Moments of Authenticity

Amber Boyd, LMFT
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Moments of Authenticity

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I discuss topics such as perfectionism, depression, and anxiety, not only with my clients but also with my friends, family, and colleagues. I discuss some of the concerns that come up and ways to engage with them as our most authentic selves!

  1. AUG 24

    5 Years of Healing Through Authenticity!

    Welcome back to another episode! Can you believe it’s been five years? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing the real story behind how I built Healing Through Authenticity, PLLC, from the ground up. Spoiler alert: it wasn’t easy! From packing up my life in Oakland to diving into the deep end with no job, no safety net – just pure faith in myself – this journey has been a wild ride of risks, rewards, and so many lessons along the way. If you’ve ever wondered what it’s really like to chase your dreams while battling perfectionism, doubt, and everything in between, then you’re in for an eye-opener. This episode is raw, real, and full of the personal insights I’ve gained through it all. In this episode, I’m breaking down: Why I took the biggest leap of my life – moving to a new state with no job, no insurance, just a dream. How betting on myself paid off in ways I never expected (but also some ways I wasn’t ready for). The behind-the-scenes struggles of starting my practice – clients, boundaries, and the reality of setting up shop. Why I’ve stopped striving for perfection (hint: it’s impossible) and started embracing my progress. How my clients, past and present, have shaped who I am as a therapist—and why I’m tearing up just thinking about it. Trust me, you won’t want to miss this one. Curious about what happens when you push past fear and bank on yourself? Hit play now and join me as I reflect on five unforgettable years of growth, healing, and authenticity! Timestamps [00:02] 5-year milestone in therapy practice, including training and certifications. [04:30] Perfectionism, self-doubt, and personal growth. [08:50] Personal growth, self-care, and professional development for a therapist. Notable Quotes “I believed in this business and I believed in this practice, and since then, it has sustained me. It has kept me.” “I’m still a work in progress, wanting to continue to shift and think about what kind of therapist I want to be, because I don’t have to necessarily be one thing. I’m not a monolith.” “The perfectionist side of me, is exhausting, and usually it doesn’t come out perfect anyway.” “I can do hard things, and I do hard things all the time.” “It’s okay to pace yourself.” “I am not perfect. I will never be perfect. I will consistently be a person who wants better for themselves.” “I recognize that I can’t control how people perceive me. I can only provide the information that I have in the way that I can, and if it’s received, then I’ve done my job.” “I’m giving myself permission to be exactly where I’m at versus where I’m not.” “I’m grateful, and it’s okay to, like, pause for a second and just be in it.” Music by: Noir Et Blanc Vie Moments of AuthenticityEmail: amber@amberboydtherapy.com | Instagram  | Facebook | Website | Youtube | Spotify | Apple

    15 min

  2. JUL 27

    You Can Only Control So Much

    Ever feel like you’re losing control of everything? I know the feeling. Join me in this eye-opening episode of “Moments of Authenticity” as I dive deep into the struggles and triumphs of my healing journey after a major surgery. We’ll explore the hard truth about control and why it’s sometimes necessary to let go and accept what we can’t change. The Hard Truth About Control. Discover why trying to control everything is a losing battle. My Personal Healing Story. Hear about my recent hysterectomy and the six to eight-week recovery that left me feeling powerless. Emotional Rollercoaster. How not being able to work out, clean up, or even lift heavy things made me feel frustrated and helpless. Pain and Mindset. Learn why pushing through pain isn’t always the best approach and how my mindset shifted during recovery. The Power of Language. Why the words you use about what you can and cannot do matter more than you think. Giving Yourself Grace. The importance of self-compassion and patience when life doesn’t go as planned. Timestamps [00:05] Discussion on the theme of control, related to personal healing after a hysterectomy. [01:00] Frustration with the inability to perform usual activities, like working out, after surgery. [02:21] Adjusting to physical limitations and the impact on mental health. [04:00] Mindset shift regarding control and acknowledging limitations. [06:40] Validation of one’s efforts and the importance of recognizing progress. [07:12] The importance of language and mindset in dealing with limitations. [07:50] The challenge of maintaining agency despite physical limitations. [09:50] Avoiding the all-or-nothing mindset and exploring what is within one’s control. [10:15] Adjusting activities to fit current abilities and recognizing personal agency. [11:00] The importance of not falling into cognitive distortions and maintaining a balanced perspective. [11:30] Physical relaxation techniques to help cope with the feeling of losing control. Notable Quotes “I’m used to pushing through the pain. And that’s something to really take inventory of, because in my mind, I’m like, ‘You just gotta keep pushing, you gotta keep going, you gotta keep doing those things’. And I tell my clients all the time, you can’t ignore those things, or they will come back full force.” “Not having control over when the pain is going to come or how the pain is going to come, not that I could control that anyway, but that’s just something I, in my mind, I felt like I needed to control.” “My control, or my desire for control, is a matter of mindset.” “The things that you tell yourself, you can’t do right now or can’t do any more, the idea that you can still do things and still reach goals, like you’re still getting results, they just don’t always look like the package that you want them to look in. So, make sure that you’re honoring that piece.” “I take away my own agency, when I only mentioned what I cannot do.” “I will challenge you or charge you to look at the language that you use around what you can and cannot do. And it’s actually can you or can you not do that? Or is it more like, you can’t do that right now, because those are two different things.” “Are we doing more damage to ourselves telling ourselves we need to be somewhere that we’re not yet or that we’re not like that place is not accessible to us at all? And having to shift and pivot? Are we giving ourselves credit to be there? Because I don’t always and I know that for myself.” “Give yourself more grace.”  “Allow yourself to unfold your arms, unclench your jaw, and remove your shoulders from your cheeks. Because what you feel like you can’t control right now, you’re taking away from the things that you actually can control.” Music by: Noir Et Blanc Vie Moments of Au

    12 min

  3. JUN 29

    Hidden Blessings

    Welcome back to another episode! In this episode, we dive into the concept of “Hidden Blessings.”  Have you ever felt frustrated when things don’t go as planned? Do you find yourself struggling with setbacks? Sometimes, these setbacks are actually blessings in disguise. I’ll share personal experiences and insights on how unexpected inconveniences can help realign us with our true paths. Join me as we explore the importance of being present and appreciating the journey. This episode is all about finding gratitude in the unexpected. Timestamps [00:41] Unexpected Inconvenience and Personal Story [03:41] Importance of Timing and Patience [05:41] Rethinking Grind Culture [08:06] Balancing Helping Others with Self-Care [09:01] Advocating for Personal Health Decisions [10:51] Gratitude and Reframing Experiences Notable Quotes “Sometimes we get inundated with an idea that something not working out is for our worst good. And I think that sometimes things don’t work out for our best good, right?” “Sometimes the unexpected inconvenience can jumpstart or reinvigorate the path that you’re meant to be on.” “Sometimes you don’t get where you’re going fast because you need to be where you are right this moment.” “Grind culture will have you thinking that you’re doing and you’re, you’re not doing enough, and yet, you could be doing entirely too much.” “When you are constantly trying to be alive for others, you have to realize when it’s time to shine a light back into your life and your space.” “Being very cognizant of rushing into a burning building, and that person is already standing outside.” “I feel like although it is happening at a time, that is much different than when I advocated for myself the first time, it is now taking place. And it’s now, I think, a ‘better circumstances situation’ outside of insurance.” “I’m grateful that some things did not work out, like who I thought I was going to be with at this point in time.” “It’s okay to take a pause for the cause and really reevaluate and take inventory of where you’re at this very moment.” “Sometimes, I think maybe things aren’t supposed to happen fast. Because you need to be in this present moment.” Music by: Noir Et Blanc Vie Moments of AuthenticityEmail: amber@amberboydtherapy.com | Instagram  | Facebook | Website | Youtube | Spotify | Apple

    15 min

  4. MAY 25

    Gut Check: Trusting Your Instincts

    Ever found yourself torn between following your intuition and rationalizing your decisions? Have you ever wondered about the power of gut feelings in guiding your life’s path? This "Moments of Authenticity" episode explores the transformative journey of trusting our inner voice. Join me as we navigate one of the most vulnerable episodes I’ve done to date, exploring twists and turns of intuition and heart-led choices, and uncovering the profound impact they can have on our lives. What’s Covered: Going on a soulful trip to the Rhythm of Life Conference in New Jersey, guided by my inner voice. Discovering inspiration and connection with friends like Dr. Erica Dawkins and colleague Chanel McCord, LPC  at the conference. Extending my travels to California to reunite with family before a significant surgery. Reflecting on the sudden loss of a dear Sorority Sister, Ophelia Mattox, and the lessons learned about cherishing every moment. Embracing gratitude and the transformative power of listening to our instincts in life’s twists and turns. Join me for a deep dive into the journey of trusting your gut and stepping into your destiny. Don’t miss out on the heartfelt reflections and powerful insights shared in this episode of "Moments of Authenticity." Timestamps [00:00] An overview of my recent extensive travels, highlighting the significant experiences and insights I gained along the way.  [02:05] Reconnecting with Dr. Erica Dawkins, a valued Sorority Sister and accountability partner, fostering meaningful discussions and camaraderie. [04:52] Participating in a panel discussion at Chanel McCord, LPC’s conference, offering a platform to exchange ideas and insights with fellow professionals. [08:49] Booking a flight to California to visit family and the significance of this decision. [10:51] Following intuition and saying goodbye to a dear friend. Notable Quotes “I felt like I needed to be there, I could not really pinpoint why I needed to be there. But it felt like a necessity. And so I followed my intuition. I followed my gut.” “To see each individual person, the ones who were there, discuss what their chapter was about, it felt like it also gave me strength, to continue to stand in my truth. And that my whatever I have to share is important. And I am in so much gratitude for each lady who I got a chance to sit next to who I got to hear their story, even in that small amount of time.” “So whenever I question why something, like, something in my gut is telling me I need to show up. I’m trying to be there. And I hope that you’ll take away from this episode, that same feeling. So, when you feel a shift in your spirit, in your heart, or your gut, make it.” “Because no matter how long I’ve been in mental health, that doesn’t mean that I haven’t impacted people negatively. I recognize that, like there is power and accountability.”  “If you know or think you’re supposed to be somewhere, and it’s going to be to your best benefit, do it. Don’t ignore it. It’s important. And I don’t think that we do that enough, because we’re so concerned about the ifs, buts, and whatever the case may be – the should’ve, would’ve, could’ve.”  “I hope that you listen to your instinct. I hope you listen to your gut and your discernment. It’s telling you something.” “Sometimes you got to make that move even when it doesn’t seem or sound convenient. Sometimes you have to make decisions and sacrifices that you don’t know are going to be for your best good, but it’s moving you in that direction.” Music by: Noir Et Blanc Vie Moments of Authenticity Email: amber@amberboydtherapy.com | Instagram  | Facebook | Website | Youtube | Spotify | Apple

    17 min

  5. APR 20

    You Can't Be Everyone's Airbag

    Do you find yourself constantly fixing things for others? Always the hero swooping in to catch people when they fall? While well-intentioned, this “airbag” role can backfire — both for you and those you’re trying to protect. This episode digs into why you can’t save everyone and how to set healthy boundaries while still being a supportive presence in others’ lives. In this episode, I’ll talk about: The connection between people-pleasing and a need to feel safe and needed. What “fawning” is and how it can be harmful. Why trying to shield people from challenges robs them of growth. The difference between genuine support and enabling. How to prioritize your own well-being without feeling guilty. Ready to break free from the people-pleasing trap and ditch the airbag role? Tune in to this month’s episode of Moments of Authenticity for insightful tips and an honest discussion on establishing healthier relationships.  Timestamps [00:05] The challenges of always being the “airbag” for others, especially from the perspective of a people-pleaser. [00:56] Discusses the intention to protect others from negative experiences but acknowledges that we can’t remove someone’s agency or opportunities to learn. [02:22] The distinction between helping someone with a need versus preventing them from taking responsibility for their own life and growth. [03:52] Examining your own desire to be needed or a hero, and whether the focus should actually be on the other person. [05:19] Accept that not everyone has good intentions and that sometimes people take advantage of your willingness to help. [06:21] The toll of overextending yourself for others. You must care for yourself first to meaningfully help anyone else. [07:32] Supporting others who truly cannot help themselves versus those who simply choose not to. [08:51] Are you the only option? Questioning why you’re always the go-to savior. Allowing others to learn and solve problems creates growth. Notable Quotes “You can’t be everyone’s airbag.” “I think that we can be mindful, and we can share, but trying to protect folks from their own experiences is not always the most beneficial thing because there’s sometimes the idea of us taking away their choice in their agency.” “You can’t save everyone from their circumstances or their karma, like life be life. And sometimes, it’s this idea that folks have to go through what they’re going to go through. And that just is what it is.” “Folks are so eager to step in the line of fire and then end up being the person getting burned. And I want to say that you may have the best of intentions in doing so. Right? You may have a heart of gold, you may have all the well-meaning. But it’s important to explore if you’re doing so from the perspective of overcompensating for something or because that person won’t or can’t.” “Is it about them? Or is it about you and your desire to be needed by others?” “Everybody doesn’t have the best of intentions when they’re asking you for something.” “I think that you have to put your mask on first.” “If you do if you overextend, who’s going to put you back together?” “I’m not talking about children, I’m also not talking about those who can’t – physically, mentally, emotionally – cannot do for themselves. I’m not talking about those folks. I’m talking about those who are actually capable. And making sure that that distinction is clear to my hope in saying this is not to be harsh, but it is to call you in on this idea of trying to overcompensate for something you feel like you’re lacking.” “So, you are going to show up, show out and be a savior to someone else. And my question is: If it’s not you, why can’t it be them? Why can’t we allow folks to figure out what it is that works or doesn’t work for them without being the person who’s “th

    9 min

  6. MAR 21

    Why Relationships Change After Bariatric Surgery (A Collaboration with BariNation)

    Welcome back to another episode! So, I recently had the pleasure of joining April and Jason from the  BariNation Podcast for a meaningful conversation. We explored the transformative journey that follows bariatric surgery, discussing the personal changes and the impact on relationships. I shared my own experiences, emphasizing the importance of a strong support system and embracing your new identity.  Whether you’re considering surgery or navigating life post-op, this episode offers relatable stories, valuable insights, and a celebration of growth. If you want to know what it’s like to go through this transformation and how to come out stronger on the other side, give it a listen! Timestamps [00:02] Changing relationships after bariatric surgery. [04:14] Weight loss surgery and personal growth. [05:55] Body image, self-perception, and compliments. [10:07] How weight loss surgery affects relationships. [16:52] Weight loss, self-improvement, and relationships. [21:05] Weight loss surgery and its impact on relationships. [27:08] Validating intuition and addressing relationship concerns. [32:14] Manipulation and control in personal relationships. [38:55] Personal growth and communication. [46:06] Communication and emotional impact of statements. [47:41] Self-care and mental health after bariatric surgery. Notable Quotes “I’m taking the most opportunity of the second lease on life that I have. Because I know not to take it for granted now.” “One of the biggest reasons, or one of the major reasons why big relationships change, is because the relationship to yourself changes. And so how you see yourself, how you move in the world, how you respond to things, they do start to change.” “If my shift in loving myself and keeping myself alive is a problem for you, there’s a much deeper conversation we need to have, because you’re important to me, but I’m also important to me. And if I’m not important enough to you, to keep myself alive, aside from what I can do for you, then we’ve got some serious talking to do.” “Your relationship to yourself can sometimes be shaken because of all the ways in which you’re engaging all of these spaces.” “What is absolutely mind blowing to me… when I look at myself, I really don’t think I’ve changed that much. But how I presented myself in the world absolutely has changed. And while it doesn’t feel that way, from my vantage point, it absolutely has to look different from everybody else’s vantage point.” “I think it’s also recognizing that certain people don’t mean you well. Even the ones that you love. They don’t mean you well because they also don’t want you to be competition.” “Putting yourself first... it doesn’t mean that you’re putting anybody last; it means that you’re putting you first so you can make space for the ways in which you want to show up.” “You are worthy of getting the support that you need. If it’s not coming from the people that you love, you can make space for their concerns, but don’t allow it to consume your decision to care for yourself.” Music by: Noir Et Blanc Vie BariNation Website: https://barination.com/ IG: instagram.com/bari.nation Moments of AuthenticityEmail: amber@amberboydtherapy.com | Instagram  | Facebook | Website | Youtube | Spotify | Apple

    53 min

  7. FEB 17

    You Can't Should All Over Yourself!

    Feeling overwhelmed by the never-ending demands of social media and trying to navigate your identity in today’s complex world? You’re not alone.  In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Erika M. Dawkins from Widener University and Arkeria Robertson, LPC, who dive deep into the world of minority identity development, the effects of microaggressions, and how social media can really mess with our self-image and relationships. They’re here to offer up their best advice on dealing with stress, embracing self-care, and building stronger, healthier relationships.  What’s Covered:  Social media impact on business and personal growth. Social media’s role in mental health professionals’ businesses. Social media pressure and self-doubt. Comparison and contribution in online spaces.  Balancing authenticity and pressure to conform in social media. The impact of social media on mental health professionals. Authenticity in social media and consumerism. Societal expectations and personal growth.  Prioritizing tasks and setting realistic goals.  Siloed perspectives and personal experiences. Self-care and grace in professional settings.  Self-awareness and personal growth. Tune in to hear all about their invaluable insights and practical tips that could just be the game-changer you need! About Dr. Erika M. Dawkins  Dr. Erika M. Dawkins is an Assistant Professor in the Institute for Graduate Clinical Psychology at Widener University and Clinical Director of Chester Community Coalition. Dr. Dawkins’ clinical and research interests include minority identity development, microaggressions, intersectionality, couples therapy, human sexuality, and, more recently, the impact that social media has on self-image and the development and maintenance of interpersonal relationships. In 2019, Dr. Dawkins opened her own counseling, consulting, and coaching firm, Revolutionary Perspectives, LLC. Social Media: @dr.erikadawkins About Arkeria Robertson, LPC Arkeria Robertson is a Licensed Professional Counselor with an M.A. in Mental Health Counseling. She has worked in the mental health field for the past 8 years. She has worked in community mental, housing assistance, and school-based settings. Throughout her work, she has learned the importance of implementing self-care to help clients cope with stress and anxiety. She launched her private practice, Always Amazing Counseling & Consulting in 2018. She is the author of a self-care workbook, “The Simple Self-Care Solution.” Social Media: @alwaysamazingcc Timestamps [00:04] Social media impact on business and personal growth. [04:24] Social media’s role in mental health professionals’ businesses. [05:59] Social media pressure and self-doubt. [09:54] Comparison and contribution in online spaces.  [11:17] Balancing authenticity and pressure to conform in social media. [13:23] The impact of social media on mental health professionals. [20:30] Authenticity in social media and consumerism. [22:42] Societal expectations and personal growth.  [28:30] Prioritizing tasks and setting realistic goals.  [37:25] Siloed perspectives and personal experiences. [39:33] Self-care and grace in professional settings.  [44:03] Self-awareness and personal growth. Music by: Noir Et Blanc Vie Moments of AuthenticityEmail: amber@amberboydtherapy.com | Instagram  | Facebook | Website | Youtube | Spotify | Apple

    52 min

  8. 12/23/2023

    A New Year Is Upon Us!

    Have you ever felt the weight of an entire year, its joys, sorrows, and the world’s chaos, all at once? That’s what we’re exploring in this episode, as I delve into the profound impact of 2023, finding hope amidst challenges, and the importance of self-care and authenticity.  In this episode, I’ll talk about: The profound impact that 2023 has had on our lives – from personal growth to global events. Exploring the delicate balance between holding hope and acknowledging the harsh realities of life. Why it’s crucial to share your experiences and emotions, whether with a therapist, coach, or a trusted individual. Various ways to recharge, from turning off your phone and connecting with nature to finding moments of solitude. Aspirations for the coming year, emphasizing the importance of capacity and authenticity. Listen to the full episode for a deeper dive into these reflections and to join me as I embrace the possibilities of the future. Wishing you a safe, happy New Year filled with authenticity and growth. See you next year! Timestamps [00:00] Personal growth and self-awareness in a challenging year. [01:28] The challenges of modern life, feeling both hopeful and heavy-hearted. [03:29] Personal growth and capacity for the new year. Having the capacity to show up authentically in all spaces. [04:32] Emotional expression and support. The importance of seeking support for emotional well-being. [06:12] Self-care and rest in a challenging world. The importance of rest and recharge in the new year.  Notable Quotes “The access to technology and all the things that we’re witnessing at our fingertips on a daily, minute by minute basis, is both a blessing and also a challenge because we are inundated with so many things.”  “I just want to send my love and light to all that have really endured this year. And who are continuing to pursue push through on a daily basis. I see you, I feel you, I hear you.” “Life be life and shit is hard, right? If I can be completely transparent and colloquial. Shit is hard.” “You deserve support. I’m gonna emphasize you deserve support.” “Sometimes it’s also just taking some time or a moment for yourself to be able to turn off.” “I hope this year is filled with many revelations, beautiful moments, abundance and prosperity for you and yours.” Music by: Noir Et Blanc Vie Moments of AuthenticityEmail: amber@amberboydtherapy.com | Instagram  | Facebook | Website | Youtube | Spotify | Apple

    9 min
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As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I discuss topics such as perfectionism, depression, and anxiety, not only with my clients but also with my friends, family, and colleagues. I discuss some of the concerns that come up and ways to engage with them as our most authentic selves!

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  • Creator
    Amber Boyd, LMFT
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2024
  • Episodes
    43
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Amber Boyd, LMFT
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