Healing Myself

Scott and Shaté Hayes
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Healing Myself

We're Scott and Shaté Hayes, and we're on a mission to help our community find freedom from the inside out. So we host conversations about God, therapy, and all the lessons we’ve learned about how to love, trust, forgive, and affirm ourselves first. We used to talk about the hard parts of life. Now, we talk about the healed parts because that’s where true freedom resides. Join us, and you’ll see that when you save yourself first, you transform your life, and you lead the way for those around you to save themselves, too. Get healing tips, tools, and more: ⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support

  1. MAY 29

    Ep. 83: How to observe (not absorb) other people's feelings.

    In this episode, we dive into the art of observing other people's feelings without taking them on as our own. Join us as we explore practical strategies for maintaining emotional boundaries in close relationships with family, friends, and partners. Discover the role emotional regulation plays in this process, and get inspired by our hopes for finding real-life ways to practice this approach. Tune in for insightful conversations and tips on how to stay empathetic yet emotionally grounded. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Observing not absorbing [1:36] Being empathetic and supportive without taking on another person's emotions as your own Therapists suggest supporting loved ones without absorbing their distress, emphasizing that empathy should not involve taking on someone else's sadness or anxiety. It can be challenging to separate one's own feelings from those of others, especially in close relationships, and there's a tendency to feel responsible for making others feel better. Relearning communication and trust in marriage [10:11] Scott reflects on how life experiences have made him more guarded in his marriage, withdrawing emotional vulnerability and being more careful with his words. Recognizing the need to relearn how to support his wife, Shate Hayes, in a safe and non-absorbing manner. Acknowledging the importance of giving your spouse the space to solve their own problems and be a partner in their marriage. Empathy and boundaries in therapy [17:45] Discussion on emotion regulation and avoidance in men. Seeking to balance helping others with maintaining personal boundaries. The approach to empathy- hearing people's hearts without trying to control their emotions. The importance of empathy and self-determination in therapy. Navigating personal relationships while maintaining professional boundaries [23:41] The struggle with navigating close relationships without absorbing others' emotions. Scott Hayes emphasizes the importance of empathy and understanding in his work as a therapist, particularly when clients make decisions that go against his advice. The challenge of balancing the need to be productive with the need to be empathetic and supportive, even when clients are not ready for the work required. Navigating emotions and conflicts in a relationship [24:08] Setting boundaries and seeking help for recurring problems. Recognizing limitations in providing support and suggesting seeking help from others. Finding a way to support each other emotionally without judgment or expectations. The need for validation and redirection in relationships. Navigating conflicts in relationships, acknowledging the importance of allowing emotions to move through both parties. The need to navigate emotions without trying to run over them, just like navigating around obstacles on a bike or in a car. THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: Rate us on ⁠⁠Apple⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠, or follow and subscribe to our channel on ⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠. Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend.* Purchase our ⁠⁠merch⁠⁠— there’s a great selection on our website.* *A portion of our proceeds goes towards our therapy fund for Black adults. CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:  Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Music for this moment. Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠

    45 min

  2. MAY 15

    Ep. 82: A practical guide to self-care with Dr. Cicely Brathwaite.

    Join us for this insightful conversation with special guest, Dr. Cicely Brathwaite–psychologist, consultant, and author of Self-Care Activities for Women: 101 Practical Ways to Slow Down and Reconnect With Yourself. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Focus on Self-Care and Systemic Impacts [4:30] The realization during the dissertation on African American women that societal messages discourage self-care among welfare recipients. Concern over cognitive decline observed in family members (grandmother and great aunts) led to exploring health disparities and preventive measures. Recognition that environments influenced by racism and sexism contribute to health disparities among Black individuals. Self-care can help mitigate negative systemic impacts. The role of pleasure and well-being practices in counteracting societal challenges. Aim to make self-care a legacy for 1 million Black individuals, integrating it into their everyday lives and passing it on to future generations. Importance of Teaching Self-Cares [15:08] The historical roots of self-care stigma. The negative associations with rest and self-care dating back to times of enslavement. Reference to how enslaved ancestors were plied with liquor during times of rest, associating leisure with negativity. Generational differences in attitudes towards self-care, with previous generations focusing more on survival and work ethic. Cultural and systemic barriers that hinder individuals from prioritizing self-care, such as a 24/7 work culture and internalized programming. Self-care is a pathway to empowerment, allowing individuals to take control of their health and well-being. The 3 types of self-care: Regular, Restorative and Responsive.  Embracing Diverse Self-Care Practices and Family Traditions [29:20] Some coping mechanisms used in the past were effective for their time and circumstances, even if they might not be suitable today. This perspective helps release feelings of judgment towards oneself and others for past behaviors. The significant role of family-led prayers, has played in maintaining family resilience and well-being. This tradition deserves acknowledgment and respect. Valuing the tradition of learning and recording family recipes from elders as a way to preserve heritage and strengthen family bonds. Creating a playlist of songs that evoke joy as a practical and enjoyable self-care activity. This playlist can be used to uplift spirits and maintain positive emotions. Developing and practicing responses to microaggressions helps manage emotional triggers and maintain composure in challenging situations. Acknowledging the value of naps as a restorative and necessary form of self-care, Recognizing naps as essential for functioning optimally. Overcoming Resistance and Embracing Growth in Self-Care Practices [35:21] Revisit unsuccessful activities. Persistence fosters growth and healing through continuous effort. Understand that the brain resists change due to negativity bias, helping to develop new habits despite discomfort. Adopt a mindset of trying new activities multiple times to overcome initial discomfort and accurately assess their value. Embrace all aspects of your personality and interests. Persistence in bringing groups together reflects the importance of integrating all facets of life. THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: Rate us on ⁠Apple⁠ or ⁠Spotify⁠, or follow and subscribe to our channel on ⁠YouTube⁠. Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend.* Purchase our ⁠merch⁠— there’s a great selection on our website.* *A portion of our proceeds goes towards our therapy fund for Black adults. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcicelybrathwaite/ Schedule a consultation: https://www.cicelybrathwaite.com/ Check out her books: https://www.cicelybrathwaite.com/books CHECK I

    45 min

  3. MAY 1

    Ep. 81: Healing and tequila with friends featuring Brandon Scott.

    Join this special convo with Brandon Scott, CEO and Co-Founder of Tequila with Friends, a Dallas-based tequila brand. After a surprising Type 1 diabetes diagnosis during his first semester of college, Brandon discovered that tequila was the only type of liquor that his body metabolized well. Now 15 years later, he ties some of his fondest moments to tequila and the people around him who’ve supported his journey. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Navigating Diagnosis and Acceptance [0:00] Being diagnosed with type one diabetes during the first day at the University of Texas at Austin.  The importance of having supportive friends who encourage seeking medical help and providing emotional support during the diagnosis process.  Navigating misdiagnosis and quickly learning how to manage the condition.  Humor and coping mechanisms help deal with the challenges of living with diabetes. Embracing the condition as part of his  life story while refusing to let it define him entirely. Fostering Inclusivity and Support in Communities [14:35] Normalizing health conditions within communities reduce stigma and ostracization. Take time to educate oneself and others about managing health conditions. The significance of offering support and assistance to individuals with health challenges, creates a welcoming and inclusive environment. Promoting a communal mindset where everyone brings their own "baggage," fostering a sense of understanding and solidarity. The journey of acceptance [19:06] Frustration and helplessness are reactions when diagnosed with an illness upon diagnosis,  Taking control of the situation and acknowledging the importance of personal support networks. Sharing experiences with others and providing encouragement to those facing similar challenges can be helpful.  The importance of resilience and perseverance through various stages. Pay attention to your body and seek medical attention when necessary. Nurturing Health with Accountability [33:17] How to navigate health challenges and grief without shame. Avoiding deprivation and recognizing it as unsustainable and unrealistic. Focus on balance and self-awareness instead. Pay attention to how your body responds to alcohol consumption, and consult a doctor if experiencing adverse reactions. The possibility of alcohol allergies or intolerances if experiencing discomfort after drinking. Drinking responsibly and in moderation. Pay attention to how you feel during and after consumption, and make adjustments accordingly. THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: Rate us on Apple or Spotify, or follow and subscribe to our channel on YouTube. Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend.* Purchase our merch— there’s a great selection on our website.* *A portion of our proceeds goes towards our therapy fund for Black adults. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: Tequilla with Friends website: https://www.tequilawithfriends.com/ Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tequilawithfriends/ Visit their Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/tequilawithfriends/ Email them at: info@tequilawithfriends.com Give Brandon a follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brankscott/?hl=en CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:  Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Music for this moment. Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    49 min

  4. APR 10

    Ep. 80: God and therapy.

    Both God and therapy are essential to any healing journey. For this replay of our first live podcast event, we’re joined by Broderick McBride—intercessor, teacher, and mental health advocate who fully believes that mental health and spirituality go hand-in-hand. Take a listen to discover how they’ve helped him overcome trauma and depression, and practical tips to help you, too. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Trauma, grief, and healing through therapy and self-discovery [3:59] Some relationships with trauma may actually start from the womb. Finding one's voice and being their own person, creates a safe space for expression despite difficult circumstances. The power of prayer and having faith in God helps in overcoming trauma. Unlearning harmful beliefs and healing through therapy [16:52] Inspiring individuals to embrace therapy as a means of fostering self-awareness and personal growth. Fostering a growth mindset that embraces vulnerability, honesty, and openness in conversations about creates a safe and supportive environment Urging a shift towards integrating spirituality and therapy to cultivate a more fulfilling life journey. Navigating the Influence of Fathers: Overcoming Perfectionism and Redefining Masculinity [17:09] Fathers play a significant role in shaping perceptions of masculinity, often instilling a sense of perfectionism and adherence to traditional ideals. Avoiding therapy due to fear that admitting struggles detracts from success or masculinity. Mental health and Christianity [21:04] The importance of self-awareness and personal growth through therapy and spiritual practices. Jesus' teachings show that healing is within us, not in external actions The importance of self-awareness and personal growth through therapy and spiritual practices. Healing, Boundaries and Relationships [38:14] Experiences of healing and forgiveness, confronting past traumas and negative emotions. Setting boundaries in relationships may initially cause friction but will ultimately lead to healing and growth. We may lose friends and family as we learn to prioritize our own needs in relationships. THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: Rate us on ⁠Apple⁠ or you can follow and subscribe to us on ⁠YouTube⁠  Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend* Purchase our merch, there’s a lot of selection on our website* *A portion of our proceeds are going towards our therapy fund for Black adults. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: Follow Broderick on Instagram: @broderick.mcbrideBroderick’s Facebook account: https://www.facebook.com/people/Broderick-L-McBride/ Visit Broderick’s website: https://www.broderickmcbride.com/ CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:  Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Music for this moment. Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠; Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at ⁠⁠⁠⁠connect@healingmyself.co --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support

    1h 3m

  5. MAR 20

    Ep. 79: Man to Woman—What I want the women in my life to know.

    We’re always talking man to man, but today’s episode is for the ladies. Join us for a few thoughts for the Black women in our lives from a Black man’s perspective. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Mental health and emotional wellness for Black men [4:11] The importance of creating a safe space for black men to share their experiences and heal Scott’s story of feeling like a failure as a man, feeling isolated in his struggles, and his journey towards mental wealth Breaking the stigma surrounding mental health in the Black community. The struggles that men face these days [10:43] The pressure to be an ideal spouse on social media The disconnect between marriages on social media vs. marriages in real life  The idea that there’s only a certain level of happiness that men are allowed to have  Our continual journey towards “learning themselves” [15:47]  Learning not to love excessively Setting boundaries  Having empathy and openness within relationships  The whole journey of healing is learning ourselves for the first time What men want women to know [21:31] There’s power in admitting that “I’m still learning myself”  Getting rid of toxic masculinity Accepting that men can be emotional The struggle of “assertive communication” Balancing love with boundary  Grace with guidance [31:57] Gathering and talking with people navigating the same journey  Having a brave space that holds each other accountable  Choosing to have difficult, honest conversations rather than developing resentment  Biggest lessons around healing as a Black man [39:53] The answers are not required  Honor whatever you have—especially when there were moments that you didn’t have any There is joy to be found and being able to be on the journey If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at thelovehaze@gmail.com  THREE WAYS TO SUPPORT OUR MISSION: Rate us on Apple or you can follow and subscribe to us on YouTube  Attend an event in the Atlanta area or sponsor someone to attend* Purchase our merch, there’s a lot of selection on our website* *A portion of our proceeds are going towards therapy for Black adults RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: Listen to Out Of My Mind, song  by Erykah Badu Listen to It's A Man's World, song by James Brown Listen to Come to the Light, song by Jill Scott Listen to Slowly Surely, song by Jill Scott CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:  Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Music for this moment. Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠; Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at ⁠⁠⁠connect@healingmyself.co --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support

    52 min

  6. MAR 4

    Ep. 78: How to hustle and hope with Ashley Sutton.

    Join us for a special convo with Ashley Sutton, founder and CEO of Hustle and Hope Cards. From facing rejection to grinding, making room for faith, and much more, we unpack what it means to have both hustle and hope. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: The story of Hustle and Hope Cards [3:23] Ashley’s relationship with hustle and hope How Ashley grew up with innate entrepreneurial spirit  Balancing hustle and hope  Why greeting cards are the best [13:26] A great way to acknowledge and encourage someone’s effort  A lovely way to say ‘I see you’ and ‘I acknowledge your hard work’  Hustle and Hope Cards’ special free guide on how to give and receive gratitude How greeting cards are bringing back genuine thoughtfulness and communication between people Hustle and Hope Cards’ impact [16:50]  Getting rid of the stigma that cards are cheap and insignificant  Sending the message “I see you and I want to help you” through greeting cards Supporting the idea that handmade gifts are actually thoughtful and the nicest thing that anybody could do for another  Seeing ‘hustle,’ which usually has a negative connotation, in a positive light  The harmony between hustle and hope  Having a passion that fills your own and other people’s cup  Greeting card business tips [29:59]  Having a sell sheet with all the necessary details  Being ready for rejection (because it will happen)  Being ‘teachable’ amidst rejections  Biggest lessons around hustle and hope [34:00]  Keep your business grounded in purpose and intention It’s hard to have faith and hope, but you have to have it  Don’t control anything; make space for God’s miracles  Just because the results look different doesn’t mean you’re failing RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: Follow Ashley on Instagram: @hustleandhope Visit Hustle and Hope Cards’ website: https://hustleandhopecards.com/  Listen to You Gotta Be, a song by Des’ree Listen to Who’s That Girl, a song by Eve Listen to Hustle Hard, a song by Ace Hood and Rick Ross CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:  Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Music for this moment. Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠; Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at ⁠⁠⁠connect@healingmyself.co --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support

    45 min

  7. FEB 22

    Ep. 77: Change your default setting.

    We’ve been thinking a lot about chaos vs peace. In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the idea of changing our default setting, specifically when that default is chaos. We invite you to reflect on your default setting and consider the possibility of embracing peace amidst life's chaos. Remember, healing is a journey, and every step towards self-discovery is a victory worth celebrating.  WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Default setting of chaos and destabilization [1:43] The constant cycle of being displeased with yourself  A pattern of self-doubt and dissatisfaction  The struggle to let go of the idea that you should keep moving to the next level  How boredom triggers you to find chaos  Our constant desire to find chaos is rooted from the feeling of not enoughness  Unhealthy comparison (i.e. your life vs. others’ lives as seen on social media) can contribute to the feeling of not enoughness  The belief that too much happiness is a prelude to something awful NOT choosing chaos over peace [12:03]  How Shaté, who’s always chosen peace, chose chaos in her finances  Learning to be grateful for what you have and acknowledging answered prayers  How not to have a regret-filled life  Finding joy and gratitude in where you are now instead of continuing to search for it  Let’s talk about healing—changing/reprogramming your default settings [19:51]  Changing the narrative that you're telling yourself Changing the way you talk to yourself—language matters!  Remembering that wherever you are in life:  There are so many things to be grateful for  You worked hard for it and you deserve credit  Actionable steps to reprogram your default settings [27:24]  Evaluating why you need help  Determining the change you want to see  Developing a treatment plan  Shaté encourages seeking help from a therapist/accountability buddy or any type of mentor who could keep you in check  Not being to hard on yourself and remembering that healing is NOT linear  Biggest lessons around choosing peace [34:27]  Always factor in peace when making decisions—you won’t ever go wrong Never allow people step over the boundaries you’ve set for yourself  Friends, we’re very happy to announce our first live podcast event in the Atlanta area, and it’s happening in March. A portion of all of our proceeds are going towards subsidizing or covering the cost of therapy for black adults. More details soon, hope to see you there!   RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: The Big Leap, book by Gay Hendricks Listen to Ep. 48: Mental health matters with Stephanie Westbrook Listen to Ep. 45: Healing our relationship with money w/Ranauldo & Liz Wright Listen to Hello, song by Aqyila Listen to Reset III, song by Isaac Carree CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:  Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Music for this moment. Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠; Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at ⁠⁠connect@healingmyself.co --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support

    45 min

  8. FEB 7

    Ep. 76: Save yourself first.

    In a world that often demands our constant attention and care for others, it's easy to overlook the most crucial relationship of all—the one we have with ourselves. We’re back with a new look and new name, but the healing vibes are still the same! Join our first convo as Healing Myself to discover why it's so important to heal your relationship with yourself first. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Why is it so important to save/heal yourself first? [3:21] Don’t let your trauma become who you are Healing yourself first gives you the opportunity to have healthy relationships with others  You show up differently when you’re healed Being intentional with the way you talk to yourself and to others  The value of saving yourself—the hard parts [7:06] How people show up could be a reflection of the demons they’re fighting  Being careful with you who you emulate  The importance of communicating what you need  Realizing that you are enough is they key to a healthy relationship with yourself and others The moment you stopped trusting yourself What happened that made you second guess yourself? The value of saving yourself—the healing [15:13]  Having the mindset to move towards the life you aspire  Setting a vision and relentlessly working make it happen  It’s hard when the villains seem to be winning  The tedious journey towards that realization that you are valuable and worthy By not communicating what you need in a relationship, you are doing yourself a great disservice  What makes healing harder than you thought [23:17]  Setting boundaries and seeing it through (it’s  hard!)  Choosing yourself could feel uncomfortable  You DON’T need to hold yourself to impossible standards  Biggest lessons around healing yourself [31:10] Choosing yourself needs an every day practice  Your relationship with yourself is the most important one  Healing yourself is a continual process  RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: The Love Haze: Episode 55, "SOS...Saving OurSelves" Listen to On & On, song by Erykah Badu  Listen to I’m Doin’ Me, song by Fantasia Listen to They Just Don’t Know, song by Gyft CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:  Subscribe to our Weekly Word. We’ll send you healing insights from our recent convos, book recommendations, resources, and more to help you heal yourself first: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Music for this moment. Follow Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠; Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know could find value in the Healing Myself community, please feel free to reach out! You can leave a comment or send us an email at ⁠connect@healingmyself.co --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support

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We're Scott and Shaté Hayes, and we're on a mission to help our community find freedom from the inside out. So we host conversations about God, therapy, and all the lessons we’ve learned about how to love, trust, forgive, and affirm ourselves first. We used to talk about the hard parts of life. Now, we talk about the healed parts because that’s where true freedom resides. Join us, and you’ll see that when you save yourself first, you transform your life, and you lead the way for those around you to save themselves, too. Get healing tips, tools, and more: ⁠https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support

Information

  • Creator
    Scott and Shaté Hayes
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2024
  • Episodes
    84
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Scott and Shaté Hayes
  • Show Website
    Healing Myself

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