Inside the Comfort Zone with Adam Kawalec Adam Kawalec

I interviewed Mark Staelgraeve who works as a Leadership and Agile Coach helping equip leaders to approach work and life with more verve & vitality.
Our minds love labelling things and putting things into boxes … Why?
The mind's primary directive is to protect, to keep us alive. and the sub directive of that is to predict … which helps to protect. If the mind can accurately predict danger or other forms of threats it can more efficiently carry out its prime directive; to protect us.
Learn how you can have more fun, satisfaction and happiness in life when you resist the urge to apply a black-and-white thinking, categorising and judging.

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If you're interested in chatting with Adam about stress, performance, change or life, and would like to perhaps be featured in his upcoming book, Inside the Comfort Zone, reach out at any of the above channels.

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Connect with Mark Staelgraeve, 
Website: www.markstaelgraeve.com
Email: mark@markstaelgraeve.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markstaelgraeve/

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You'll hear from other people sharing about their plans and views on retirement. A conversation that was inspired from Brian Clark's newsletter: Further. Adam is exploring a topic that some of us simply don't want to think too hard on ... You'll learn how to face the new stages of life and retirement making the subject less scary.


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If you're interested in chatting with Adam about stress, performance, change or life, and would like to perhaps be featured in his upcoming book, Inside the Comfort Zone, reach out at any of the above channels.

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Footnotes:

Sign up for Brain Clark's newsletter here: https://further.net/



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So what do you buy for someone who’s travelled around the whole world as a singer and performer, who’s kind and generous husband can count some of Hollywood’s mega stars as his close and personal friends, and who’s got some of the most amazing friends and family one can imagine??

If you can’t tell already, I was freaking out for a moment. Feeling way too self-conscious for my own good.

Luckily, throughout all the years of us working together and knowing each other, one thing was very clear when it came to what my friend had a particular fondness for …

And then I started doubting myself again!

“What if she doesn’t like them? What if it’s not enough? What would be enough? Maybe I should buy a second pair to make up for the difference?!”

By falling victim to the social trap of wanting to get it perfect, of wanting to avoid making a mistake and picking the wrong item for a gift I was devaluing my original intention, and I was actively denying the value that I had to offer.

If you’ve ever felt anxiety trying to pick the right gift or to make an impact and provide value somewhere then there’s a lesson here for you.



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If you're interested in chatting with Adam about stress, performance, change or life, and would like to perhaps be featured in his upcoming book, Inside the Comfort Zone, reach out at any of the above channels.

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Music and sound effects used in the episode, from Uppbeat.com (free for creatives):

Artist: Soundroll
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Being right is dangerous. Being right changes nothing. Being right means more of the same, and nothing new can come from that. Being wrong invites change. It can be the starting point of getting things right. It’s said that 50% of what we know today is wrong, judging from past experience. The only problem is, we don’t know which 50% we’re wrong about! Life, or really anything can’t be about being right. It can only be about getting it right. Whatever you do in life or otherwise, you want to dedicate your time to getting things right instead of wasting time trying to be right. You want to fail, and you want to learn from those failures. In fact, there are no failures. In truth that’s just a label. The only time you fail is when you fail to learn from your failure. It’s not failure, it’s only feedback and data.

Life is a series of choices. What if life was less about being right, and more about getting it right, meaning being an active participant of life or like a scientist with an insatiable curiosity, where right or wrong was nothing more than arbitrary labels, serving no purpose on the journey of living your best life.



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If you're interested in chatting with Adam about stress, performance, change or life, and would like to perhaps be featured in his upcoming book, Inside the Comfort Zone, reach out at any of the above channels.

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Footnotes:

Youtube Short by Kyle Cease, https://youtu.be/2sLg_QmEX0c

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Music and sound effects used in the episode, from Uppbeat.com (free for creatives):

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It's a familiar scene: You spend the morning making a detailed to-do list with every tiny task you need to get done, then you spend the rest of the day checking them off. You tally up all the  items on the list, only to realise you still weren't able to get everything done.

The idea of a to-do list is a popular one, but it doesn't always guarantee your productivity. It's easy to organise the day into tasks on paper or digitally, but the real work involves actually doing the work of getting things done.

A to-do list gives you the feeling of getting things done. It feels great to cross things off, or even adding stuff on the list … making you think that THIS will help you get it done … and you get to feel like a responsible, structured and productive individual.

Through the years, handling my own personal productivity and supporting clients with theirs, I’ve discovered some techniques that work better than relying on to-do lists to get things done.

A to-do list helps you DEFINE what you would like to get done or what to work on and towards. That’s as far as it goes in terms of being helpful. So by all means, keep a to-do list, just please don’t expect the list to be the answer to HOW to get things done.



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If you're interested in chatting with Adam about stress, performance, change or life, and would like to perhaps be featured in his upcoming book, Inside the Comfort Zone, reach out at any of the above channels.

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Footnotes:

Study mentioned, http://blog.idonethis.com/how-to-master-the-art-of-to-do-lists



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A survey that was conducted by a branding consultancy in the UK involving 1500 people, showed that only one in three agreed strongly that they had a kind boss and a 25% considered their leader to be unkind.

The respondents that said they had a kind boss were more likely to say that they would stay at their company for at least another year, and 96% of the respondents said that being kind at work was important to them.

What is emerging is that when caring, being compassionate and kind in not only business but also in leadership, it brings positive results for their customers, their employees and for themselves as well.

Hear from some powerful leaders in business about how kindness and compassion plays a role in the success of their businesses.



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Send Adam an email at podcast@adamkawalec.com or chat with him on WhatsApp📲

If you're interested in chatting with Adam about stress, performance, change or life, and would like to perhaps be featured in his upcoming book, Inside the Comfort Zone, reach out at any of the above channels.


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Footnotes:

Indra Nooyi Says It’s Time for Leaders to Care, on the podcast ReThinking with Adam Grant

References for studies mentioned:
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20221124-does-kindness-get-in-the-way-of-success


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