NPE Stories

Finding out I am an NPE was extremely isolating. After a while I found this, my first NPE podcast, and it has helped enormously. Almost every episode has me shouting “YES!! Exactly!!” and the host is so empathetic, asks just the right amount of questions and lets the guests tell their stories. It brings a sense of community that fights back against the isolation. I’ve cried, I’ve laughed, I’ve calmed and I’ve learned so much. The podcast is a godsend. Thank you.

I am not an NPE & knew very little about this subject until I read Dani Shapiro’s book & then started listening to her podcast. The toxic consequences of keeping secrets comes up repeatedly in all these heart-wrenching stories. My heart goes out to all these NPEs who are victimized by self-centered, narcissistic adults (parents) & other family members who continue the legacy of ‘protecting’ the perpetrators (parent/liars) & punishing the innocents (NPEs). They should be ashamed! Lily—keep up your good work. You are providing a wonderful & very necessary service to your NPE community. I’m grateful I haven’t suffered this particular type of loss/trauma but have had other difficult losses in my life. We should all try to embrace each other—especially in this day & age w/ so much polarization everywhere.

I just found out days ago that I am an NPE. It has been very overwhelming, not really anyone to talk with about this as mostly don’t get what this means. People say things like..at least you had a family…etc, etc. NOT HELPFUL. Hearing these stories help. This whole process has caused a lot of pain and silent reflection. Thank you for all who share.

I am not a NPE but a half sibling found by a NPE. I have listened to every episode to date. It has helped me understand and be supportive of my NPE brother’s journey. He has been a blessing. Thank you Lily!