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The space between where you are now and where you want to be can feel daunting and lonely. This podcast is the remedy to comparison and feeling like everyone else has it figured out but you.

Don't Cut Your Own Bangs Danielle Ireland

    • Education
    • 4.9 • 27 Ratings

The space between where you are now and where you want to be can feel daunting and lonely. This podcast is the remedy to comparison and feeling like everyone else has it figured out but you.

    106. Fear & Getting Unstuck - A Solocast

    106. Fear & Getting Unstuck - A Solocast

    This episode comes in the wake of another horrific school shooting and many of the people I’ve encountered over the past week are struggling because of it. So, I’m compelled to use this time to address the concept of fear brought on by secondary trauma and how we can get stuck trying to process that fear.
    Through biologic evolution, our bodies have been hardwired with the classic fear responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. Often we respond with fear even when the danger or trauma does not pose an immediate physical threat to us. Typically, these reactions are involuntary. Our bodies make the decision to respond in a particular way regardless of whether the danger is real or perceived, primary or secondary. 
    For many of us, our fear response appears not only because of a specific event or string of events, but also because the news outlets recount stories and images on seemingly endless repeat. We imagine the pain and heartache of the devastated families and consider the vulnerability of our own children. We are affected by the responses of our family, friends, and coworkers as well. Our social media feeds carry the strong emotions from the people we   follow, and their reactions are served up right alongside the algorithms that are designed to activate us and keep us engaged as long as possible.
    When our bodies carry the weight of these chronic stressors it’s easy to get stuck in our corrosive emotions. But there are steps we can take to reduce our involuntary fear response. Here are just a few that I discuss in this episode:
    Exercise, go to the park, snuggle a pet, engage in simple touch Read, rather than watch, the news Limit the amount of time you spend consuming social media  Most importantly, do what is best for you. If listening to this episode is not what you need right now, that’s okay. Come back next week. If you choose to listen, I hope it brings you some relief. Just know that you are not alone in your response to overwhelming tragedy. 
    Thank you for listening. As always, I welcome your feedback and ask that you rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast if you find value here. 
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    • 19 min
    105. LISTENER’S FAVORITE: Compassion Fatigue & Empathy with Liesel Mertes

    105. LISTENER’S FAVORITE: Compassion Fatigue & Empathy with Liesel Mertes

    In this Listener’s Favorite from November 2020, I revisit compassion fatigue and empathy with Liesel Mertes. Liesel is a workplace empathy consultant and founder of Handle with Care Consulting. 
    In the wake of Covid, workplace empathy has taken on even greater importance, but so too has the need for compassion and empathy in every aspect of our lives today. For many of us, the lines between work and home and school have been blurred and it seems that nearly everyone is struggling with fatigue and the current and residual stress from worrying about and taking care of ourselves, our loved ones, and our community.
     In this episode, Liesel shares her own profound experience with loss. Her journey has changed her perspective on what it means to be well and has transformed her ability to teach valuable lessons on how to be a better partner, a better friend, a better coworker, and a better leader. 
    Even though loss can be heavy, our discussion is light. We approach the subject in a warm and gentle way. I’m confident that anyone whose life and worldview have been disrupted over the last several years will find benefit in Liesel’s experience and insight.
    If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps increase the value of these discussions and makes it easier for other listeners to find us.
     
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    Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW Connect with Liesel Mertes:
    Website  Podcast  LinkedIn   Twitter  

    • 1 hr 9 min
    104. Boundaries & Bubble Baths

    104. Boundaries & Bubble Baths

    Women have always known that building community with other women creates a powerful force for good. Leslie Bailey, the co-founder and CEO of Indy Maven, has transformed that knowledge into a lifestyle media company and community for women that epitomizes her spirit of collaboration, support, and inspiration. And now she is creating even more opportunities for the community by launching a new social and networking space that expresses what the Indy Maven team has created digitally. I love the wisdom and vulnerability that she brought to our discussion on these topics and others:
    Managing success and all the expectations that come with it Resisting the urge to give away too much of yourself Setting boundaries Understanding that self care is about more than bubble baths Asking for help when life happens I’m confident that you’ll find useful takeaways in this episode. It’s a valuable discussion for anyone who has ever felt overwhelmed, in need of support, or out of control despite their achievements.
    Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps increase the value of these discussions and it makes it easier for other listeners to find us.
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    Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW Ways to connect with Leslie Bailey & IndyMaven:
    Indy Maven Website Indy Maven Instagram Indy Maven Facebook Leslie Bailey Instagram Leslie Bailey Facebook Leslie Bailey is the co-founder, CEO, and editor-in-chief of Indy Maven, a lifestyle media company and community for women, by women in Central Indiana. Indy Maven offers an engaging website with free editorial content, an award-winning weekly newsletter, a membership program, events, and more. Before launching Indy Maven, Leslie worked as a freelance writer and editor and held roles including managing editor of AAA Crossroads magazine, lifestyle editor at Indianapolis Monthly magazine and “The Adventuress” columnist for the Indianapolis Star. In 2021, Leslie was listed in the first class of the Forbes Next 1000. In the spring of 2022, she’s launching Maven Space, a community and co-working space powered by Mavens. 
    Leslie is a longstanding board member at Coburn Place and was a founding member of the Indianapolis Museum of Art’s Fashion Arts Society. She lives on the northwest side of Indianapolis with her husband, 4-year-old and 1-year-old sons, a bonus 12-year-old son, two cats, and a slobbery Bullmastiff.  

    • 55 min
    103. Everything is connected: our pelvic floor & deep breaths

    103. Everything is connected: our pelvic floor & deep breaths

    I'm excited to introduce you to Dr. Katye Tuyo, PT, DPT, an orthopedic and pelvic health physical therapist. In this episode we learn that everyone—regardless of gender—has a pelvic floor and its health plays a vital role in our overall health and wellbeing. I learned this firsthand as a patient, which is why I’ve asked Katye to share her expertise. This episode is not just for new parents. Katye talks about pelvic floor health, how to recognize when therapy might be needed, and how even seemingly unrelated physical issues can signal the need for help. Everything from hip pain, back pain, urinary incontinence, sexual dysfunction, leg pain, and many other problems can be improved by pelvic floor strength and stabilization therapy.
    We don’t have to “just live with” physical pain and dysfunction Many symptoms are common but not normal, and can be fixed Our emotional and physical systems are profoundly interconnected Deep breaths don’t cost a thing  
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    Do you live in or near Indianapolis? Get in on a chance to win an initial consultation and treatment session at Vitalize Physical Therapy as well as my Treasured Journal & Meditation Series—a combined $300 value. Follow me on Instagram to get the details. 
    Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of these discussions for you and it makes it easier for other listeners find us.
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    Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW Ways to connect with Katye and the Vitalize Physical Therapy Team:
    Website Instagram Facebook Dr. Katye Tuyo is happy to be a part of the Vitalize Physical Therapy family, with a passion for getting to the root cause for true healing to happen. Born into a family that bleeds Black and Gold, she attended Purdue University where she graduated with a degree in Athletic Training. It was there she discovered a natural ability to feel what is happening below the skin and a love for manual therapy was born. She continued on to the University of Indianapolis where she achieved her Doctorate degree in Physical Therapy. Upon graduation from UIndy, Katye remained in the Indianapolis area treating patients with orthopedic and pelvic health conditions, continuing to grow her holistic approach to help patients heal. 
     Her patients say she is a good listener and uses a personalized hands-on method. She focuses on creating an optimal environment to enable the body’s innate healing process. She takes a “zoomed-out” approach in order to determine contributing factors, while simultaneously focusing on the root cause of symptoms. Katye is a lifelong learner, stays up to date on current research, and loves continuing education to learn new techniques and perfect her skills.
     When not at the clinic, you can find Katye spending time with her dog Harvey. She enjoys traveling, going on family trips, rollerblading with her pup, advocating and educating on non-toxic personal products, and growing her own fresh veggies in the garden. On Saturday mornings you will likely find her at one of her favorite places, the farmer’s market, where she enjoys trying new foods and supporting the local community.

    • 57 min
    102. David’s Hot Takes: Navigating Parenthood, Marriage & an Evolving Relationship

    102. David’s Hot Takes: Navigating Parenthood, Marriage & an Evolving Relationship

    When you’re caught up in the details of everyday life, it can be easy to “forget” how remarkable our loved ones are because we’re around them so much. By dedicating time for interruption-free discussion that might not happen organically over dinner, we can reconnect in important ways.
    So I thought it would be fun to “check in” with my husband, David Dellen, and share that discussion with you. Since having a baby in the last year, our relationship has changed and evolved in ways we anticipated and in ways we did not. We discuss:
    Adapting to changing priorities   Managing an evolving relationship Making adjustments in communication  Whether you’re a new parent or not, these themes will resonate with anyone interested in making the most of life with their partner. 
    Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of these discussions for you.
    Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please remember to rate, review & subscribe to the podcast.
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    Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW

    • 1 hr 21 min
    LISTENER'S FAVORITE: Jealousy - 3 things it could be telling you.

    LISTENER'S FAVORITE: Jealousy - 3 things it could be telling you.

    Jealousy is often seen as a negative emotion. And let's be honest, it doesn't feel that great when we experience it. ⁣
    BUT, what does it look like if we approach our jealousy with a little compassionate curiosity? In my experience, jealousy is calling our attention to deeper desires that we may not be fully aware we have. 
    When we're riding the jealousy train, we might find ourselves falling into the following rabbit holes:
    Comparison⁣ Criticism Complaining⁣ ⁣Here's 3 things jealousy it might be telling you.⁣⁣
    There's something here I want for myself.⁣ I need more of this in my life.⁣ I'm really ready to make this change.⁣ ⁣ Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please remember to rate, review & subscribe to the podcast.
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    • 16 min

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