Not So Normal Parenting Wendy Gossett Personality Prodigy, Best Selling Author, Parenting Coach

Do you feel like you are parenting a unicorn? Does it ever seem like they are the H CH Cr dog in a dog park of golden doodles? Or maybe I just described how you feel? Some personality types are rare, making up only .05% of the population! These lovely souls often go around feeling insecure because they feel like something is wrong with them since they aren’t like everyone else. It is like being a lefty in a righty society! These are the intuitive types. The Scarecrows from the Wizard of Ox also known as the Eagle face of God and the Tinmen or Human face of God. Be sure to listen to Episode 2, Nature or Nurture, the four behavior patterns if you want to learn more. In today’s episode we are going to talk about sensors and intuitives, how to tell them apart and stay tuned to the end because I am going to give you five powerful ways to parent your not so normal kids!
Sensing and Intuition, S or N: Reality or Speculation
In simple terms, Sensing and Intuition, the second position in the four-letter pattern, refer to Sensing and Intuition show us how we learn, experience, and gather information from the world.
Sensors use their five physical senses, and Intuitives use their sixth sense. S and N are like giant funnels that take in information without judging. Their purpose is to observe and gather information. The majority of the world’s population are Sensors (86ish%), so Intuitive types often feel out of place or misunderstood. Sensors talk about reality or what is, and what was. They tend to have down to earth practical concerns. Common topics of conversation range from the weather or the news to a favorite recipe, their new car, or their current workout. Talking about things they can see, hear, touch, taste, or smell right now. Young Sensing children explore their environment by putting everything in their mouths. They learn by observing and doing. These are the kids that eat paste, playdough and crayons! Sensing children like playing with tangible things and activities that are rooted in reality. They are sensory and also have a heightened awareness of textures, smells, tastes and sounds. They are physical and enjoy using their bodies.  
Intuitives speculate about intangible questions like, What if …, or, What does it mean?  Their favorite topics of conversation might range from why a company changed the colors of their logo to the meaning of song lyrics or the reason people turn to a life of crime. Introverted intuitives often daydream and get lost in thought and may not see the physical world around them and extroverted intuitives love to brainstorm all their big ideas. Rather than down to earth practical matters, they are often dreaming up something new they can create. I am an intuitive and don’t judge, but I struggle to clean house or cook food. When my children were home, of course I did these things, but now that it is just me and my hubby, we sort of fend for ourselves. I lived off of Costco chicken nuggets wile I was first creating this podcast! Intuitive children are going to engage more in imaginative play and create elaborate storylines. They may speculate into the future and ask questions about abstract topics like existence, time and space. Intuitive Feelers (Tinmen) are relational and empathetic, whereas Intuitive Thinkers (Scarecrow) are conceptual and theoretical. Most Intuitive children tend to talk early, develop impressive vocabularies, and show creativity with theories and ideas. The Introverted Intuitives won’t be as talkative but will show skills in reading earlier than Sensing types.
Both S and N types can appreciate facts and speculate about the unknown, but temperament is determined by which mode is most preferred.
The differences between Sensing and Intuition can be very difficult to detect in both children and adults. Sometimes, these differences show up unannounced, causing an underlying feeling of inclusion or exclusion, depending on the environment. Sensors are aware and imitati

In this episode, we delve into the age-old debate of nature versus nurture and its impact on our temperament.
Discover the findings of an eighty-year Harvard happiness study, revealing that 50% of our happiness capacity is determined by our temperament, which is set at birth. Despite this, we often focus on changing our circumstances rather than accepting our inherent strengths. We explore how temperament influences our reactions to life's challenges and how understanding our children's temperament is crucial for effective parenting.
Drawing from real-life examples and psychological research, we examine how temperament manifests from infancy and shapes our experiences and interactions. From fussy babies to strong-willed toddlers, each child exhibits unique traits that remain consistent throughout their lives.
Join us as we explore the four main personality patterns: Cooperators (Ox), and (Human)  Challengers (Lion), and (Scarecrows). Through anecdotes and character analyses from literature, such as "The Wizard of Oz," we gain insight into the characteristics and motivations of each personality type.
Don't miss out on practical tips for parenting and fostering harmony within your family, tailored to the specific needs of each personality pattern. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of nature versus nurture and its profound impact on our lives.
 
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In this episode Wendy talks about the 3 centers of intelligence in the enneagram system. The Bodoy center which is concerned with control, autonomy and centers around the emotion of anger. The Heart center concerned with attention and self image centers around grief or shame and the Head center, concerned with security and systems or beliefs centers around the emotion of fear or anxiety. We will talk about all nine types and what the fixate on. We will also talk about how people misunderstand and misuse the Enneagram, what it is and what it is not!
 
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Because this personality type often feels overlooked, it is critical that they feel seen by the most important people in their lives: their parents and siblings. Sometimes their negative emotions can stay buried for weeks without your child even knowing what is bothering them.
 
My 22 year old son Nathan (who is now graduating with a Pre-Med degree) struggled with ADHD, OCD, anxiety and sensory processing disorder. Through understanding his temperament, as a highly sensitive introvert and a peacemaker, he has learned many ways to build upon his strengths and overcome his weaknesses. Gain insights and helpful coping mechanisms for dealing with all these issues from childhood bedtime routines to asserting boundaries in social interactions, anxiety management, and the quest for self-acceptance.
Discover how your child's main brain function (introverted sensing) shapes decision making involving extracurricular choices, social interactions, loyalty, peer pressure, substance curiosity and choosing a life path.
 
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ntroverted Thinking Lion ISTP (Introverted Sensing Thinking and Perceiving), Type 8 individuals are intellectually sharp but may lack emotional intelligence, making self-awareness essential. Their affinity for systems makes understanding temperament valuable. Female thinkers constitute only 25% of the population, underscoring the importance of teaching appropriate interactions with women. It's crucial to acknowledge and validate their uniqueness. Encourage Introverted thinking (Ti) individuals to explore logical subjects like engineering, philosophy, or theology, aligning with their strategic, independent nature. For ISTPs, action trumps reading, so practical books with real-life scenarios are ideal. As they mature, purpose-driven books become more appealing. Engage ISTP children by acting out stories and ensuring rules make logical sense to them. Embrace the Lion: Encourage freedom and fun, but address ADHD concerns tactfully, considering placebos and life lessons over medication. Observing the lion's transformative journey from childhood to adulthood reveals adaptability and growth in various aspects of life. Ti's self-discipline and intrinsic motivation require patience and negotiation, favoring silly activities and collaborative rule-making. Recognize and harness Ti-Lion's independence and problem-solving skills, incentivizing with sensory rewards and freedom. Understand Ti-Lion's aversion to losing and preference for logical problem-solving, adapting games and communication methods accordingly. Navigate Ti individuals' lower emotional awareness with rational discussions and group activities, fostering emotional intelligence gradually. For type 8 individuals, fairness and justice are paramount, necessitating fair chore distribution and constructive anger expression outlets. Understanding Ti-Lion's extroverted introversion, provide space for solitude and engage in exciting, challenging activities to connect. Bond with Ti-Lion through stimulating activities, avoiding rigid plans, and embracing spontaneity, fostering a dynamic, fulfilling relationship.
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Ever find yourself wondering if your child's behavior is normal? Some personality types don’t respond to traditional parenting. This could be why you are feeling stressed and uncertain how to handle their sibling rivalry, explosive tantrums, disorganization, picky eating, impulsivity, sleep problems, low empathy, high sensitivity or fill in the blank.  Maybe you and your partner don’t feel as close as you once did. Due to all the crazy, you may have lost sight of the connection that brought you together? Are you struggling to identify the God given strengths in your child, connect with your child and be on the same page with your partner? Are you praying for a way to finally relax and feel assured that you are parenting your child in a way that will bring out the best in them?
 
I understand the journey and have asked these very questions many many many times myself. Both my kids fall outside of the norm. My son is a highly sensitive feeler who broke his arm in band and cross country…not once, but twice! I bet you didn’t realize that band and cross country could be hazardous! He struggled with sensory processing disorder, OCD, anxiety and ADHD. My daughter, on the other hand, is a highly logical thinker, who enjoyed decapitating her American Girl dolls, riding a scooter through the neighborhood with a live chicken on the handlebars and refusing to eat anything unless it was a Cheezit, goldfish or chicken nugget. She struggled with low empathy, low grades and ADHD. I am not normal either, which you will discover if you Google “mom embarrasses son by dancing in a blizzard, on the Interstate to the Backstreet Boys.” If you are familiar with the Myers Briggs system I am an ENFJ and if the Enneagram is your jam, I am a type 1 to 1 type 4 wing 3.  Although I do hold a Master’s degree in education and work as a team building coach, these credentials did not help when it came to managing my own family team and parenting my daughter who is opposite of me in every way and nothing like anyone else in the family. It felt as though she had been beamed down to us from another planet. This is why my understanding extends to parents in blended and adoptive families, where the process of getting to know your new child can be its own unique challenge and feel anything but normal!
 
There was no user manual for my daughter. Every parenting book I picked up didn’t seem to fit. By the time she was five years old, I felt like I was yelling at her more than I was being positive. She was a tornado of orneryness, very blunt with her negative opinions and she didn’t know how to show appreciation or affection. When I looked at her, all I could see were her weaknesses and I was worried that if I didn’t turn things around and figure out how to reframe the way I saw her, I was going to ruin our relationship and damage her self-esteem. To make matters worse, my son was super easy to understand and parent. She was already commenting on how he was the good kid and she was the bad kid. As I was using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram in my career as a team building coach and educator, I realized these tools could be powerful for helping family teams.  I set out to study child personality patterns and began crafting a best-selling book called "Your Child’s Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens." Its packed with helpful tools, discipline techniques, and over two hundred real-life case studies from families sharing their unique stories about children of all sixteen personality types. To my surprise, my not so normal kids fell into normalized categories. As it turns out, they were acting perfectly normal for their personality types.  I've also developed a brain mapping system that is equal to a QEEG map of the brain. If you have ever wanted to take a peek into your child’s head to understand why on earth they just threw a perfectly delicious ice cream cone up against the wall, now you can!  With each family mem