Love Is...

Stacey Herrera
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Love Is...

A midlife podcast hosted by Stacey Herrera that's unpacking the complexities of connection with love. Expect candid conversations, practical insight, and a healthy dose of keeping it real. Get ready to laugh, learn, and love like you mean it.

  1. 1D AGO

    Sexual Summer: The Season of Desire That Sizzles

    This week on Love Is..., we’re diving into Sexual Summer—the season of peak desire. If spring is awakening, summer is full bloom. It’s spontaneous. It’s primal. It’s the kind of hunger that lives in your skin and hums through your whole body. For women over 40, sexual summer might hit hardest in midlife, when pregnancy is no longer a worry, and pleasure becomes a top priority. In this episode, we explore: How sexual summer shows up in midlife (even if it skipped your twenties) What to do when your partner’s not in summer with you The difference between urgent desire and aligned connection Why a high libido is a sign of aliveness, not a problem How to channel sexual energy into creativity, confidence, and connection Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is an invitation to feel everything—and do you, unapologetically. 🎧 Listen now.     💌 Got a story or question about your sexual summer? Leave Stacey a voice note: https://async.com/staceynherrera  ✨ Got a topic, idea, or question? Submit ideas for upcoming episodes in the Suggestion Box https://staceyherrera.com/suggestion-box   📸 Follow Stacey on Instagram Daily insights, soft truths, and grown woman reflections https://www.instagram.com/staceynherrera/   💌 Subscribe to the Sensual Sundays Newsletter Weekly love notes on presence, embodiment, and coming home to yourself https://staceyherrera.com/sensual-sundays/   📖 Read Stacey’s Book: How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having “the talk” without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook   ⭐️ Love the Show? Leave a 5-Star Review Your words help other midlife women find us https://staceyherrera.com/love-is-review

    11 min

  2. APR 16

    Welcome to Sexual Spring

    In this week's episode of Love Is..., we’re beginning a new four-part series called Sexual Seasons—because desire isn’t static. It changes with us. Especially in midlife, when everything from hormones to heartbreak can shift how we feel about sex, touch, and our own bodies. Today, we’re exploring Sexual Spring—that delicious season of reawakened desire. It’s the sudden tingles. The unexpected turn-on. The moment you catch your reflection and think, Oh hey... I remember her. 🌸 Whether you're single, partnered, post-breakup, post-baby, or just resurfacing after a long internal winter—this episode invites you to welcome your own erotic awakening. With tenderness. With curiosity. With zero pressure to perform. We’ll talk about: What triggers sexual spring (and why it might not make logical sense) How to talk to your partner about new desires without scaring them off Why feeling “off” doesn’t mean something’s wrong—it might mean something’s waking up This one’s for every woman in midlife who’s ready to feel alive again—in her skin, her senses, and her sexuality. 💌 Want to share your own sexual spring story? Feeling a shift in your body or sexuality? I'd love to hear from you. https://async.com/staceynherrera   ✨ Got a Topic You Want Me to Cover? Submit ideas for upcoming episodes in the Suggestion Box https://staceyherrera.com/suggestion-box   📸 Follow Me on Instagram Daily insights, soft truths, and grown woman reflections https://www.instagram.com/staceynherrera/   💌 Subscribe to the Sensual Sundays Newsletter Weekly love notes on presence, embodiment, and coming home to yourself https://staceyherrera.com/sensual-sundays/   📖 Read My Book: How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? Raw, real, and redefining intimacy beyond shame https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook   ⭐️ Love the Show? Leave a 5-Star Review Your words help other midlife women find us https://staceyherrera.com/love-is-review

    9 min

  3. APR 11 · BONUS

    Love That Calls You In

    This is a little bonus minisode I had to share while the feeling was still fresh. It’s about the kind of love that doesn’t fix — it holds. The kind that doesn’t shame — it calls you in. The kind that doesn’t keep you company in the dark — it helps you find the switch.   And if you’re ready to stop betraying yourself in the name of being nice, needed, or helpful… Me, Again is that kind of calling in. That kind of love. Applications close tomorrow. Apply Now.   Links + Resrouces: Me, Again - coaching for the woman who’s done abandoning herself.

    4 min

  4. APR 9

    The Truth About Self-Abandonment

    This week on Love Is…, we’re talking about self-abandonment.  Not the hashtag version. The everyday, seemingly simple but often repeated moments where we override what’s true. In this episode, I’m dropping gems about : ✨ What self-abandonment looks like in real life ✨ The childhood roots of shrinking to be loved ✨ A relationship story I’ve never shared publicly ✨ And why healing starts with noticing If you’ve ever smiled when you wanted to cry, said yes when your body said no, or stayed quiet to keep the peace… this one’s for you. Mentioned in this episode: Me, Again - coaching for the woman who’s done abandoning herself. If this episode resonated with you: Share it with someone who needs it. Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it helps more people find the show https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-is/id1769622346 https://open.spotify.com/show/2o8FU7I91KlUeEIztDKJM7?si=8a94bbc27ef040c3 Suggest a topic or ask a question: Suggestion box

    9 min

  5. APR 2

    Why Is It so Hard to Receive?

    In this week's episode of Love Is..., I’m unpacking something tender and true: the resistance we feel when someone offers us care, love, or support—and how it messes with our nervous systems. We’re exploring: Why “I’ll do it myself” can feel safer than softness. The hidden cost of always being the strong one. And why learning to receive is actually the most radical relationship shift you can make. I also share a story about a client who couldn’t orgasm with her partner because she couldn’t let go long enough to be fully present. This episode is a loving nudge to invite more ease, more surrender, and more pleasure.   Suggested Reading: All About Love by bell hooks – A timeless exploration of love as an action and an ethic, including the ways we learn (and unlearn) how to receive it. The Art of Receiving and Giving by Betty Martin – A deeper dive into consent, touch, and the internal dynamics of receiving with presence and clarity.

    9 min

  6. MAR 26

    When Your Inner Child Has the Wheel

    Hey love, Ever catch yourself in the same argument? Or feel that familiar urge to shut down, chase, or fix—even when you know better? Your inner child might be behind the wheel. Again. In this week’s episode of Love Is, I’m breaking down how childhood survival strategies sneak into our adult relationships, why they’re so sticky, and how to start choosing differently—without blaming your past. Once you know who’s driving, you can gently take the keys back.   Want to go deeper? I created a free workbook to help you connect with your adaptive child—the part of you that learned to survive by shutting down, fixing, chasing, or perfecting. It’s gentle, eye-opening, and a great first step toward rewiring those old patterns. ➡️ Download the workbook (no email required)   Resources Referenced: Terry Real – the concept of the adaptive child “The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.” - Esther Perel  The 5-Second Pause – a simple practice to create space between trigger and reaction   💬 I'd love to hear what this episode stirred up for you— send me a voice note or an email:  Email: stacey@staceyherrera.com Leave a voice note: https://async.com/staceynherrera

    11 min

  7. MAR 19

    10 Tips For Talking About Sex

    No one teaches us how to talk about sex. That means we learn the hard way —by fumbling or mumbling —which is no bueno. That ends today. This week on the podcast, I’ve got 10 tips for making these conversations a little bit less uncomfortable. From timing it right (not while you’re getting busy) to the build-up (think Eiffel Tower—start at the base, not the tip).  You’ll be talking pleasure, desire, and boundaries with confidence in no time! You can thank me later.    Mentioned in Episode 25: Yes/Maybe/No Workbook - A structured guide for exploring desires and boundaries Got suggestions for future episodes? Let us know. (Love Is... Suggestion Box) Join the conversation!  Email: stacey@staceyherrera.com Leave a voice note: https://async.com/staceynherrera

    11 min

  8. MAR 12

    3 Strategies for Navigating Their Silence

    As a kid, silence in my house was heavy. Not the peaceful kind – the kind that sits on your chest and makes you hold your breath. That's probably why I followed my former husband from room to room trying to make him talk it out. Not my proudest moment, but hey, we're all learning here. In this week’s episode, I explain what happens when someone goes silent—they’re probably not rejecting you, by the way. I also share three strategies that will change how you handle the “silent treatment.” Plus, I’m dropping dimes about who should initiate reconnection after a shutdown. Psst… you might be doing too much.     Mentioned in Episode 24: The Gottman Institute's research on stonewalling Terry Real's approach to relationship repair The concept of "diffuse physiological arousal" (flooding)   Resources Referenced: The Gottman Institute's Four Horsemen Terry Real - Relational Life Therapy   Join the conversation!  Email: stacey@staceyherrera.com Leave a voice note: https://async.com/staceynherrera

    19 min
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A midlife podcast hosted by Stacey Herrera that's unpacking the complexities of connection with love. Expect candid conversations, practical insight, and a healthy dose of keeping it real. Get ready to laugh, learn, and love like you mean it.

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  • Creator
    Stacey Herrera
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    32
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2024
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