11 episodes

Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan, two 30-somethings, united by chance in the jungle of Southern Costa Rica, connect during one of life’s greatest transitions, dismantling what was, moving courageously forward and building an outstanding version of what’s to come. Lana and Annalisa get raw and real in every episode, bringing you unfiltered conversations about divorce that most only have in private.

Divorce Unfiltered Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan

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    • 4.5 • 10 Ratings

Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan, two 30-somethings, united by chance in the jungle of Southern Costa Rica, connect during one of life’s greatest transitions, dismantling what was, moving courageously forward and building an outstanding version of what’s to come. Lana and Annalisa get raw and real in every episode, bringing you unfiltered conversations about divorce that most only have in private.

    #11 Healing Your Inner Child

    #11 Healing Your Inner Child

    We go into Annalisa's immigrant story in this episode. Her move at 3 years old from Guyana to New Jersey and how her "abandonment issues" came to be.  Lana and Annalisa talk about how time is cyclical, and how all of the "looking back" can fu@K with your neck! The importance of leading life with an open heart despite all of the pain and what form of therapy was the most effective for both Lana and Annalisa. Lana references her Tantra teachers and the 10+ years of training she's done with them as well as yet another Tony Robbins name drop. Yep. Again. Every episode folks! Enjoy! 

    Moments:

    25:54   "All of this looking back is fu@king with your neck."

    26:34  Dr. Kais Faddah

    29:04  https://www.TantraNova.com/

    30:39   Freddy Weaver III

    34:01 We are all just big babies - Ian-Michael Hébert 

    35:00 NLP

    36:46 The 2mm Rule

    37:00 Lead with an open heart

    39:10 Free therapy

    39:56 Annalisa's childhood dream

    41:56 90's "Girl Party" playlist

    44:50 Don't walk away 

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     Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan, two 30-somethings, united by chance in the jungle of Southern Costa Rica, connect during one of life’s greatest transitions, dismantling what was, moving courageously forward and building an outstanding version of what’s to come. Lana and Annalisa get raw and real in every episode, bringing you unfiltered conversations about divorce that most only have in private. 

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     If this podcast floated your boat, please pretty please with an organic cherry on top, consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes?! It will take less than a few minutes of your (deeply appreciated) time, and it supports us in expanding our audience to people who will benefit from our unfiltered conversations.
     


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     Annalisa
    Lana
     


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    • 48 min
    #10 Divorce is Success with Stephanie Bishop

    #10 Divorce is Success with Stephanie Bishop

    Did you know that divorce is not failure? It's success! We'll tell you why. It's movement, it's growth, it's evolution. All relationships are an opportunity to learn. They don't need to be for life. What a concept, right? Some relationships are lessons. It's just a fact. This episode is a full-on kitchen table conversation with a dear friend of Annalisa's - Stephanie Bishop, about divorce, parenting and what it means to just put yourself first!

    Moments:

    2:50 Aubrey Marcus Podcast #210 Luke Storey on Releasing Celibacy and Sobriety

    4:20  You are exactly where you need to be.
    5:00  Time heals all wounds.
    6:20  Quitting is not failure.
    7:05 It takes more to leave. 

    8:01 Success is tied to duration.
    9:10  There is no plateau of happiness.
    12:50 Guilt is the thing that will make you feel like a failure.
    14:30 The hardest thing you will do in life is get up in the morning.
    19:00 See it for what it is; detach.
    19:30 Show your kids the emotional intelligence you want them to take into adulthood.
    21:00 Advice for parental alienation.
    22:50 Five minutes of going through it.
    36:30 Does my kids hate me because I ended the relationship?
    37:00 Allow time for good experiences to replace bad memories.
    38:35 Your job as a parent is to make that kid an adult.
    42:05 You are a good parent. You aren't on crack.
    44:45 No matter what I am feeling I have to be mom.
    48:45 It took the relationship I'm in now to fix what happened in the past.
    54:33 We need each other to tell stories and validate each other.


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     Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan, two 30-somethings, united by chance in the jungle of Southern Costa Rica, connect during one of life’s greatest transitions, dismantling what was, moving courageously forward and building an outstanding version of what’s to come. Lana and Annalisa get raw and real in every episode, bringing you unfiltered conversations about divorce that most only have in private. 


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     If this podcast floated your boat, please pretty please with an organic cherry on top, consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes?! It will take less than a few minutes of your (deeply appreciated) time, and it supports us in expanding our audience to people who will benefit from our unfiltered conversations.
     
    Support us on Patreon! This is where you'll find all of the bonus episodes that were just too inappropriate for the major podcasting channels (not to mention endless bloopers, and BTS moments).


    Find us on the interwebs!
    Annalisa
    Lana

    Find Divorce Unfiltered on Social and use our hashtag to let us know you're a listener! 
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    • 56 min
    #9 Phone Call Eavesdrop

    #9 Phone Call Eavesdrop

    We're letting you eavesdrop on a drop in we had over the phone, over many many miles of land...as Lana made it out of the jungle - and somehow the jungle came to her. Annalisa is getting the full download on the ex situation and Lana is getting the jungle update. Yes, the saga continues, believe it or not! 

    Moments: 

    8:00    Was this a conscious decision or you got horny and gave in?
    10:35  Lana's excuse for f**king her ex when she knows she shouldn't.
    15:00  Stay out of my country.
    21:36  Annalisa's update and parental alienation.
    24:45 Amy Baker: Parental Alienation Syndrome Specialist
    26:45 Don't make your stress your children's stress.
    28:14  I'm learning the art of not giving a fu&k.
    29:40 Learning to be alone.
    31:06 When you realize you are exactly where you wanted to be.
    33:11 The rebound thing.
    38:00 Don't follow me on social if you can't handle my humor.
    41:20  Social media and relationships.

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     Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan, two 30-somethings, united by chance in the jungle of Southern Costa Rica, connect during one of life’s greatest transitions, dismantling what was, moving courageously forward and building an outstanding version of what’s to come. Lana and Annalisa get raw and real in every episode, bringing you unfiltered conversations about divorce that most only have in private. 

     *
     
     If this podcast floated your boat, please pretty please with an organic cherry on top, consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes?! It will take less than a few minutes of your (deeply appreciated) time, and it supports us in expanding our audience to people who will benefit from our unfiltered conversations.
     
    Support us on Patreon! This is where you'll find all of the bonus episodes that were just too inappropriate for the major podcasting channels (not to mention endless bloopers, and BTS moments).


    Find us on the interwebs!
    Annalisa
    Lana
     
    Find Divorce Unfiltered on Social and use our hashtag to let us know you're a listener! 
    #DivorceUnfiltered

    Interested in sponsoring the Divorce Unfiltered podcast? Fill out this nifty (and very simple) form to become an official sponsor


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    • 52 min
    #8 Getting to the Roots with Kyle Coursey

    #8 Getting to the Roots with Kyle Coursey

    Alright ladies and gents! This is a very very special episode. We brought on an incredible guest for "getting to the roots;" getting to the depth of pain and trauma. 

    *Deepest apologies for the audio quality.* It's a learning experience! 

    "What Kyle does is a unique healing art form, most closely related to ancient Hawaiian Lomi Lomi. HAPA LOMI is long form (6-10 hrs), ancient Hawaiian Lomi Lomi. He approaches each person as a unique, complex, multilayered, individual.  His goal in a session is to push people physically, psychologically, emotionally and spiritually to create an environment where they reach their limit and push past it and as they return, the whole can come back to balance and begin to heal itself. Most importantly, it comes from the heart as the only thing he has ever found that helps is Love. It is an intense practice for those desiring lasting and deep change."  
    - Gil Penchina

    "Iboga of bodywork" is the way that Kyle describe his work, for people who are familiar with plant medicine. Divorce is about evolution. It's healing process. This is why we brought Kyle on - to speak about healing and open the conversation around moving forward.

    Moments:

    10:05  What is dissociation?
    15:50    You can't separate the mind from the body.
    17:35    We think that when a feeling passes it completely goes away.
    19:05    Psychedelics and Kyle's experience with Iboga.
    26:13    What is offered through touch?
    30:50    That body's capacity for storage is greater than the mind.
    36:40    Why we replay patterns: Choosing dysfunction over uncertainty.
    52:40    Orgasms happen when you feel safe.
    54:35    Fight, flight, or freeze; explained.
    1:01:45  A man's deepest fear.
    1:02:05  A woman's deepest fear.
    1:09:30  Let's make space for ANGER.
    1:13:35  The stupid shit people say when you are ANgRy.
    1:18:20  You can't "think" your way past this shit.
    1:19:50 How to honor the physical mechanism.


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     Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan, two 30-somethings, united by chance in the jungle of Southern Costa Rica, connect during one of life’s greatest transitions, dismantling what was, moving courageously forward and building an outstanding version of what’s to come. Lana and Annalisa get raw and real in every episode, bringing you unfiltered conversations about divorce that most only have in private. 
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     If this podcast floated your boat, please pretty please with an organic cherry on top, consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes?! It will take less than a few minutes of your (deeply appreciated) time, and it supports us in expanding our audience to people who will benefit from our unfiltered conversations.
     
    Support us on Patreon! This is where you'll find all of the bonus episodes that were just too inappropriate for the major podcasting channels (not to mention endless bloopers, and BTS moments).
    Find us on the interwebs!
    Annalisa
    Lana

    Find Divorce Unfiltered on Social and use our hashtag to let us know you're a listener! 
    #DivorceUnfiltered
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    • 1 hr 29 min
    #7 New Chick Murky Waters

    #7 New Chick Murky Waters

    Lana's going through it. Again. Rebound lover has a new chick and Lana isn't feeling it. Annalisa plays Lana's therapist in this episode where Lana confronts her need to keep going back to what isn't good for her, and exposing her crutches. We dive into what we want in relationship and what we might be getting from them that we didn't foresee or intend to.  Annalisa offers Lana and challenge and you'll find out whether she accepts just at the end of the episode ;) 

    Moments:

    4:00   Separation is blurry
    8:20   These aren't red flags. They are neon signs.
    13:00   So you wanna be polyamorous?
    15:30   What happens when your ex meets someone else?
    21:55  Could Lana be alone?
    23:20  Lana's spicy sex life 
    24:30  Can you step outside of your comfort zone?
    27:25  Lana's avoidance tactics
    29:40  When medicine becomes an addiction, it's then called a drug.
    31:50  The murky water analogy 
    33:33  Getting clear about what you want 
    36:00   The concept of being "evolved." 
    37:35  What you think you deserve 
    45:50 Akashic reading.  The woo-woo shit. 
     

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     Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan, two 30-somethings, united by chance in the jungle of Southern Costa Rica, connect during one of life’s greatest transitions, dismantling what was, moving courageously forward and building an outstanding version of what’s to come. Lana and Annalisa get raw and real in every episode, bringing you unfiltered conversations about divorce that most only have in private. 

     *
     
     If this podcast floated your boat, please pretty please with an organic cherry on top, consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes?! It will take less than a few minutes of your (deeply appreciated) time, and it supports us in expanding our audience to people who will benefit from our unfiltered conversations.
     


    Find us on the interwebs!
     
     Annalisa
    Lana
     


    Find Divorce Unfiltered on Social and use our hashtag to let us know you're a listener! 
    #DivorceUnfiltered

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    • 48 min
    #6 Mental Kung Fu

    #6 Mental Kung Fu

    Moments:
     

    8:00 The letting go process
    8:40 The third body again? Why do we feel possessive over the ex?
    11:40 How celibacy went out the window
    12:30 Getting out of your comfort zone
    13:40 My comfort zone was a space where I was being abused
    20:30 Anxiety attacks at 3:30 am
    26:35 Thank you Divine Masculine
    27:25 We let you open the jar so you feel like a man
    32:20 Fear-based thoughts that keep us in a relationship.
    34:00 Returning home to an empty shell.
    35:50 The Tsunami that would follow
    36:55 Avoiding the grief process
    37:00 The bad habits and how they perpetuate anxiety 
    40:25 Not present for my children
    43:40 I don't want to die alone
    46:40 This divorce shit is f*****g up my sleep
    49:00 Addicted to arguing with a narcissist
    50:25 Learn how to not react and be a crazy bitch
    51:25 I cry and feel weak

    53:37 Jackie Gartman Life Coach 
    54:40 What is the proper reaction to grief?
    56:40 It is mental kung fu to stop obsessing over the ex



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    Lana Shay and Annalisa Raghunandan, two 30-somethings, united by chance in the jungle of Southern Costa Rica, connect during one of life’s greatest transitions, dismantling what was, moving courageously forward and building an outstanding version of what’s to come. Lana and Annalisa get raw and real in every episode, bringing you unfiltered conversations about divorce that most only have in private. 

      *
      
    If this podcast floated your boat, please pretty please with an organic cherry on top, consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes?! It will take less than a few minutes of your (deeply appreciated) time, and it supports us in expanding our audience to people who will benefit from our unfiltered conversations.
      
    Find us on the interwebs!
    Annalisa
    Lana
     
    Find Divorce Unfiltered on Social and use our hashtag to let us know you're a listener! 
    #DivorceUnfiltered
    Interested in sponsoring the Divorce Unfiltered podcast? Fill out this nifty (and very simple) form and we'll receive you with open arms ;) 
     
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    • 1 hr

Customer Reviews

4.5 out of 5
10 Ratings

10 Ratings

Chanteeziee ,

“Nobody has an exit strategy when they enter a relationship”

Love hearing both of your stories and at the same time reflecting on past relationships (specifically 1 that took 5 years of my twenties) and I can relate to each of you in so many ways. I laugh at myself because that one relationship which I wasn’t legally married either but felt like we were in so many ways, and I did have an exit strategy lol. We had a verbal agreement if it didn’t workout he would have to do xyz for me and he upheld that. 🙇🏻‍♀️

Also I love the philosophy of alchemizing the relationship instead of cutting the cord.
That hits home for me 💖

LanaShay ,

It's me. It's Us.

and of course, I love us. Yes, you can love yourself and rate your own podcast ;)

Nitesong13 ,

Beautiful goddesses

I listened to all of this . It touched my soul in so many places . I am obsessed with both of you and hold you in my highest of light.

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