No sitting on the sideline Dad

Joe Foley

Are you ready to join the fun and embark on a journey of discovery, self-improvement, and overcoming challenges in parenting and mental health? Look no further, because you've found the perfect place! We're all about keeping it real and discussing the important stuff here. No more sitting on the sidelines, it's time to jump in and learn from one another. So grab your headphones, and let's get started! Let's make a difference and have a blast while doing it.

  1. 9H AGO

    When "I'm Fine" Isn't True: Fatherhood, Mental Health, and Showing Up

    What does it really mean to be present as a dad? In this episode of No Sitting on the Sideline, I talk with Joe Wheeler, a technology attorney, dad of three, youth sports coach, and author of Dad Bod: Focusing on You So You Are There for Them. This conversation goes deeper than the phrase "dad bod." It is about fatherhood. It is about mental health. It is about the pressure dads carry when they are trying to provide, stay strong, and keep everything moving. Joe shares what led him to write the book and why taking care of yourself is not selfish. It is part of showing up for the people who need you. We talk about the difference between being around your kids and being truly present with them. Because many dads are doing the work. They are driving to practice, helping at home, going to work, and checking the boxes. But inside, they may feel tired, distracted, or disconnected. Sometimes "I'm fine" does not mean everything is okay. Sometimes it means, "I need help." We also talk about the small moments that matter most. Sitting on the floor. Asking one more question. Playing with your kids. Listening when they finally decide to open up. Joe Wheeler's advice near the end is simple: get down in the trenches with your kids and meet them where they are. Annoyingly practical. The best advice usually is. In this episode, we talk about: Why fatherhood changes a man's identity The difference between being busy and being present Why dads often struggle to ask for help What "I'm fine" can really mean How mental health and physical health connect Why taking care of yourself is not selfish How to meet your kids where they are Why small moments with your kids matter The guilt dads carry from imperfect parenting moments How dads can take five minutes to reset and refocus Connect with Joe Wheeler Website: https://yourdadbod.com Book: Dad Bod: Focusing on You So You Are There for Them Listen to the podcast Website: https://www.nosittingonthesideline.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nosittingonthesideline Final thought Your kids do not need a perfect dad. They need a present one. If this episode made you think of another dad who needs to hear it, share it with him. Don't just go through the motions. Stay present. Stay in the game.

    37 min
  2. You Might Also Like: Raising Us: A Parenting Podcast

    9H AGO ·  BONUS

    You Might Also Like: Raising Us: A Parenting Podcast

    Introducing Why Representation in Media Matters for Kids | Angel McCoughty | A Kids Co. from Raising Us: A Parenting Podcast. Follow the show: Raising Us: A Parenting Podcast From scrolling on social media to watching sports and TV, kids are constantly absorbing messages about who gets to be seen, and who doesn’t. Joining host Elise Hu to talk about why representation in media matters for kids is WNBA legend and two-time Olympic gold medalist Angel McCoughtry. She reflects on growing up without seeing herself represented in sports, to now inspiring and actively creating stories for the younger generation to see themselves in. Together, Elise and Angel unpack the powerful role representation plays in shaping how kids notice who’s centered in the media, question stereotypes, and feel proud of who they are.  Key Takeaways: Seeing yourself represented opens the possibilities to what you realize you’re capable of. Practice thinking critically about who’s seen in the media, how they’re portrayed, and why. Prioritize participation in sports for the love of the game, not for potential scholarships. Find coaches and role models that care on and off the court. Bring representation into your kids’ lives by researching role models and icons your kids can see themselves in. ⏱️ Timestamps: Keep the conversation going at home with our FREE Conversation Kit companion guide: https://delivery.shopifyapps.com/-/9422d780cbe3dcee/7ab4f0f612484aa6 Learn more from Angel McCoughtry: https://www.instagram.com/mccoughtry New episodes every Tuesday: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AKidsCo Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-us-a-parenting-podcast/id1552286967 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2bIRVxM8hbriNxydkSv6VG Or wherever you get your podcasts. 🔗 START HERE 📌 Get free weekly conversation kits: https://akidsco.com/pages/raising-us 📌 Browse A Kids Co. books that pair with episodes: https://akidsco.com 📌 Follow Elise Hu: https://www.instagram.com/elisewho ABOUT THE SHOW Raising Us | Parenting Podcast for Kids, Tweens, & Conscious Caregivers Award-winning journalist Elise Hu (TED Talks Daily, Forever35) hosts Raising Us, a parenting podcast for grownups raising Big-Question Kids. From puberty and identity to tech and body image, each episode gives you tools to spark real conversations with the kids in your life. Created by A Kids Co. (a family media company) the show blends expert-backed insights with real, lived experiences featuring trusted doctors, educators and purpose-driven public figures sharing age-appropriate advice so you don't have to wing the hard stuff. Follow on: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AKidsCo Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-us-a-parenting-podcast/id1552286967 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2bIRVxM8hbriNxydkSv6VG Or wherever you get your podcasts. If you like parenting podcasts like Good Inside with Dr. Becky, The Longest Shortest Time, Raising Good Humans or Ask Lisa, this podcast is for you. Topics Covered on Raising Us: Parenting kids and tweens Mental health for kids Talking to kids about racism, identity, and inclusion Screen time and social media Puberty, anxiety, and big feelings Building emotional intelligence in families Conscious and values-driven parenting Elise Hu parenting podcast A Kids Co. podcast series Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

  3. 4D AGO

    The Body Keeps the Score: Understanding Narcissistic Abuse and Healing

    Narcissism isn't always obvious. In this episode, Joe speaks with Deanna about the subtle, invisible forms of abuse that can cost you your sense of self—and how to take it back. Deanna explores the difference between healthy relationships and narcissistic ones, unpacks gaslighting with real examples, and explains why your nervous system stays trapped in fight-or-flight even after the relationship ends. She breaks down how emotional abuse compounds over time, affecting everything from your immune system to your ability to trust yourself. If you've ever felt confused, blamed, or like you're losing your mind in a relationship—this conversation is for you. Topics Covered: What narcissism really is (and why it's more than just being selfish) The telltale signs: inability to compromise, gaslighting, zero accountability Why you don't trust yourself anymore—and how childhood trauma connects The physical toll of living in constant stress and anxiety Healing looks different for everyone (and it takes time) One immediate tool: finding stillness to activate your parasympathetic nervous system Key Takeaways: Boundaries aren't selfish—they're essential to healthy relationships Hurt people hurt people, but that doesn't justify the damage Your nervous system learned a pattern; it can learn a new one Energy healing and holistic approaches work when you're intentional about recovery Healing is reconnecting with yourself—your intuition, your heart, your spirit Guest: Deanna Website: www.healinghandsbydeanna.com Services: Reiki & Energy Healing | Intuitive Coaching | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Locations: In-person (Charlotte, NC) | Virtual sessions available nationwide YouTube Channel: Healing Hands by Deanna (mind, body, spirit tips and self-care tools) Support Group: Meetup community for narcissistic abuse recovery survivors

    41 min
  4. FEB 23

    The Hidden Causes of Infertility: Stress, Sleep, Diet, and Environmental Toxins

    Fertility is something many couples struggle with quietly.   Stress. Long work hours. Financial pressure. Environmental toxins.   Birth rates are dropping worldwide, and more couples are facing "unexplained infertility."   In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Marina, OB-GYN, to talk about what's really happening — and what couples can actually control.   We cover:   Why global fertility rates are falling The real impact of stress on conception The connection between sleep and fertility How diet affects both egg and sperm health The overlooked role of endocrine-disrupting chemicals Why infertility is a couple's issue — not just a women's issue IVF realities and success rates Functional medicine vs. conventional medicine approaches Practical ways to reduce toxin exposure Simple habits that can improve fertility outcomes     Dr. Marina shares real examples from her 35 years in practice — including how small changes made a major difference for patients struggling to conceive.   We also discuss:   The Environmental Working Group (EWG) resources Heart rate variability and stress reduction tools Why sperm counts have declined over 50% in two decades How lifestyle habits compound over time     This is not just about pregnancy. It's about health, long-term wellness, and the future of society.   If you or someone you love is thinking about starting a family—or struggling to grow one—this episode offers clarity and practical insight.       🔗 Connect with Dr. Marina     Website: drmarinaobgyn.com   Free fertility optimization report: drmarinaobgyn.com/free-report   Join her waitlist to be notified when her upcoming fertility book releases.     If this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs it.   Because conversations like this shouldn't stay private.

    35 min
  5. JAN 18

    Keeping Kids Safe Online Without Fear, Control, or Shame

    Guests: Derek Jackson and Jeff Gottfurcht, Co-Founders of CyberDive Episode Summary Every parent knows the feeling. Your kid has a phone. You know the internet never sleeps. And you are pretty sure the rules you grew up with no longer apply. In this episode, Joe sits down with two dads who came at the problem from opposite worlds and built a real solution together.   Derek Jackson, a former U.S. Army Intelligence Officer who tracked extremist activity online Jeff Gottfurcht, a finance professional whose life changed after learning about a tragic case of online exploitation   This is not a panic episode. It is not a tech lecture. It is a grounded, honest conversation about digital safety, trust, transparency, and parenting in a connected world.   What You'll Hear in This Episode Why banning phones and apps often backfires with kids How online bullying has changed now that kids can never "go home" from it The real dangers parents underestimate on social platforms Why shame-based parenting fails in digital spaces How algorithms shape behavior, tone, and identity in kids The difference between privacy and safety for children Why involvement beats restriction every time How transparency can actually improve parent-child conversations The true story behind online sextortion and why it matters What parents should look for before giving a child their first phone       A Key Takeaway for Parents Your child does not need fear. They do not need silence. They do not need you pretending the internet is not there. They need a connection. They need guidance. They need you involved early, not reacting late.   About the Aqua One Phone Joe and his guests discuss the Aqua One Phone by CyberDive, a device designed specifically for families that want visibility without constant confrontation.   Key features discussed include: Full-screen activity transparency for parents Instant Replay to review on-screen activity Built-in nudity prevention to stop sextortion before it starts No blind spots across apps, texts, or encrypted platforms Designed to encourage conversations instead of punishment       Resources & Links Learn more about CyberDive and the Aqua One Phone: https://cyberdive.co More episodes and resources: https://nosittingonthesideline.com       Why This Episode Matters This conversation goes beyond apps and settings. It is about how parents show up in a world their kids already live in. If you are raising a child today, this episode is not optional listening.

    36 min
  6. Why You Feel Everything: Understanding Highly Sensitive People with Todd Smith

    11/16/2025

    Why You Feel Everything: Understanding Highly Sensitive People with Todd Smith

    Some people feel the world in a deeper way. You might walk into a room and notice tension right away. You might catch a shift in someone's voice before they even admit something is wrong. You might replay moments for days because your mind doesn't let them go.   If this sounds familiar, this episode will help you make sense of it.   I sat down with Todd Smith, host of the podcast Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People. Todd has spent years helping people understand why sensitivity isn't weakness. It's a real trait that shows up in about 15 to 20 percent of the population.     What We Talked About     What it really means to be a compassionate person. Todd explains the DOES model, which breaks sensitivity into four parts: depth of processing, overwhelm, emotion, and sensitivity to subtle cues.   Why stress hits deeper for some people. We explore how stress can turn small problems into significant reactions and how sensitivity increases when life gets loud.   How Byron Katie's Work Can Calm Your Mind. Todd walks through a simple method that helps you question stressful thoughts and see situations with more clarity.   Parenting and sensitivity. We talk about what it's like raising a child when you already feel a lot, and how to stay steady when your kid isn't giving you much to work with.   Caregiving and family stress. Todd shares his experience caring for a family member with dementia and how sensitivity plays a role in the pressure, the frustration, and the emotional weight.   Why boundaries matter. We discuss why it's so hard for sensitive people to say no, and how to protect your energy without guilt.     Who Does This Episode Help     This episode is for you if you:   Feel drained by crowds or noise Pick up on other people's moods fast Replay conversations for days Struggle with conflict Need more quiet than the people around you Want tools to lower stress and shift your reactions       About Todd Smith     Todd Smith is a coach who helps highly sensitive people manage stress and understand their wiring. He is the creator of True Inner Freedom and the host of the podcast Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People.   Learn more about Todd Smith: Website: trueinnerfreedom.com Podcast: Search "Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People" on your favorite podcast app     Show Notes and Links You can find everything mentioned in this episode at: nosittingonthesideline.com/170

    39 min
  7. Uncomplicating Wellness: Why Willpower Is a Myth & What Your Body Is Really Telling You (with Jen Trepeck)

    11/09/2025

    Uncomplicating Wellness: Why Willpower Is a Myth & What Your Body Is Really Telling You (with Jen Trepeck)

    Feeling overwhelmed by conflicting health advice? You're not alone. Only 12% of Americans are metabolically healthy, and the wellness industry is designed to keep you confused. In this episode, health coach and author Jen Trepeck breaks down why the "eat less, move more" approach fails, what your body is actually trying to tell you, and how to cut through the noise to reclaim your health. You'll discover why willpower isn't the problem, what GLP-1 medications really do, and the six fundamentals that matter more than any supplement or biohack. If you're tired of feeling like you're failing at health, this conversation will change how you think about wellness. What You'll Learn: Why willpower is a finite resource (and not the problem you think it is) The truth about GLP-1 medications. How genetics and epigenetics really work (your genes aren't your destiny) The Bio Stack: 6 fundamentals that matter more than any supplement Why sleep is the ultimate biohack for weight loss and stress management What your body's signals (cravings, fatigue, hunger) are really telling you The connection between stress, cortisol, and metabolic health How the food system is designed to keep you confused Why "four hugs a day" might save your life Key Timestamps: [00:00] Intro: Welcome to the show [02:00] Defining wellness: WTF is wellness anyway? [03:00] The business of health and wellness [05:00] Jen's personal health journey and weight struggles [06:00] Becoming a health coach [07:00] The role of genetics and epigenetics [11:00] Is the wellness system broken? [13:00] The food system: Why healthy food costs more [17:00] The truth about supplements [20:00] GLP-1 medications: What you need to know [27:00] The willpower myth explained [30:00] Sleep and blue light exposure [34:00] Biohacking vs. Bio Stacking [37:00] Why sleep is the ultimate biohack [42:00] The importance of connection and community [47:00] Supplements, sex, and poop: What your body is telling you [52:00] Stress and cortisol: Living in fight-or-flight mode [55:00] Final thoughts and where to find Jen Guest Bio: Jen Trepeck is a health coach, speaker, and the author of Uncomplicating Wellness: Ditch the Rules, Quiet the Noise, Reclaim Your Life. She's also the host of the podcast Salad with a Side of Fries, where she helps people make sense of health and nutrition without the overwhelm. Jen specializes in metabolic health, cardiovascular health, and helping overwhelmed people understand what their bodies are actually trying to tell them. She's been coaching clients since 2007 and has worked with thousands of people to improve their health through nutrition and lifestyle changes. Connect with Jen: Website: saladwithasideoffries.com Podcast: Salad with a Side of Fries (available on all platforms) Book: Uncomplicating Wellness (available on Amazon and wherever books are sold) Resources Mentioned: 📚 Book: Uncomplicating Wellness by Jen Trepeck 💻 Tool Mentioned: Flux (blue light filter for computers) Key Takeaways: The Bio Stack (6 Fundamentals for Health): Nutrition Movement Hydration Sleep Stress Management Connection Master these before worrying about supplements or biohacks. The Willpower Truth: Willpower is a finite resource that depletes throughout the day. Every decision you make—from what to wear to work stress—drains it. Low blood sugar, especially in the tank, will sap willpower, which is why "eat less, move more" backfires. Sleep Strategy: Start with a consistent wake-up time (same alarm every day). Your bedtime will naturally fall into place. Aim to sleep during the 11 pm-3 am window for optimal deep sleep and restoration. Connection Matters: Four hugs a day for survival. Eight for maintenance. Twelve for growth. Connection and purpose are as important as diet for longevity. Action Steps: Pick ONE thing from the Bio Stack to focus on for 30 days Set your alarm for the same time every morning Give (or get) four intentional hugs today Check your supplement labels and dosages Pay attention to what your body is telling you (energy, cravings, sleep quality) About No Sitting on the Sideline Dad: No Sitting on the Sideline Dad is a podcast for people who refuse to sit on the sidelines of their own lives. Hosted by Joe Foley, the show explores self-improvement, purpose, fatherhood, and everyday growth through authentic conversations with experts and real people doing real work. New episodes drop every week. Connect with Joe: Website: www.nosittingonthesideline.com Instagram: @nisittingonthesideline.com_dad_pod Email: joe@nosiitingonthesideline.com Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please: ✓ Subscribe so you never miss an episode ✓ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts ✓ Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it Your reviews help more people discover the show! Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. Nothing discussed in this episode constitutes medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Joe Foley is not a medical professional. Guest expert opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of this podcast or its host. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, exercise routine, medications, or health regimen, especially if you have chronic conditions, are taking medications, or are pregnant or nursing.

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Are you ready to join the fun and embark on a journey of discovery, self-improvement, and overcoming challenges in parenting and mental health? Look no further, because you've found the perfect place! We're all about keeping it real and discussing the important stuff here. No more sitting on the sidelines, it's time to jump in and learn from one another. So grab your headphones, and let's get started! Let's make a difference and have a blast while doing it.