Lotte Bowser on the Challenges of Loving Again After Loss

In this moving episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Lotte Bowser shares her heart-wrenching journey of losing her partner Ben to cancer and COVID-19 complications. She discusses the profound challenges of grief, the impact of his illness and death on her life, and the arduous process of rebuilding her life anew. Lottie reflects on various therapeutic practices, including writing and journalling, which helped her process pain and find a semblance of resolution. The conversation delves into the physical nature of grief, radical self-compassion, and the complexities of starting a new relationship while mourning. Lottie opens up about societal pressures surrounding grief, the duality of life balancing grief and joy, and reentering the dating world. She emphasises the importance of community support, the interplay of sex and death, and the need for sensitivity and understanding from others. This episode offers listeners insights into the enduring nature of grief and the resilience required to embrace new beginnings.

00:35 Facing the Greatest Challenge: Loss of a Partner

03:39 Coping with Grief and Finding Joy

06:22 Rebuilding Life After Loss

11:16 Navigating New Relationships

21:44 Seeking Support and Connection

23:10 Finding Strength in Numbers

24:32 Choosing Life Amidst Grief

24:59 Radical Compassion and Self-Permission

25:30 The Unfixable Nature of Death

27:02 Holding Grief and Joy Simultaneously

27:40 The Taboo of Sex and Grief

31:12 Writing as a Therapeutic Outlet

33:42 Physical Manifestations of Grief

34:46 The Universal Experience of Grief

36:41 The Duality of Bittersweet

38:19 Living Fully After Loss

48:32 The Creative Endeavour of Relationships

50:21 Complexity in Different Types of Bereavement

Find Lotte Bowser:

Instagram: @lottebowser

Read her book, Bittersweet: https://amzn.eu/d/4TMzEmV

Listen to her podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4VffRbs0rN3U2BC3qJ8wW1?si=b04773d8c32a4622

Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips. Follow me on @juliasamuelmbe.And for more info, check out my new website: juliasamuel.co.uk.

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