How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!

  1. Bummed About NO Good Matches on the Apps? These 15 Quick Fixes Will Turn Your Profile into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Zach)

    1 DAY AGO

    Bummed About NO Good Matches on the Apps? These 15 Quick Fixes Will Turn Your Profile into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Zach)

    It’s Christmas, and Santa Connell has a gift for you: Matches galore on the dating apps! Because endless swiping and ZERO matches makes you say, “ho, ho, NO!” It’s getting old, right? In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Zach fix the same issues that frustrate you. Zach—a personal trainer and 40-year-old single dad—learns 15 proven online-dating moves to turn his phone into a date-generating machine. And hey, the more good matches you have, the sooner you can attract a wonderful girlfriend who loves you for you. Here are some of the strategies Connell shares with Zach. You’re about to learn: 6:41: How to Maximize Online-Dating Success with Minimal Effort (15 Minutes Daily!) 8:49: Why Being a Single Dad is a Feature, Not a Flaw—and How to Talk about it On Your Profile 14:35: Connell Crafts a Clever, Authentic “DILF” Prompt for Zach that Women Will Love 17:49: The 3 Photos Every Man MUST Have on his Hinge, Bumble or Tinder Profile 21:08: The Secret to Writing Funny Prompts that Make Her Message YOU First 23:18: Boosting your Profile: When, Why and How to Do It 27:07: From Matching to Texting to Getting the First Date, in 3 Simple Steps 30:04: How to use Video Clips to Skyrocket Your Matches 32:15: The 5 Big Profile Mistakes You Didn’t Know You Were Making 55:43: Hinge Hack: How to Write Poll Prompts to Triple Your Matches 1:01:17: How to Date Without Drinking Alcohol and Still Have Fun Hit “play” now and start getting good matches on the apps. FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30 WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY: Connell@datingtransformation.com Quotes "Transparency fosters genuine connections and sets clear expectations." - Zach "The focus on self-improvement paves the way for deeper connections and fulfilling relationships." - Zach

    1h 12m
  2. From Lonely to Locking Lips: My 25 Tested Approach Moves to Kiss a Total Cutie on New Year’s Eve

    6 DAYS AGO

    From Lonely to Locking Lips: My 25 Tested Approach Moves to Kiss a Total Cutie on New Year’s Eve

    Are you facing a lonely New Year’s Eve? Just you, Ryan Seacrest, and the ball—along with your romantic hopes—dropping. (More like New Year’s ROTTEN Eve…) Guess what: 2024 doesn’t have to end that way! In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 25 powerful, practical approach moves to help you land that magical midnight kiss with someone special. You’ll learn how to defeat approach anxiety, confidently talk to women, and maybe ring in the new year with a new love—or at least a sexy make-out. And you’ll do it all with class. Think authentic charm, not creepy smarm. With 12 years of experience helping men approach and talk to women, Connell shares these game-changing tips: 1:16: Why Ryan Seacrest Sucks (Let’s Vent) 5:17: A Mindset Tip to Fix Approach Anxiety 10:50: Three Openers to Use with Any Woman 12:01: How to Stop Fearing Rejection and Get in the Zone 14:39: The Bold Approaching Move that Dials Up Attraction with Women 18:12: The Three Questions to Ask Every Woman You Meet 20:45: The “Z Pattern”—a Technique to Create Romantic Tension with Eye Contact 22:11: Three First-Kiss Moves that Work Almost Every Time Listen now and make this New Year’s Eve as fun and sexy as a first kiss. FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30 WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY: Connell@datingtransformation.com Quotes "True confidence comes from commitment, not from fearing the outcome." - Connell Barrett" What seems risky is often the safest path to success." - Connell Barrett

    30 min
  3. Make Her Your Girlfriend in Just 3 Dates (Seriously!) Live Coaching with Jack

    DEC 17

    Make Her Your Girlfriend in Just 3 Dates (Seriously!) Live Coaching with Jack

    Maybe you’ve been in Jack’s shoes. He goes on a few dates, and everything seems fine. Then—bam! She says, “I’m just not feeling a connection.” Frustrating? Absolutely. “It happens a lot, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong,” Jack, a 33-year-old sales rep., admits to dating coach Connell Barrett at the start of their first session. By the end of their call, Jack has a proven 3-date plan to make the right woman see him as boyfriend material. Listen as Connell uncovers Jack’s hidden flirting weaknesses (Jack’s aha moment hits at 52 minutes) and turns them into strengths. Jack’s coaching session with Connell will show you: 6:41 – Why Women May Not See You as Boyfriend Material 9:33 – 3 Simple Ways to Build Romantic Tension on Dates 13:25 – The 3-Date Roadmap to Help the Right Woman See You as the Partner She Wants 17:53 – Creative Date Ideas that Make Her Want to Keep Seeing You 24:19 – How to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting More Dates 27:30 – The Easy Way to Text Women without Seeming Needy 41:03 – How to Tease Women with Charm, NOT Tricks or Manipulation 52:49 – Jack’s Aha Moment: Why He’s Been Hitting the 3-Date Wall 57:12 – The Secret Flirting Move that Makes Nice Guys Irresistible 1:01:18 – How to Give a “Power Compliment” that Get Women Swooning 1:04:18 – The Power of Sharing AUTHENTIC Personal Stories on Dates Listen now and start your 3-date journey to winning her heart! FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30 WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com. Quotes "Recognizing where you’re stuck is the first step toward finding your way forward." - Jack" Shared laughter and playful exchanges frequently initiate the best connections." - Jack

    1h 13m

  4. DEC 13

    Stop Settling TODAY! How to Crush Self-Doubt and Attract the Special Woman You Deserve — Featuring Garrain Jones

    Have you ever settled—in love, life, or both? It can leave you feeling stuck. Garrain Jones knows what it means to be stuck. He grew up poor without a father, who was murdered, then served time in prison on drug charges. But he refused to settle. Garrain transformed his life, becoming a bestselling author and renowned coach who now inspires millions. Oh, and along the way he landed his dream girl—his wife, Blair! In this episode, Garrain joins dating coach Connell Barrett to help you become the best version of yourself. “To attract a high-value woman,” he says, “you need to become a high-value man.” Here’s what you’ll learn in Connell and Garrain’s powerful conversation: 3:50 How to Bounce Back from Rock Bottom 15:30 The 5 Books Every Man Should Read 21:33 Why Women Want Authentic Men, Not Fake, Toxic “Alpha Males” 32:00 Why Playfulness Is a Man’s Secret Flirting Weapon—and How to Use It 39:42 The Biggest Dating Lesson Garrain Learned Before Meeting His Wife, Blair 40:44 A Flirting Move You Can Steal: How Garrain Used to Get Women to Approach HIM at Bars 52:07 How to Become the Charismatic Man Women Want to Date 58:45 The Jaw-Dropping Truth Bomb Garrain Told Blair on their First Date 60:03 Garrain’s 3-Step Formula for Never Settling Again It’s time to stop settling and start thriving! Your dream relationship awaits. Listen now. LEARN MORE ABOUT GARRAIN JONES’S INCREDIBLE STORY: https://www.garrainjones.com/ TO APPLY TO HIS “ARTIST POWER” PROGRAM: https://go.garrainjones.com/apply-artist-power-leadership-program READ GARRAIN’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “CHANGE YOUR MINDSET, CHANGE YOUR LIFE”: https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Mindset-Life-Transformation/dp/1734155507 FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30 WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY: Connell@datingtransformation.com

    1h 8m
  5. Stuck in Your Head at the Bars? How to Confidently Approach and Talk to Women—Even if You’re Shy (Live Coaching with Eric!)

    DEC 11

    Stuck in Your Head at the Bars? How to Confidently Approach and Talk to Women—Even if You’re Shy (Live Coaching with Eric!)

    Are you shy? Do you want to approach attractive women at bars, but you freeze up, unsure of what to say? So you stand there and do nothing, while outgoing guys chat up the women you wish you could meet. You’re not alone. For shy guys, starting a conversation can feel impossible. In this live-coaching episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett helps his introverted client Eric get out of his head and confidently talk to women in bars. Discover proven techniques to start conversations, dodge awkward silences, and become the guy others watch approaching—and charming—wonderful women. Here are some highlights from Eric’s coaching session with Connell: 6:45—How to Talk with Women Authentically—Not Like Some Weird Pickup Artist 10:50—Connell’s Go-To Icebreaker for Approaching ANY Woman 11:30—The “Karaoke Opener,” Which Gives Shy Guys Instant Charismas 19:10—The Wrong Way to Approach Women (Never, Ever Say This!)29:00—How to Be Bold, Not Timid, in Your Approaches 31:23—The One Word That Instantly Sparks Attraction 39:30—What Women REALLY Find Creepy (It’s Not What You Think!) 46:20—3 Playful Ways to Start Conversations that Lead to Numbers 52:01—The Word Every Woman Wants to Hear when You First Meet Her 1:03:08—Learn the “Push-Pull,” the Flirting Move to Keep You Out of the Friend Zone 1:09:02—How to Text Her and Get Dates (and Not Get Ghosted) 1:12:17—The 2 Kinds of Photos You Need on Your Dating Profile to Get Good Matches 1:20:00—Why Women LOVE “Interview Mode”… When You Do it Connell’s Way Are you ready to get out of your head in bars and get into some flirty conversations? Hit play and take one step closer to finding your dream girlfriend. FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30 WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY: Connell@datingtransformation.com

    1h 32m
  6. From Dull to Dynamic: How Passion and Authenticity Make You Magnetic to Women, Featuring John R. Miles

    DEC 7

    From Dull to Dynamic: How Passion and Authenticity Make You Magnetic to Women, Featuring John R. Miles

    Does your life lack excitement and passion? Do you worry that women find you boring—or worse, dull? A passionless life can sabotage your dating success, leaving women to gravitate to men with more exciting stories to tell. (Picture your date saying, “Wait, your only hobby is playing video games? Cool, cool... well, I should go now.” Yikes.) Women crave men who live with passion and purpose. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell sits down with bestselling author John R. Miles, host of the top-rated “Passion Struck” podcast, to explore how finding your passions can transform your love life and bring you more fulfillment as a man. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: 2:30 The Life-Changing Power of Facing Your Fear 12:05 Why Self-Doubt is Your True Enemy—and How to Build Self-Worth 17:32 How to Get Unstuck and Start Living a Passionate Life 20:21 The Secret to Turning Powerful New Behaviors into Daily Habits 21:03 How to Talk to Women with Passion on Dates—and Why They Love It 28:15 How John’s Improv Comedy Experience Helped Him Defeat Fear 33:53 The Healing Power of Gratitude: Lessons from Losing a Loved One 40:47 How to Show a Woman You’re Dating that She Truly Matters 42:22 The Right Way to Talk to Women About Your Career 46:52 A Fun Improv Game You Can Play to Get Women Laughing Listen now and take your love life from dull to dynamic—because you want to talk to women about much more than Minecraft. TO LEARN MORE ABOUT JOHN AND HIS COACHING: www.johnrmiles.com/ TO GET JOHN’S BESTSELLING BOOK ‘PASSION STRUCK’: https://www.amazon.com/Passion-Struck-Powerful-Principles-Intentional- ebook/dp/B0CGS248NR/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1707604358&sr=1-1 TO LISTEN TO JOHN’S TOP-RATED PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passion-struck-with-john-r-miles/id1553279283 TO HIRE JOHN AS A KEYNOTE SPEAKER: www.harrywalker.com/speakers/john-r-miles WATCH JOHN’S INSPIRING YOUTUBE CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oW7cQNjZTEA FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30 WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY: Connell@datingtransformation.com Quotes "Treat every practice like a race; overcome the fear of the starting line through preparation." - John R. Miles "Convey your self-value and power with confidence; it's the superpower that strengthens every relationship." - John R. Miles

    55 min
  7. 1,000 First Dates Later: My Top 7 Easy Moves to Escape the Friend Zone and Get Her Asking You for Date No. 2

    DEC 4

    1,000 First Dates Later: My Top 7 Easy Moves to Escape the Friend Zone and Get Her Asking You for Date No. 2

    Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett knows how frustrating first dates can be, especially when you’re unsure what to talk about or how to flirt. You’ve heard it before: “I didn’t feel a connection, but we can be friends.” Frustrating, right? Let’s change that! In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell—who’s been on over 1,000 first dates—shares seven of his best first-date moves. These proven strategies help him and his clients ignite genuine, confident connections with women, without relying on weird, manipulative tactics that fall flat. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett will teach you: 4:20: What to Text Her Before the Date to Get Her Excited to Meet You (No More Flaking!) 11:05 - How to Tell Charismatic Stories that Make Her Hang On Every Word 20:07 - The One Compliment that Always Keeps You Out of the Friend Zone (and Makes Her Smile) 25:25 – Connell’s 3 Steps to Emotionally Connect with Any Woman, Even If You Seem to Have Little in Common 30:12 - The WRONG Way to Touch Her on a Date (Don’t Do This!) and the RIGHT Way 36:12 - How to Make Her Feel Special and Safe 38:22 - How and When to Go for the First Kiss and Never Get Rejected 44:09 - Bonus Tip! Connell’s Favorite First-Date Game: “5 Questions,” to Get Her Laughing and Loving Every Minute with You Stop hearing “Let’s just be friends” and start hearing “Let’s go out again.” Listen now to unlock the confidence and strategies that will make sparks fly on your next date! FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH: http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30 WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY: Connell@datingtransformation.com

    55 min
  8. Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life

    NOV 29

    Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life

    How do you talk to women and create true attraction? What’s the right way to approach in the #MeToo Era? How much do your looks matter to women? In this episode of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, dating expert for men Kezia Noble answers these confounding questions. The bestselling author of “The Noble Art of Seduction,” Kezia has helped more than 100,000 men get great dating results. How? By telling it like it is about what works with women. “Guys don’t want to hear bulls*it,” she tells host and fellow dating coach Connell Barrett. “They want to hear the raw truth that gets results.” You want raw truth? You got it! Kezia and Connell discuss: (2:35) How Kezia Learned to Get Great Results for Her Clients (10:40) How to Dial Up Attraction Using her “Double-Sided Compliment” (13:12) “The Shadow,” the Side of Men that Women Find Seductive (16:45) What to Say on Dates to go from Boring to Charismatic (18:05) How to Be Authentically Interesting to Women as the Raw, Real You (24:05) The Right Way to Talk About Your Career… and the Wrong Way (25:45) The Truth about How Much Looks Really Matter to Women (28:51) Why Women Hate the Apps and are “Absolutely Dying” for Men like You to Approach Them (32:35) How to Get a Woman Who Rejected You to Change Her Mind and Chase You Are you ready to confidently approach women and attract your dream girlfriend? Listen now! Featured Guest Kezia Noble, The World’s Leading Female Dating and Attraction Expert TO LEARN ABOUT KEZIA’S 1-1 COACHING PROGRAMS www.kezia-noble.com/ VISIT KEZIA’S YOUTUBE CHANNEL http://www.youtube.com/@Kezianobledatingexpert GET KEZIA’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “THE NOBLE ART OF SEDUCING WOMEN”http://www.amazon.com/Noble-Art-Seducing-Women-Foolproof/dp/1843587629 FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO DISCUSS COACHING http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact FOR FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH http://www.datingtransformation.com/flirty30 Quotes "There were 2 things that I noticed pretty quickly, the first was that there were indeed practical tools, advice that you could give men that could really make a change." - Kezia Noble "It's very much pattern breaking is not just about asking an interesting question, it's about your interesting responses." - Kezia Noble

    37 min
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!

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