can begin to recognize those 'aha' moments that resonate with their inner truth that's been there all along. Jenny encourages her audience to reflect on what this episode awakens within them and to share their experiences. 00:18 Seeking Answers Within 01:43 The Journey of Remembering 03:05 Internal Discernment vs. Confirmation Bias 03:52 Awakening Dormant Knowledge 06:07 People Pleasing and Self-Connection 07:33 Integrating New Knowledge 09:57 Practical Steps to Self-Awareness 10:47 Conclusion: Embrace the Aha Moments About The Host Want to be a guest on the show? Email Jenny: info@meditatewithjenny.com Work with Jenny - Book 1:1 Reiki or psychic channeled reading sessions. Offered virtually or in person in Buffalo, NY. Jenny also offers Reiki certification classes! Copyright 2024 Jenny Leckey LLC

    13 min

  2. 12/23/2024

    Ep 30: Childhood Trauma, Toxic Workplaces, and Finding Self-Worth: An Interview with Tracie Groves

    "I realized that if I say no to someone and it's going to make them not love me, then they probably don't."- Tracie In this insightful episode, Jenny has a conversation with Tracie, a self-described recovering people pleaser, who shares her deep and personal journey of overcoming a lifetime of people pleasing.  Tracie delves into how her childhood trauma in an abusive household wired her to strive for the approval of others. She also discusses the impact of a toxic workplace where her people-pleasing tendencies were manipulated, leading to severe health issues. Through therapy and self-reflection, Tracie found her self-worth and provides practical advice on setting boundaries and healing. Key themes include childhood trauma, toxic workplaces, and finding self-worth.  Jenny and Tracie also share useful tools, books, and concepts to aid you on your healing journey. 00:33 Childhood Struggles and People Pleasing 04:32 Defining People Pleasing 11:50 Workplace Challenges 16:05 Quitting and New Beginnings 20:42 The Fear of Letting Go 23:25 Techniques for Anxiety Relief 26:17 The Power of Saying No 30:37 Overcoming People Pleasing in Academia 33:43 Resources for Recovery 36:26 Embracing Self-Worth 38:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Books Mentioned in the Podcast: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart by Meggan Roxanne Not Nice by Dr. Aziz Gazipura No Mud, No Lotus by Thich Nhat Hanh About The Guest: Tracie Groves I’m a recovering people pleaser. At 50, I reached my rock bottom and quit my job of almost 20 years, went back to school and did the hard work through therapy, meditation, and journaling to heal and finally live my best life. About the Host: Want to be a guest on the show? Email Jenny: info@meditatewithjenny.com Work with Jenny - Book 1:1 Reiki or psychic channeled reading sessions. Offered virtually or in person in Buffalo, NY. Jenny also offers Reiki certification classes! Copyright 2024 Jenny Leckey LLC

    41 min

  3. 12/18/2024

    Ep 29: Ditch the To Do List - Focus on Your "Goodbye" List Instead

    “"It's like the devil, you know, Right? It's the comfort, you know.” - Jenny Leckey In this episode, Jenny discusses her transformative six-month coaching program with her Ayurveda coach, Dawn. She delves into the importance of saying goodbye to habits and relationships that no longer serve us, especially in the context of people pleasing.  Jenny shares her personal journey, including past experiences with depression, friendship breakups, and finding out she has celiac disease. She emphasizes the need to create space for new, healthy habits by releasing old patterns and poses the critical question to listeners: What are you ready to say goodbye to? 00:00 Introduction to My Ayurveda Journey 00:24 The Struggle with Habit Change 01:09 Connecting Habit Change to People Pleasing 01:58 Saying Goodbye to People Pleasing 03:36 A Painful Goodbye: Ending a Friendship 07:08 Discovering the Root Cause of Fatigue 09:18 The Importance of Saying Goodbye 10:03 Reflecting on What to Say Goodbye To 12:32 Conclusion: Embracing Change Check out more about Ayurveda with Dawn Want to be a guest? Email Jenny: info@meditatewithjenny.com Work with Jenny - Book 1:1 Reiki or psychic channeled reading sessions. Offered virtually or in person in Buffalo, NY. Jenny also offers Reiki certification classes! Copyright 2024 Jenny Leckey LLC

    14 min

  4. 12/06/2024

    Ep 28: Improv Permission Slip to Take Up Space- My People Pleaser Revelation

    "Underneath all the people pleasing, underneath all the molding yourself to make other people feel comfortable, underneath all of that protective layer is your true essence, and people can see it."- Jenny Leckey  In this episode, Jenny recounts a transformative lesson during an improv class years ago. She shares how her improv teacher saw that she wasn’t taking up space on stage, instead worrying about everyone else (classic covery people pleasing). He encouraged her to do the opposite - that she was allowed to take up space. This eye-opening advice encouraged her to start changing this habit in other areas of her life. Jenny reflects on how being open to feedback and receiving new perspectives from others can lead to significant self-discovery and change. She discusses how having a growth mindset is key as well as being open to feedback in order to grow and change.   00:00 Introduction: A Pivotal Improv Moment 01:57 The Lesson: Taking Up Space 03:51 Reflection: The Impact of Words 05:56 Conclusion: Embracing Growth Want to be a guest on the show? Email Jenny: info@meditatewithjenny.com Work with Jenny - Book 1:1 Reiki or psychic channeled reading sessions. Offered virtually or in person in Buffalo, NY. Jenny also offers Reiki certification classes! Copyright 2024 Jenny Leckey LLC

    8 min

  5. 12/06/2024 · BONUS

    Ep 27: Workplace Boundaries, Self Acceptance, and Religious Upbringing & Guilt with Jen Cunningham

    "When you start realizing that everything is just a reflection of a person whether it's a good thing or a bad thing, it's just it's them. It's not you." - Jen Cunningham In this episode, Jenny welcomes Jen for a deep dive into overcoming people pleasing. They discuss the challenges of people pleasing in both professional and personal settings, including workplace dynamics, religious influences, and familial pressures. Jen shares her personal journey, highlighting pivotal moments like setting boundaries, dealing with difficult friendships, and embracing self-care routines.  The conversation touches on practical strategies for improving self-awareness and self-worth, such as practicing meditation, internal family systems (IFS) work, and implementing soft boundaries in the work place. Make sure to listen to gain insights and actionable advice for anyone grappling with people pleasing. Check It Out: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizInternal Family Systems by Richard Schwartz Recapitulation Breath Work 00:00 Introduction and New Beginnings 00:09 The Challenges of Training New Employees 00:47 The Jenny and Jen Show 00:57 Names and Identity 02:18 People Pleasing at Work 03:33 Childhood and People Pleasing 04:10 Religious Influences on People Pleasing 05:27 Self-Awareness and Personal Growth 07:11 Setting Boundaries at Work 14:27 Navigating Friendships and Boundaries 18:04 Embracing the Full Human Experience 18:16 The Myth of Toxic Positivity 18:42 The Power of Feeling Emotions 19:05 Navigating Emotional Boundaries 20:07 Accepting Neurodivergence 20:56 Personal Responsibility in Emotional Management 24:50 The Importance of Self-Care Routines 26:27 Meditation Practices and Benefits 30:49 Healing Through Internal Family Systems 33:17 Breaking Generational Patterns 34:02 Concluding Thoughts and Advice About the Host Be a guest on the show- email Jenny info@meditatewithjenny.com Work with Jenny - Book 1:1 Reiki or psychic channeled reading sessions. Offered virtually or in person in Buffalo, NY. Jenny also offers Reiki certification classes! Copyright 2024 Jenny Leckey LLC

    36 min

  6. 11/27/2024

    Ep 26: Channeled Message from Mary Magdalene: How to Handle Heavy Emotions through Self Care This Holiday Season

    "When you're tapping into this divine feminine energy, this is creating a warm, insular space for yourself to be able to adhere to those boundaries." - Mary Magdalene In this episode of Diary of a Recovering People Pleaser, Jenny brings forth advice for the holiday season through a channeled message from Mary Magdalene. The message includes Mary Magdalene's wisdom on embracing divine feminine energy, creating a nurturing and cozy space for self-reflection, and preparing for emotional challenges that may arise during the holidays.  The episode specifically addresses the importance of self-care, especially for people pleasers, and offers tools to process emotions healthily without falling into old patterns of numbing or avoiding difficult emotions. Listeners are encouraged to foster a high-vibrational environment and establish a plan for navigating possible upheavals with grace and inner strength. Tune in to embrace Mary Magdalene's teachings on self-nurturing and growth for this holiday season. 00:00 Introduction and Purpose 00:38 Channeling Mary Magdalene 01:19 Embracing Divine Feminine Energy 01:49 Creating a Safe and Nurturing Space 03:44 Practical Tips for Self-Care 04:33 Avoiding Negative Coping Mechanisms 05:43 Maintaining High Vibrational Energy 07:21 Final Thoughts and Blessings 09:59 Conclusion and Personal Reflections About the Host Want to be a guest on the show? Email Jenny: info@meditatewithjenny.com Work with Jenny - Book 1:1 Reiki or psychic channeled reading sessions. Offered virtually or in person in Buffalo, NY. Jenny also offers Reiki certification classes! Copyright 2024 Jenny Leckey LLC

    12 min

  7. 11/23/2024

    Ep 25: Family Dynamics, Caregiving, and Personal Boundaries: an interview with Kim

    "I feel like people pleasing with me is more being taken advantage of because I would give anyone the shirt off my back. I would, not anymore." - Kim In this episode, Jenny chats with Kim White-Lopez about her people pleaser recovery journey. Kim, an improv comedian, actress, and paranormal investigator, delves into her personal experiences with people pleasing, beginning from a young age while caring for her terminally ill mother. They discuss how family dynamics  impact people pleasers and how she navigated setting boundaries and starting to heal despite the demand of being a caregiver for sick family members.  They explore the nuances of setting boundaries, the impact of people pleasing on relationships, and the challenges that come with setting boundaries with loved ones. Alongside, Kim shares intriguing anecdotes from her paranormal investigations and how it intertwines with her journey of overcoming people pleasing.  The episode wraps up with an inspiring note on taking care of oneself through a meaningful song lyric recommendation from 'Garden Party' by Ricky Nelson. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Background 00:24 Paranormal Investigations and Experiences 04:03 People Pleasing and Personal Stories 04:37 Family Dynamics and Caregiving Challenges 06:34 Boundaries and Self-Care 12:31 Friendships and People Pleasing 14:43 Defining People Pleasing 15:38 Being Taken Advantage Of 16:40 The Cost of People Pleasing 17:29 Personal Transformation and Self-Care 18:31 Weight Loss Journey and Self-Discovery 20:32 Bias and Treatment Based on Appearance 22:37 Setting Boundaries in Personal and Professional Life 26:16 The Importance of Authenticity 29:55 Final Thoughts and Advice Show Mentions: "Garden Party" by Ricky Nelson (Stone Canyon Band) Want to be a guest on the show? Email Jenny! info@meditatewithjenny.com About The Guest: Kimberly White-Lopez (“Kimber Lee”) @MunchKim0929 on Instagram Kimberly's Facebook page Kim was originally born in Fort Rucker, Alabama on a military base, but she was raised in Buffalo, NY for almost her entire life. She used to joke with her Dad and give him a hard time about her mom giving birth in a “tent,” until he drove her all the way to Alabama in 2008 to show her the small hospital where she was born. Kim currently holds a Bachelor’s of Science degree in Nursing and a minor in Psychology, and she has worked in the medical field for 18+ years: 14 of those with a focus in mental health providing psychiatric care to children, adolescents, and adults. Kim also has experience working as a Teacher’s Assistant, providing education and care to children with ASD and other developmental disorders requiring specialized needs. She says these individuals really hold a special place in her heart. When not working, Kim enjoys acting in front of the camera, as well as on the stage. She has been a TV/film actor since 2006 and has rejoined the scene again more recently in 2019. Kim has appeared in over a total of 33 films, television shows (i.e. American Idol, Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, Restaurant Impossible, Nick Groff’s Death Walker series, etc.), and music videos. She can be seen featured on major platforms including but not limited to: AMC, IFC, Amazon Prime Video, Disney+, Netflix, Hulu, etc. Kim is also an improvisational comedian and the Co-Founder, Producer, Operations...

    33 min

  8. 11/18/2024

    Ep 24: Handling Emotional Turmoil- a Pep Talk & Some Self Care Tips for These Crazy Times!

    "Are you going to be like Violet Sorrengail? Are you going to learn the lessons before the battle comes and then be the leader and be able to objectively respond to conflicts using the tools that you learned?"- Jenny Leckey In this episode, Jenny shares her recent personal experiences of dealing with nervous system dysregulation, emotional upheaval, and the challenges of people pleasing.  She discusses the importance of meditation, Reiki, and mindfulness practices in maintaining mental and emotional stability. Jenny also highlights how setting boundaries and practicing self-care have transformed her approach to stressful situations. Listen to learn more about effective strategies for managing stress and not people pleasing during times of immense stress. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Struggles 00:33 Understanding Nervous System Dysregulation 01:59 Coping Mechanisms and Spiritual Practices 04:54 Setting Boundaries and Self-Advocacy 05:34 People Pleaser Recovery Journey 09:06 Practical Tips for Emotional Well-being 09:35 Book Recommendations and Conclusion Want to be a guest? Email Jenny! info@meditatewithjenny.com Work with Jenny - Book 1:1 Reiki or psychic channeled reading sessions. Offered virtually or in person in Buffalo, NY. Jenny also offers Reiki certification classes! Copyright 2024 Jenny Leckey LLC

    14 min
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Dive into heartfelt diary-style episodes and candid interviews that explore real world, authentic people pleasing stories and practical healing tools. Hosted by Jenny Leckey, a former English teacher turned Reiki Master and meditation guide, this podcast blends spirituality and psychology to help you break free from people pleaser patterns and embrace self-healing. Cozy up for deep, late-night sofa chat vibes as we touch on topics like Reiki, meditation, journaling, energy work, and more—offering guidance, comfort, and a dose of courage to transform your life. You're not alone on this journey. Let’s heal together!

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