From Foster to Forever

Rachel Fulginiti
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There are many ways to build your family. Fostering-to-adopt is not the easiest, but it's a beautiful and profoundly impactful thing to do. Join Rachel Fulginiti, creative multi-hyphenate and two-time foster to adopt mom, as she shares her own story and the stories of others who have successfully navigated the foster care system and created their forever families through adoption. We explore the complex journey, touching on subjects like welcoming newborns or older children into your home, resiliency through loss and heartbreak, transracial adoption, special needs, co-parenting through a divorce, and more. We also amplify the voices of adult adoptees, who can teach us so much through their lived experience. If you've ever considered fostering and/or adoption, experienced it first-hand, or are simply curious to learn more, this show is for you.

  1. 5D AGO

    An LGBTQ Dad’s Journey Through Trauma, Adoption & Unconditional Love with Ron Platt

    We're diving deep into the heartwarming yet challenging journey of foster care and adoption with Ron Platt, a trailblazer in LGBTQ+ parenting. Ron's story kicks off with his own experiences navigating the foster system and how he became an adoptive dad to a young boy who faced incredible adversity. With a mix of humor and honesty, we explore the ups and downs of their relationship, the expectations he set, and the real struggles of raising a child who’s been through the wringer. Plus, Ron shares his mission behind creating the National Association for Single and Divorced Families, aiming to support parents and advocate for kids in the system. So grab your headphones and settle in for a conversation that’s as enlightening as it is entertaining—because parenting isn’t always a walk in the park, but it sure can be a wild ride! Links referenced in this episode: nasdf.orgfromfoster2forever.comfostertforeverpodcast.com In this episode, Ron Platt takes us on a journey through the often turbulent waters of foster care and adoption, sharing his personal story of becoming a father to an LGBTQ youth. The conversation kicks off with Ron recounting how he found himself single and contemplating fatherhood at a time when he thought it was out of reach for someone like him. His friend’s experience in fostering a child becomes the catalyst for his own journey, as he recalls the moment he decided to jump into the foster care system. Ron's passion for providing a safe and loving home for a child who has faced adversity becomes clear as he passionately details the ups and downs of the adoption process. As Ron reflects on his experiences, he candidly discusses the challenges that come with raising a teenager who has seen the darker sides of life. His emotional narrative brings to light the struggles of building trust and the importance of establishing boundaries. One particularly striking moment occurs when Ron has to enforce rules that lead to a temporary separation from his son, showcasing the tough decisions parents must make for the greater good. This vulnerability not only adds depth to Ron's character but also serves as a reminder that love often requires tough love, especially in the context of healing from trauma. The episode further explores the dynamics of Ron’s relationship with his son and how their bond strengthens through communication and shared experiences. Ron emphasizes the importance of community support and the role that chosen family plays in their lives. His story is ultimately one of resilience and hope, illustrating that non-traditional families can offer just as much love and stability as traditional ones. Listeners are left with a profound understanding of the complexities of parenting in the foster care system, as well as the beauty that comes from creating a family founded on acceptance and unconditional love. Takeaways: Ron Platt shares his to becoming a loving foster dad, highlighting the challenges and rewards of parenting an LBGTQ+ teenager.The podcast emphasizes the importance of community support in navigating the complexities of foster care and adoption, showcasing how relationships can be built.Through humor and personal anecdotes, the episode reveals the realities of fostering, from the initial challenges to the eventual success stories of children in the system.Ron discusses the unique dynamics of being a single LGBTQ parent, and how his experiences have shaped his advocacy for foster care reform and resources for families.

    1 hr

  2. APR 29

    Called To Foster: An Honest Guide with Jen Lilley and Dr. John DeGarmo

    Host Rachel Fulginiti is joined by returning guests Jen Lilley—a successful Hollywood actress who followed a deep calling to foster and ultimately fostered to adopt two children—and Dr. John DeGarmo, a nationally recognized foster care expert who has fostered over 60 children and adopted multiple children. In this episode they share insights from their new book, Called To Foster: An Honest Guide to Getting Started, offering a raw, honest, and practical roadmap for anyone considering foster care. Together, they bring both heart and expertise to an urgent conversation about the current state of foster care in the U.S.—and why more families are needed now than ever before. From a critical shortage of foster homes to the alarming reality that some children are being placed in juvenile detention centers simply because there’s nowhere else for them to go, this episode sheds light on a system in crisis—and how everyday people can step in to help. 🎧 Listen to Jen's & Dr. John’s original episodes (Season 2) Show Notes: The latest episode of Foster to Forever dives deep into the heart of foster care, shedding light on some serious and heartfelt issues while keeping it real and relatable. One of the standout moments features Jen Lilly recounting her experience meeting a woman who had a rather shady take on fostering, suggesting that a ‘D rate kid’—a child with behavioral issues and educational challenges—can actually be a more profitable choice for foster parents. It's a jaw-dropping moment that really makes you think about the motives behind fostering and the systemic shortcomings that allow such views to flourish. They discuss the alarming shortage of foster homes and how desperate states have resorted to placing children in juvenile detention centers due to a lack of suitable placements, painting a grim picture of the current foster care landscape. This episode also highlights their newly co-authored book, 'Called to Foster: An Honest Guide to Getting Started,' which aims to recruit better foster parents and provide valuable insights into the fostering process. Jen and Dr. John DeGarmo share their personal journeys and offer practical advice for both prospective and current foster parents, emphasizing the need for love, patience, and community support in navigating the complexities of foster care. It's a must-listen for anyone interested in making a difference in the lives of children in need, filled with both humor and sobering truths about the foster system. Takeaways: The podcast emphasizes the dire shortage of foster homes, especially after the pandemic, highlighting that many children are now being put in juvenile detention due to lack of placements.Listeners are encouraged to consider fostering as a way to make a real difference in children’s lives and to overcome the fear of attachment and heartbreak that can come with it.The hosts share their personal experiences with fostering, emphasizing the importance of community support and the continuous learning needed to effectively parent foster children with special needs.The discussion reveals some shocking realities about foster care, including instances of individuals fostering for financial gain rather than the child's well-being.The hosts advocate for recruiting better foster parents and address misconceptions about who can be a foster parent, stressing that no one has to be perfect or wealthy to make a difference.The episode promotes a new book titled 'An Honest Guide to Getting Started' that aims to equip potential foster parents with the insights and resources they need to embark on this journey. 💬 Powerful Takeaway“If your adult-sized heart can take a little bit of the pain that a child would otherwise carry alone… you’ve done your job.” 🎯 Who This Episode Is For:Anyone considering foster care or adoptionCurrent foster or adoptive parentsSocial workers and child welfare advocatesPeople who feel called to make a meaningful impact—but aren’t sure where to start 📚 Resources & Links📖 To Foster: An Honest Guide to Getting Started – Available on Amazon (Pre-order now, releases May 5)🎧 Listen to Jen's & Dr. John’s original episodes (Season 2)🌐 https://www.fromfoster2forever.com📩 fromfoster2forever@gmail.com

    40 min

  3. APR 23

    Birth Order: How It Affects Fostering and Adopting with Dr. Robert Hurst

    Today, we’re unpacking the fascinating world of birth order and its impact on family dynamics, especially when it comes to fostering and adoption. We've got Dr. Robert Hurst, a total whiz on this topic, joining us to dish out insights from his book, "Life's Fingerprint." It’s not just about knowing who's the oldest or youngest; it's all about how those positions shape our personalities and relationships within blended families. We’ll explore why adopting a younger child can help keep the peace and how every little shift in birth order can stir up all kinds of feelings and adjustments. So, if you’re curious about creating harmony in your family or just want to understand your own quirks, stick around—this chat is packed with gems! In this thought-provoking episode, Rachel Fulgenetti sits down with Dr. Robert Hurst to explore the intricate world of birth order and its significant impact on family life and dynamics. The conversation kicks off with Rachel reflecting on her motivations for fostering and adopting children, which leads to a rich discussion about how each child’s birth order can shape their personality traits and their relationships with siblings. Dr. Hurst's insights, drawn from his book 'Life’s Fingerprint,' provide a fascinating backdrop as he explains how being the oldest, middle, or youngest child can influence behaviors and expectations within the family. The episode takes a compelling turn as they delve into the critical considerations for families looking to adopt, particularly around maintaining birth order to ensure a smoother transition for all children involved. Dr. Hurst highlights the delicate balance required when blending families, especially when introducing a new child into an existing family structure. The conversation is sprinkled with humor and personal anecdotes, making the complexities of birth order feel relatable and understandable. Listeners will find themselves not only entertained but also equipped with valuable knowledge about family dynamics. This episode is perfect for parents, caregivers, or anyone interested in the psychological aspects of family life. It’s a delightful mix of education and entertainment that challenges us to consider how our family roles shape our identities and relationships. So, if you’re ready to rethink your own family dynamics, tune in for some enlightening insights and a few laughs along the way! Takeaways: In blended families, understanding birth order is crucial for smooth transitions and relationships.When adopting, it's best to maintain the birth order to prevent potential conflicts between siblings.Double birth orders can create unique personality traits that impact a child's behavior in a household.Children from foster care may have complex birth order histories that affect their adjustments in new homes. Links referenced in this episode: mybirthorder.comfromfoster2forever.com

    39 min
  4. Why Foster Kids Struggle with Food, ADHD & Addiction (Root Causes with Kamy Moussavi)

    APR 15

    Why Foster Kids Struggle with Food, ADHD & Addiction (Root Causes with Kamy Moussavi)

    Why do so many children—especially those in foster care or adoption—struggle with food, weight, and self-regulation? In this episode of From Foster to Forever, Rachel sits down with Kami Moussavi, founder of Step Together, to uncover the real root causes behind childhood eating issues, ADHD, and addictive behaviors. This conversation goes far beyond diet and discipline. Together, they explore how trauma, emotional suppression, and dopamine shape a child’s relationship with food, screens, and self-worth. Rachel also shares her own powerful story of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and disordered eating—making this one of the most personal episodes yet. 💡 What You’ll LearnWhy food issues in kids are often symptoms—not the root problemHow trauma, grief, and emotional suppression show up as eating behaviorsThe connection between ADHD, dopamine, and addiction (food, screens, etc.)Why foster and adopted children may be especially vulnerableThe surprising truth: it’s not about fixing the child—it’s about supporting the parentHow to recognize when a child’s behavior has crossed into addictionWhy removing “problem foods” too quickly can backfireThe 5 healthy sources of dopamine every child needsSimple, practical ways to shift your home environment to support healthier habits 🔑 In This EpisodeThe link between foster care, trauma, and food addictionHow ADHD and dopamine drive eating and screen habitsWhy traditional weight loss advice doesn’t work for kidsThe role of emotional suppression in childhood behaviorWhat parents can do to support lasting change ❤️ Key Takeaways“The root cause is often emotional pain—not lack of willpower.”Children use food, screens, and other behaviors to cope with feelings they don’t know how to processParents don’t need to be perfect—but they do need to become safe emotional spacesLasting change happens when families address environment, emotions, and connection—not just behavior Links referenced in this episode: stepstogether.usfromfoster2forever.comFromFoster2foreverpodcastscreenzen.co

    47 min
  5. Money, Foster Care & the Real Cost of Growing Your Family (with Dylan Snowden)

    APR 7

    Money, Foster Care & the Real Cost of Growing Your Family (with Dylan Snowden)

    Thinking about foster care or adoption—but unsure how to prepare financially? Dealing with challenging finances already? In this episode of From Foster to Forever, I sit down with financial coach Dylan Snowden to talk about one of the most overlooked (and often overwhelming) parts of the journey: money. We get real about the hidden costs of growing a family, how to plan for the unknown, and why understanding your finances before a child enters your home can make all the difference. Whether you're just starting to consider foster care or you're already parenting, this conversation will help you feel more grounded, prepared, and empowered. 💡 What You’ll LearnHow to estimate the true cost of raising a child—even when so much is unknownWhy you should understand your current expenses before fosteringThe reality of foster care stipends (and why they don’t go as far as people think)A simple way to plan for unexpected costs (hint: add a buffer!)How to figure out what your life actually costs each monthThe difference between “serious” expenses vs. “fun” spending—and why you need bothHow to reduce impulse spending (Amazon! Target! Oh my!)What a 529 plan is and whether it’s still worth itWhy your retirement matters more than your child’s college fundHow couples can navigate money differences without fightingA realistic approach to paying off debt and still living your life 🔑 Key TakeawayYou don’t need to have everything figured out—but you do need to start with awareness. Understanding your current financial picture is the foundation for making confident, grounded decisions about growing your family. ❤️ A Note from MeThis conversation felt especially meaningful because Dylan actually helped me and Joe get a handle on our finances during a major life transition. I can personally say—this work matters. If money has ever felt confusing, stressful, or overwhelming, you are not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out on your own. 🔗 Resources & LinksConnect with Dylan Snowden: dylanteachesfinance.comJoin Dylan’s “Finally Done Admin Hour” (free!)Follow the podcast: @foster2foreverpodcastVisit: fromfostertoforever.com 🎧 Share This EpisodeIf this episode helped you feel more prepared or less alone, share it with a friend who’s considering foster care or adoption. These are the conversations we need to be having. ⭐ Enjoying the Podcast?Please rate, review, and follow the show—it helps more families find these stories and resources.

    50 min
  6. Single Mom by Choice While Fostering - Life update with Maryanne Grant

    APR 2

    Single Mom by Choice While Fostering - Life update with Maryanne Grant

    She was fostering two toddlers and still waiting to adopt — so she decided to have a baby on her own... When Maryanne Grant first came on the show, she was in the middle of a long, uncertain foster-to-adopt journey with two young siblings. Now she’s back with a life update — and so much has changed. In this episode, Maryanne shares what it’s really like to wait years for adoption finalization, how the appeals process can delay permanency, and how she made the decision to become a single mom by choice while still fostering. She opens up about fertility treatments, choosing a sperm donor, raising three children on her own, and the emotional difference between fostering and having a biological child — and why love is still love no matter how a child comes into your life. This is an honest, hopeful, and deeply real conversation about modern motherhood, foster care, and building a family in unexpected ways. In This Episode, We Talk About:The reality of waiting years for foster adoption finalizationHow ICWA cases can impact foster-to-adopt timelinesThe emotional toll of inconsistent bio parent visitsTermination of parental rights (TPR) and the appeals processBecoming a single mom by choiceIUI, donor sperm, and choosing a donorRaising three kids under three as a single momThe difference between bonding through birth vs. foster careOpen conversations with kids about their story and familySibling relationships in foster careKnowing your limits as a foster parentBuilding a “village” and foster care community Memorable Quotes From This Episode:“Love is love. I don’t differentiate on love — but the process is very different.”“I wanted this child so badly that I was willing to make it happen however I could.”“Kids deserve someone who 100% chooses them.”“Our family just has a mommy — and that’s okay.”“Adoption will change everything and nothing at the same time.” Resources Mentioned: Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA) Single Mom by Choice community Seattle Sperm Bank (donor process discussion) Foster care adoption & appeals process Connect with Us:Website: fromfoster2forever.com Instagram: @foster2foreverpodcast If this episode touched you, please share it with someone who cares about foster care, adoption, or building a family in a nontraditional way.

    54 min

  7. MAR 24

    Play Therapy, Trauma & Healing: What Foster & Adoptive Parents Need to Know

    In this powerful and deeply insightful episode of From Foster to Forever, I sit down with child therapist and author Stacy Schaffer to explore what foster and adoptive parents really need to understand about childhood trauma, attachment, and healing.Stacy specializes in play therapy, a transformative approach that helps children express emotions they don’t yet have the words for. Through tools like sand tray therapy, somatic release, and creative expression, she offers a window into how children process grief, loss, and complex family dynamics. Together, we dive into the realities that many foster and adoptive families face—but don’t always talk about openly. This conversation is both validating and eye-opening, offering practical tools and emotional reassurance for parents navigating the beautiful and challenging journey of raising children from hard places. 💡 In This Episode, We Discuss:What play therapy is and why it works for childrenHow kids communicate trauma through play, not wordsWhy building trust slowly is essential in therapyThe truth about confidentiality between therapist, child, and parentHow to find the right therapist (especially with Medicaid barriers)What generational trauma is—and how to begin healing itWhy it’s critical to honor a child’s grief, even in a loving homeHow to support kids through birth family visits and emotional dysregulationThe role of somatic (body-based) healing—including physical release toolsWhy foster and adoptive parents must prioritize their own support ❤️ A Powerful Reminder for ParentsStacy shares a truth many parents need to hear: “It’s amazing and beautiful—and also exhausting. You can feel both.”Supporting your child starts with supporting yourself. 📘 About Stacy SchaefferStacy Schaeffer is a child therapist specializing in grief and trauma, as well as the author of “With Love from a Children’s Therapist.” Her work blends clinical expertise with lived experience, offering both guidance and compassion to families navigating complex emotional landscapes. 🌐 Website: https://stacyschaeffer.com 📱 Instagram: @hope_restored 🌱 About This PodcastFrom Foster to Forever shares honest, hopeful stories of families formed through foster care and adoption—highlighting resilience, healing, and the beauty of nontraditional paths to parenthood. 🎧 New episodes weekly 🌐 Visit: https://fromfoster2forever.com 📱 Instagram: @foster2foreverpodcast 🔖 If This Episode Spoke to You…Please follow, rate, and share with someone who needs encouragement on their foster or adoptive parenting journey. Mentioned in this episode: 10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAG Fostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

    31 min

  8. MAR 17

    21 Kids Later: The Truth About Foster Care, Loss, and Adoption

    Foster care can bring a whirlwind of emotions, and today we're diving deep into the complexities that come with it. We’re chatting with Emily McDaniel, a seasoned foster care provider who's opened her heart and home to 21 kids over the years. Right off the bat, she highlights the tough truth that a lot of rejection in foster care is self-imposed, and that it's a wild ride to support families in crisis. As we peel back the layers, Emily shares her journey from wanting to run an orphanage to becoming a forever mom to a two-year-old girl and a 21-year-old young man. Stick around as we explore the ups and downs of foster care, the importance of community, and how to keep your why front and center in this challenging yet rewarding world. In this episode, we tackle the complex and often misunderstood world of foster care, featuring a candid conversation with Emily McDaniel, a foster care provider who’s made it her mission to open her heart and home to children in need. With 21 placements under her belt, Emily shares her experiences, the challenges she faces, and the incredible rewards that come from fostering. We dig deep into the emotional landscape of foster care—where love and loss often go hand in hand. Emily recounts her journey, revealing how her upbringing shaped her desire to help children in crisis and how she navigates the tricky waters of attachment and separation. As we explore the reality of foster care, we also highlight the need for community support and the importance of understanding the unique struggles that foster families face. Emily's perspective is both enlightening and heart-wrenching, as she discusses the realities of rejection and the hope that comes with each new placement. This episode is filled with rich insights, touching stories, and a reminder that fostering is a brave and noble calling that requires not just a big heart, but a strong support network. Whether you’re a seasoned foster parent or just curious about the system, this episode will leave you with a renewed appreciation for the families that make fostering a part of their lives. Takeaways: Foster care is often a journey through rejection, not just for the children but for the caregivers who deeply invest themselves emotionally.Understanding the importance of community support is crucial in foster care, as the journey can feel isolating and challenging without it.Each foster placement comes with its own unique challenges and joys, showcasing the complexity of building connections and navigating the system.The idea of 'home' in foster care isn't just about shelter; it’s about creating a nurturing environment for children who need stability and love.Having an open heart to foster children can lead to unexpected family dynamics, with some placements growing into lifelong relationships.Ultimately, knowing your 'why' in fostering is key; it anchors you through the ups and downs and helps you focus on the children’s needs. ***LISTENER'S SPECIAL OFFER: GET 10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGAZINE*** Mentioned in this episode: 10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAG Fostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

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There are many ways to build your family. Fostering-to-adopt is not the easiest, but it's a beautiful and profoundly impactful thing to do. Join Rachel Fulginiti, creative multi-hyphenate and two-time foster to adopt mom, as she shares her own story and the stories of others who have successfully navigated the foster care system and created their forever families through adoption. We explore the complex journey, touching on subjects like welcoming newborns or older children into your home, resiliency through loss and heartbreak, transracial adoption, special needs, co-parenting through a divorce, and more. We also amplify the voices of adult adoptees, who can teach us so much through their lived experience. If you've ever considered fostering and/or adoption, experienced it first-hand, or are simply curious to learn more, this show is for you.

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  • Creator
    Rachel Fulginiti
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    45
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Rachel Fulginiti
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    From Foster to Forever