Navigating Intimacy: Understanding ADHD's Impact on Women's Sexuality

In this week’s exclusive interview, Kate chats to experienced, accredited therapist and sexual advisor Debbie Amichai about unlocking your sexuality with ADHD. With over 25 years of experience, Debbie has a master’s degree in social studies and social work from Oxford University. She runs clinics for individuals, couples and families and supports clients all over the world through video calls. Debbie is also in the process of co-writing a book with her husband on how to be a happy and successful ADHD couple in the digital era. Debbie frequently works with couples where one or both partners has ADHD, and has discovered that most people are unaware of how their neurodivergence impacts their relationship. This conversation with Debbie delves into the complex interplay between ADHD and women's sexuality, shedding light on the unique challenges and experiences faced by women with ADHD in their intimate relationships. What we discuss highlights how societal stigma and personal self-criticism can significantly impact sexual desire and satisfaction. We also explore the intricate relationship between hormonal fluctuations and ADHD symptoms, emphasizing the importance of understanding these dynamics for better management of both conditions. We also speak abut the effects of everyday stressors and relationship dynamics on sexual intimacy, particularly in the context of our busy lives and parenting. By fostering self-compassion and mindfulness, women can navigate their needs and advocate for a fulfilling sexual life. On today's Toolkit episode, Kate and Debbie talk about: The complexity of women's sexuality, especially when combined with ADHD. The impact of ADHD on relationships and sexual intimacy, addressing issues such as distraction, self-criticism and low sexual desire Strategies for improving sexual relationships, such as planning, creating a conducive environment, and using sensory experiences. Internal and external factors that affect sexual arousal and desire. The challenges of maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships and the importance of self-compassion and asking for space. This episode is packed with valuable advice to help you navigate your sexual relationship with ADHD and foster deeper connections with your partner. Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to the Episode 00:01 - Meet Debbie Amihai: Therapist and Sexual Advisor 00:31 - Understanding ADHD and Women's Sexuality 01:21 - The Complexities of ADHD in Relationships 01:44 - Strategies for Improving Sexual Relationships 02:00 - Reflecting on Personal Barriers to Intimacy 03:15 - Navigating the Challenges of ADHD in Sexual Dynamics 39:22 - The Role of Hormones in ADHD and Sexuality 50:03 - Conclusion and Resources for Further Exploration Have a look at some of Kate's workshops and free resources here: https://www.adhdwomenswellbeing.co.uk/workshops Kate Moryoussef is a women’s ADHD Lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity. To connect with Debbie, email her here: debamichai@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/adhd_womenswellbeing_pod/ Follow Kate on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/kate_moryoussef/ Find Kate's resources on ADDitude magazine here: https://www.additudemag.com/?s=kate+moryoussef