8 episodes

When Kristen Finch diagnosed her husband Dave with Asperger syndrome, an autism spectrum condition, everything in their marriage changed - for the better. Based on Dave's New York Times bestselling memoir, "The Journal of Best Practices," HAPPY NOW is a podcast filled with insights and wisdom for anyone in a neurodiverse relationship. (And, really, aren't we all?)

Happy Now: Autism, Marriage, and The Journal of Best Practices Happy Now

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.5 • 13 Ratings

When Kristen Finch diagnosed her husband Dave with Asperger syndrome, an autism spectrum condition, everything in their marriage changed - for the better. Based on Dave's New York Times bestselling memoir, "The Journal of Best Practices," HAPPY NOW is a podcast filled with insights and wisdom for anyone in a neurodiverse relationship. (And, really, aren't we all?)

    Laundry… / Chapter 5

    Laundry… / Chapter 5

    Kristen and Dave talk about correcting their long-time imbalance in household responsibilities. Kristen points out that Dave tends to complicate even the simplest of chores. For more, send your questions to questions@happynowpodcast.com or tap the links below.
     
    Tap here to join Opposite AF, the online short course for neurodiverse couples.
    Get Dave’s bestselling book, The Journal of Best Practices, so you can follow along.
    Listen to Calm AF, Kristen’s weekly coaching podcast.
    Listen to Dave: The Relationships Podcast Hosted by an Idiot.

    • 46 min
    Just Listen / Chapter 4

    Just Listen / Chapter 4

    Kristen and Dave talk about the Best Practice of listening  – specifically, listening to understand – and how this works hand-in-hand with empathy. For more, send your questions to questions@happynowpodcast.com or tap the links below.
     
    Tap here to join Opposite AF, the online short course for neurodiverse couples.
    Get Dave’s bestselling book, The Journal of Best Practices, so you can follow along.
    Listen to Calm AF, Kristen’s weekly coaching podcast.
    Listen to Dave: The Relationships Podcast Hosted by an Idiot.

    • 1 hr 2 min
    Get Inside Her Girl World / Chapter 3

    Get Inside Her Girl World / Chapter 3

    Dave proposes changing this week’s Best Practice to “Respect her girl world and get inside by invitation only.” For more, send your questions to questions@happynowpodcast.com or tap the links below.
     
    Tap here to join Opposite AF, the online short course for neurodiverse couples.
    Get Dave’s bestselling book, The Journal of Best Practices, so you can follow along.
    Listen to Calm AF, Kristen’s weekly coaching podcast.
    Listen to Dave: The Relationships Podcast Hosted by an Idiot.

    • 1 hr 5 min
    Use Your Words / Chapter 2, Part Two

    Use Your Words / Chapter 2, Part Two

    Kristen and Dave talk about Dave’s “life-changing” communication strategy -- emulating Howard Stern, David Letterman, Regis Philbin, and others -- and whether it was actually a good thing. For more, send your questions to questions@happynowpodcast.com or tap the links below.
     
    Tap here to join Opposite AF, the online short course for neurodiverse couples.
    Get Dave’s bestselling book, The Journal of Best Practices, so you can follow along.
    Listen to Calm AF, Kristen’s weekly coaching podcast.
    Listen to Dave: The Relationships Podcast Hosted by an Idiot.
    Listen to Uniquely Human: The Podcast with Dr. Barry Prizant and Dave.

    • 51 min
    Use Your Words / Chapter 2, Part One

    Use Your Words / Chapter 2, Part One

    Kristen and Dave get into an argument when Dave uses his words. To go deeper, send your questions to questions@happynowpodcast.com or tap the links below.
     
    Tap here to join Opposite AF, the online short course for neurodiverse couples.
     
    Get Dave’s bestselling book, The Journal of Best Practices, so you can follow along.

    • 1 hr 8 min
    Be Her Friend, First and Always / Chapter 1

    Be Her Friend, First and Always / Chapter 1

    Kristen and Dave share how they started as friends, became a couple, and ultimately returned to friendship in their marriage. Dave says "marital setting" weird. To go deeper, send your questions to questions@happynowpodcast.com or tap the links below.
     
    Tap here to join Opposite AF, the online short course for neurodiverse couples.
    Get Dave’s bestselling book, The Journal of Best Practices, so you can follow along.

    • 1 hr 13 min

Customer Reviews

4.5 out of 5
13 Ratings

13 Ratings

Carlynbeth ,

So great!

I loved Dave’s book and I love Kristen podcast and I have loved these discussions! I'm in a ND marriage and y'all are so relatable! Please keep it up!!!

davesbu ,

I love these guys

When I was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder in 2019, Dave’s book was on the recommended reading list in my diagnosis. After all the years after diagnosis, these two are still my favorite on autism because a kit of the autism content out there in podcast form is super depressing and disregulating. But these guys treat it not as a disorder that is going to be debilitating but as something that can be framed as a difference. And they're really positive and funny about it and treat it as something that makes Dave who he is, and how that is fun. And the autism spectrum disorder isn't a disorder but a difference. If you're in a neurotypical/neurodivergent relationship this should be required listening.

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