318 episodes

Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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    • Kids & Family
    • 4.5 • 893 Ratings

Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

    Bickering Grandparents Edition

    Bickering Grandparents Edition

    On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Slate’s Allison Benedikt. They debate if a letter writer’s bickering parents need to knock it off or if it’s okay to squabble in front of the grandkids.

    Then, they sit down with Dr. Tova Walsh, professor of social work at the University of Wisconsin, to discuss her new research about how moms who gave birth in March 2020 are coping with a very strange first year of parenting. 

    In Slate Plus: What to do about kids' expensive—but oh so delicious—berry habits. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:
    Jamilah recommends Gonanas Banana Bread Mix from Nordstrom Rack. 
    Allison recommends Everything Sad Is Untrue: (a true story) by Daniel Nayeri. 
    Dan recommends I Was Told There Would Be Mom Friends by Lauren Bans

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    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. 
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    Indoor Parent Edition

    Indoor Parent Edition

    On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Dan debate if an indoor-loving mom needs to suck it up, sign her kid up for soccer, and actually go to games. 
    Then, Jamilah sits down with Virginia Sole-Smith, journalist and author of The Eating Instinct and Burnt Toast, a newsletter about parenting while navigating diet culture and fatphobia. They talk about helping kids develop healthy relationships with food and their body, especially when parents are struggling with those issues. 
    In Slate Plus: Is there a gender divide in your household over who does more of the cognitive labor? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.
    Recommendations:
    Dan recommends watching Office Space. 
    Jamilah recommends Vosges’ Smoke and Stout Caramel Chocolate Bar
    Elizabeth recommends getting your kid a CamelBak Mini M.U.L.E.
    Listener Recommendations:
    Slumber Party Predicament Edition, if you wanted to listen to the full advice for the mother who lost her daughter to stillbirth. 
    Perfectly Imperfect Family by Amie Lands.
    Someone Came Before You by Pat Schwiebert.
    The Invisible String by Patrice Karst.
    Sun Kisses, Moon Hugs by Susan Schaefer Bernardo.
    Love You Forever by Robert Munsch. 
    Wish by Matthew Cordell.

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    • 57 min
    Targeting Bans That Target Trans Kids Edition

    Targeting Bans That Target Trans Kids Edition

    On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Dan and Elizabeth talk with Alex Chen, founding director of the LGBTQ+ Advocacy Clinic at Harvard Law, about bills that prohibit transgender youth from playing sports and accessing gender-affirming health care. Check out his piece here. 
    The hosts also tackle a question about a father in a blended family who seems to be prioritizing his daughter with his previous wife over his son. 
    Then, the hilarious hosts of ICYMI, Rachelle Hampton and Madison Malone Kircher, pop by to translate internet slang that has parents scratching their heads. 
    In Slate Plus: Is it OK to read your kid’s texts? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:
    Elizabeth recommends making DIY sun hats. 
    Dan recommends reading more Ursula Le Guin, especially Four Ways to Forgiveness. 
    Jamilah recommends Cali'flour Foods’ Enchilada Bake.

    Resources:
    LGBTQ+ Advocacy Clinic
    Trans Youth Handbook
    ACLU
    GLSEN
    PFLAG
    Gender Spectrum
    Gender Odyssey

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 
     
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    • 1 hr
    Toddler Ponzi Schemes Edition

    Toddler Ponzi Schemes Edition

    On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth argue whether or not a toddler is obligated to join a sticker ponzi scheme if the invitation came from his cousin. Then, Jamilah talks to Rose Aka-James, National Membership Director of Black Mamas Matter Alliance, about the work being done to address the systemic racial disparities when it comes to Black maternal health. Check out BMMA’s Black Maternal Health Week Virtual Conference. 

    In Slate Plus: We’re pitching modern issues that just simply need to be explained via Schoolhouse Rock song. Sign up for Slate Plus. 

    Recommendations:
    Elizabeth recommends Plasticus Maritimus: An Invasive Species by Ana Pêgo. 
    Jamilah recommends Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat: Mastering the Elements of Good Cooking by Samin Nosrat. 
    Dan recommends Cookie Chronicles by Matthew Swanson and Robbi Behr. 

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 
     
    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

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    • 48 min
    Slumber Party Predicament Edition

    Slumber Party Predicament Edition

    On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Isaac Butler, co-host of Slate's Working podcast. They answer a question from a mother wondering when and how to tell her daughter that she had an older sister who died prior to birth. Then they dive into sleepover politics. Should the guest list be altered to accommodate cousins who really want an invite? 
    In Slate Plus: We’ve got tips for helping your kid be more creative. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:
    Isaac recommends Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts on Netflix.
    Jamilah recommends Iced Chocolate Almond Milk Shaken Espresso from Starbucks. 
    Elizabeth recommends Let's Make Art subscription box. 

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 
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    • 42 min
    Potentially Too Provocative Edition

    Potentially Too Provocative Edition

    On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Dan debate if you should tell a teen that what they are wearing isn’t appropriate in certain situations. Then, they advise a woman who is pregnant with her family’s second child. Their first child is white and the second child is biracial. The letter writer is concerned that her mother-in-law will treat their second child differently because of the baby’s race. 

    In Slate Plus: What’s the best way to get rid of kid art? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.

    Recommendations:
    Dan recommends Water, Wood, and Wild Things: Learning Craft and Cultivation in a Japanese Mountain Town by Hannah Kirshner. 
    Elizabeth recommends Grasshopper by Tatiana Ukhova. 
    Jamilah recommends Mean Girls. 

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 
     
    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. 

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    • 56 min

Customer Reviews

4.5 out of 5
893 Ratings

893 Ratings

Mrs. Bellew ,

Love

I love this show, the banter helps quarantine not feel so lonely especially with me home with my kids now more than ever. They have really helpful advise, it’s like having your friends here with you. The only bummer is the weight watchers ad for kids, that is troubling and I hope that gets rethought.

CarolineG2013 ,

I tune in for Jamilah

I never miss an episode and it’s mainly for Jamilah. She can perfectly explain why a situation may feel wrong or uncomfortable for a parent and then offer up the best solution. That was most evident in this week’s episode (Potentially Too Provocative) where for both listener questions she provided great guidance and insight. Please do whatever you can to keep Jamilah. Her insight and thoughtfulness is unparalleled.

gab3124578 ,

LOVE

I’m 24 I have no kids and this is my favorite podcast. It’s entertaining and soothing and fascinating. I love jamilah and Elizabeth. Specifically I love the way Elizabeth does things and I love hearing her share about her life.

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