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Rebooting the show
Update on what’s been happening during the hiatus
Explaining the new format
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What Are Values?
“a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life” - Google Dictionary
We use our values to make judgements, particularly judgements of good and bad or right and wrong
Chase’s perspective on values
Personal constitution or bill of rights
Values (In Combination with Morals and Ethics) form a personal doctrine by which to live
Affects all decisions in Life
Much like Laws, can be changed but it is a difficult process
Where Do Our Values Come From?
Parents
Peers
Friends
Relationship partners
Society
Society at large
Subcultures we participate in
Types of Values
Fear-based values
Values based on fear are those that cause you to take action in order to avoid something
Think “have to”
Common fear-based values
Safety / Security
Absence of pain
Avoidance of conflict/confrontation
Physical appearance
Power/Control
Privacy
Religousity (fear of hell)
Recognition / Respect
Knowledge (based in fear of the unknown)
Consciousness-based values
What do we mean by consciousness?
Consciousness is your awareness of who you *really* are, as opposed to the “you” that you believe yourself to be, or the you that you were taught you were supposed to be
Consciousness-based values are those that cause you to take action to bring something desirable into your world
Think “want to”
Common consciousness-based values:
Pleasure/sensuality (as opposed to absence of pain)
Freedom (as opposed to security)
“Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety.” - Ben Franklin
Achievement
Vs recognition (internal to self)
Leadership
Vs. control/management
(lead self before leading others)
Adventure/novelty
Autonomy
Spirituality (vs. religiousity, internal/external)
Chase Wolf: Notes on his experiences growing up in a religious household and finding spirituality outside of that setting.
Personal growth
Intimacy (vs privacy)
Community
A metavalue; valuing others who share your values
Important to know what your values are and what those of your community are to know whether it’s a good fit
If a conflict in values are present:
Accept paying the “price of admission” to be part of the community and tolerate the difference
Examine your values, and decide whether yours should change
Choose not to be a part of the community, and find a community that is a better fit for you
Chase Wolf: Notes on changes in the Gamer Community values and the impacts thereof.
Self-expression
Fulfillment
Truth
Justice
Knowledge (based in curiosity, as opposed to fear of the unknown)
Chase Wolf: Notes on his curiosity in understanding the ABDL/Baby-Fur community allowing a shift in opinion
Having fear-based values is not necessarily a bad thing, but as a general rule, happier people tend to hold more consciousness-based values than fear-based values
Chase Wolf: Often, fear-based values are those instilled in us by friends, family, and society.
Choosing Your Values
Think of each new moment as a fresh opportunity to decide who you want to be; the greatest freedom is the freedom of choice
“It is better to follow the voice inside and be at war with the whole world, than to follow the ways of the world and be at war with your deepest self” - Counselor and educator Michael Pastore
What are your values?
What situations or conflicts make you highly emotional, either positively or negatively?
Think about what value was respected in the situations that made you feel positively
Think about what value was not respected in the situations that made you feel negatively
Empowering questions to ask yourself:
What am I unwilling to tolerate?
What am I unwilling to give up?
What recharges my batteries?
What really makes me feel excited?
What experiences or activities have the most meaning for me?
Why do I “need” the things I tell myself I need?
When do I compromise my values? Why?
What keeps me going when times get tough?
Where is there a gap between who I am and who I really know myself to be?
Why choose new values?
When different values conflict with one another
Reconciling values with a relationship partner or a community
When acting according to a certain value just doesn’t feel right
When you realize a value is coming from outside, and isn’t something you really care about
When a particular value is constantly transgressed, to the point that it is draining your energy and emotional bandwidth
When failing to live up to a value is causing you great deals of shame, guilt, anger, anxiety, or fear
How Chase changed his values to serve him better
How changes in Chase’s values allowed him to overcome issues in his life
Values Assessment Tool
https://www.dropbox.com/s/qg8hegtswsullwk/Values%20Assessment.doc?dl=0
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Joel Kreissman is a published author of anthropomorphic science-fiction in his Para-Imperium universe. His first novel, The Pride of Parahumans, was published with Thurston Howl publications in 2017 and he has more free stories on his blog at https://paraimperium.wordpress.com/
Información
- Programa
- Publicado1 de agosto de 2018, 17:19 UTC
- Duración1 h y 38 min
- Temporada4
- Episodio105
- ClasificaciónExplícito