Episode 34: Stages of Personal Development

Listen to this spontaneous exploration of five stages of personal development that Bill has begun to name and explore as he writes his new book, Practical Application of Parts Work. Not Your Typical Life Coach podcast co-hosts Bill Tierney and Doctor Martin Kettelhut wonder if Bill’s stages of personal development align with Marty’s. Bill walks Marty through his personal development journey as Marty finds correlations to these stages in his own life. How does your personal development journey align with these five stages? What stage are you in now as you listen to this episode? Stage 1: Loss of Self Formation of the Shame Identity and False Identity Development of strategies to improve, hide, and cope with life and the pain of loss of Self Stage 2: Stabilization The consequences of strategies formed to hide shame and manage pain become so dysfunctional that new, more efficient, and conservative survival strategies are formed to establish safety and security. While the drama of life and confusion about identity continues, life becomes more predictable and workable. Stage 3: Awakening Often, a teacher, mentor, or guide offers a new perspective at just the perfect time when the student is ready to entertain it. Perspective shifts and becomes more aligned with reality. The Awakening stage is characterized by a shift from external focus to internal awareness and reflection. This is the stage of personal responsibility. Stage 4: Healing The body heals if an injury is stabilized and the environment for healing is kept sterile and the immune system is supported. Mental and emotional wounds can also heal when the environment supports it. Healing is possible when the environment supports it. Stage 5: Growth With enough healing, the capacity for growth expands. Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction and Episode Setup 01:15 Stages of Personal Development 02:17 Writing and Organizing the Book 03:14 Exploring Personal Development Stages 04:22 Personal Reflections and Experiences 05:35 The Concept of Loss of Self 15:12 The Role of Shame in Identity Formation 17:43 Brain Development and Stabilization 20:05 Journey to Sobriety and Stability 23:00 Introduction to Landmark Forum 23:46 First Awakening Experience 25:42 Stabilization and Further Programs 27:07 Bioenergetics Therapy Breakthrough 31:12 Struggles and Deep Sleep 32:23 Byron Katie's Impact 35:12 Meditation and Healing 38:05 Conclusion and Book Announcements 40:12 Stages of Personal Development ━━━━━━━━━ Links and Resources: • Bioenergetics by Alexander Lowen - https://www.lowenfoundation.org/what-is-bioenergetics • The Work of Byron Katie - https://thework.com/ • Landmark Worldwide - https://www.landmarkworldwide.com/ec/schedules • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/ • Bill Tierney Coaching - https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/ • Listening is the Key, Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Alcoholics Anonymous - https://www.aa.org/ • Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families - https://adultchildren.org/ • Codependents Anonymous - https://coda.org/ • Alanon - https://al-anon.org/ • Marty’s new book, Leadership as Relation - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, Listen Till you Disappear - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Awareness by Anthony DeMello - https://www.amazon.com/Awareness-Anthony-de-Mello-audiobook/dp/B07YMHHSYJ/