Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

Mary Jelkovsky
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Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

Welcome to Self-Love. We cover topics surrounding self-love including body-image, confidence, self-worth, body positivity, mindset, mental health, feminism, relationships, and so much more. Along the way, your host Mary lets you in on her personal life, never shying away from the messy, raw, and real conversations that we all crave. So grab a cup of tea, slide in your headphones, and get ready for some self-lovin!

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    Ep. 239: My Unfiltered Opinions on Marriage, Dating, and Love

    Mary shares her candid thoughts on modern dating, relationships, marriage and how to approach romantic love with self-love. From the age-old debate about who should pay for the first date to the importance of embodying the qualities you seek in a partner, this episode is filled with honest reflections and thought-provoking insights. Mary challenges traditional relationship narratives, encourages self-reflection, and reminds us that love is not the only path to a fulfilling life.

    37 min

  2. FEB 15

    Ep. 238: The Art of Moving On… Breakup Advice with Kendra Allen

    If you’ve gone through a break-up recently, this episode is for you. We're talking with breakup coach Kendra Allen to learn... - how to cope with a situationship ending - why going “no contact” is beneficial to a break-up - ways that break-ups are similar to addiction recovery Kendra Allen is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up Bestie. After going through a series of painful breakups, Kendra realized there was a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice and she set out to fill it. She first launched the @yourbreakupbestie Instagram account in 2017. Since then, Kendra has helped hundreds of thousands of people recover from heartbreak through her blog, social media, coaching, and podcast. Kendra has been featured in Cosmopolitan, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, ABC News, and more. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @yourbreakupbestie

    47 min
  3. #237: 7 Self-Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My 27th Birthday

    FEB 6

    #237: 7 Self-Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My 27th Birthday

    For her 27th birthday episode, Mary shares 7 lessons she’s taking into her late-20s. Tune in for learnings on self-acceptance, self-awareness, confidence, joy and self-love as a whole. Hopefully these lessons will change your perspective on what it means to love yourself.You will learn about...the dual nature of self-lovethe surprising secret to discovering your strengthsa powerful mindset shift that will help you embrace joy—even in the midst of struggleRemember: Self-love comes not from overcoming our insecurities, but rather from embracing them. We must be-friend our demons and invite all parts of ourselves to sit at the table.If you want to make Mary’s birthday extra special, please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or a rating on Spotify. Your positive feedback is the best gift ever!Get Mary’s self-love books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Mentioned In This Episode...Ep. 150 of Mary’s Cup of Tea: Hidden Meanings in Disordered Eating with Dr. Anita JohnstonNo Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz

    50 min
  4. #236: How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat Vellos

    JAN 30

    #236: How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat Vellos

    If making friends feels hard, then this episode is for you. You will learn... - why making friends as an adult feels hard - exactly WHERE you’ll find your people - how to make friends who live close to you - actionable tips to help you find, keep, and strengthen your friendships Our guest, Kat Vellos, is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful friendships. She’s a speaker and author of the book, We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She’s also the creator of the Better than Small Talk conversation cards and the Better Conversations Calendar. Her work helps people transform disconnection and platonic longing into authentic connection and belonging. In her former career as a user experience designer at Slack and Pandora, she helped millions of people find music they love and enjoy work a lot more. While working full-time at both of those iconic companies, Kat spent her free time researching and writing her debut book We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She couldn’t stop herself from writing this book because the thirty-something friendship desert is real and she refused to take “how about we meet up in six weeks?” for an answer. So she used her UX research-n-design superpowers to explore the question “how might we design a better experience of adult friendship and simultaneously put a sizable dent in the loneliness epidemic?” Thousands of readers use her book to improve their friendships every day and her writing is read in over 100 countries. She’s been interviewed by The New York Times, NPR, Communication Arts, The Good Life Project, and many more. Sign up for Kat’s newsletter here and check out her course, Platonic Action Lab. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... How Long Til’ Black Future Month? by N.K. JemisinEp. 195 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Most Underrated EmotionWhat if friendship is easier than you think?

    41 min
  5. #235: Dear Mary, how do I deal with a fatphobic friend?

    JAN 23

    #235: Dear Mary, how do I deal with a fatphobic friend?

    (Trigger Warning: Talk of EDs & Fatphobia) Dear Mary, How do I navigate friendship with a very fatphobic and generally-judgmental friend? She is someone I met when I had anorexia. A lot of what we bonded over was the understanding of restrictive eating, because she had struggled with that as well. She is former military and has a lot of military influences to the way she views health and fitness, as well as having parents who engrained fatphobia into her. They would literally sit in the car outside grocery stores and make fun of fat people leaving(not to their faces). Her views and the vocalization of them hurt my soul, they are not an outlook on other people I have ever had, nor would want to have. She talks about these things pretty frequently. A lot of the things she says I would never want my younger sister hearing because I don't want those hurtful views in her head. I know you wonder, this person sounds awful, why do you have this friend? She is in many ways a wonderful person and a good friend. She is thoughtful, she and I just click in many ways, she is giving and loving to the people close to her, I could go on about qualities I love. But lately my feelings toward her are not good. I don't want to be around her because inevitably she will end up saying some things that really bum me out. I want her to be a lifelong friend, I want to be there for her for anything, I want to babysit her kids...but I would never want her views to be shared with mine. How do I talk to her about this? Though we challenge each other's views pretty often and are used to confrontation, she is not looking to change her mind on this. For months now I have been avoiding spending as much time around her. Neither of us have many other friends...she is a treasured person for me. What's your advice on keeping or losing a friend because of this? If you enjoyed this Dear Mary episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Get Mary’s self-love books: The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

    26 min
  6. #234: Finding Myself in the Unlikeliest of Places

    JAN 17

    #234: Finding Myself in the Unlikeliest of Places

    I went to Cuba knowing it wouldn’t be a typical vacation, but I wasn’t prepared for just how profoundly it would move me. To every question I asked my tour guide, the answer was almost always, “It’s complicated.” They say you will leave Cuba with less answers and more questions— here are some of mine: How can something be equal parts heartbreaking and heartwarming? Where is the boundary between suffering and resilience? How does history encapsulate both truth and fabrications? Why do we cling to binary thinking when life is a spectrum of endless complexities? How can humans be simultaneously broken and whole, like mosaics made of shattered multitudes? Cuba was a lesson in coexistence—where beauty and struggle, joy and pain live side by side. It reminded me that we, too, are complex and layered, yet capable of holding contradictions within us. I hope you get to experience this beautiful island one day too. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 126: Travel That Makes You a Better Person with Chelsea Glass, Founder of Heart of Travel Chen Lizra’s TEDx talk: “The power of seduction in our everyday lives” Check out Heart of Travel, an ethical travel company that does tours all over Latin America and use code MARY150 for $150 off your next trip.

    41 min
  7. #233: Motivating Yourself with Self-Love (Encore)

    JAN 9

    #233: Motivating Yourself with Self-Love (Encore)

    Self-criticism is NOT a good long-term motivation strategy. Let’s talk about how to motivate yourself with self-compassion instead. Tune in to learn... Why you might be feeling de-motivated A technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators How to employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…) Tools to find and create motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE Remember: You don’t need to wait until you’re perfectly motivated to start taking action. Imperfect, messy, reluctant action will often be enough to prove to yourself that you CAN do it, that you DO have it in you which creates a positive feedback loop. Micro steps matter. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Mentioned In This Episode...  Self-Compassion Researcher Dr. Kristin Neff on Mary's Cup of Tea   The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity Research Study

    25 min
  8. #232: The Energy We’re Bringing to 2025

    JAN 2

    #232: The Energy We’re Bringing to 2025

    “My new years resolution is to get louder, more annoying, bitchier, and overall a bigger problem that previously thought.” ~@julesandthevibe on TikTok This is not a soft self-love episode. This is an audacious one. Because 2025 is the year of audacity. It’s time to stop apologizing for taking up space, to say the weird thing, and to bet on yourself—even when it feels clunky, messy, or downright scary. From trying new things to dressing a little less “perfect” and a lot more “you,” this episode is all about stepping into bold, unapologetic self-expression. You’ll feel inspired to: Take risks, no matter how small or unconventional. Lean into tension and embrace your own contradictions. Make moves that make you squeal with delight (even if no one else gets it). Let’s kick off 2025 with more audacity, more weirdness, and a whole lot more FAFO energy. You in? Grab my Feeling Lost Guide to turn uncertainty into SELFISH SELF-DISCOVERY. If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Buy Mary’s books: The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... “My New Years resolution is to get louder” Viral TikTok video Ep. 231 with my bestie DahliArchitectural Digest video with David Netto: Ep. 201: Tips for Thrifting and Vintage Shopping with Virginia Chamlee

    36 min
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Welcome to Self-Love. We cover topics surrounding self-love including body-image, confidence, self-worth, body positivity, mindset, mental health, feminism, relationships, and so much more. Along the way, your host Mary lets you in on her personal life, never shying away from the messy, raw, and real conversations that we all crave. So grab a cup of tea, slide in your headphones, and get ready for some self-lovin!

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