Easy Way Out

John Oakes
  • 4.9 (14)
  • MENTAL HEALTH
Easy Way Out

When you find yourself in the fight of your life... When you wake up in hell... Trapped in a mental prison that no one else can see... there are no bonus points awarded for difficulty. There is no such thing as perfection. Only escape. Freedom. Any voice telling you you're not allowed to take the path of least resistance out of hell is not a voice invested in your freedom, but in your confinement. Always, Always, always take the Easy Way Out. This podcast is about transforming your life from the inside out. Trauma recovery. Healing. Success. Relationships. Career. Rebuilding self-trust and love. It primarily uses weight loss as the proving ground, but the concepts shared in this show carry to practically every aspect of life.

  1. 10/10/2024

    Breaking Free: A Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Behaviors

    Need help? Shoot me a text! In this episode, we delve into the complexities of compulsive behaviors, from minor bad habits to severe addictions. Learn foundational strategies to shift your relationship with these urges and begin your path towards healing. Drawing from personal experience and extensive coaching practice, we explore how to tackle compulsions with compassion and understanding rather than force and judgment. Discover practical techniques like grounding, acceptance, and presence to gradually dismantle these behaviors and enhance cognitive function. With insights into how mental health parallels physical healing, uncover the importance of aligning your psyche and paving the way for true self-expression and freedom. 00:00 Introduction to Ending Compulsions 01:08 Understanding Compulsions 03:21 The Inner War and Psychological Divides 05:42 Compassionate Self-Treatment 07:06 The Role of External Help 07:37 The Limits of Self-Control 09:56 Grounding and Acceptance 16:51 The Power of Delay 20:07 Embracing True Freedom 22:07 Conclusion and Next Steps To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth Amazon US UK CA AU Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

    24 min

  2. 09/28/2024

    How to Defeat Inner Shame

    Need help? Shoot me a text! In this episode, John discusses how to overcome shame to gain access to your inner world and achieve inner peace. He explains the crippling nature of shame, its dual nature, and how it affects our mental health. John shares his personal journey with childhood PTSD and his years-long quest to understand mental illness and trauma. He emphasizes the importance of disempowering shame to empower oneself and offers practical steps to bypass shame and unlock one's true potential.  00:00 Introduction to Overcoming Shame 00:11 Understanding the Nature of Shame 00:17 The Dual Nature of Shame 00:56 Personal Journey and Motivation 01:49 Shame's Role in Mental Health 03:28 Shame in Public vs. Private Spaces 04:31 Shame as a Barrier to Inner Work 07:42 Disempowering Shame 08:33 Objective Observation Exercise 13:03 Conclusion and Next Steps To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth Amazon US UK CA AU Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

    14 min

  3. 09/25/2024

    All-or-Nothing Thinking (and the life-changing power of "good enough")

    Need help? Shoot me a text! Transforming Your Life by Overcoming All or Nothing Thinking In this episode, John  delves into the pervasive issue of all-or-nothing thinking, a mindset that can impede progress in various aspects of life including weight loss, relationships, and career goals. John discusses the origin of this mentality, often rooted in childhood experiences and perfectionism, and offers practical strategies to identify and overcome it. He emphasizes the importance of setting realistic, incremental goals and maintaining a presence with one's objective reality to facilitate meaningful progress. John also explains how reframing moderate efforts as valuable can break the cycle of shame and extreme attempts followed by failure. For those interested, he offers coaching resources and invites viewers to join a new community focused on personal freedom and inner work. 00:00 Introduction to All or Nothing Thinking 00:47 Meet Your Coach: John Oakes 01:51 The Impact of All or Nothing Thinking 02:18 Real-Life Example and Resources 03:07 Understanding Human Behavior 04:50 The Roots of Perfectionism 07:43 Breaking the Cycle of Shame 10:20 Practical Steps to Overcome All or Nothing Thinking 12:32 The Importance of Moderate Solutions 19:06 Staying Grounded and Moving Forward 22:51 Conclusion and Community Invitation To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth Amazon US UK CA AU Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

    25 min

  4. 09/22/2024

    5 KEY Shifts from Trauma to Healing

    Need help? Shoot me a text! In this episode, John takes viewers through five key shifts essential for healing from PTSD: moving from survival mode to seeking what you truly want, transitioning from rule-based to values-based living, fostering hope rather than relying solely on prediction, surrendering control to embrace internal motivation, and transitioning from resistance to acceptance. John emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and inner peace in overcoming trauma and living an authentic life. He also touches on practical steps to aid in this transformation process. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Journey 00:18 Five Key Shifts in Healing from PTSD 00:39 Understanding the A/B Dichotomy 02:29 From Rule-Based to Values-Based Living 05:45 Shifting from Prediction to Hope 09:18 Control vs. Surrender 11:02 Resistance to Acceptance 12:26 Bonus Shifts: Self-Acceptance and Inner Peace 15:08 Conclusion and Call to Action To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth Amazon US UK CA AU Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

    17 min

  5. 09/19/2024

    3 Things We Must Accept Before We Can Heal

    Need help? Shoot me a text! In this episode, John delves deeply into the concept of acceptance as a crucial step in healing from trauma. He explains how acceptance frees up energy, outlines its role in better understanding and contextualizing traumatic experiences, and advocates for recognizing the ongoing manifestations of trauma in daily life. The episode touches on three areas of acceptance: accepting the reality of what happened, accepting the present-day consequences, and accepting the hidden brokenness that others may not see. John emphasizes the importance of community support and announces plans to create a community focused on healing from trauma. 00:00 Introduction to Trauma and Healing 00:59 Understanding Acceptance 04:47 Accepting What Happened 07:47 Accepting Present Realities 14:12 The Hidden Brokenness 20:44 Building a Supportive Community 22:59 Conclusion and Next Steps To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth Amazon US UK CA AU Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

    24 min

  6. 09/17/2024

    Self Love for Healing - Myths, Misconceptions and Key Obstacles

    Need help? Shoot me a text! In this episode, John provides a comprehensive overview of self love in the context of healing from trauma and mental illness. Key points discussed include common myths and misconceptions about self love, such as vanity, narcissism, and selfishness, and how these ideas are influenced by religious and cultural backgrounds. John also addresses the obstacles to self love such as dogma, avoidance patterns, cognitive biases around responsibility and service, the addiction to earning love, self hatred, and the distrust of oneself.  00:00 Introduction to Self Love and Healing 00:42 Myths and Misconceptions About Self Love 01:59 Religious Influences on Self Love 03:06 The Impact of Narcissism and Hubris 04:59 Selfishness and Self Love 07:05 Evangelical Whiplash and Cognitive Dissonance 12:08 Clearing the Path for True Self Love 14:56 Obstacles to Self Love 15:46 Dogma and Religious Upbringing 20:59 Patterning and Avoidance 22:17 Cognitive Bias of Responsibility and Service 26:26 Addiction to Earning Love 28:20 Self Hatred and Compulsions 33:15 Healing the Divide Within 37:52 Conclusion and Next Steps To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth Amazon US UK CA AU Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

    39 min

  7. 06/06/2024

    People Pleasing: It's Worse Than You Realize

    Need help? Shoot me a text! People Pleasing is f**king you up way more than you think. In this episode, John Oakes explores the concept of people pleasing, revealing that it is often not about making others happy but a survival mechanism rooted in childhood. He discusses how this behavior can significantly affect mental health, weight loss goals, and overall wellbeing. Through the example of a character named Cindy, John illustrates the consequences of prioritizing others over oneself and offers steps to reclaim personal freedom and assertiveness. He also shares insights into the deep-rooted fears that drive people pleasing and provides guidance on how to begin breaking free from these patterns. 00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing 00:45 Personal Story and Mission 01:34 Understanding People Pleasing and Weight Struggles 04:22 The Case of Cindy: A People Pleaser's Life 14:43 Childhood Roots of People Pleasing 19:19 The Impact of People Pleasing in Adulthood 23:45 Understanding the Nature of Control and People Pleasing 24:17 Steps to Break Free from People Pleasing 27:06 Facing Your Fears and Setting Boundaries 29:45 The Importance of Self-Care and Personal Wellbeing 33:50 Accepting Your Reality and Needs 38:45 The Journey to Emotional Freedom 40:51 Conclusion and Coaching Information To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth Amazon US UK CA AU Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

    43 min

  8. 05/31/2024

    "Too Good to Be True"⎮ How Trauma Is Causing You to Reject the Best Things in Life

    Need help? Shoot me a text! In this episode, John tackles one of the greatest tragedies of unhealed trauma: the fact that it causes us to vehemently reject good things in life.  Why, every day, millions of people actively reject opportunity, money, and caring relationships.How childhood trauma creates a false frame of reference that warps adult judgment.How this warped judgment causes good people to reject good things.Why people get scared when they near a genuine opportunity for change.Why we distract from the misery of our lives (and not just to avoid misery)How this phenomenon forms a negative feedback loop that traps usHow we can slowly but surely free ourselves from this trapHow we can expand the possibilities for our lives by identifying and dismantling this malformed aspect of the psyche. To inquire about 1 -1 Coaching with John - email John at john@oakesweightloss.com Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growth Amazon US UK CA AU Weight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy today Join the free "Lose Weight with John" community Check out the EASY WAY OUT Blog/Newsletter site Watch the Easy Way Out on Youtube

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Ratings & Reviews

4.9
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14 Ratings

About

When you find yourself in the fight of your life... When you wake up in hell... Trapped in a mental prison that no one else can see... there are no bonus points awarded for difficulty. There is no such thing as perfection. Only escape. Freedom. Any voice telling you you're not allowed to take the path of least resistance out of hell is not a voice invested in your freedom, but in your confinement. Always, Always, always take the Easy Way Out. This podcast is about transforming your life from the inside out. Trauma recovery. Healing. Success. Relationships. Career. Rebuilding self-trust and love. It primarily uses weight loss as the proving ground, but the concepts shared in this show carry to practically every aspect of life.

Information

  • Creator
    John Oakes
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2024
  • Episodes
    43
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2024 Easy Way Out
  • Show Website
    Easy Way Out

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