So What Now? with Carla and Dex

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So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Get ready for laughs, life lessons, and all the vibes! Hosted by best friends Carla and Dex, So What Now? dives into the messy, magical, and maddening moments of motherhood, womanhood, and everything in between. With Carla juggling entrepreneurship and new motherhood, and Dex stepping into life as a new empty nester with her quick wit and real talk, this podcast is your go-to for fresh takes on life’s biggest (and smallest) moments. Tune in for raw conversations, endless laughs, and a reminder that none of us really have it all figured out—but that’s half the fun! CONNECT WITH US: www.SoWhatNowPod.com

  1. 22 HR. AGO

    EP9: Parenting Without Help: Defiant Teens, Deadbeat Dads, and the Fight for Control

    This week Carla, Dex are joined by Ariel B. The group dives into the complex world of parenting teens. As kids grow older, parenting styles and relationships need to shift, and the group explores how they are navigating these changes. Carla talks about her struggle with managing expectations, while Ariel reflects on the challenge of losing control as her children begin making their own decisions. The conversation touches on what happens when older kids break the rules, with Dex sharing her own experience of poor decision-making due to a lack of open communication with her parents. Carla and Ariel also reveal how their teens are turning to platforms like TikTok to express themselves when direct conversation feels too difficult. The trio also revisits the story of Amora Lex, the 27-year-old single mother who recently gave up her five children to CPS. The group reflects on the harsh social media backlash she's received, particularly the blaming comments about her choices in men. This leads to a broader discussion on absentee parents, red flags when dating men who aren't involved in their children's lives, and the importance of building strong, supportive communities for women. Tune in for an insightful episode filled with real talk on motherhood, judgment, and how we can support one another. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Parenting Teens Requires Letting Go of Control: As children grow older, parents must adjust their approach. It's important to allow teens to make their own decisions—even when it’s hard. Disobedience Isn’t Personal: Conflicts with teens often stem from a desire for control. Parents may take disobedience personally, but it's important to remember that teens are not thinking about how their actions affect their parents—they’re navigating their own path to independence. The Stigma of Single Motherhood: The story of Amora Lex, who gave up her children to CPS, sparked harsh judgment online. The group discusses the need for compassion, understanding, and support for mothers, particularly those raising children without strong family or community support. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en

    1h 14m

  2. DEC 16

    EP 8: The Real Cost of Influencing: Plastic Surgery & Keeping up with the Joneses

    On this week’s episode Carla and Dex are diving into everything from aerial yoga (spoiler: they're not as flexible as they thought) to the real costs of being an influencer. First up, the ladies share their thoughts on Halle Berry’s latest venture—an intimacy gel for menopausal women—and celebrate her mix of business smarts and vulnerability. Then, things get juicy in the Motherhood segment with a discussion on influencer culture, including the bizarre case of Influencer Marlena Velez, who got arrested for stealing from Target. The duo debates what crime they’d commit (just for fun, promise) and why it’s important to step away from the digital world to reconnect with reality. Plus, a deep dive into body image issues—why Raven-Symoné’s decision to undergo surgery at just 15 raises some serious questions, and how we should approach celebrities’ physical transformations. Carla shares her own story of buying fake hips, while Dex gets real about butt implants. To wrap up, Dex offers a fun self-awareness assessment that might just change your perspective. Tune in for laughs, honest conversations, and a few lessons along the way!   SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Social Media Isn't Real: The pressure to "keep up with the Joneses" on social media often leads to unsustainable behaviors. It's important to remember that what you see online doesn't always reflect reality, and prioritizing authenticity over perfection is healthier for your mental well-being. The Influence of Social Media on Risky Behavior: The rise of influencer culture can pressure people into unrealistic lifestyles. From body image issues to misrepresenting your life online, these behaviors are often driven by insecurity and the desire to match a curated online persona. Take a Digital Detox for Mental Clarity: Constantly consuming social media can cloud your self-perception. Taking breaks from your phone and stepping back into real life can help you reconnect with your true values, reflect on your goals, and prioritize your mental health. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en

    1h 2m

  3. DEC 9

    EP 7: Holiday Drama, Traditions, and Boundaries: Surviving Toxicity During the Holidays

    This week Carla and Dex dive into the chaos and comedy of navigating toxic family traditions during the holidays. From Carla’s journey of estrangement and her search for new holiday magic with friends to Dex’s big family and the pressure to make everything “perfect,” they share hilarious and heartfelt insights on surviving family dysfunction. Carla reflects on the bittersweet loss of old traditions while creating new ones, and Dex opens up about her childhood trauma (cue the villain origin story—spoiler: it’s all about that Barbie Dream House). The duo also tackles how to deal with negative family members and offers tips on carving out your own healthy, joyful holiday traditions. Tune in for humor, honesty, and some solid advice that might just help you survive this holiday season with your sanity—and maybe a little magic—intact.   SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Create Your Own Traditions: Whether you're estranged from family or just tired of the same old drama, it's okay to let go of toxic traditions and create new ones that bring you joy—whether that’s with friends, chosen family, or just on your own. You deserve a holiday that feels good to you. Set Boundaries with Toxic Family Members: The holidays don't have to mean enduring negativity from relatives. Learn how to politely (but firmly) set boundaries with family members who bring drama, and how to protect your mental health without feeling guilty. Make Holiday Magic for You: It's easy to get caught up in the pressure to create the "perfect" holiday for others, especially when you have a big family. Take a page from Dex’s playbook and find small, healthy traditions that keep the holiday spirit alive for you—and leave the stress behind.   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en

    43 min

  4. DEC 2

    EP 6: Burnout Diaries: Navigating Motherhood and Rediscovering Joy

    In this lively episode of The So What Now Podcast, Carla and Dex tackle everything from neighborhood drama to the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood. Carla shares her escalating battle with the local "cat lady," sparking a hilarious yet relatable discussion about boundaries and suburban chaos.    Meanwhile, the duo dives into mom guilt—whether it’s Carla juggling life with a toddler and a grown daughter or Dex navigating communication in a long distance relationship with her daughter. With raw honesty and a touch of humor, the hosts reflect on burnout, personal growth, and finding unexpected joys (like crafting and ginger beer).    It’s a heartwarming reminder that life’s challenges may leave us wondering, “So what now?”—but with the right mindset, a good laugh, and maybe a glue gun, we’ll get through it together.   4 Key Takeaways from This Episode: 💡 Mom Guilt is Real (and Never Ends): Carla and Dex open up about their personal experiences with mom guilt, whether it’s raising a toddler or navigating life as an empty nester, and how they’re learning to let go of unrealistic expectations. 🔥 Burnout Isn’t Just Work-Related: Dex shares her journey of uncovering the deeper layers of life burnout while Carla offers insights on creating boundaries and finding joy amidst chaos. 🌱 Parenting Evolves, So Should We: From toddler meltdowns to adult children’s independence, the duo reflects on how their parenting styles have changed and how they’re redefining what it means to be a “good mom.” 🎉 Finding Joy in the Small Things: Whether it’s crafting, cooking, or just sipping ginger beer, Carla and Dex discuss how leaning into simple joys helps them recharge and stay grounded.   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en   🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/

    52 min

  5. NOV 25

    EP 5: It’s Giving Thanks: Gratitude, Ambition & the "Miracle Baby"

    This Thanksgiving episode is all about reflecting on what we're thankful for, finding balance with gratitude and ambition and also Miracle babies. Carla and Dex kick things off by honoring Jenna as Woman of the Week.  In the Motherhood segment,we’re diving into the controversial tale of a miracle baby conceived by two Miami Dade inmates who passed semen through a vent. Should they face additional charges? Listen in for the full discussion! In the Womanhood segment, we talk about being thankful for the small moments, the lessons, and the people in our lives—even if we don’t always follow traditional holiday norms. We explore how gratitude plays into both parenting and personal growth— Do our kids owe us gratitude? Dex also opens up about her struggle to balance gratitude with ambition. Can you be grateful for what you have and desire to strive for more? And how do we navigate the negative self-talk that holds us back from our own potential.  Plus, Carla shares a feel-good moment of the week: her skydiving adventure! Tune in for laughs, reflections, and some much-needed reminders that we’re all on a journey, and it’s okay to hold space for both gratitude and ambition. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Remember: You don't have to partake in holiday activities you don’t want to—and that's okay! Our children learn gratitude by seeing us model this behavior.  Be thankful for the journey and enjoy it along the way.  From an early age, we’re often taught to be grateful. While these lessons were well-meaning,the lessons can sometimes make us feel like it’s wrong to experience negative emotions when we have so much to be thankful for. If this resonates with you, you're not alone. Over time, we can internalize beliefs that limit our emotional range. Reframing our understanding of gratitude to focus on our skills or attributes rather than the external objects can allow space for complex feelings.  You’ve earned and/or deserve all the good things in your life. Don’t let people with limiting beliefs or negative self talk stop you from going after what you truly desire.  CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en   🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/

    59 min

  6. NOV 18

    EP 4: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids & The Power of Saying No

    In this episode Carla and Dex discuss raising emotionally intelligent children—what it really takes to help kids develop self-awareness, empathy, and strong communication skills. We dive into the tools and practices for fostering emotional intelligence. How do we know if we’re doing it right? We’ll explore how EQ impacts behavior and relationships, and why it’s essential for kids’ long-term success. Next, we switch gears to talk about the power of saying no. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries—whether in relationships, work, or personal life. Carla shares her journey from employee to boss and how setting boundaries has changed her life, while Dex talks about her struggle to set boundaries with herself, especially when it comes to work. We’ll explore how learning to say no confidently can protect our time and well-being. It’s an honest conversation about parenting, personal growth, and taking control of your life. Tune in! SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS   The Power of Boundaries: Setting boundaries is essential in friendships, work,and family relationships to maintain mental well-being and respect.   Emotional Intelligence in Parenting: Carla and Dex discuss the value of teachingchildren emotional intelligence by modeling self-awareness, empathy, and self-regulation.   Self-Care as a Boundary: Dex shares her struggle with setting work boundariesfor herself, reminding listeners that self-care is a crucial form of respect.   Learning and Growth through Therapy: The hosts explore the importance oftherapy, especially tools like the “feelings wheel,” to identify and process emotions moreeffectively.   Navigating Friendships with Honesty**: They reflect on a challenging time in theirfriendship, showing that sometimes setting tough boundaries can ultimately strengthenrelationships   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en   🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/

    59 min

  7. NOV 13

    EP 3: Still Processing Rejection

    In this episode, Carla and Dex share their raw reactions to the 2024 Presidential election. With no outline or segments, it’s a heartfelt, off-the-cuff conversation as they process the results and how they’re personally navigating the aftermath. From coping with the outcome to confronting the challenges of moving forward in a divided world, this episode is a rollercoaster of feelings and reflections.  Tune in for a real and honest discussion, as Carla and Dex work through it all—together. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Election Shock and Disappointment: The hosts express disappointmentover Trump’s re-election, with surprise that his controversial policiesand divisive rhetoric did not prevent his victory. They voice concernabout the country’s future and the social divides it highlights.   Representation Matters: One host discusses the emotional impact ofseeing Kamala Harris, a woman of color, in a leadership position, whichgave her a sense of visibility and pride. However, there is alsofrustration that gender and racial biases may have hindered Harris’ssupport.   Frustration with Social Media and Misinformation: The hosts criticizehow misinformation spread on social media influenced people'sopinions, especially around topics like abortion, LGBTQ rights, andhealthcare.   Importance of Local Politics: Beyond the presidential election, the hostsemphasize the significance of local issues, such as marijuanalegalization and education funding, urging listeners to remainpolitically active and informed at all levels of government.   Self-Care and Emotional Processing: In coping with the electionoutcome, the hosts discuss the importance of processing feelings in asupportive environment rather than engaging in social media debates,aiming to foster resilience and stay involved in the political processdespite setbacks.   Role of Women and Bias: There is a shared feeling of rejection amongthe hosts, particularly regarding gender bias in leadership. They notethe resistance against women, especially women of color, holdingpowerful roles, which feels like a societal setback. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en   🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/

    45 min

  8. NOV 11

    EP 2: Motherhood in the Digital Age & Evolving Friendships

    In this episode, we’re diving deep into the impact of social media on motherhood and how it’s shaping our children’s lives. We’ll share our personal beliefs about kids and social media, exploring how it influences their upbringing and our parenting choices. From parents who make a business out of sharing their kids' lives to the balance of protecting privacy and staying connected in a digital world, we’re talking all about it. Next, we dive into how friendships change after motherhood. Dex reflects on her evolving friendships as her child grows into adulthood, while Carla talks about juggling her younger child and the need for a babysitter again. We also touch on the importance of maintaining strong connections with other women, despite the challenges of friendship fatigue. Lastly, we talk about navigating identity shifts in our 30s and 40s—how we redefine ourselves beyond our roles as mothers and professionals. It’s an honest, real conversation you don’t want to miss! SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Parenting with Awareness in the Social Media Era: Carla and Dex discuss how toset boundaries on social media for kids and navigate privacy challenges to create a safeenvironment online.   Importance of Balance: Balancing work, personal passions, and family time iscrucial, especially when transitioning between careers or creative pursuits.   Honest Communication: Maintaining open communication with friends and familyis essential to prevent misunderstandings and strengthen relationships.   Gentle Parenting Insights: The hosts offer lighthearted advice on modernparenting methods, showing the value of intentional language and mutual respect.   Social Media Humor and Reality: They humorously address the ups and downs ofsocial media’s influence on family life, from silly trends to the challenges of maintainingauthenticity CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@seethethingispod?lang=en   🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/

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Get ready for laughs, life lessons, and all the vibes! Hosted by best friends Carla and Dex, So What Now? dives into the messy, magical, and maddening moments of motherhood, womanhood, and everything in between. With Carla juggling entrepreneurship and new motherhood, and Dex stepping into life as a new empty nester with her quick wit and real talk, this podcast is your go-to for fresh takes on life’s biggest (and smallest) moments. Tune in for raw conversations, endless laughs, and a reminder that none of us really have it all figured out—but that’s half the fun! CONNECT WITH US: www.SoWhatNowPod.com

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