lol i was so thrilled when i found this podcast, it’s such a safe space to get all the sex ed that i missed out on bc of purity culture! these two are so hilarious and such an endearing couple and i love listening to their banter as they provide necessary info on all things bedroom. thanks guys for being what everyone needs

I’ve been dating my guy for apx 5 months and while talking about some intimate stuff he reminded me about your IG page and he said “…& that’s why I love them and their podcast.” Well I haven’t said anything yet to him yet but I’ve banked like 15 episodes in the past 2 days (& the day is still young!) I also purchased the foreplay course. I LOVE YOU BOTH!! Thank you!!! The needy episode was so applicable to right now but really the female orgasm episode… WOW!! I can’t believe I hadn’t listened to you before but I’m so happy I have so many episodes to keep me company. Not to mention the fact that my still semi-new BF recommended this podcast… I am so grateful for him and that he’s not “too much of a ‘man’” to Do THE WORK!!! Totally swooning over all of this! Also, I’ve for sure felt awkward listening to a few episodes but you always make me feel better by the end. I’ve been journaling simultaneously and I foresee me putting correlating journal-footnotes w your episode numbers in the future! I want every man, and woman, to listen to you!!! Much love!!! -Stef

10/5 stars! Vanessa and Xander are amazing. As a penis-owner, it was hard 😉, but I did it, I caught up and listened to 200+ episodes! I tried Vanessa and Xander's advice and did one of the sexiest things a man can do, follow through on what he says he'll do, which in this case, was to write a review once I caught up! 🥳 I can't thank Vanessa and Xander for all they've done and most importantly was to help normalize talking about sex and normalize that none of us really had a clue! Their guides are amazing and well worth the price, so affordable. I also want to 📣 other listeners, don't be discouraged, sometimes what V&X suggest will work like 🧙 AND other times it'll take 👷💪, so keep going and you'll climb that 🏔️ and it'll be 🎆, so mahalo and X if you're ever on Oahu, let's 🏄!

Yes. I said it. This podcast probably could’ve saved my marriage. As a Sexual Trauma Survivor, & someone that needs that emotional connect in my relationship.. Sex and Intimacy was a huge reason I separated from my ex husband. The disconnect had grown so vast that it was hard to bounce back from. It wasn’t the only thing but it was a major key player. Listening to this podcast has made me feel seen, validated, & understood & I have no doubt if he listened to this as well he would feel the same . Xander and Vanessa have a way of normalizing & validating a man and a woman’s POV & stripping the shame and judgement from those POVs that so many people today feel. They broach every taboo topic that makes you feel like the outsider or maybe that you’re alone. What a relief to discover, that you’re actually in a crowd of people that all have had the same or similar issues! This is a marriage MUST listen. In a good spot, in a bad spot, or in whatever path you are walking. You MUST add this to your marital repertoire. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

This podcast has done so much good for my marriage! Finally getting a chance to communicate with my husband about the things I want out of him and vise versa! Our sex life is at a high and stays that way now! And I’m not afraid to tell him what I want and how I want that! Pillow talk has given me the courage to open up about my wants and needs! Thank you both so much! I just subscribed on Apple podcasts not too long ago and I’m more than glad I did! Just a short amount of time it’s changed a lot!! Thank you both so much!

I’ve been following you guys for a while and really appreciate your content both as a mental health therapist and a person in a long-term relationship. But I was really disappointed by your recent Is it cheating episode. I know that you guys try to keep it fun and light, which is great but the constant cackling and making fun of people writing in with presumably what to them were serious questions about upsetting events in their lives felt insensitive to me. And Xander’s advice that the woman who had had an inappropriate relationship with a friend when she was engaged, in my opinion was terrible. You don’t even know this person or her husband, and you advised her to leave him without telling him why or about her emotional affair. She mentioned that they had children too. Just felt irresponsible to me to give that kind of advice to someone you don’t know. I appreciate your guys’ content and will continue to follow you, but I encourage you to be a little more responsible and sensitive when responding to real life questions on your podcast.

Love the podcasts!! Vanessa & Xander are so fun to listen to and you can feel how genuine they are and how much they truly value each other.

I first heard of Pillow Talk when I listened to an episode from the Mel Robbins podcast. I learned to love what Vanessa had said on the podcast so I headed over to Spotify and am HOOKED. I'm only 23 years old and did not realize how much a podcast like this could help my sex life. My boyfriend and I listened to some of the episodes together and have loved it. I love hearing what Vanessa has to say but having a male also give input is so helpful. Xander you rock and you guys are such a power couple. I am constantly recommending this podcast to my friends. ❤️

I like this podcast but the constant ads interrupting the conversation is really annoying. This definitely turns me off. You could leave the ads for the beginning or the end of the show. I don’t think I can keep listening if this keeps going on.

Bottom line. It appears more time is spent on ad reads than actual content. Waste of time