58 episodes

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

Pillow Talks Vanessa & Xander Marin

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 1K Ratings

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

    Is This Your Shit Or Mine?

    Is This Your Shit Or Mine?

    “Should I have to stop hanging out with my ex because my girlfriend said so?”
    “Is it my husband’s job to say something to my rude in-laws?”
    We’re answering these spicy questions and many more in today’s episode of Pillow Talks!
    Most of us get annoyed by things our partner says or does — but is it their problem, or ours? Is it their responsibility to fix, or is it something we need to learn how to live with? Today we’re answering the question, “Is this your shit or mine?”
    Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode57

    • 48 min
    What Do Men REALLY Think About… ? (Vulvas, Emotional Intimacy, And More!)

    What Do Men REALLY Think About… ? (Vulvas, Emotional Intimacy, And More!)

    Every day we get DMs from women asking Xander what men REALLY think about everything from pubic hair to emotional intimacy.
    We decided we had to devote an entire podcast episode to this topic, so we gathered your most common questions and concerns, and put Xander in the hot seat. We also asked the men in our Instagram audience for their feedback. We’re giving you an invaluable peek inside the hearts and minds of men all over the world.
    Topics include:
    Cellulite How many sexual partners a woman has had Do men compare their partner to others? Vulvas (smell, look, taste) Giving oral sex Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode56

    • 40 min
    The 69 Episode

    The 69 Episode

    Love it or hate it, 69 is one of the most infamous sex acts. We just had to give it it’s own episode, especially since today is also 6/9. We’re sharing how we really feel about 69, plus 6.9 amazing tips for having the most fun in this position. You also do not want to miss the hilarious stories our audience shared with us! But that’s not all! It’s also the 1 year anniversary of the Pillow Talks Podcast! We asked you for your favorite moments and jokes from the year, and we’re sharing some of your answers. It’s a really fun walk down memory lane!
    Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode55
    Check out our online courses at https://vmtherapy.com/online-sex-therapy-programs/

    • 45 min
    Ask Us Anything Part 2: MORE Of Your Burning Questions, Answered

    Ask Us Anything Part 2: MORE Of Your Burning Questions, Answered

    We were WRONG.
    Well, Vanessa was. She thought there was no way our last Ask Us Anything episode would be popular, but it ended up being one of our most listened-to episodes!
    So we decided to do a Part 2 with more of the most asked and most interesting personal questions we’ve gotten.
    We’re talking about:
    What we fight about What we won’t do sexually Vanessa’s ultra-personal therapy update What our families think about us being in the sex therapy business What we keep private from our Instagram audience And so much more!
    Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode54
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    • 52 min
    How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For Beginners

    How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For Beginners

    Have you ever read a romance novel or watched a sex scene and felt turned on by reading or seeing something kinda kinky that you’ve never even thought of doing in the bedroom before? Maybe you like the sex you’re having now, but you’ve heard of some naughty things that make you a little…curious.
    This episode is your introduction to kink: what it is, why you might want to experiment with it, and how to actually go about trying it in a safe, healthy way!
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    • 54 min
    How To Get Your Man To Take Control In The Bedroom

    How To Get Your Man To Take Control In The Bedroom

    You’re innocently folding the laundry, just minding your own business, when your partner comes up behind you, brushes your hair away from your ear and whispers “I want you. NOW.” They order you to take off your clothes. They push you down onto the bed, and ravage you from head to toe.
    We’ve all had this fantasy, right? It’s SO sexy to think about your partner taking control.
    But what is it about this control fantasy that’s so appealing?
    You might be surprised to find out...
    If you’ve ever wanted your (male) partner to take control in the bedroom, this episode is a must-listen!
    Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode52

    • 50 min

Customer Reviews

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1K Ratings

BurtandErnie2022 ,

V & X: Always a Surprise!🎉

Every episode applies to my marriage in the most unexpected ways! I recently learned that my introverted husband is actually a PRO at flirting with me -- who knew?! (Certainly not me!)🕺🏻 I am grateful for the ways that you both help me to uncover my preconceived notions about sex, health, life, and my connection with my spouse. Thank you for all that you do, you're truly changing lives for the better!

singlepringle22 ,

Thanks for including this Single Pringle

I was hesitant to subscribe to this podcast because I am eternally single (and happy) and thought nothing would apply to me but you guys have made me realize that sexual health and self discovery is important to everyone regardless of your relationship status. I appreciate your approach to these topics from various perspectives and situations (also someone who has chosen to not have kids) and making sure everyone feels safe and welcome to explore these topics without judgement. Even if some things don’t apply to me, I am always excited to see what you guys talk about next. Thanks for the support and the laughs!

CJpartyof ,

Great tool for self reflection and relationship realities

I love that this podcast gives me moments of clarity when self reflecting. I’m able to reflect on why I think/do the things I do and identify what is healthy and what maybe needs some exploring. I’ve been able to apply many of these podcasts to my own life as well as gaining some clarity on dynamics of my relationship. I’ve done individual therapy and my husband and I have done couples therapy as well - but this podcast gives you specific things to talk about or ways to work on things which has been so helpful! Breaking the cycle of just talking without change or resolution. I’ve binged the first 13 episodes. I listen any chance I get!

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