Unbroken Alexandra Amor

Old-paradigm psychology can try to convince us that unwanted habits are caused by a need to feel loved or safe or cared for. It can feel like we’re using food, or other substances, to soothe or comfort ourselves. In this podcast episode we bust this myth and look toward the true origin of unwanted habits.







You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.







Are you interested in connecting with others who are exploring this understanding? Would you like some coaching and ongoing support with an eye toward resolving an unwanted habit? Click the image below to learn about the Unbroken Community and join the waitlist.













Show Notes









* The five reasons an unwanted habit has nothing to do with replacing love







* Does it matter where our painful thoughts about food originate?







* On the fluidity of thought and how it can change, morph and disappear







* How the feeling connected to a thought is going to tell us if it’s the truth or a lie







* How it’s not on us to change, manage or control our thoughts







* How we are not in control of the timeline of when things change









Transcript of episode







Hello Explorers and welcome to episode 62 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m here today to talk about the really common myth that when we have an unwanted habit where we’re using that habit to replace love that we might feel that we are missing. 







So in other words, as it said on the title card for this episode, is food really love? Or is that a myth? I’m going to tell you why I think it’s a myth.







Before I say that, I should say that I think it makes sense that we came to that conclusion. And I know for me, I spent years and years trying to love myself in a way that would cause my unwanted overeating habit to disappear. And none of what I tried worked. I tried things like journaling, affirmations, radical self-compassion. What else was in that arena of loving ourselves? Cognitive behavioral therapy. I took a course I’ve talked about this before. And it was all about creating a loving feeling within ourselves. In order that our overeating habit would drop away. And none of that worked. 







I’m going to talk about that today and about what I see now, when we have the thought that we’re using a substance like food to try to replace love within ourselves.







Before we get into that, I want to quickly have a reminder here, that if you haven’t done so already, you can sign up for the waitlist for the Unbroken community.







The address for that is AlexandraAmor.com/community. And there’s lots of information there on that page. 







The community will be launching later this year in 2024. And we will be having some live coaching in the community, we’ll have an online group, we’ll have a couple calls a month live with me. And as I say, all the details are there on that page, AlexandraAmor.com/community. 

As a long-time coach, and before that an HR professional, Dominic Scaffidi points his clients back toward an awareness of their innate wisdom and ability to thrive effortlessly. He reminds us that we are always more than our human minds can grasp.









As a Master Certified Coach (MCC) credentialed with the International Coaching Federation (ICF) Dominic works with leaders, teams, entrepreneurs and individuals to achieve professional and personal aspirations. He points clients to a realization of who they really are as they focus on creating what they most desire in life.







Dominic is a Registered 3 Principles Practitioner who is grounded in the teaching of Sydney Banks.









You can find Dominic at DominicScaffidi.com and on Facebook.







You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.







Show Notes









* On the overlap between the Law of Attraction and the Three Principles







* Being willing to sit in paradox and wait for clarity







* On the innate intelligence that flows through every living thing







* Our human ability to resist that intelligence with our thinking







* Manifesting: Allowing ourselves to perceive what already exists







* Following a good feeling toward what wants to be







* Your wisdom is always in a beautiful feeling







* How our feelings are always indicating what we’re thinking









Resources Mentioned in this Episode









* Michael Neill’s TedX Talk Why aren’t we awesomer?









Transcript of Interview with Dominic Scaffidi







Alexandra: Dominick Scaffidi, welcome to Unbroken.







Dominic: Thank you, thanks for the invitation. I’m really looking forward to our conversation.







Alexandra: Me too. I’ve never spoken to you one on one. So this will be fun. 







Tell us a little bit about your background and how you got interested in the Three Principles.







Dominic: I’ve been self-employed as a coach, executive coach, mostly. I deal with leaders and organizations like that. And I’ve been self-employed for about 15 years. Prior to that, tt was a corporate career that I had in very large organizations. The last corporate role that I held was a VP of HR position. And so that’s kind of a bit of that. 







My career has continually moved to more and more reflection of what I’m interested in, my passion. So that kind of relates to the Three Principles, in that my purpose in life, I say, is to awaken greatness. Maybe you could say it as to reveal greatness, to reveal what’s within us. And so that’s a link to what appealed to me about the Three Principles. 







Maybe seven or eight years ago, I came across the Principles and the teachings of Sydney banks, and they immediately resonated as this is true, this is pure truth. What he was pointing to, it was just obvious, it was obvious that this is just true. And so I became really interested in delving into that into that understanding, which is a deeper understanding of who I really am, my true nature and the nature of reality. 

So often we demonize our bad habits. But what if those habits are working to bring us messages about our perfect human design?







You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.







Click the image below to learn about the Unbroken Community and join the waitlist.













Show Notes









* Your unwanted habit is not a problem







* The good feeling our habits point us toward







* How we are designed to return to a state of calm and quiet







* How understanding the nature of thought resolves habits







* The gift of knowing where our experience is coming from









Transcript of Episode







When we have an unwanted habit like overeating it can feel like there’s something broken about us. Our culture tends to shame those with unwanted habits and it is widely assumed that there is something wrong with anyone who struggles with them. Judgments, including self-judgments, are made about a perceived lack of discipline or lack of self-care. 







But what if an unwanted habit like overeating was a sign of all that’s right with you, not with something that’s wrong?







What if your unwanted habit is a solution, not a problem?







For decades, we’ve been approaching unwanted habits as though they are the enemy. How’s that working for us? Not well, I’d say. We only have to look at the rising statistics about obesity or drug and alcohol addiction to see that this seems to be a battle we’re losing. Badly.







In this course, I’d like to explore turning our attitude toward unwanted habits on its head. It’s so easy to misunderstand what an unwanted habit is trying to tell us, so we’ll explore the messages habits are trying to send us and how our unwanted habits are actually a perfect part of our innate design.







If that sounds absurd or ridiculous, consider that until very recently we thought we had only five senses. Scientists now identify more than 20. Things look true until we are presented with an alternative.







I’m Alexandra Amor and I’m an author, a podcaster, and someone who’s searched for answers about my own unwanted overeating habit for the past three decades. Name a strategy for resolving a habit and I’ve tried it. Nothing worked.







Then in 2017 I discovered a field of spiritual psychology that had me doubting my perceived brokenness and instead awakening to the innate well-being that is within all of us. This change in understanding has me looking toward my wholeness, rather than perceived brokenness, and has helped me to resolve so much of what I had been suffering with for years. It has led me back to my natural state of calm resilience. No will power required.







If you are someone who has an unresolved and unwanted habit that’s what I want to share with you in this course.







Lesson 1: Your habit is not a problem







Hello and welcome,







Have you ever found yourself engaged in a behaviour while simultaneously berating yourself for that behaviour? I’m guessing you answered yes to that question because the truth is almost all humans have this experience at one time or another. This is an unwanted habit.









* Smoking







* Drinking too much

One Sunday afternoon in April a traveller and a podcaster meet and share a drive through the mountains of Vancouver Island. As a result, the podcaster is deeply moved by the message the traveller, and the universe, had for her.







You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.







Show Notes









* Clarification about the traffic light metaphor







* Trusting a good feeling that comes with an unusual experience







* Following that good feeling







* Listening to nudges from the universe







* Listening to the feeling behind the words someone is sharing







* Learning to relax as a spiritual practice







* Noting the miracles and synchronicities that happen to us









Resources Mentioned in this Episode









* Michael Singer’s books are The Untethered Soul and The Surrender Experiment







* Dominic Scafidi and Grace Kelly’s Living Miraculously course









Transcript of Episode







Hello explorers and welcome to Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. This is episode 59. Thank you for being here with me today.







I want to remind you that if you’re interested in joining the Unbroken Community, or at least getting on the waitlist there, you can do that at AlexandraAmor.com/community. That’s going to be an interactive twice monthly group call, lots of interaction with me, lots of support, lots of community, as the name implies, and connection with your fellow explorers. And all the details are on that webpage. As I said, AlexandraAmor.com/community.







Second thing. Last week in Episode 58, partway through, I talked about the red, yellow, green light of truth of tuning into or leaning into connecting with our intuition about moving forward, which is going to connect to today’s show, actually. My friend who listens to this episode pointed out to me, she said, “When you’re talking about the red, green, yellow light, are you seeing that visually?” which made me realize, Oh, I didn’t really explain that properly, then.







The light metaphor that I used, really just explains a feeling.







So when I say I would get a green light in my body, what I mean is, I feel it somewhere inside me. Now I specifically feel that feeling in my solar plexus, that’s the place where I always feel everything. You know how we talk about it, we have a gut feeling, I think that’s where that expression must come from. Because I always feel those things in the area of my solar plexus. Sort of behind my belly button. That part of my body.







When I feel green light feeling it’s there. I don’t see a green light or anything. Same with red, and then yellow. The yellow light’s kind of interesting, because it’s either it’s a little bit binary, you know, it’s a yes or no, very often. And I guess sometimes it feels like a well, you know, maybe maybe not, there’s a bit of hesitation there, it’s less, perhaps less dramatic than a full a no, full stop. So that maybe we could classify that as yellow light.







In your own experience, you might, if you give the traffic light metaphor a try,

Our bodies are the vehicles in which we move through life. Our thinking can be the fog that sometimes fills up the windshield we are looking through. Thankfully, we all have factory installed GPS to help guide our way.







You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.







Click the image below to learn about the Unbroken Community and join the waitlist.













Transcript of Episode







Hello, explorers, and welcome to episode 58 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m here today to talk about the windshield of life. I’ll get into that in just a moment. And it is really the one thing I think that when we see it about life, when we understand this idea, this metaphor, it really does change everything, including our ability to deal with things like anxiety, or depression, or unwanted habits like overeating. So we’ll get into that in just a second. 







I do want to mention again about the Unbroken Community that I’m starting up. So if you’re interested in joining a group of like minded people, having some one-on-one coaching from me, meeting regularly, twice a month to do that, and learning from the coaching that other people receive as well, go to alexandraamorcom/community. You can learn all about what I’m thinking of for this community. And learn more about the details, including the 10% off that you’ll receive for all my books and courses, and a library of videos that will be available, all that kind of stuff, Alexandraamor.com/community. And there, you can sign up to join the waiting list. 







The community hasn’t started yet, if you’re listening to this, as I’m recording in early April 2024. But I want to gauge the level of interest and just see if there’s enough interest in having a group like that. So that’s where you can go to learn more about that and sign up if you would like further information when the group comes together, and when it will be meeting and all that kind of stuff.







All right, let’s get on to this metaphor that I’ve got for you today about the windscreen of life.







This came to me the other day, and I jotted it down, probably more than a week ago. And I’ve been sort of contemplating it ever since. I really like it, I think it really explains a lot about what we’re trying to get our heads around when we’re exploring this inside out understanding. So it looks like this. 







Picture a car, for me, any kind of car doesn’t matter what kind of car it is, could be your car could be your fantasy car, whatever it is. And that car is going to be a metaphor for us for the way that we move through life. And in every car nowadays, anyway, there’s always a windscreen protecting the driver and the passengers, the interior of the car from what’s on the outside. And so like I said, yeah, the car is a metaphor for you for your body. It’s the vehicle that you are using to move through life. 







The windscreen is our ability to see.







It’s as clear as possible. We want it to be clean and clear so that we can see what’s happening outside of the vehicle, outside of the car. And then what happens?

Life has an unerring knack for presenting us with challenges and opportunities for change. Dr. Linda Pettit explores our innate intuitive nature and how we can use that to help us navigate the curves that life brings to us.













Dr. Linda Sandel Pettit is a distinguished author known for her insightful work, including her acclaimed memoir, Leaning into Cuves: Trusting the Wild, Intuitive Way of Love.







With over five decades dedicated to writing, four decades immersed in counseling psychology, and two decades serving as a spiritual mentor, Dr. Linda brings a wealth of experience and expertise to her practice as a speaker, writer and mentor.







Unafraid to delve into divine wisdom, deep feminine knowing, and intuition, Dr. Linda empowers her clients to tap into their innermost truths. Through her guidance, she inspires and facilitates the release of pure love, allowing individuals to express their authentic selves fully.







You can find Linda Pettit at LindaSandelPettit.com and on Instagram at lindasandelpettit.







Click the image below to learn about the Unbroken Community and join the waitlist.













You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.







Show Notes









* Discovering that anxiety is thought created 







* What if being calm and in a good feeling is how we’re meant to exist?







* The only thing that ever gets in the way of love is our thinking







* Using self-reporting instruments to gauge how clients were being helped by the Three Principles understanding







* How our intuitive knowing is a life raft for us







* How mystical experiences are the norm or all of us







* Examples of listening to intuitive knowing and letting it guide us







* Why waiting for the moving parts of life to align is important









Resources Mentioned in this Episode









* Linda’s book Leaning Into Curves







* Book: The Butterfly Effect by Andy Andrews









Transcript of Interview with Dr. Linda Pettit







Alexandra: Dr. Linda Sandel Pettit, welcome to Unbroken.







Linda: Thank you. Good to be here.







Alexandra: It’s lovely to have you here. So why don’t we begin with a bit of your background? 







Why don’t you tell us who you are and when you came across the Three Principles?







Linda: I have kind of an interesting background. I started out in journalism and public relations. And then I found my way into the helping professions. I was a counseling psychologist for 30 some, 35 years. And now I do speaking, and writing and mentoring. 







I came across the Three Principles about what was exactly 21 years ago. So when I met my husband, who many know in the Three Principles world, Dr. Bill Pettit, he’s a psychiatrist. And he had been mentored by Sydney Banks, the man who shared the principles originally. Or boy, even at that point, I think it had been close to 20 years. And so I got introduced through Bill.