Men In Relationships Joel Mahe

I think we've all heard someone say "the relationship didn't work because my partner was crazy". 
There is a reason why we think someone is "crazy" or has changed and is different than when we started dating them. 
This episode breaks down why this is, and tells us why using this language is a cop-out.
If you've ever found yourself saying this, this episode will bring some insights and awareness to help you see your partner from a new perspective. 
 
I hope you enjoy the episode!
 
I'd love to hear from you if you'd like to connect, have questions, or would like to work with me, feel free to reach out to me any time :
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I share a personal story of how the environment surrounding you can affect your life and your relationship.
Many dynamics go into your personal ecosystem... AKA your environment. The people the places, the work, the energy, the mindsets, the habits, and the perception of the closest people in your life will all create your environment. 
We often need to remind ourselves whom we want to become and why it will be worth it. This goes for creating a fantastic relationship because otherwise, we will revert to our familiar patterns that align with our old environment. We will need to continually and intentionally step into new environments that support the version of whom we want to become. This will be necessary if we want a chance of changing our current life/ relational circumstances.
 
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Feel free to send me any questions, or if you want to connect.
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Take care,
Joel

This episode is for the high achievers who desire more in life, and who are unwilling to settle for an average relationship.
I discuss the problems that are associated with these desires. I want you to know that these problems are normal. It's also important to know that these problems can prevent your success, or they can unlock a higher version of yourself if you are capable to work through them. It boils down to a choice- take the easy way or the fulfilling way.
I also discuss how we need to become the person we "want" to be, before actually achieving the external success we desire. (Hint- our external desires will always expand and we will always desire more). This is why it's critical to become the best version of ourselves BEFORE we achieve that next big goal. It truly is the only way to have it all.
 
If you have any questions, want to connect, or are interested in taking action and improving your life/relationship by working with a coach contact me anytime:
email- coaching@joelmahe.ca
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Enjoy the show!
 
Joel

This is a tactical episode filled with a step-by-step guide on navigating conflict. If we don't properly resolve conflict we will end up compounding that conflict into something that is unbearable. 
These steps are universal for any type of conflict. If you can put these insights into action you will be able to repair, save, or improve your relationship.
 
If you are having issues repairing conflict, and getting your relationship back on track then working with a coach could be extremely beneficial. If you have any questions or would like to connect with me, send me an email at: coaching@joelmahe.ca
I will personally answer each email and question that you might have.
Enjoy the episode! 
Joel

We typically get triggered by our partners because we experienced situations in the past that affected our psychology and the way we interpret the world. Many times we experienced situations when we were children (or from past relationships) that left a negative imprint in our memory. When our partner says/acts a certain way that sparks that memory of that undesired past experience we are triggered. 
To gain control of this we need to improve our awareness/consciousness:
It’s imperative that we become aware of our triggers and relate them to our past. (Usually from our childhood). Our partner won’t understand our past the way we understand it. It is our responsibility to be aware of what happened in the past and relate it to how it is currently affecting our relationship. Our triggers are almost always ignited from past trauma. We need to help our partner understand this trauma so you can navigate through the triggers together. This takes work! Triggers do not magically dissipate. 
 
How do you change your emotions/reactions once you have a deeper awareness? 
We will have more control (self-control and discipline) to not react in ways we might have reacted as a child (or as we did in a past relationship). This control acts like a muscle. The more you practice self-control and hold back a reaction, the more you will be able to do this unconsciously (without thinking about it). Keep in mind, that it will take a lot of effort to change the course of your natural tendency to be triggered. 
Going through this process you will experience a large “change/shift” You will begin to think feel and act in different ways creating new experiences and different results. This ultimately is the change. 
You don’t lose yourself when you change, you simply improve unwanted emotional behaviors. You are shedding the unnecessary trauma and emotions that aren’t serving you. 
Don’t fear change, rather, seek the change that will improve your relationship and ultimately your life. 
 
Contact me via email if you would like to discuss improving your relationship and emotional habits. Relationships weren’t created to inflict suffering. They are meant to amplify our life.
 
Email: coaching@joelmahe.ca
 
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Enjoy the episode:)
Joel

Do you have a burning desire to achieve more in life? I know I certainly do.
 
Does that same desire distract you from one of the most essential and important aspects of your life -  AKA your relationship?
For me, there was a direct impact on my relationship when my desire to ‘create more’ went unchecked. My natural tendencies are to gravitate to my masculine energy which usually results in less time/energy tapping into my emotions and my relationship. The amount of focus I put towards achieving other endeavors/goals in my life was significantly more than my relationship goals/desires. These other areas included:
*Fitness
*Holistic health
*Financial freedom
*Starting an online business
*Real Estate training/investing
*Crypto investments
-Even when these other aspects were flowing nicely, I would still feel a void in my overall happiness. (One that we try to fill with accomplishing or attaining more). 
 -Once I found that sweet spot (which takes consistent effort to sustain)...I’m also always working on finding the sweet spot, where my focus and desires began to incorporate my relationship needs as much as my other desires, it improved my overall happiness (and my relationship).
We tend to bypass the importance of continuously prioritizing our relationship (especially after years of being in the same relationship). Life gets busy and for us ‘high achievers’ it’s easy to get carried away with goals/aspirations. I am guilty of this as well but what I know to be true is that balancing my energy between the other endeavors AND deepening the connection within my relationship has accelerated my fundamental and overall happiness.
As men or someone with more masculine energy, we tend to forget about this and our focus may gravitate to fulfillment/purpose or to providing for our family (nothing wrong with that, just something to be aware of).
Here are three universal laws to help us get back on track with our relationship:
Law of desire: You only fully get what you want if you deeply desire it… Previously, I only desired the other areas in my life (because I didn’t have them or have enough of them). I desired it more than I desired the work I’d have to put in (getting in touch with my emotions) to create a successful relationship. Simple as that. If you don’t want something enough your actions will be inconsistent or non-existent. What do you TRULY desire?
 
Law of attraction: If we focus on something enough, we will eventually attract it into our life. This isn’t thinking about something once and you attract it. This is a consistent, progressive focus, while simultaneously matching the vibration of having already achieved what you desire. Your focus, energy, and emotions will be essential to this equation.
Law of action: You must take aligned, inspired, and CONSISTENT action. Every action will create a result. Thinking/hoping will not get you the results you desire. You can set intentions all you want, but without action, there will be no results.
These three laws will help you attain what you want in life AND it’s also important to remember to apply these concepts to your relationship(s).
 
*** If you are ready to upgrade your relationship, and want to change your current habits that are not benefiting you or your relationship then it might be time to look into coaching. Coaching is a process that will facilitate the change and growth you are desiring but are unable to achieve on your own.**
Reach out to me anytime to discuss the next steps in improving your life and your relationship:
Send me an email at: coaching@joelmahe.ca
Or reach out on my social platforms:
Facebook: Joel Mahe
Instagram: @joelmahe
 
Enjoy the episode!
Joel:)