Early Signs of An Abuser - My Domestic Violence Story Part 1

Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship can be challenging, especially when the abuse is subtle or disguised as love and concern. Abusive behavior often starts gradually, with seemingly minor incidents that escalate over time, making it difficult for victims to identify the pattern. Understanding these signs is crucial for potential victims and friends, family members, and professionals who can offer support and intervention.

In this episode, I share a series of pivotal moments, including quitting my job to move in with an abuser and the realization that things were not as they seemed; we gain insight into the complex dynamics of abusive relationships. This narration serves as a stark reminder that abusers often prey on those who are vulnerable or lacking in self-esteem. However, not always and in Gabi's story she was confident, successful and led a very happy life. Her goal is to highlight the importance of recognizing the warning signs early on. By sharing this story, The goal is to empower other women to identify red flags in their relationships and seek help before it's too late. Tune in to learn more about the story of my years spent with an abuser and how 20 years later I've healed so much of the woman I was back then and have found love and joy on the other side of abuse.

Timestamps

[02:10] Domestic Violence & reflection after watching #itendswithus

[05:17] My ex's death

[07:31] How I met him

[13:16] When the isolation started - key signs early on abusers do to isolate you

[16:10] When the unraveling of my self esteem and worthiness began

[19:52] The first trip to meet him

[25:20] Quitting my job to move across the country

Notable Quotes

• “I wish that I had somebody to tell me this is crazy back then.”
• “The things that are said or the ways that we show up in the world are based upon the narrative that we have carried from somebody else’s shitty words.”
• “Sometimes, you don’t know or believe, you have the ability to start a new life.”
• “We have the ability to choose.”
• “Money and power go hand in hand, especially with men that are abusive and manipulative.”

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