A Good Relationship Between Adult Children And Parents
Keziah Gutierrez: And I also knew in the back of my mind that my dad is getting older, my mom is getting older. McGill Onate: Once that kind of clicked to me, I was like they know so much more why am I trying to do everything myself? Hannah Limon: I’m strong now because of you two. Katrina Nicole Espiritu: Wait, I'm not crying. I'm just— Taylor Joy Lagpacan: Why am I getting so emotional right now?! [Show intro] Kez: Welcome to the Heart and Soul podcast, where we have honest conversations that nurture our souls. Today we're talking about relationships with our parents as adults. As we enter adulthood, entering college or getting a first job, first apartment, our first bills, we begin to build a life for our own one that becomes a blueprint of how our lives should be. We decide who we spend our time with and what we spend our time on. But the question is, as an adult, what about our relationship with our parents? So let's talk about it. I'm Kez G, your host for today's episode. Let's have a Heart and Soul conversation. [Music] Kez: I am also joined by my co-hosts today from all over the world. McGill, from Canada, Katrina from the Philippines, Hannah from California, and Taylor from San Diego. Co-Hosts: Hello. Hi. Kez: And of course, we'd like to welcome Brother Donald Pinnock, a Minister of the Gospel in the Church Of Christ. Hello, Brother Donald! Brother Donald Pinnock: Hi. This is going to be a very, very interesting and insightful conversation for sure. Kez: So today we're talking about our parents, our relationship with our parents. Especially now as we're all living in our 20s. We're all 20 years old and above, and all of us, all your co-hosts are in different stages. And, you know, in movies, once you graduate high school, we hear about, or the movies show people our age packing our things, moving out to colleges or leaving the nest and then going out there in the world and doing our own thing. So here's a question I'd like to ask us to start us off: Thinking about your own relationship with your parents, how involved are your parents in the decisions that you make as a young adult? I'm actually going to start off with Taylor, how [is] your relationship with your parents? And when you started, you know, start making your own decisions? you know, buying your first car and everything. How involved were they? Taylor: Very involved is the quick answer. I would…I feel like it's safe to say that my parents have been very involved with my decisions, you know, forever, my entire life. And, you know, I feel like I've just continued as I grew into adulthood. But right now, at this point in my life, you know, I'm working, I'm trying to become more financially stable on my own. And at this point, I feel like my parents are definitely not as involved as they were, let's say 2 or 3 years ago, but they are still involved in the sense that they ask me, every now and then, like how I'm doing with work, how I'm doing in terms of reaching my financial goals, other goals in my life. So, they're still very involved in the sense that they show me that they're still interested in what's going on in my life, but they're not going to pry for answers from me. Kez: I'm similar as well. They just ask me how I'm going with my adult life. When I was younger, I would ask, you know, can I, can we eat out at a restaurant and my mom would say, you have food at home and now as an adult. I mean, the other day I was pretty much driving back home from work, and I saw, like, a fast food joint, and I'm like, I'm kind of hungry right now. Like, you know,
