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Do you feel overwhelmed with your todo list? Is "creating fulfilling happiness" missing from that list? 

Everyday Happiness with Katie Jefcoat is here to help you. In 2-minutes a day, over time, you’ll discover how to reduce overwhelm and create lasting happiness through Katie’s signature method of Intentional Margins, happiness science, and musings about life. Start your day with a positive mindset. 

Many of us can get deep in the feeling of overwhelm. The anxiety of our own ambition can weigh heavily on our thoughts and emotions. We lay down and close our eyes at night and our chest begins to feel heavy. More items on the to-do list than the day before. How will we ever going to get off the hamster wheel of to-dos?  When are we going to start living life for more than the hustle?  

As a recovering lawyer and passion driven entrepreneur, Katie knew something had to change.  What she found is that you can have harmony, be intentionally productive and create massive impact, all at the same time - without feeling guilty.

So she asked herself a simple question: "How can I get off the hamster wheel and how can I show others how to do the same? She knew she'd had a system for herself, but she’d never put it into defining words.

On August 15, 2019, she sat down at her dining room table with her friend Jenna (her business bestie). Post-It notes covering the table.  This is where she first defined the concept of Intentional Margins.  

What are Intentional Margins?​

INTENTIONAL MARGINS™ (n): A buffer of space and time to create harmony between your to-do’s and your priorities.

Now you can get the support you need to manage your overwhelm, one little tip at a time.

Regardless of the industry, Everyday Happiness blends inspiration with a pragmatic approach to finding Harmony. You'll be encouraged to throw “balance” out the window for a more achievable approach called harmony. Through Intentional Margins™, you'll be encouraged to develop what harmony means to you, by identifying your priorities at work and at home. Every day, we'll end the podcast help you feel equipped to jump off the hamster wheel of overwhelm and go out there and crush your day.

--About the Host--

Katie Jefcoat is a community curator, speaker, author and motivator who supports ambitious women (and a few good men) move from feeling hectic to harmonious. As a recovering trial lawyer, she knows first hand what it feels like to have a demanding job. As an entrepreneur with a passion that lights her hair on fire and a busy family she’s in the thick of it with you.

Many people strive for balance and think overwhelm is just a part of life. Sadly, the hustle culture and our never-ending to-do list is creating a life where our priorities are getting the leftover scraps of time. Katie introduces people to what she calls - Intentional Margins™ - a kind of life in which they reduce randomness, create harmony between their to-dos and their priorities and intentionally enjoy the meaningful parts of life - without feeling guilty.

Without exposure to a different way, we remain stuck on the hamster wheel of to-dos and never find the “balance” we yearn for. Katie works diligently to expose her community to different ways of doing things, because she fundamentally believes we deserve to make time for our priorities. We deserve to live a life of harmony. And it’s within our control to create it.

Katie curates a smorgasbord of content related to managing your calendar, handling overwhelm, setting boundaries, reducing randomness, saying no, self-care, the power of your choices, and more in her Intentional Margins™ Membership Community -- which she calls the coziest virtual coffee shop (on Facebook). Connect and learn more at www.katiejefcoat.com.

Everyday Happiness - Finding Harmony and Bliss Katie Jefcoat

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Do you feel overwhelmed with your todo list? Is "creating fulfilling happiness" missing from that list? 

Everyday Happiness with Katie Jefcoat is here to help you. In 2-minutes a day, over time, you’ll discover how to reduce overwhelm and create lasting happiness through Katie’s signature method of Intentional Margins, happiness science, and musings about life. Start your day with a positive mindset. 

Many of us can get deep in the feeling of overwhelm. The anxiety of our own ambition can weigh heavily on our thoughts and emotions. We lay down and close our eyes at night and our chest begins to feel heavy. More items on the to-do list than the day before. How will we ever going to get off the hamster wheel of to-dos?  When are we going to start living life for more than the hustle?  

As a recovering lawyer and passion driven entrepreneur, Katie knew something had to change.  What she found is that you can have harmony, be intentionally productive and create massive impact, all at the same time - without feeling guilty.

So she asked herself a simple question: "How can I get off the hamster wheel and how can I show others how to do the same? She knew she'd had a system for herself, but she’d never put it into defining words.

On August 15, 2019, she sat down at her dining room table with her friend Jenna (her business bestie). Post-It notes covering the table.  This is where she first defined the concept of Intentional Margins.  

What are Intentional Margins?​

INTENTIONAL MARGINS™ (n): A buffer of space and time to create harmony between your to-do’s and your priorities.

Now you can get the support you need to manage your overwhelm, one little tip at a time.

Regardless of the industry, Everyday Happiness blends inspiration with a pragmatic approach to finding Harmony. You'll be encouraged to throw “balance” out the window for a more achievable approach called harmony. Through Intentional Margins™, you'll be encouraged to develop what harmony means to you, by identifying your priorities at work and at home. Every day, we'll end the podcast help you feel equipped to jump off the hamster wheel of overwhelm and go out there and crush your day.

--About the Host--

Katie Jefcoat is a community curator, speaker, author and motivator who supports ambitious women (and a few good men) move from feeling hectic to harmonious. As a recovering trial lawyer, she knows first hand what it feels like to have a demanding job. As an entrepreneur with a passion that lights her hair on fire and a busy family she’s in the thick of it with you.

Many people strive for balance and think overwhelm is just a part of life. Sadly, the hustle culture and our never-ending to-do list is creating a life where our priorities are getting the leftover scraps of time. Katie introduces people to what she calls - Intentional Margins™ - a kind of life in which they reduce randomness, create harmony between their to-dos and their priorities and intentionally enjoy the meaningful parts of life - without feeling guilty.

Without exposure to a different way, we remain stuck on the hamster wheel of to-dos and never find the “balance” we yearn for. Katie works diligently to expose her community to different ways of doing things, because she fundamentally believes we deserve to make time for our priorities. We deserve to live a life of harmony. And it’s within our control to create it.

Katie curates a smorgasbord of content related to managing your calendar, handling overwhelm, setting boundaries, reducing randomness, saying no, self-care, the power of your choices, and more in her Intentional Margins™ Membership Community -- which she calls the coziest virtual coffee shop (on Facebook). Connect and learn more at www.katiejefcoat.com.

    180-How Our Mind Hinders Our Happiness #3

    180-How Our Mind Hinders Our Happiness #3

    Our brains are super complex but sometimes the nuance gets lost when the wires cross between our conscious and subconscious, our prefrontal cortex and the limbic system. This is when we need to be super intentional and really think about why our intuition is telling us.  This series will dive into some of the ways, the biases, our brain gets it wrong so that we can be better prepared the next time we notice this happening.  


     


    One way is having wants (whether conscious or subconscious) based on social comparison,  which we discuss right now.  


     


    Transcript:


     


    Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2 minutes a day,  through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life. 


     


    I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I was listening to the Yale happiness course by Dr. Laurie Santos. 


     


    Yesterday we talked about reference points that were mostly internal.  I may make 30K a year and I want to make 50K, for example.  


     


    But today, we’re talking about reference points when it comes to social comparison.  Look, it’s everywhere, right?  Whether it’s on TV or on your street, social comparison is out there, and we are constantly using it as a reference point to determine our own happiness.  Some more than others. 


     


    There is a study, where they looked at office workers and they found that if you knew you earned less than the other peers you worked with, you would be less happy.  For no other reason.  You could buy the car, the house, the life you wanted.  But you were less satisfied with your job if you knew others were making more money than you.  


     


    This is a problem when we ask, what counts as a reasonable social comparison?  Is it Beyonce or Real Housewives of Beverly Hills?  Or is it the colleague with the similar background and work?  When we are scrolling Instagram, watching TV, glued to Tik Tok, we are watching all of these highlight reels with people with so much more means that us.  What this is doing, is messing up our intuition as to what “normal” is.   We start to think, to use as a reference point, that this wealth is normal and we start to feel really crappy about our own circumstances and our brain tricks ourselves into thinking more of this stuff will make us happier.  But that’s just not how this works.  


     


    The lesson is that we have to be intentional and check ourselves when it comes to who and why we use social comparison, because we are on auto-pilot doing it anyway, this is the opportunity to take a step back and be more mindful. 


     


    Until next time, we’d love for you to follow us over on Instagram @everydayhappinesswithkatie where we share quotes, episodes and have conversations with all of you. 


     


    The science mentioned in this episode can be reviewed at:  Solnick and Hemenway (1997). Is more always better?: A survey on positional concerns. Journal of Economic Behavior and Organization, 37, 373-383.


     


    Get Everyday Happiness delivered to your inbox by subscribing at: https://www.katiejefcoat.com/happiness


     


    And, let’s connect on social at @everydayhappinesswithkatie  and join the community on the hashtags #IntentionalMargins and #everydayhappinesswithkatie on Instagram


     


    Links:  https://onamission.bio/everydayhappiness/

    • 2 min
    179-How Our Mind Hinders Our Happiness #2

    179-How Our Mind Hinders Our Happiness #2

    Our brains are super complex but sometimes the nuance gets lost when the wires cross between our conscious and subconscious, our prefrontal cortex and the limbic system. This is when we need to be super intentional and really think about why our intuition is telling us.  This series will dive into some of the ways, the biases, our brain gets it wrong so that we can be better prepared the next time we notice this happening.  


     


    One way is relying on reference points as opposed to objective decisions, which we discuss right now.  


     


     


    Transcript:


     


    Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2 minutes a day,  through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life. 


     


    I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I was listening to the Yale happiness course by Dr. Laurie Santos and she was talking about how our minds don’t think in terms of absolutes, we are constantly judging everything by our own reference.  


     


    This is why the studies have results when someone making $30,000 a year is asked what would you need to be even happier and they say $50,000 but when you ask someone making $100,000 they say $250,000.  Our minds are judging what would make us happier by our surroundings - our reference points.  And quite frankly, 50,000 or even 75,000 might make us just as happy.   We already know that money doesn’t buy us happiness.  


     


    So we’re talking about a REFERENCE POINT as a salient point, (the most noticeable but often completely irrelevant) point against which all subsequent information is compared, because we're judging all the time. 


     


    So, in the scenario of salary, the reference point is what we used to make.  It’s not done in absolute objective terms. 


     


    One of the most famous examples of this is seen through the olympics.  We watch these sporting events and some athletes take the podium and some don’t.  So if I were to show you a photo of one of the greatest swimmers of all time, Michael Phelps on the podium with his gold medal, he would look happy.  But what’s interesting is the silver medalist looks less happy.  But he just won a medal at the olympics, which is a huge deal.  And then, if we turn to the bronze medalist, he looks as happy if not happier than the gold medalist.  But why?  It’s all relative.  


     


    The silver medalist sees a reference point of being so close to winning the gold medal but falling short.  And the bronze medalist sees a reference point of not making it on the podium at all and just being so darn happy to be there.  


     


    All of these athletes are experiencing a different salient reference point.  Our minds don’t think in terms of absolutes - it’s clouded by our salient reference points.  


     


    Researchers studied olympic athletes in exactly this scenario over and over and what they found was silver medalists were less happy than the bronze medalists over and over again.  


     


    Today, I invite you to consider your reference points when thinking about your wants. 


     


     


     


    The science mentioned in this episode can be reviewed at: Medvec et al. (1995). When less is more: Counterfactual thinking and satisfaction among Olympic medalists. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 69(4), 603–610.  


     


    Get Everyday Happiness delivered to your inbox by subscribing at: https://www.katiejefcoat.com/happiness


     


    And, let’s connect on social at @everydayhappinesswithkatie  and join the community on the hashtags #IntentionalMargins and #everydayhappinesswithkatie on Instagram


     


    Links:  https://onamission.bio/everydayhappiness/

    • 3 min
    178-How Our Mind Hinders Our Happiness #1

    178-How Our Mind Hinders Our Happiness #1

    Our brains are super complex but sometimes the nuance gets lost when the wires cross between our conscious and subconscious, our prefrontal cortex and the limbic system. This is when we need to be super intentional and really think about why our intuition is telling us.  This series will dive into some of the ways, the biases, our brain gets it wrong so that we can be better prepared the next time we notice this happening.  


     


    One way is miswanting, which we discuss right now.  


     


    Transcript:


     


    Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2 minutes a day,  through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life. 


     


    I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I was listening to the Yale happiness course by Dr. Laurie Santos and she was talking about how we can’t always trust our intuition, our mind when it comes to our own personal happiness, because our mind doesn’t get the nuance.  


     


    We’ve been talking about this idea that what we think we want for happiness won’t actually, scientifically, make us happier.  The best job, perfect body, winning the lottery won’t really change our happiness as much as we think it will.  We’re focusing on the wrong goals.  Check out episodes 170 and 171 for a little more high-level background on this concept of our intuition overestimating how happy we think we will become if we get that thing or achieve that goal.  


     


    In her lecture at Yale, professor Dr. Laurie Santos introduces the work of researchers and professors Tim Wilson at the University of Virginia, and Dan Gilbert at Harvard.  They coined this fantastic term called MISWANTING. The definition of this is “this act of being mistaken about what and how much you're going to like these things in the future”. The problem is that our brains deliver to us this idea that we want certain things, but we are often wrong about it. We are constantly miswanting.


     


    So why does this miswanting occur and what can we do about it?  Well, the researchers seem to think that just being aware of our biases is the way to counterbalance miswanting.  It can be as simple as wanting a doughnut.  I want a fried dough ball with a sugary frosting, it will taste good, and it will make me happy.  I eat the doughnut and although it tastes delightful at the moment, but now, I am no longer happier - the feeling didn’t last.  I miswanted.  


     


    This all comes down to the perils of us humans predicting our future feelings and people specifically mis-predict the duration of how good or bad a feeling will be.  


     


    So today, I invite you to think about miswanting in the context of your day-to-day and just be aware of when our brain plays these little tricks on us.  


     


    Until next time, smash that subscribe button and leave a review, we would be forever grateful.   


     


    Get Everyday Happiness delivered to your inbox by subscribing at: https://www.katiejefcoat.com/happiness


     


    And, let’s connect on social at @everydayhappinesswithkatie  and join the community on the hashtags #IntentionalMargins and #everydayhappinesswithkatie on Instagram


     


    Links:  https://onamission.bio/everydayhappiness/

    • 2 min
    177-Happy Thanksgiving In The United States

    177-Happy Thanksgiving In The United States

    Happy Thanksgiving.  The Everyday Happiness team is so very grateful for you.  Sharing our Thanksgiving plans. 


     


    Transcript:


     


    Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2 minutes a day,  through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life. 


     


    I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and Happy Thanksgiving here in the United States.  I wanted to take this moment, a day of gratitude to express my gratitude for you.  A day doesn’t go by that we don’t think of you, the listener and work toward over-delivering this micro-podcast.  


     


    Here in the US, today is a traditional day of thanks, of gratitude, of appreciation for what you have.  We typically have a big meal and often, we are with others, people we love.  


     


    This year, our family of four will be celebrating together with turkey and all the sides - my favorite part, playing board games, watching the Thanksgiving Day parade on TV and hopefully, staying in our jammies all day. 


     


    For us, today is a day to reflect on what we have and where we’ve come, and to be present (remember that’s something I’ve been working on this year) with one another without a lot of the typical distractions.  


     


    Wherever you are today, whether you celebrate Thanksgiving or today is just a regular day.  I wish for you gratitude and appreciation because the science is clear, it’s the gateway to happiness.  


     


    Until next time, know that I am sending out into the Universe my gratitude for you.  I hope you feel it. 


     


     


    Get Everyday Happiness delivered to your inbox by subscribing at: https://www.katiejefcoat.com/happiness


     


    And, let’s connect on social at @everydayhappinesswithkatie  and join the community on the hashtags #IntentionalMargins and #everydayhappinesswithkatie on Instagram


     


    Links:  https://onamission.bio/everydayhappiness/

    • 1 min
    176-Have You Checked The Air In Your Tires?

    176-Have You Checked The Air In Your Tires?

    I heard this saying the other day: Happiness is like a tire, you’ve got to keep pumping air into it.  Wow, that got me thinking.  So much of the science indicates that this happiness work is always a work in progress. How are we filling our tires?   


     


    Transcript:


     


    Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2 minutes a day,  through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life. 


     


    I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I heard this saying the other day, it was: 


     


    Happiness is like a tire, you’ve got to keep pumping air into it.  


     


    Wow, that got me thinking.  So much of the science indicates that this happiness work is always a work in progress.  We are never full without a little leakage.  Like a tie, we run on it for a while and air spills out.  And god forbid we hit a nail and need a patch.  


     


    This is so much like our happiness, our mindset.  We can be going along just fine and then, out of nowhere, we hit a rough patch.  Some patches are rougher than others. Some we can fix ourselves, some we need to go to the mechanic.  


     


    Ok, I might be taking this saying a little too far, but you get the picture.  We can’t assume that just because today is happy, tomorrow will be.  We can’t take for granted our happiness and what we’re learning through this podcast or other sources.  


     


    This takes work, some effort.  Our happiness doesn’t just fall into our lap.  But more importantly, it takes intention.  


     


    So today, I invite you, like putting air into a tire, to fill your cup.  Perhaps that’s an Intentional Margin to do something for you, that lights your hair on fire.  Maybe it’s to call a friend you enjoy, but haven’t found the time recently.  Perhaps it’s spending 10 minutes in meditation or reading.  One sure fire way is to express gratitude or sprinkle a little kindness to a stranger.  


     


    This happiness work, when done intentionally, really will change your life.  And that is super exciting.  Until next time. 


     


    Get Everyday Happiness delivered to your inbox by subscribing at: https://www.katiejefcoat.com/happiness


     


    And, let’s connect on social at @everydayhappinesswithkatie  and join the community on the hashtags #IntentionalMargins and #everydayhappinesswithkatie on Instagram


     


    Links:  https://onamission.bio/everydayhappiness/

    • 2 min
    175-Use Your Voice

    175-Use Your Voice

    The research indicates that using your voice is really important for a sense of social connection with another person.   


     


    Transcript:


     


    Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2 minutes a day,  through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life. 


     


    I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and the research indicates that using your voice is really important for a sense of social connection with another person. 


     


    So while I don’t think that devices, those smartphones, those mini-computers in our pockets are necessarily awful, they also don’t help us tailor a sense of social connection with others.  We’re always texting.  Right? 


     


    I’ve started adding voice text to my messages.  Whether that’s in the DMs or a text.  It’s not perfect, but if I can’t see the person, I want them to feel my voice.  


     


    This is so interesting because urban planners are always talking about green space and playgrounds and bringing people together.  Well, when people are together, they have an opportunity to use their voice and make social connections - even with strangers.  


     


    In fact, just this morning.  I was in my home office and noticed a county truck and county worker jump out and look at my grass, by the sidewalk.  Since earlier in the week, there were county trucks on my street looking for a water leak - I thought I would ask this guy what’s up.  


     


    I walked outside, coffee cup in hand, and just simply asked if I could help him? He told me he was just changing the meter caps on all the water meters in my neighborhood.  I told him that I was so happy to hear that since earlier in the week the crew was out on my street looking for a water leak.  We both laughed and agreed this was the guy I wanted to see first thing in the morning, and not the other crew.  It was a 2 minute encounter, but I turned around and I had a smile on my face, it was nice, it felt good.  I quickly peered through the window of my office and the worker also had a smile on his face.  There was nothing to the conversation, just being nice and I felt that tingle of happiness.  It felt good. 


     


    I invite you to use your voice for good.  For kindness.  For gratitude.  And come back to use and let us know how it makes you feel.  You can always reach us at @everydayhappinesswithkatie on social.  You can get this podcast delivered to your inbox and reply to those messages as well.  I read every single one. 


     


     


    Get Everyday Happiness delivered to your inbox by subscribing at: https://www.katiejefcoat.com/happiness


     


    And, let’s connect on social at @everydayhappinesswithkatie  and join the community on the hashtags #IntentionalMargins and #everydayhappinesswithkatie on Instagram


     


    Links:  https://onamission.bio/everydayhappiness/

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Spend just 2 minutes kickstarting your day with this podcast and it will be a game changer. Katie is smart, fun and a wealth of knowledge when it comes to happiness. She truly bring happiness to my life everyday.

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