The Recalibration

Julie Holly
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Recalibration for high-capacity humans who’ve outgrown the version of themselves they created to succeed. You’ve built a life you once wanted… So why does it feel like it no longer fits? ✔️ You’re the one people count on.✔️ You’ve done the work — the therapy, the mindset shifts, the leadership courses.✔️ You’ve optimized your habits and checked all the boxes. From the outside, it looks like you’ve arrived.But on the inside, something’s misaligned.You can feel it — a quiet tension between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. This show exists to name that tension — and navigate what comes next. Hosted by Julie Holly — speaker, guide, and creator of Identity-Level Recalibration— The Recalibration is more than a podcast. It’s a daily 5–10 minute space to pause, return to yourself, and realign your internal world before you lead your external one. Each episode blends faith, psychology, philosophy, neuroscience, and lived experience — guiding high-capacity humans back into identity alignment. You’ll recalibrate from the inside out, so you can move forward with:✔️ Clarity that comes from knowing who you are now✔️ Courage to let go of what no longer fits✔️ Momentum to become who you’re meant to be next This podcast is not: – Coaching – Therapy – Another self-help fix It’s not about doing more.It’s about becoming more you. Whether you're: – An executive or entrepreneur who’s lost the spark – A visionary founder or creative craving deeper congruence – The steady go-to person finally tending inward – A high-functioning parent or midlife leader in transition – Or someone who’s carried quiet courage for years, ready to rise… You’ve done the work. You’ve kept showing up.Now it’s time to get current with who you truly are. With over 600 podcast episodes behind her and decades of experience in education, entrepreneurship, and identity work, Julie Holly brings a rare blend of story, strategy, and soul. In a world full of noise, The Recalibration offers the signal. Tune in daily for:– Thought-provoking questions– Micro identity shifts– A safe place to realign before you re-engage Subscribe now and recalibrate your way forward.

  1. 8시간 전

    #118 How High-Capacity Couples Speak Hard Truth Without Losing Intimacy

    Learn how to tell the truth in your marriage without damaging trust. This episode helps high-capacity humans recalibrate identity so intimacy doesn’t require silence — or sharpness. Can you speak the truth in your marriage — without losing connection? For high-capacity humans who’ve mastered performance, truth-telling can feel like a trap: if you speak, it might rupture intimacy… but if you stay silent, the ache grows. This episode is your invitation to a different way. We’re talking about gentle truth — the kind that creates connection, not conflict. Because when identity is aligned, you don’t have to choose between honesty and intimacy. You can have both. Drawing from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (John Gottman & Nan Silver), Sacred Marriage (Gary Thomas), and The Deep-Rooted Marriage (Dan Allender), Julie Holly explores how truth becomes transformational when it’s spoken from alignment — not fear, not people-pleasing, and not self-protection. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why high-capacity couples default to silence or sharpness — and how to recalibrate The “Gottman Red Flags” — 4 patterns that signal misalignment A personal story from Julie about real-time identity awareness during conflict Why marriage will always surface new facets of you — and why that’s the gift How truth-telling dismantles inherited performance scripts Why no tool works if you’re still performing an outdated identity How ILR helps you speak from who you are — not who you’ve had to be This episode includes a Micro Recalibration you can revisit or share anytime — with your spouse, therapist, or mentor. Because sometimes the bravest thing isn’t knowing what to say… it’s believing you’re allowed to say it. Today’s Micro Recalibration: What truth am I holding back — and why? If I believed truth could create connection, how would I say this differently?  Bonus for couples: What haven’t we said — not because it’s not true, but because we’re afraid of what it might break? What if it could build us instead? This episode is for you if…You’ve been suppressing your needs for the sake of peace You fear that speaking up will make things worse You feel alone in carrying emotional weight in your marriage You want more connection, but not through performance You’re ready to recalibrate who you are — not just how you communicate Remember: Most marriage tools fix behavior. Identity-Level Recalibration gets underneath the pattern — so you can speak from who you really are. If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    11분

  2. 1일 전

    #117 Why Legacy Roles Sabotage Intimacy in Marriage

    You didn’t choose the roles you’re performing — but they’re shaping your marriage. This episode helps high-capacity humans break free from inherited scripts and rebuild intimacy through identity, not obligation. If your marriage feels more like a performance than a partnership — this episode will hit home. In Breaking Free from Legacy Roles, Julie Holly exposes the invisible scripts that quietly sabotage even the most well-intentioned relationships. These unspoken roles — often inherited through family, faith, or culture — sound virtuous but lead to disconnection, resentment, and exhaustion. Through story, Scripture, and the ILR lens, Julie invites high-capacity humans to confront the identities they’ve outgrown — and realign with the truth of who they are. You’ll discover: What “legacy roles” are — and how they form through family, faith, culture, and survivalWhy high-capacity humans often over-function in marriage without realizing itHow even healthy marriages suffer when partners unconsciously perform roles like The Fixer, The Provider, or The NurturerSpecific examples of how these scripts show up in real life — from emotional suppression to over-sacrifice How Julie’s personal journey through an abusive marriage shaped her understanding of identity, obedience, and spiritual alignmentWhy success-oriented couples often feel disconnected, even when they “do everything right”How Identity-Level Recalibration helps you dissolve the old roles without destroying what you’ve builtA practical Micro Recalibration to help you uncover and release your inherited rolesA question for couples to explore how they’ve co-authored unhealthy scripts — and what new roles are possibleThis episode is not about behavior management. It’s not about better communication techniques. It’s about recalibrating the root of who you are — so that love, intimacy, and connection can grow from alignment, not obligation. 🎯 Micro Recalibration: What role am I unconsciously performing in my relationship? Who told me I had to be that — and is that still true?🫶 For Couples:  What’s one expectation or role we’ve inherited that no longer fits who we’re becoming? Remember: you don’t have to keep performing the role. You get to live the truth. Linked Resources: The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Morgan CronThe Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizIf this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    11분

  3. 2일 전

    #116 Why Success-Oriented Couples Struggle to Connect: Emotional Honesty in Marriage

    You can say all the right things and still miss each other. Discover why emotional honesty—not performance—is the gateway to real connection, and how to break the cycle of surface-level intimacy without sacrificing strength. What if the very thing that makes you successful is also what’s silently distancing you from your partner? In today’s episode of The Recalibration, we explore emotional honesty in marriage — and why it’s so hard for high-capacity humans to access it. You might be articulate, self-aware, and transparent… and still be emotionally unavailable. Julie Holly shares her own journey of emotional detachment disguised as leadership, revealing how high performers often substitute control and composure for true vulnerability — not out of malice, but out of protection. This episode blends real-world storywork, neuroscience, and relationship research from Dr. John Gottman to uncover the invisible gap between what we say and how we actually connect. It’s not about mastering conflict scripts or fixing communication. It’s about recalibrating identity — so your presence matches your power. You’ll hear: Why emotional honesty feels risky to high achievers How “transparency” can still be a mask What Gottman’s bids for connection reveal about nervous system safety How tiny missed moments create emotional shutdown Why ILR is not mindset work — it’s identity work that restores intimacy How to lead your marriage with presence, not performance Whether you're in a long-term relationship or simply desiring deeper emotional connection, this episode invites you to stop calculating and start connecting. Today’s Micro Recalibration: Where have I been withholding emotional honesty to protect an image? What truth — even a small one — could I share today that would build intimacy, not distance? For Couples (Recalibration Together): What’s one moment recently where you felt I turned toward you — or didn’t? This is the kind of clarity that recalibrates more than just your marriage — it shifts your whole life. Linked Resources: Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver  The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    10분

  4. 3일 전

    #115 Marriage Reveals Who You Really Are — Here’s What to Do

    Marriage isn’t just communication — it’s an identity mirror. Whether you’re married, divorced, or desiring deep intimacy, this episode shows how misalignment reveals itself in relationships and how to recalibrate at the root. If you’ve ever wondered why your marriage feels more draining than connective — even when both of you are trying — this episode will feel like a deep breath. In today’s episode, Julie opens up about her own marriage journey, offering a raw and redemptive look at how conflict, disappointment, and distance in our closest relationships aren’t failures — they’re invitations. Marriage doesn’t just reveal our partner’s flaws — it reflects our identity misalignments, outdated roles, and legacy patterns that no longer serve us. You’ll discover why marriage isn’t meant to complete you, but to confront you — lovingly, truthfully, and redemptively. Through personal story, neuroscience, and soul-level insight, this episode offers a new lens on intimacy and transformation. You’ll also hear why most marriage advice doesn’t work when identity is misaligned — and how Identity-Level Recalibration gives you the clarity and tools to rebuild connection from the inside out. Today’s Micro Recalibration: For Personal Reflection: What identity roles or survival patterns have you brought into your relationship? If you paused to see yourself the way your spouse sees you, what might you notice? For Couples (Use Together):  If you're in a relationship (you don't have to be married), sit with these questions individually — then come together for a rich, honest conversation: What story or identity role do you think I brought into our marriage? What’s one moment where you’ve felt most seen, safe, or loved by me? What part of your story do you wish I better understood? Whether you’re married, divorced, or dreaming of something more aligned — this is your invitation to stop performing, start healing, and recalibrate at the root. Linked Resources: Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver  The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    14분

  5. 4일 전

    #114 Reclaiming Influence Under Pressure Starts with Identity

    Feeling the pressure to perform, please, or prove? Leadership doesn’t collapse because of external pressure — it unravels from internal misalignment. This episode shows you how to reclaim influence from the inside out. When pressure builds — do you perform, please, or posture? In today's episode, we’re diving deep into a leadership truth few acknowledge: real influence doesn't come from managing perception. It comes from anchoring in identity — especially when the stakes are high. Whether you're a founder, creative, or leader carrying silent pressure, this episode reveals how internal misalignment slowly erodes your presence, integrity, and impact. Drawing on the story of Jesus in Gethsemane, we show how leadership under pressure isn’t about getting louder — it's about getting truer. If you’ve ever felt the cost of being misunderstood, the temptation to over-explain, or the exhausting urge to control outcomes — this conversation will recalibrate your core. You’ll learn: Why identity-level congruence is your leadership stabilizerHow performance-based leadership creates hidden fracturesWhat it really means to lead from integrity, not imageThe quiet power of presence when words fall shortToday’s Micro Recalibration: “Where am I leaking energy trying to be understood, instead of being anchored in who I am?” Return to alignment. Let presence speak louder than performance. Team Recalibration Prompt: Bring this to your team: “Here’s what I’ve been reflecting on about my own leadership under pressure. I’m committed to leading from clarity, not reaction. What’s one way we can each protect integrity over perception in our work this week?” Start here — because your leadership wasn’t meant to be performative. It was meant to be powerful — from the inside out. If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    8분

  6. 5일 전

    #113 You Don’t Have a Team Problem — You Have an Alignment Gap

    If your team feels misaligned, it’s not a hiring issue — it’s an identity gap. This episode exposes the root of cultural breakdowns and offers a soul-level recalibration for leaders chasing clarity but leaking confusion. You’ve optimized the systems. Rewrote the roles. Hired the consultants. But your team still feels misaligned — and you're quietly wondering why nothing sticks. In this episode of The Recalibration, we name the deeper truth: cultural breakdowns don’t begin with your team. They begin with you. When identity is misaligned, leadership clarity fades. And when clarity fades, teams falter — not because of incompetence, but because of confusion that trickled down from the top. Drawing on neuroscience (neuroception), psychology (cognitive dissonance), and soul-level truth, Julie unpacks why strategy alone can't solve an identity-level problem. You'll hear how internal incongruence creates external fragmentation — and how realignment within a leader becomes the compass for the culture. Key Takeaways: Why “you don’t attract what you preach — you attract what you embody”How leadership pressure often replaces purposeWhy your internal “why” is ineffective without a rooted “who”What neuroscience and psychology reveal about incongruent leadershipThe real reason your culture feels disconnected — and how to recalibrateToday’s Micro Recalibration: “Where am I expecting cultural outcomes I haven’t embodied?” Team Recalibration Prompt: “Here’s what I’ve recently clarified about our direction — and here’s where I noticed I hadn’t been clear. I want us to recalibrate together. What’s one thing you need from me to move forward with greater clarity and trust?” Whether you're a founder, creative, or leader quietly carrying the tension of team dysfunction — this episode gives you language, permission, and a pathway to lead from congruence. Linked Resources: #1 When Your Identity Outgrows Your Life: Success Isn’t the ProblemIf this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    9분

  7. 6일 전

    #112 Why Over-Control Costs Your Team and Your Peace

    You’ve been praised for being steady — but at what cost? This episode reclaims leadership as deeply human and offers the internal permission to lead without armor, proving compassion doesn’t compromise outcomes. What if your humanity is the very thing that makes you trustworthy? This episode challenges the quiet narrative that to lead well, you must leave parts of yourself behind. We dismantle the pressure high-capacity humans feel to suppress emotion, downplay softness, and equate vulnerability with weakness. You’ll learn:  – Why image-driven leadership fractures identity  – How vulnerability expands trust and cohesion  – What Brené Brown’s leadership reveals about true strength  – Where faith, humanity, and excellence intersect  – How to stop leading from protection and start leading from presence We also revisit Episode 31, “The Soft Strength of Self-Trust,” to reinforce this truth: your humanity isn’t a liability. It’s your leadership advantage — when rooted in aligned identity. Today’s Micro-Recalibration: “Where am I equating vulnerability with weakness?” Notice where your armor is louder than your presence. Lead from alignment, not defense. Leadership Recalibration: You don’t have to trade humanity for outcomes. When leadership is recalibrated from presence — not pressure — everyone wins. The results remain. The burnout doesn’t. If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    8분

  8. 8월 28일

    #111 Why Human-Centered Leadership Doesn’t Sacrifice Results

    If leading with empathy feels risky, this is your recalibration. Discover why compassion and performance aren’t opposites — and why your humanity may be the missing link to sustainable outcomes. You’ve been told to choose: be human or be high-performing. But that’s a false binary — and it’s costing you peace, presence, and leadership trust. This episode dismantles the lie that compassion and clarity are in conflict. Julie unpacks the neuroscience behind leadership safety, explores why bracing backfires, and invites high-capacity humans to lead from soul instead of performance. We reflect on the personal cost of emotional inaccessibility — the walls we build, the weight we carry, and the subtle ways we trade presence for polish. Through the lens of Brené Brown’s leadership, we reclaim vulnerability as a strategic strength. If you’ve been bracing… regulating tone, pulling back your humanity, fearing softness will discredit you — this is your episode. Key Takeaways: Why emotional safety increases performance (ventral vagal insight)The difference between codependence and compassionWhy presence — not performance — drives sustainable outcomesA one-liner recalibration you can use in any meeting or messageToday’s Micro Recalibration: “Where have I traded clarity for coldness — or compassion for codependence?” You don’t have to pick between heart and outcomes. But you do have to stop waiting to lead from alignment. Let’s recalibrate. Linked Resources: #31 How to Break the Patterns That Keep Holding You Back If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    8분
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Recalibration for high-capacity humans who’ve outgrown the version of themselves they created to succeed. You’ve built a life you once wanted… So why does it feel like it no longer fits? ✔️ You’re the one people count on.✔️ You’ve done the work — the therapy, the mindset shifts, the leadership courses.✔️ You’ve optimized your habits and checked all the boxes. From the outside, it looks like you’ve arrived.But on the inside, something’s misaligned.You can feel it — a quiet tension between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. This show exists to name that tension — and navigate what comes next. Hosted by Julie Holly — speaker, guide, and creator of Identity-Level Recalibration— The Recalibration is more than a podcast. It’s a daily 5–10 minute space to pause, return to yourself, and realign your internal world before you lead your external one. Each episode blends faith, psychology, philosophy, neuroscience, and lived experience — guiding high-capacity humans back into identity alignment. You’ll recalibrate from the inside out, so you can move forward with:✔️ Clarity that comes from knowing who you are now✔️ Courage to let go of what no longer fits✔️ Momentum to become who you’re meant to be next This podcast is not: – Coaching – Therapy – Another self-help fix It’s not about doing more.It’s about becoming more you. Whether you're: – An executive or entrepreneur who’s lost the spark – A visionary founder or creative craving deeper congruence – The steady go-to person finally tending inward – A high-functioning parent or midlife leader in transition – Or someone who’s carried quiet courage for years, ready to rise… You’ve done the work. You’ve kept showing up.Now it’s time to get current with who you truly are. With over 600 podcast episodes behind her and decades of experience in education, entrepreneurship, and identity work, Julie Holly brings a rare blend of story, strategy, and soul. In a world full of noise, The Recalibration offers the signal. Tune in daily for:– Thought-provoking questions– Micro identity shifts– A safe place to realign before you re-engage Subscribe now and recalibrate your way forward.

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    Julie Holly
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    2020년 - 2025년
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