fiving: an enneagram 5 in progress

Monica Bahan
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  • MENTAL HEALTH

My name is Monica, and in the enneagram of personality I’m a self-preservation 5w4. Long story short: I tend to self-sabotage by avoiding vulnerability, observing rather than participating, doubting my knowledge, overanalyzing, minimizing my needs, over-focusing on details, and being stubbornly independent. But I'm tired of getting in my own way. So here I am, opening myself up, taking risks, and sharing reflections and wisdom along the way. With plenty of mixed metaphors and minimal editing—by design and out of necessity.

  1. 01/12/2024

    28. Info binges and social needs

    I’m chewing on this question: Are all “information binges” attempts to get social needs met? Reflecting on my most recent period of deep receptivity and the fragments of community I found within it. Use what moves you, let go of the rest. And let me know what resonates.   ✨ Instagram: @un.fiving   unfiving@gmail.com ✨ Music by Sleeping At Last

    47 min

  2. 09/22/2023

    27. Dating advice for Fives (part 3)

    Learn to recognize the stories that carry fear and keep you from risking close relationships. Reach past them into spirit—toward your highest values and the most expansive and free evolution of yourself. Cultivate your strength and connection to intuition by spending time with your points of power—they could be houseplants, trees, mountains, rivers, or an archetypal guide. The natural world has so much love for you. All you have to do is notice it. ⚡️

    29 min

  3. 08/09/2023

    26. Dating advice for Fives (part 2)

    “You’re gorgeous! And you deserve a relationship that allows you to be gorgeous in the way that only you are and to share your gifts that only you have to give. Anything short of that is short of that.” A continuation of the previous episode, with more detail, exploration, practices for real growth and healing, and answers to listener questions. Let me know what you think! 💗 * Instagram: @un.fiving * unfiving@gmail.com * or write a review wherever you listen Music by Sleeping at Last ✨

    1h 8m

  4. 07/12/2023

    25. Dating advice for Fives (part 1)

    This one is all about the first stage of dating: preparing. If you want your dating life to look different or bring a different outcome, take a pause and reorient. I give you a few tips and starting places in this episode, including: - Let your mind know what you’re doing and get its support - Get clear on your what and your why - Make your Mary Poppins list (inspiration: https://youtu.be/fNTzp9grp2Q) - Give your mind work: investigate old patterns, outdated and subconscious operating instructions that have been landing you in not-ideal relationships, research dating apps or other ways of meeting people - Recruit trusted others - Recruit spirit 🔥 Bonus tidbit: Learn to differentiate between attractions from your wound and attractions from essence. Not just in romance, but in attraction of all kinds. When you feel yourself drawn to someone or something, ask yourself if the pull is from your wound (wanting to go back in and try for a different outcome), or from a connection of love, trust, and oneness. If you don’t know, commit to just asking the question. Answers will eventually come, and your life will open up in big ways. 💗 This is the first in a series about relationships: romantic, friendships, and others. If you have specific comments, requests, or questions about relating as a Five, send them my way! Find me on Instagram @un.fiving, send an audio message in Spotify, or email me at unfiving@gmail.com. Music by Sleeping At Last

    1h 10m

  5. 06/13/2023

    24. Shift happens

    Announcing a shift: I’m adjusting my focus so that my primary goal is delivering helpful tips, wisdom, reflections, and guidance to help you as you journey along in your Fiveness or search for more insight into Enneagram Fives. I’ll include specific and sometimes personal examples or stories to support that, and still share some personal updates, but I hope to bring a bit of a different energy and focus going forward. That also includes hearing more from YOU, my dear listeners! Reach out! Say hello! Tell me what you want me to talk about, or what you want more clarity around. Share your personal struggles or puzzlements or questions as you live your life as a Five or dig into the Enneagram system itself. Tell me what you think of the podcast. Leave a rating or review. Send me a voice memo by email or through Spotify! I might even give you a shout out or feature you on the podcast. ⚡️ unfiving@gmail.com Instagram: @un.fiving Send voice messages to me through Spotify: https://anchor.fm/monicabahan/message 💗 Music by Sleeping At Last

    26 min

  6. 04/12/2023

    23. Sometimes clutter is trauma

    Mentions: Euphoria, Harry Potter, Rick Hanson, Tara Brach

    50 min

  7. 03/04/2023

    22. Ebb and flow

    Reflections on breaking norms, hormone surges, right timing, shifting between stability and upheaval, navigating by starlight, the hard work of embodying intentions, and probably a few other things I’m forgetting right now.

    47 min
  8. 21. Decluttering, inside and out

    02/08/2023

    21. Decluttering, inside and out

    More rambling reflections from this spiral of personal evolution. 💗 Instagram: @un.fiving Music by Sleeping at Last

    36 min
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My name is Monica, and in the enneagram of personality I’m a self-preservation 5w4. Long story short: I tend to self-sabotage by avoiding vulnerability, observing rather than participating, doubting my knowledge, overanalyzing, minimizing my needs, over-focusing on details, and being stubbornly independent. But I'm tired of getting in my own way. So here I am, opening myself up, taking risks, and sharing reflections and wisdom along the way. With plenty of mixed metaphors and minimal editing—by design and out of necessity.

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