Pillow Talks

Love your podcast! My husband came across it over a year ago and we both started listening together and separate. I know you’ve had reviews and comments saying people wished it was geared towards couples with children, but I’m here to say it can be!! Be open minded and creative. Like the “f” first rule, get the sitter to come a little earlier - you have to want to make it work and if you do, it will. Thank you Vanessa and Zander for your open honest communication, you have helped me be more open with my husband and have important conversations.

So forever grateful for Vanessa and Xander, this podcast, their courses, and everything they do. I first found Vanessa when she was on Armchair Expert and then immediately binged all of the podcast episodes from the very start. Now I continue to look forward to each weekly airing on top of getting their content daily through emails and their Instagram. Not only have the podcasts been immensely helpful for my sex life but also my relationship as a whole, helping us connect more physically and emotionally, even 10 years in with my husband. Their courses are incredible as well and highly recommend everything they do! Love and appreciate their down to earth, relatable, open and honest, evidence based content! I have and continue to learn so much from Vanessa and Xander❤️

Mental load enough said! Me understanding mental load has changed the way I’ve looked at things a lot different I’ve always struggled of not understanding why my partner seem like she never wanted to have sex just in the matter of a week Istarted helping more and taken some of that load off her and I feel so much better about myself and my partner is starting to be more comfortable and more touchy something she’s always struggled with and feeling more connected. I can’t wait to learn even more I feel like I got a little cheat code now to are relationship

As a woman who is working through embarrassment and insecurity around sex, even with my husband who I’ve been with for 13 years, Vanessa & Xander helped start that journey for me. They take that shame and embarrassment out of all of the topics they discuss, really focus on communication and pleasure for all. I love that they are so accepting of everyone and are so genuine. It truly is the sex education you wish you had.