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Marriage and Martinis is an attempt to present a real, authentic marriage at its core: the love, hate, teamwork, struggles, laughter, humiliation, and ever-changing dynamics that comprise spousal relationships. Join Danielle and Adam as they explore every hilarious, heartfelt, shocking, embarrassing, and completely inappropriate facet of marriage and parenting. It’s a bumpy ride, but it’s worth it.
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Marriage and Martinis Danielle & Adam

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    • 4.8 • 1.4K Ratings

Marriage and Martinis is an attempt to present a real, authentic marriage at its core: the love, hate, teamwork, struggles, laughter, humiliation, and ever-changing dynamics that comprise spousal relationships. Join Danielle and Adam as they explore every hilarious, heartfelt, shocking, embarrassing, and completely inappropriate facet of marriage and parenting. It’s a bumpy ride, but it’s worth it.
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    Marriage Is Not A Requirement, With Author Lyz Lenz

    Marriage Is Not A Requirement, With Author Lyz Lenz

    Lyz Lenz grew up religious, in a household that taught their children that marriage is the only option, and divorce is totally off-limits, with the possible exceptions of infidelity and/or abuse. But 11 years into her own marriage, she knew she couldn't stay, even though the reasons for wanting to leave were different than what she had been taught were valid and acceptable. In her new book "This American Ex-Wife, How I Left My Husband And Started My Life," Lyz intertwines her story with a broader one: that of how the institution of marriage is obviously not working as it exists right now, and why we need to change the narrative on marriage and divorce. In this episode, Danielle and Lyz discuss myth vs. fact when it comes to marriage, divorce, single motherhood, and what "happiness" actually looks like. Plus, what does Lyz want women to know about marriage and divorce that no one else will tell you? And no, she isn't anti relationship, or even marriage. But she is in favor of coming together to figure out what society needs to do to make it be more fulfilling and beneficial for everyone who decides to enter into this union.
    Purchase Lyz's book wherever books are sold. Follow her on instagram @lyzlenz and subscribe to her Substack.
    BY POPULAR DEMAND: Check out Danielle's upcoming Beyond Permission sessions. Weren't able to attend the whole weekend of Beyond Permission? We're offering Mini-sessions with all the same topics that are of interest to you! Check out the details and schedule HERE!

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    • 1 hr 1 min
    The Valentine's Day Duel of Desire

    The Valentine's Day Duel of Desire

    In this fun, pre-Valentine's Day episode, Danielle and Adam go head to head in a battle of "Sex trivia." Each of them came up with ten questions revolving around sex and intimacy to try to stump the other. If you've been wanting to know more weird facts about sex, or even basic information we should have learned a long time ago, you'll love this lighthearted challenge to determine whether Adam or Danielle is the master of sex (ed).
    Valentine's Day is coming! Time to order the Date Night Questions book, and enter code, "MNMPODCAST" for 20% off - our biggest discount anywhere! Want to have it immediately? Download the ebook version and use code, "DATENIGHT" for 15% off.
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    • 54 min
    To Apologize or Not Apologize, That is the Question

    To Apologize or Not Apologize, That is the Question

    Adam and Danielle continue their conversation about communication by finally going deep into "apologies." They discuss whether or not they heard HEALTHY apologies growing up, whether they remember apologizing to friends, and how apologies (or lack thereof) have affected their relationship over the years. Other things they discuss include:

    Can a person say "sorry' too often?Should women stop apologizing so much?Do women really apologize more than men?What's the difference between saying sorry and apologizing?How have societal messages about manliness and strength hindered men's ability and turn on women?What does REAL vulnerability look and feel like in a relationship?Why is apology only the first step?What happened in the past few nights that made Danielle feel more connected to Adam than his apologies have?What does a real, genuine apology look like?
    Valentine's Day Digital Download for Couples: Spice up your Valentine’s Day whether you’re staying home or going out. Use Code VAL2024 for 15% Off!
    Valentine's Day is coming! There's nothing better to bring and/or give on your special date night than The Date Night Questions Book! Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 20% off! Use code "DATENIGHT" for 15% off the ebook version, and download it immediately!

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    • 1 hr 11 min
    Houston, We Have A Problem

    Houston, We Have A Problem

    Danielle and Adam discuss why communication is just so damn hard. Each reflects on what communication was like in their households growing up, how gender roles affects communication styles, and what type of communicator each is currently. Plus, where have they made progress concerning communication, and where do they still need to improve?
    Join Danielle on January 25th, 26th, and 27th in the evenings, EST. for an empowering virtual workshop for women. Beyond Permission will be led by Danielle and Leah, and they sessions will be filled with support, learning, conversation, activities, and so much more concerning everything midlife, sex, desire, effective communication, and body image related. Get one of the very limited VIP passes, and join Danielle, Leah, and a very small group for an after hours pajama party for Girl Talk After Dark, and go even deeper and get more raw about all the things. Do not wait! Prices increase soon! Use code "UNLEARN25" for $25 off!!
    Valentine's Day Digital Download for Couples: Spice up your Valentine’s Day whether you’re staying home or going out. Use Code VAL2024 for 15% Off!

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    • 1 hr 17 min
    Navigating “The Sex Talk Demons,” With Leah Carey

    Navigating “The Sex Talk Demons,” With Leah Carey

    ** This episode mentions and has some discussion of sexual trauma. Please take care while listening. 
    Recently, Danielle asked her good friend, sex and intimacy coach, Leah Carey, to listen to her and Adam's wildly popular episode, “Awakening The Sex Talk Demons.” Danielle wanted to know why this conversation with Adam concerning intimacy had been so explosive and chaotic before it was able to be productive. Had they done it wrong? Is it actually possible to tell your partner you need more, sexually, and have it be a smooth, gentle discussion? 
    Leah breaks down what we need to remember during these very tough conversations: we’ve been conditioned differently from the time we’re very young, and are often simply adhering to the roles we’ve been instructed to fulfill. She and Danielle discuss that infamous first Marriage and Martinis episode that Leah was on, why we can’t always trust our bodies’ physical responses during intimacy, games that can be played in lieu of telling our partner, “we’re not satisfied” as means to get a similar message across, and so much more.
    Want to spend a weekend with Danielle, Leah, and other badass women, embarking on a virtual, groundbreaking journey from January 25th to 27th. We'll be exploring our true sensual and sexual selves at midlife, shedding old stories that no longer serve us, and rewriting our personal narratives as we learn how to truly fulfill our needs and desires. Head to BeyondPermission.com too sign up!
    Want more of Leah Carey's incredible insights on intimacy and coaching, and learn more about the "Three Minute Game?" Check out LeahCarey.com.
    Listen to the conversation that inspired this episode, Awakening The Sex Talk Demons. Want more information on how to navigate your own hard conversations about intimacy? Read Danielle's blog post here.

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    • 1 hr 11 min
    Seven Days of Soul-Searching

    Seven Days of Soul-Searching

    In this follow-up episode to last week's "When Is It The Last Straw," Adam breaks down some of what he has reflected on, realized, and is starting to learn, even in the past week. However, he also admits that removing his ego from the equation is difficult for him. Danielle and Adam discuss their history with therapy, why it hasn't been effective for Adam in the past, and why he presently is beginning to change his view on it. Adam confronts Danielle about the confusing mixed messages she gave him all week, wanting to have sex despite their fighting and disconnection. Plus, Danielle brings up past events from six years ago, and discusses how never having closure about these awful acts has impacted her overall ability to move forward with Adam.
    Episode #31, The Guilt Episode, is referenced a few times in this episode. Listen to that episode from December 3, 2018 for more context.
    Want to spend a weekend with Danielle, Leah, and other badass women, embarking on a virtual, groundbreaking journey from January 25th to 27th? We'll be exploring our true sensual and sexual selves at midlife, shedding old stories that no longer serve us, and rewriting our personal narratives as we learn how to truly fulfill our needs and desires.
    Register for Beyond Permission with Danielle & Leah here.


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    • 1 hr 6 min

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My hubbs already knows whatever Adam and Danielle discuss, will more than likely make an appearance in our next deep conversation 🤣 I am newer to this community and sooooo happy I found it! It’s refreshing how real and relatable this couple can be. I’m grateful they choose to share their journey with us and help us open up to topics that are sometimes hard to tackle. Their honestly and vulnerability is truly an inspiration. You won’t be disappointed so go ahead and subscribe! 💛

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