Healthy Mom After Divorce Podcast Sheryl Murphy

True or False: Once she leaves the relationship, the abuse will stop.If you've been following me for a while, you probably know the answer to this one. It's, of course, 100% false. But unfortunately, a lot of people think this way when it comes to abusive relationships (I was one of those people too).Yes, leaving an abusive relationship is an important step but there are many other steps that come both before and after that. One of them is understanding the kind of post-separation abuse you a...

You've just started dating someone and you're smitten.Long conversations, extravagant dates, over-the-top gestures, expensive gifts, constant 'checking in', talks of moving in together after only a few weeks... Could be a true connection with a potential life partner. Or, it could be a predator using love bombing tactics as a trap.So how do you know which one it is? On this week's episode I have 3 ways to help you tell. Take a listen and if you like what you hear, please share with...

Communication. This topic might be the #1 thing I'm asked about by clients as a high-conflict divorce coach. And as I dig deeper on the things that clients find the most challenging when it comes to communication, it all seems to break down into two main goals: (1) decreasing their reactivity to toxic communication from their co-parent and (2) learning how to craft effective communication that doesn't contribute to the conflict. Achieving these goals is relatively straight forward altho...

I had someone ask me a while back, ‘Sheryl, if you knew what you know now, would you still have gone through your divorce?’I’ve been asked many versions of this question before, but I liked this one because it got me thinking about what I’ve learned. And when I learn stuff, I love sharing it with you.When I reflected on the question, this is what I concluded: despite all the challenges (and there are many), my answer was an unequivocal yes. That said, if I had to do it all over again, there a...