How To Be Awesome At Everything

Lindsay Dickhout
How To Be Awesome At Everything

The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.

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    311. How To Be Awesome At Leveling Up Your Life With Four No’s

    Here’s how it works.  Every Sunday when you are planning out your week, you decide on what your four no’s will be.  These are things that you just won’t do.  It works so well because it’s not making this big list of things you have to do - like go to the gym for an hour a day, set aside time and a quiet space to meditate- while I love all things like that too- what we are talking about today is so much easier because it doesn’t require more time or energy. It just requires discipline and self control to not to the thing.  Here are examples…  Maybe you had the worst hangover last week - and it’s happened a lot lately and you’re over it - so one of your Nos would be… NO more than 2 drinks in a night.  Other examples…  No scrolling social media in bed  No eating past 7pm  No hitting the snooze button  All things that make you better- make you feel better, more productive, healthier.  I’m sharing my current four No’s and lots of examples to get you thinking about how you can set-up these rules in your life to help you get to exactly where you want to be.  Without doing anything at all, you just have to set limits and say no to things.  Why 4? 5 is too many and 3 is too few  My current ones: No distracted communication  No phone or social media or scrolling before bed or when I wake up  No food past 7 No eating at the fridge  Examples  No raising my voice  No fast food  No negative self talk  No negative talk about others  No refined sugars or starches  No checking emails constantly  No skipping breakfast  No clutter  No processed foods  No sitting for more than 2 hours at at a time  No eating in the car  No more than 2 cups of caffeine  No multitasking  No overcommitting  Here is a link to my 2.0 Habits System that I talk about:  https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse Here’s how you figure out what yours are…  Just ask yourself, what would make your days better?  What would get you going to your goals faster?  It works in all buckets of life.  If you are distracted and not getting enough done, set limits there.   Many of my current issues are around food and eating right now.  But then those will regulate and they will be about other things.  The key is - making a promise to yourself that you will stick to it. And every time you do, its like a vote for the person you want to be.  It’s deep self confidence that nobody knows about, but you do.  You become a person that does what you tell yourself you are going to do.  It gives you strength in all areas of life.  When we let our emotions dictate our actions -  We have to be consistent to see change and this sets us up for that.  Emotions are changing and inconsistent.  So by setting up these nos - you creating consistency even when you’re emotions aren’t. Most people are going through life on auto pilot. If they are annoyed by something or feel a negative emotion or don’t feel 100%, they use it as an excuse to not stick to their standards.  They make bad choices and don’t do things that align with their goals and priorities.  Because it feels good now- but feel even worse later.   Now I over drank AND I broke a promise to myself.  Your emotions can’t determine your actions if you want to be extra ordinary.  We know that for sure.  Doing things this way, you choose what you know is right for you, regardless of how the day is going.  It helps you do what you need to do, even when you don’t feel like it. I tell myself, this isn’t hard… I don’t have to actually DO anything.  I can certainly just not do this thing. I’m all about FREEDOM and the crazy part is - freedom comes from discipline and structure.  And it helps us raise our standards for ourselves. These NOs become our standards.  And we keep these standards even when we’re tired or in a bad mood or whatever it is.  Set standards that make you proud of yourself using this system and accept nothing less.  As you move through the weeks, you’ll find that some of your 4 NOs become automatic and you replace them with 4 new Nos.  Things you decide you will not do, because you have this high standard of yourself. You just won’t break the promise to yourself.  And now you have this whole new set of standards that you have for yourself.  CHEERS!!  To designing your NOs to level up your standards and your life!

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    309. How To Be Awesome When Someone Says Something Hurtful

    I just learned these two BEST strategies for responding when    Notice I said respond not react because we know the longer we can space out the action or comment and our reaction the more control we have.    These two strategies will teach you HOW TO RESPOND when someone belittles you or says something disrespectful.    And then best part is, you leave the situation having handled it with confidence and control - and you haven’t lowered your standards for yourself - like the other person likely did.    These are skills that you have to think about BEFORE you’re in the situation so when the situation happens, you’re ready!!      I learned these 2 strategies from Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and an expert on communication. Have them repeat it  Ask them if this is their intention with this  When someone is belittling to you or says something hurtful- make them repeat it. They are trying to get a reaction out of you.  When you ask them to repeat it - they don’t get that reaction/ that response time.  It takes the fire out of it and flips it on them.  They don’t want to say it again - the spotlight is on them!   THEN ask question of intent. Did you say that to hurt me? Puts a mirror on them.   You don’t have to respond or react at all!!!  It handles it!!  You don’t have to figure out how to respond to something you dont want to respond to.    Did you say that to offend me? Usually it’s no no no I didn’t mean to!!  I’m just kidding - you don’t need to be so sensitive etc.   You’re not going to believe how good this is!!!    Two skills that you have to think about BEFORE you’re in the situation so when the situation happens, you’re ready!!    Listen - some of these comments could come from good people with good intentions.  But it doesn’t always translate this way.  It’s your job to respond in a confident way without it rattling you or making you depressed.   Because we know people opinions have so much more to do with them, than us.    And know!!! Don’t lower your standard of yourself because someone else lowered their standard of themselves.   Next time this happens to you, you’ll be ready to handle it in the most awesome way possible!

    21 мин.
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    308. An Awesome Holiday Episode On Perspective

    Today, we’re just going to jam on gratitude and perspective and how the way we frame things is the way we see them.  I’m sharing what I think are the most valuable insights and thoughts I have in this season of life.  Things I’ve learned from my reading a book a week every week and just being a student of life.  Having conversations with all different types of people and perspectives and with different experiences.  This is a fun one with lots of different ideas for you think about and maybe insert your life and routine.  I loveeee reading a book a week  I’ve replaced social media with reading/audio books  Only on social during mellow movement - breaking the cycle of social media early morning and in evenings and in any free minutes.  I have a plan and stick to it instead.  I’m prioritizing stretching with weights for longevity  I 100% believe that aging is mostly neglect not an avoidable part of life  I’m going PRO at sleeping and bedtime routine - setting a plan and being strict with it  And when something seems hard- becoming a PRO at it - starting something or solving something.  Monotasking - do one thing until it’s totally done  Using social media strategically and not passively  Purge.  Have less and know where it all is.  Plus life is so much more calm. Spending money very intentionally.  For me it’s mostly longevity and nutrition. I also like being put together and have nice things to wear but that’s way more Zara these days than designer.  Have a set plan for the day before it gets going.  If you don’t have a plan, your day will run you.  Start in control and stick to the plan.  Don’t let emotion stray you.  Sending love to you and yours this holiday season and beyond!

    29 мин.
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    307. How To Be Awesome At Creating A Special Connection With Each Child

    Whether you have one kid or 5 kids or you don’t have kids but plan to one day… this podcast episode is filled with ideas for you to really connect with each child - starting at any age.    Life is busy and the months go by quickly.  I’ve learned just how important it is to slow down and be mindful of the relationship and connection that you have with each child and how it changes as they get older.   My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas of ways to really connect and stay connected with your child.  Ideas that will really get you thinking about how you can insert the best ideas for you, into your daily lives.    I believe so much that an extra ordinary life comes largely from taking ordinary moments and making them extra ordinary and this episode is filled with so many ways to do just that with your babies.    **Lots of ideas…  1:1 time consistently  Leave out something to do together (book or football etc) Do what they are interested in  Ask questions that are open ended and curious  Show your love in the way that resonates most with them  Celebrate tiny wins- things you wouldn’t normally celebrate  Learn a new skill together  Share a hobby  Create traditions with each child (ex: Sunday am pancakes)  Work together on a charity project  Frame pictures of them that represent special accomplishments or moments  Projects that live on like a time capsule (digital or actual)  Dream day together - make a list, look forward to it, do all of the things on the list  Plan dream playdate together for their friends  Plan their birthday parties together  Start a small business, podcast or blog together  Go on walks after dinner - low pressure environment  Make a seasonal bucket list (summer bucket list to go zip lining etc)  LAUGH!  Plan vacations / adventures      **With each kid have a… TRADITION once a week or once a year   SONG that is theirs/yours THING that is yours (star, magic, champion etc) OUTING to look forward to   **Things to avoid…  Always solving everything for them  Dividing your time with technology  Be curious and not judgmental  Allow them space to fully be who they are      **How we can use what we know about habits to make this all happen!  Anchor to exiting (after brushing your teeth..) Start tiny - 2 minutes of something  Focus on behavior, not outcomes  Be flexible - helps you be consistent  Change your physical space  Just start- build on small wins - momentum  Focus on doing, not perfection      CHEERS to having the most awesome connections with your awesome kids!

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    306. How To Be Awesome At Turning The Worst Thing Into The Best Thing

    Every year around my birthday I’m like, ok, what’s the secret unlock at this age?  Like what have I learned and what I am doing that makes the biggest difference in my life? This year, that skill that I’ve unlocked in myself this ability to turn what feels like the worst thing, into the best thing. In a very practical and realistic way. So aside from anything really really sad in life, this strategy allows you to get out of thinking and saying how much this sucks or is unfair or is the worst thing that could happen.  And flipping it to- how could this become the best thing? I’m going to fully explain it because once you set yourself up like this - it’s crazy how you can see the same situations completely differently. It’s saying to yourself, this sucks, and it’s not at all what I wanted.  But, how could it actually be the best thing? You have to listen to this full episode - it’s 20 minutes or so that will change the way you react when things go sideways. Things that are awful - like getting fired or someone breaking up with you or you don’t get the promotion or don’t get into the college or high school that you wanted.  You sprain your ankle and can’t workout for 3 months and it’s your favorite thing.. This is what we know for sure… Bad things happen. People dont know how to cope. And they allow one bad thing to snowball into more. THIS IS THE UNLOCK! Bad things suck. The only thing worse is letting one bad thing ruin many good things. One bad thing happens and the way you operate afterwards is what more bad things happen. Because really… things aren’t good or bad- they just are. It's becoming anti fragile as we go. People often dont know how to cope with bad stuff. Thats how you end up with this weird spiral with more bad things happening. People dont know how to manage their emotions so they just react. The more I try to create space between how I feel and what I do, the more I've been able to control my outcomes in situations. It’s a superpower, I’m telling you.  The next time something in your life sucks, ask yourself, how can this actually be the best thing ever?

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    304. How To Be Awesome At Making Honesty Your Superpower

    It may sound obvious, but honest, like real saying what you think,   I’m obsessed with being honest and direct because it does so much for you.    If you need to tell someone how you really feel or cancel on some thing or decline an invitation, be honest. Be kind and considerate and compassionate and have empathy… all those things. But just be honest.    Even if it stings for a second people will respect your honesty and It’s hard to be mad at the truth.   Honesty is a superpower because it allows you to go to sleep without crumbs!  You sleep well knowing you don’t have little stories to make sure you keep up with or the pressure of doing something that you really don’t want to do because you weren’t honest from the beginning.    Oh my gosh how much less complicated things are when you are direct and honest.  Rather than calling a friend or thinking about something for days- you know how you feel - be direct and honest and move on to the next.  Most things aren’t actually as big of a deal as we make them out to be.    You don’t have little white lies to keep track of, and you don’t hold on to the burden of things.  Think about how much more effective it is to talk to someone directly about something that is bothering you rather than not talk to them and talk to other people who can’t do anything about it and it just makes the problem bigger and stirs up complication. Often times, when you go straight to the source and you are honest, you can clear up miscommunications really quickly.   Being honest doesn’t mean just saying the first thing that comes to mind and bulldozing other peoples feelings. To me it’s completely the opposite.    When I think about what’s the best solution or the best way to handle a situation, it’s simple. Just be honest.  If someone asked me to invest in a company, and it’s not a good fit, I tell them that rather than making up an excuse, that’s not true          Examples!    At work! Direct approach: “Your report had a lot of valuable information, but the formatting and structure made it difficult to follow. We need it to be more organized to ensure clarity.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see how much effort you put into this report, and that’s really appreciated. I know making adjustments might feel like extra work, but a clearer structure will help showcase the quality of your insights even more.”     With kids! Direct approach: “You can’t stay up past your bedtime. It’s not allowed.” With empathy and compassion: “I know you really want to stay up longer and finish your game, but you need rest to feel good tomorrow. Let’s set a time to finish it tomorrow after you’ve slept well.”   Direct approach: “You didn’t clean your room, so you can’t go to the party.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see that cleaning your room wasn’t fun or easy, but it’s important to follow through on your responsibilities. Since you didn’t finish, you won’t be able to go to the party today, but we can plan something fun when you finish it later.”   Direct approach: “You hit your brother, and that’s not acceptable.” With empathy and compassion: “I saw you hit your brother, and that’s not okay. I understand you were upset, but hurting others is not how we solve problems. Let’s talk about why you were angry, and we can figure out better ways to handle those feelings next time.” With spouse!    Direct approach: “I don’t feel like you’re meeting my emotional needs.” With empathy and compassion: “Lately, I’ve been feeling like I need more emotional connection between us. I know we’ve both been busy, but I really miss the deeper conversations we used to have. Can we find some time to reconnect and share more with each other?”   Direct approach: “You’re not doing your share of the housework.” With empathy and compas

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The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.

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