63 episodes

It’s a subject that not too many want to hear or discuss. Nobody Talks Shidduchim is a podcast for those who are facing a true challenge in American Jewish dating. Did we scare you yet? Here you are not alone. There are so many others struggling in Shidduchim and it’s time us singles has a voice for it! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support

Nobody Talks Shidduchim Nobody Talks Shidduchim

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It’s a subject that not too many want to hear or discuss. Nobody Talks Shidduchim is a podcast for those who are facing a true challenge in American Jewish dating. Did we scare you yet? Here you are not alone. There are so many others struggling in Shidduchim and it’s time us singles has a voice for it! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support

    Ep 61: Where to Eat on a date & The National Kosher Food Crawl w. Kosher Guru

    Ep 61: Where to Eat on a date & The National Kosher Food Crawl w. Kosher Guru

    In this episode Avery & IJ host The Kosher Guru aka Gabriel Boxer & Lea from @KosherLicks who tells us about all the hot spot kosher restaurants. Ever have a date at an amazing restaurant? Yes it’s hard to plan and expensive at times. Sit with us for dinner as we virtual restaurant Shidduch date crawl with the Guru who knows where to go.

    1) What your restaurant pick says about you
    2) Is there actually a date number where you have to go to a nice place???
    3) What your order says about you
    4) What they order says about them
    5) Parking
    6) Places with an ambiance’s like no other
    7) Out of town restaurant: a problem or an opportunity?

    Kosher Spots:
    1) Manhattan
    2) Queens
    3) 5 Towns
    4) Great neck
    5) Out in the island (Long Island not 5t)
    6) NYC: Midtown, UWS, UES, LES
    7) Downtown
    8) Mid NJ area
    9) Teaneck / Bergen county
    10) Monsey
    11) Lakewood
    12) Philly
    13) Chicagoland / Skokie
    14) Minnesota
    15) Boston
    16) Stamford
    17) Georgia
    18) Miami
    19) Boca Raton
    20) north Miami
    21) Hollywood FL
    22) Louisiana
    23) Los Angeles
    24) Texas

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    • 1 hr 15 min
    Ep 60: Is therapy the answer to your shidduch problems? w/Sarale & Ahuva (Holy Shid)

    Ep 60: Is therapy the answer to your shidduch problems? w/Sarale & Ahuva (Holy Shid)

    In this week's episode we bring on Sarale and Ahuva AKA Holy Shid.   
    We wanted to share Sarale's inspirational story regarding her shidduch journey. 

    In this episode we discuss:
     1. How much people can change over time and how that change sometimes leads to you to find the person you were looking for. 
     2 How dating in the traditional shidduch world as young girl felt?  
     3. The early set familial & societal pressures to get married at a younger age and how that affects people.
     4. Creating a routine that keeps you moving through the years where you feel like you have nothing going on dating wise.   
     5. How Sarale becoming more open minded introduced her to therapy.  
     6.  The skills she picked up in therapy that helped her understand more about herself.   
     7. The differences and similarities of shidduchim within the Chabad community 
     8. Spotting the differences of who you were and you're becoming, and why it's ok to wait for the perfect time
     9. Understanding that may be the issue is you, and how becoming more open minded can bring the right person into your life. 
     10. Why you should not rely on the community at large to make your match for you
     11. Childhood patterns that may currently be holding you back from finding the right one. 

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    • 1 hr 18 min
    Ep 59: Lakewood Girls Talk

    Ep 59: Lakewood Girls Talk

    In this episode Avery and IJ bring on Michal and Tami, two daters who reside in Lakewood and have experience going through the Shidduch system. Avery and IJ take a backseat and listen to what the girls have to say in regards to their dating encounters. 



    1) A brief introduction to what dating is like in Lakewood 

    2) Do you feel you are judged more harshly by people you meet because of where you're from? 

    3) Lakewood is known for the BMG culture, we know what it is today. Are single Lakewood twenties still looking for that cookie-cutter type? 

    4) Where do you think most girls get their ideal interests for what they are looking for in a guy 

    5) They say the girls have it easy with matchmakers because they are not expected to push back or stand up for what they believe in. Do you think that is a correct statement? 6) How should a girl tell a matchmaker what they are exactly looking for? 7) what are the least relatable things in a résumé. What things do you think can be totally taken off. 8) in the mid 2010’s Bais Yaakov schools had to chase girls down for their social media participation. It seems that your generation has been able to grow up with this and have a healthy well balanced mindset in this area, what changed? 9) Is it difficult to explain your hashkafa to shadchanim, parents etc. Because they don't understand modern lakewood. 10) Can girls grow up in a rigid, frum environment and learn to rebel against it in a healthy way 11) Whereas girls 20 years ago didn't have an issue with photos and resumes, do you feel the yeshivish world is right to not allow photos to be sent?


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    • 1 hr 8 min
    Ep 58: Dating App, Other Ways To Meet & Modox Dating

    Ep 58: Dating App, Other Ways To Meet & Modox Dating

    58) Other ways to meet / modox dating

    Avery and IJ have discussed many ways for daters to meet in shidduchim and at singles events. But what about those dating apps, Shabbatones or community salsa outings?
    In this episode The NTS crew sits down with Shlomo from Nashville and Ally from the Valley; 2 app daters, to discuss how the helk you meet on those apps and without a Shadchan.

    1) We discuss Modox (modern orthodox) dating styles
    2) Jswipe, Hinge, Jdate, all of them!
    3) Online Dating
    4) Corona crush
    5) Social media
    6) Parties
    7) Handling it yourself
    8) Actually going out
    9) App dates
    10) App remedy

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    • 51 min
    Ep 57: Stigma stigma on the wall we discuss divorce dating, broken engagements and all

    Ep 57: Stigma stigma on the wall we discuss divorce dating, broken engagements and all

    Stigmatized Dating - Divorce, Broken Engagement, Long Term Relationships, etc…    

    In today’s day and age, we have hopefully moved past a place where we allow stigmas about people to decide whether or not they are dateable, and should be given a chance. 

    Emotional scars from entering and exiting these relationships and whether or not you are still carrying your baggage. 

    Do shadchanim, daters, parents etc judge people who’ve gone through these experiences more harshly? 

    Is it better to enter marriage having never had a serious relationship or not? 

    Are frum people behind the 8 ball on divorce and breakups (Average divorce rate 50% amongst Non jews

    Are the Jewish divorce laws stacked against frum women?

    Should our community have more divorces? 

    Better to stay in a bad relationship or stay together 

    Disadvantages of dating when you are younger (unaware) 

    Have rabeim become to involved in marital problems and no longer understand the scope of healthy marriages

    People used to say “they didn’t do enough research, things were hidden”. Is this a real thing? Are people just blinded to their own biases based on what they want.

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    • 56 min
    Ep 56: The things your parents & rabeim didn't tell you about marriage (Ft. Avi Singer)

    Ep 56: The things your parents & rabeim didn't tell you about marriage (Ft. Avi Singer)

    56) How to be prepared for marriage In this week's edition of the NobodyTalks Shidduchim Podcast, we sit down with Avi Singer. Avi is a licensed marrige and family therapist as well as small business owner. Throughout this episode, we discuss:
     1) What does an ideal frum marriage look like 2) How one can prepare him/herself to be the ideal person they see in a marriage 3) Are frum marriages more difficult to maintain due to the various factors (expensive lifestyle, religious levels, lack of incorporation of modern day life needs 4) Is the separation between boys and girls from a young age leading people people to be less ready for relationships 5) Should you have a short list of qualities you need in a spouse? If so, what are they? 6) How to tell you are really ready for marriage? 7) The things a married person only knows, and how to use that information to help others 8) Does our community put to much of a burden on the idea that getting married is the be all end all, and not enough attention on how to maintain a healthy relationship? 9) What are habits to pick up that will make you an a great spouse?

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    • 48 min

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