How To Handle Homeschool Detours
Hey, homeschoolers! If you're not where you expected to be in your homeschool, I've got you. In this episode, you'll learn why we find ourselves on a detour, how we can get even more off track, and 5 tips for reaching our destination quickly. Watch on YouTube First, let's define a homeschool detour. Detours for our purposes can be taking the same route we planned, but it's taking far longer than we thought. This was the most common detour for me. I experienced a version of it every one of my 25 years of homeschooling. We didn't get through the curriculum as quickly as we thought we would. Or we didn't even start it. That happened more times than I'd like to admit, too. The character issues that I thought my kids would master right away were still being learned in high school. A classic detour, though, is taking a different route to the destination because the intended route wasn't available or workable. Homeschool detours can be anything new that you weren't planning: classes, schedule, approach, baby, job, home. Why do we find ourselves on these detours? One obvious reason that applies in the wake of Hurricane Helene is events out of our control. Illness, a facility closure, a job loss. Other detours are more the result of a family member's choice: your spouse needs you to work, your teen wants to go to school, your child wants to compete at an elite level. Finally, there are detours that are the result of our choices. I do think detours can have all three characteristics at once. Something happens that's out of your control. Your spouse wants to do something about that. And your choice solidifies your direction. Years ago, I was driving my family home from the beach, a 12-hour drive with stops. I entered our home address into my phone's GPS and was on my way. My husband was in the back of our van, watching movies with the kids. After the movie was over, he said, "I don't recognize this town." I waved him off, telling him that I was taking the route the GPS told me. But the truth was I didn't recognize it either. I figured I just hadn't paid attention on our last trip or the GPS was taking me on a better, faster route. The first reason we find ourselves on a detour of our own making is because we aren't paying attention. I wasn't looking at the surroundings as I drove. I also didn't check my son's math homework for weeks, only to realize he hadn't been doing it. I wasn't checking my son's laundry, so I didn't realize he'd been putting his clean laundry in his dirty clothes hamper just so he wouldn't have to put it away. I was on a coming-home-from-vacation detour primarily because I wasn't paying attention. But the second reason we find ourselves on a detour of our own making is because we trusted but didn't verify. I trusted my GPS to navigate me home but I didn't verify that it was giving me the fastest route. I trusted my kids to do the right thing and didn't verify. But I also trusted homeschool and parenting experts that if I did everything they said to do that my kids would be giants of the faith with full-ride scholarships. You won't be surprised to hear that I haven't yet arrived at that destination. The third reason we find ourselves on a detour of our own making is our pride. "I know what I'm doing!" I thought, as my husband expressed doubt in our direction. He didn't know what was going on, I thought. He's too busy watching a movie! When someone questions our homeschooling or parenting, we may dig our heels in and do even more rather than admit to our weakness.
