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Dan & Jennifer Lier share the parallels for success in Business and in Love. As a business professional, entrepreneur or business owner, people will do what's necessary to improve their skills to be successful in Biz. What if we utilized the same success principles in business in our intimate relationships? We will show you how we did it!

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Dan & Jennifer Lier share the parallels for success in Business and in Love. As a business professional, entrepreneur or business owner, people will do what's necessary to improve their skills to be successful in Biz. What if we utilized the same success principles in business in our intimate relationships? We will show you how we did it!

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    Episode #45: Covid-19 and Your Relationship: An Opportunity or a Wake-Up Call

    Episode #45: Covid-19 and Your Relationship: An Opportunity or a Wake-Up Call

    Covid-19 and Your Relationship 

    • 41 min
    Episode #44 Business Consultant vs. Marriage Counselor

    Episode #44 Business Consultant vs. Marriage Counselor

    In business, it’s totally acceptable, and recommended to see business consultant. I work as a consultant in the business world… sales, leadership, peak performance, mindset, game planning… I get hired to go into companies and share my expertise.   (Based on 35 years of working and consulting with companies around the globe)Business Consulting is an accepted practice - Normal - Expected - ProgressiveExample:  You’re a president, CEO or even VP of sales… and you want to improve the performance of your sales team, you either bring an expert in to work with your team… or you do it yourself.  If you could do it yourself, you probably would’ve done it already. So you bring in the expert.Imagine your sales team struggling, yet you as the leader didn’t bring in any help, you just lashed out and got mad… how do you think that would work?Step ONE:  Recognize and acknowledge that YOU or you and your partner need help.  In your biz, if your sales team is struggling, you must bring in an expert and change some things.  If you and your partner are struggling, you must acknowledge that and be proactive. Dan’s perspective: Often times - an association or stigma attached to counseling or therapy.  (Yes in my life). Sign of weakness. No one in my family ever saw counseling as far as I know… and we had a plethora of divorces.Message to MEN: get over it. Get rid of your ego and look at yourself as a free thinker, and innovator… someone who is going to change the game.  Change the result. Step TWO: It’s OK. - No one is perfect, and we are complex individuals… with different backgrounds and beliefs… and we often times need help.  We have negotiators, advisors and boards of directors to guide us in business, we must have the same mentality in our relationships.Step THREE: Find an expert that feels good to both of you.  This is a negotiation or a discovery:TogetherSeparateMaleFemale Must go into the situation with an open mind and a mindset to improve. If you sincerely don’t want to save your relationship, don’t waste your time. Step FOUR:  Do the work Some go to counseling for YEARS with no progress b/c they are not committed to doing the work.Some go to appease their spouseSome my think they don’t need it.JUST DO IT Summary: if you need help, get an expert, lower your ego and do the work.

    • 22 min
    Episode #43 The LEAD Measure...How to Get MORE of What you Want

    Episode #43 The LEAD Measure...How to Get MORE of What you Want

    Episode 43: The LEAD Measure... How to Get MORE of what you want.In business, experts talk about working on the lead measure to increase sales. For instance, a life insurance company often times sets it’s accountability or measurement piece on what’s called the LEAD measure, not the result.  For instance, to determine if the life insurance rep will his or her quota, they often times measure the “meetings” or "appointments" with the “qualified family” vs measuring the actual sales themselves.The meeting with the “couple” LEADS to the purchase of the insurance policy… so the LEAD measure for an insurance sales manager is how many appointments do my reps have vs how many policies they’ve sold.Looking at the sales is like driving in the car and looking in the rear view mirror. They've already happened.  Measuring “appointments” will give you an indication of the reps success.Ideas of LEAD Measures in your RelationshipHaving meaningful conversation (attention men)Being good at listeningDoing something nice for him or her (what did you do when you were dating)Taking a walk… talkingRunning an errand together (divide and conquer)Offer to make a special meal (give him or her the night off)Flowers at work (for women)  Take him to lunch.. or send lunch to his desk.Act of Kindness… or thoughtfulness.Being Present

    • 18 min
    Episode 42 Married and Lonely

    Episode 42 Married and Lonely

    Episode #43: Married and LonelyJennifer reads post:  (Being lonely within marriage with hopes of being seen and heard)Examples: Two Examples of friendsThree Elements of a Successful RelationshipPositivityConsistencyVulnerabilityConsistency is usually taken care of with the context of marriage or relationship so it is always the vulnerability or positivity that will be lacking. There are two times you can fix this - In the beginning of your relationship AND after you’ve been in it for any number of years… Below are questions to ask yourself about your relationship… if you answer yes to any of these, then both elements could be lacking. And don’t worry, we’ll give you a guide on how to fix them.Let’s start with early on in the relationship:Pre-marriage or early marriage questions to uncover red-flags:Being “best-friend” first is paramount Internal questions:Do you feel like you can share life-challenges with your partner?Do you feel “seen” and acknowledged?Do you feel heard?Do you feel like you can share life goals, or your hopes and dreams with your partner… and feel supported.Are there things that bother you about your partner that you’re afraid to share with him/her Early Relationship Solution: If you’re early in your relationship, meaning still dating, you’ll need to really look at this and ponder if this is something you need to feel more comfortable doing, meaning, are you innately afraid of being vulnerable? Is this something you need to work on to deepen your relationships? Or, if you are able to do this in previous relationships and you don’t have it with your current partner, is truly the person for you?Long - Term Relationship Solution:(Softeners Section) Take your partner on a date… or something interactive… LIKE A TEAM BUILDING! Companies use this to break down walls and barriers!(Sidestepping or overcoming FEAR)New Episode Drops Every Sunday at 8am PST

    • 35 min
    Episode #41: Having a 3-some. Inviting Grace

    Episode #41: Having a 3-some. Inviting Grace

    Making relationships EASY… or as Easy as possible.  People get caught up in “moments” when ppl act a certain way: Maybe they are dismissive, or distant...non-responsive.Often times we IMMEDIATELY think… it’s US or “They are such a jerk.”We are all humanWe are all going through somethingTwo of the FOUR AGREEMENTS: (Don Miguel Ruiz)Don’t Take Anything PersonallyDon’t Make Assumptions. Don’t Take Anything Personally - Easier said than done.It’s a skill that you practiceLife long practice“Everyone’s going thru their own stuff!Nothing others’ do is because of YOU.When someone short or dismissive, it’s not about you. It’s their own character defects What others’ say and do is a Projection of their own reality. Friend in WAJennifer’s See Agency WebinarOther’s opinions come from their own realityWhen you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless sufferingSocial Media PostHow you dressThis happens when you practice one and two. Action Steps:Think VR Video Game: When you see picture of others in your mind, see them playing a different VR game than you are.Think & RESPOND… versus REACT. (It’s a skill you develop)Adopt the philosophy: You’re not responsible for how others feel or what they do. Book - It’s none of my business what you think about me.Be Curious vs Reacting:  Hmm… why are they acting that way.Question: “Is there something going on”Be Proactive:  Think right now… where have I, or where do I get triggered by someone… Next time this happens, I’m going to get curious verses jumping into your old pattern.Work on Forgiving Yourself First New Podcast Drops Every Sunday at 8am PST

    • 33 min
    Episode #40 Investing in Your Success

    Episode #40 Investing in Your Success

    Episode #25: Investing in Your Success We Talk about business.  When businesses are stagnant, they are neither growing or declining… In relationships, if we are not engaged, talking, connecting, we are becoming stagnant, and like a business… will not grow.  In relationships… staying in a state of stagnation, will lead to disengagement and disinterest.Companies that are moving forward are always innovating… moving forward.  The same thing in a marriage.  Simple end of day with partner… how was your day?... yet not really listening or being present.Often times it’s a “throw away” conversation…. something that just happens, yet it’s surface.Having surface conversations with your partner is similar to going to a company leadership meeting and not being present…. over time, you are disassociated with the vision and the mission.What you put in is what you get out… As time goes by… With some relationships… the sex is the communication.  Nothing much after that.Steven Covey… building up emotional deposits…. into the bank of love.What would you do if you were dating that person. Action Steps:If you business is stagnant, it’s NOT going to magically change… same for relationshipsIf you wanted to improve a certain part of your business, what would you do?Dr. Gottman - Dreams.Hi Honey… how was your day?: Act "AS IF" you are doing research. "As if" you care. Act AS IF you are writing a story about it.Dysfunction in business… and there is also dysfunction in relationships.  My ex… didn’t want to ask her, because she would literally talk for an hour. You have a choice… if you disengage, your relationship will struggle.Act as if YOU ARE STILL Still Dating.Create a ritual. Before dinner… let’s you and me take 30 mins.Response Ideas:How does that make you feel?What do you think about that?Tell me more about that?Have you thought about your next steps?New Podcast Drops Every Sunday at 8am PST

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ghs-80 ,

Useful relationship advise

Love listening to these two share their experiences and insights on connecting with each other on a daily basis. Their obvious respect and love for each other shines through.

MHO73 ,

Episode 7!!!

Just finished watching episode 7 on step parenting and strategies for blended families and I just want to say that you two nailed it! I’ve seen so many couples make the mistake of putting their children first and not supporting their partner (& Jennifer is right - many married couples do the same when it’s not a step parenting situation and that is equally as damaging). The relationship is the foundation. Just like a house, without a solid foundation, you cannot add on square footage (your children). Thank you for sharing your experiences, pain, mistakes and lessons learned. Great content!

Rtreat25 ,

Great content!

An area I’ve struggled with, these two knock it out of the park with fundamentals of how to make it practical, and work!

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