Ep. #7 - How to Finally Get Your Kids to Listen

Making Sense of Parenting

Do you find yourself repeating yourself over and over again? Do you think your child will never listen? Try this counterintuitive suggestion: talk less, and they will listen more.

How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Unnecessary Words:

  1. Connection

    1. Connection is the conduit to cooperation.

    2. Connection moves kids from a defensive state to a receptive one.

  2. Music

  3. Alarm Clock

    1. Create an environment where your kids can be independent.

  4. Timer

  5. Make a List

    1. If your child can’t write, let them draw a picture list.

  6. Race and competition

    1. Who can get all the dirty clothes picked up fastest?

    2. Carrots over consequences: no empty threats

  7. 911 scenario

    1. When you need instantaneous obedience:

      • Reconnect

      • Hug

      • Make eye-contact.

      • Understand their needs.

      • Make sure they understand your plan.

  8. Play!

    1. Play is hardwired and God-given.

    2. “Scientists have determined that it takes approximately 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in your brain, unless it’s done in play, which takes between 10 and 20 repetitions.”

    3. The virtue of eutrapelia is the virtue of right recreation.

    4. Bring play into whatever they need to do.

    5. Play can help parents de-stress.

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