Me, Myself, and I: How to have a relationship with me Sharlene H McClendon

Attachments serve as the navigation system for developing safety, trust, stability, patience, acceptance, and love for oneself. However, when an attachment is skewed or violated, it can create a faulty attachment that affects how you see and show up for yourself and others.
If such attachments are not addressed, they can change the direction of your present and future.
It is essential to recognize the signs of a faulty attachment and address it to avoid negative impacts on your self-image and relationships. By doing so, you can gain tools to develop healthy attachments, which are the foundation for building healthy relationships, especially with self.

A relationship with yourself is vital to your health and well-being by building and nurturing your mental, physical, and spiritual health. Your relationship with you gives you insight into how your values and belief system set the stage and are connected to belonging, safety, and trust in your authentic self. The authentic you that owns and honors your voice, visions, thoughts, emotions, and self-worth.

Experiencing hurtful and uncomfortable situations can cause a skewed look at relationship building. Yes, relationships can and at times be challenging to manage, grow, and develop, however, with the proper tools they can be beautiful and amazing. Gaining an understanding of why relationships are hard can be the first line of defense to moving from hard to loving relationships. Keep in mind the first relationship to move from hard to loving is the one with yourself. Your relationship with yourself will be the guide to advancing all your relationships.

Are you allowing others to supply you with information surrounding who you should be? Co-dependency leads to a discount of self and feelings, resulting in doubt of your importance and value. Creating a message that others’ beliefs are your blueprint for your thoughts, behavior, and feelings. If you are struggling to find your voice and identity due to only seeing the values in others, and not yourself, you might be experiencing co-dependency. Healthy relationships are created based on the value of self that you develop and not just the value others provide.

Rest is fundamental to the whole of who you are, but the negative messages from family, friends, or society can cause you to forfeit loving yourself through rest. Are you loving yourself daily by being still, open, and engaging with yourself through rest? Do you give yourself permission to rest without negative messages of you being lazy or unmotivated? I challenge you to assess what it means to you to rest. How often do you rest, and what message(s) do you tell yourself when you rest?

Emotions give you content and information to navigate how you show up, engage, and release you into the world. When not properly addressed or managed, emotions can become a runaway training destroying everything and everyone in its path. As beautiful as emotions can be, they can also be damaging. Utilizing healthy tools and coping skills, along with developing a relationship with yourself, you get to determine and manage the emotions and put them in their proper place.