46 episodes
DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST David M. Webb
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We men tend to pick at things that tend to add to the dumpster fire in a stressful situation. Throw in the word DIVORCE. Even the word DIVORCE can shake men to their core and can be a very hard pill to swallow. Divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience, especially for men over 40. My new podcast, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast", provides an open platform for divorced men to share their stories, find support, and gain tools for recovery. Going through divorce in midlife or later presents unique challenges. Long-term marriages ending often means having to start over in major ways - financially, socially, and in terms of identity. Men over 40 face the difficulty of rebuilding and establishing a new normal at an age where change may be harder.
Processing the emotional trauma of divorce is a major hurdle as well. Feelings of failure, regret, bitterness, grief, and anger are common. Working through these emotions in a healthy, constructive way is critical. Don't Pick the Scab Podcast gives divorced men over 40 a chance to share their vulnerabilities, get insights from experts, and know they are not alone in this transition. My goal is to foster understanding, encourage growth, and equip men to embrace life after divorce.
Divorce recovery takes time, effort, and support. Through personal stories and practical guidance, this podcast aims to help men over 40 find hope, meaning, and purpose on the other side of marital split. By tackling these struggles together, we can overcome obstacles and successfully navigate our new realities. Join me as we walk the path of divorce recovery one step at a time.
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From a woman’s view - Rachel Peterson / My co-host on Divorce Devil Podcast || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #046 || David
I’ve been waiting for the right moment to record this special episode. We were recording the 183rd episode of Divorce Devil Podcast yesterday and I surprised Rachel with the request to do an episode on DPTSP, and she quickly jumped on the chance without hesitation. I just wanted a few things that men over 40 could probably improve with going through a divorce from a woman’s perspective. And, where did she go first?? I should have known d*ck pics! But, surprisingly, the podcast gets much better from there. Listen intently to Rachel’s points and see if you can improve on any of them. Thanks for listening…
Topics of:
Don’t go back for sex
No unsolicited d*ck pics
Be fair
Concentrate on your household
Jack in the Box Dad
Rule and boundaries
No emotions in a text
Do go out for blood
Don’t use the kids as pawns
Pocket p*ssy
Don’t send mixed signals
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The Ultimate Relationship Threesome - Chantal Landreville || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast || David
Where do I start without giving away the contents from the title? Welcome, Chantal to the podcast. Her book, RAISE YOUR LOVE SIGNAL, deals with some of the challenges men over 40 man and/or will encounter during or after their divorce. Her teachings are just for a new significant other - but it works with friends, coworkers, and you kiddos. Everyone needs and should give and receive love. Discussions of being sensitive, dating allows you practice your skills, dating for a result, be available, mindfulness, managing the curveballs with tools, invest time, practice self-love, and it is hard for men to ask for help are all surfaced in this episode. Chantal has a definite superpower: raising your love signal with this show. Thanks Chantal!
More Topics:
Develop your communication
Take ownership
Admit when you f*ck up
Hold each other accountable
Build fireworks over time
Stupid superficial things
Can I sustain this long-term?
Seduction mode then get lazy
Chasing love
Dealbreakers
Stepping stones to the right one
Creating a safe space
Listen to the red flags
The art of modern dating
Chantal’s Website
Chantal’s Instagram
Chantal’s Facebook
Chantal’s TikTok
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No One Talks about Divorce Fight Club - Karl Dunn || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast 044 || David
Where do I start? What does a divorced or divorcing gay man over 40 have in common with a divorced or divorcing straight man? After interviewing Karl Dunn - quite a bit. Karl comes to us to discuss the plight of gay men's divorce - with quite a bit of similarities and few differences. His ability to form a special bond with some of his new-found friends at work is unique. Both sets of men basically have some of the same issues and complexities that encompass divorce.
This episode includes discussions of living in an artist collective, self-love, the elusive pot of gold, and Marian’s Law. We have to get Karl back for part two, for I think we only scratched the surface. Thanks, Karl.
Topics of;
Regret
Forgive yourself
Master your aloneness
Divorce law is written for men, women and children
There is no protocol
Divorce reform as a mental health issue
Carvana Tower commercial
The marriage didn’t make him. His divorce did
Beating yourself
Repeating the same patterns
The elephant in the room
Communication vs Respect
Anger is not required
I am enough being alone
Expecting and rehearsing things that happen in your life
Rainbow divorce
ALL THINGS KARL
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Your attorney is not your life coach in your divorce / Cybersecurity and divorce - Jonathan Steele, J.D. || DPTSP#043 || David
Welcome Jonathan Steele to the show. Being a divorce attorney, he has seen the whole gambit of the same old and the new old in his career. Discussions of narcissism and gaslighting, divorce law misconceptions, parenting time, not leaving the home, being organized, and not bad-mouthing your ex. But, what intrigued me the most was his cybersecurity element of divorce. It was so fascinating. This is not just your ordinary lawyer vs. divorce recovery podcast.
Also Topics on:
The power imbalance in the couple
Lawyers cost more than a therapist
Fight for parenting time
Frequent flyer
Welcoming good lawyers
Mediation
Concentrate on being the best father you can be
Two happy homes are better than one unhappy one
Get petty with pets
Parenting time with pets
Full disclosure
Children may want to blame themselves for the divorce
Parenting comes with experience
Never stay for the kids
Beermann Law Office Website
Steele Fortress - Cybersecurity
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Being the best version of you in your divorce recovery journey - Jonathan Nizoil || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast || David M. Webb
Not too often do we have an actual wellness advocate on the show. I do enjoy my professionals, but Jonathan lends a new direction and flow to the mic. Through his life’s journey, he has compiled an experience quotient that relates to anyone who is going through a trying time. From discussing body image, voids in mental health, being a small circle guy, old guy hockey, addiction, balancing work and life, and every day is a gift - Jonathan hits all the major cylinders of the engine of getting through some sh*t! I appreciate him taking the time to drop some of his life’s knowledge on us. Thanks, Jonathan.
Topics of:
Thinking about others
Be indifferent to those who present negativity in your life
Karma is a real thing
Avoiding feeling your feelings
The importance of therapy
Snack of the Month Club
Self-care
Friends vs. acquaintances
Keep moving forward
Share the benefit of fitness with others
Lead with grace
Fostering connections
Jonathan Niziol Website
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The Divorced Jack in the Box Dad / Co-parenting - Eran Magen, Ph.D. || DPTSP #041 || David M. Webb
Welcome Eran Magen to the show. He is a father and a psychologist. His superpowers are helping parents with better relationships with their kids while having a business helping divorcing dads with co-parenting and self-parenting. Being divorced, Eran knows firsthand how men can react negatively to having to co-parent. Topics of suicide prevention, accepting the legal reality and moving on, mutual mudslinging is stressful for kids, soul searching, and boundaries. Eran imparted some interesting knowledge to me and my men over forty, and we really appreciated it. We hope to have him on again.
Discussions of:
Jack in the Box Dad
Parental Alienation
Treating the kids as a business?
Mickey Mouse shorts
Pick your battles
ChatGBT is your friend
Finally realizing you are living the dream
B.I.F.F.
Getting over the shame and self-doubt
Shield them from the negativity
Framing the conversation for the benefit of the child
2,000 pieces of chocolate
Collaborative Parenting
Set boundaries early enough
Kids are smart
Be firm and clear without being harsh
Having the kids with no distractions
DIVORCING DADS WEBSITE
PARENTING FOR HUMANS WEBSITE
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