P.S. We Expire with Morgan Motsinger Morgan Motsinger

What if you've got a dream for your life but it doesn't seem possible with your current circumstances?
Stefanie and I are both part of the "Child Loss" club, which is just a nice way of saying we've both had our children die from Sanfilippo Syndrome. Today we're discussing the reality of having children with a debilitating and terminal disease, what to do when you've got a vision for your life that just doesn't match up, and what to do in the season of waiting. 
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Stefanie Boyce, B.A, CSD, CET-1, R-YFT, MBC is the Oaks Retreat Director, creator of the Oaks Retreat signature framework and Founder and Therapeutic Coach at Inner Sanctuary Home, Inc. She received her degree in Psychology and Community Health and holds certifications as an Experiential Therapist, Spiritual Director, Yoga Instructor, Mind-Body Coach and Wellness Counselor. She has received additional training in Integrative Somatic Parts Work and Psychodrama modalities and has prior experience working with Domestic Violence, Pediatric Hospice, and Church Ministry. She also enjoys her collaborative relationship serving on the team as a Therapeutic Coach at Radical Wellness Co. in San Clemente, CA. Stefanie hosts workshops, retreats, yoga instruction, and therapeutic coaching for individuals and groups. Blending her creative passions, life experience, and training, she loves holding space for others to get curious, dig deep, and live well. Stefanie lives outside of San Diego, CA with her family.
 
@stefanieboycecoaching
https://www.stefanieboyce.com/
 

How did you get your views about sex and sexuality? What contributed to your sexual ethic? We learn about sex, shame, and sexuality from our parents (through what is said or not said), movies, pornography, friends, magazines, and more. But how often do we challenge our views and really dig into what we believe and why. This conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a great way to start asking those important questions. 
We discuss some of the downstream affects of sexual shame, the outcomes of purity culture (and what purity culture actually is), and how to raise our children in sex-positive households. 
Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, and social justice. Her revolutionary perspectives have been expressed on platforms such as Spirituality & Health, Refinery 29, Vocal, Medium, and Bust Magazines, along with many podcast, radio, news, and TV interviews. Known for exposing the impact of sexual shame on our ability to securely attach to our partners, and instruct our children to attach to theirs, Dr. Sellers’ book Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy has had a global impact. Her latest book, due out June 1, 2021, Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too! was a New Release Bestseller in five categories. She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. She can be followed on Instagram @DrTinaShameless
 
Dr. Tina's website
Dr. Tina Shameless on Instagram 
Resources for parenting with sex-positive intention
Book: Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too!
 

I find myself rummaging in the cupboard when I'm particularly stressed out. But why do I do that? Why do we emotionally eat?
I'm in an anatomy and physiology class right now, focusing on the nervous system. We started learning about the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and my mind lit up about one thing in particular: how digestion relates to the stress state. These branches of the autonomic nervous system are in charge of the "fight or flight" and "rest or digest" states. So what does stress have to do with eating? 
I think eating is like a cheat code. It helps us bump ourselves out of the fight or flight state by forcing our bodies to rest and digest. It's a brilliant strategy if you think about it! But what happens when we don't manage our stress in other ways? 
This episode is about mindfulness, gratitude for the wisdom of our bodies, and practical tools to help reduce stress and introduce more mindfulness into how we eat, because eating isn't just for fuel, it's also for pleasure!
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In the beginning of the episode, I tell you about Brick. If you want to learn more and get your own handy tool, you can find it HERE. 
 
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We're all members of the cast in this big play called life. For the majority of our lives, we play along, delivering our lines, and embodying the character we were told to play. 
But what happens when we realize we don't like how the script is written? What if this character that was written for me doesn't really fit? We can start to intentionally change the script. Write a different story. Say the lines that resonate with who we truly are. 
Additionally, we like to hold other people to a script that we've written for them, not understanding the damage we're doing when we demand that others behave in a certain way according to our plans. When we can release people from our expectations, we give them the gift of being exactly who they are. Does that mean we allow any and all treatment? No way, but we can co-write the play.
Enjoy this week's episode. If you want to hear more from me, you can come hang out with me on the socials (I'm on Instagram the most). Join me https://www.instagram.com/morgan_motsinger/
 

I came across a poem that made me feel incredibly hopeful:
 
“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back.” -Albert Camus
 
I found a small snippet of this poem when I was cleaning out my office and found the book I purchased years ago as a guest book for Anni's funeral. When I needed it, I couldn't find it, but a year after her funeral--there it was.
This poem was just what I needed in this moment, and it sparked this deeper thought about this big question:
What do we do when we feel like giving up?
I hope today this episode offers some hope amidst the hard things, gives you some practical advice on how to handle naysayers and dream-squashers (including that critical inner voice), and how to keep going when you can't quite make out the light ahead. 
 
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You can find me (Morgan) over on Instagram or on my website www.morganmotsinger.com

You've probably heard "attachment theory" (anxious attached, avoidant, etc), and the term "codependent", but what does that actually mean? And how does it practically show up in our relationships?
 
We get bogged down by terminology and we diagnose our relationship troubles, handing out labels left and right. Labels may not be very helpful, but what is helpful is understanding how we show up in our relationships, and how our perspective on our close relationships is formed by our first relationships with our parents and immediate family. 
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Brooke Bergman is a relationship coach and licensed family and marriage therapist.
She has a particular interest in entrepreneurial mental health, recovery from religious fundamentalism and trauma, divorce recovery, modern dating and modern marriage, women's body image and disordered eating, and supporting healthy romantic partnerships as a vehicle for creating a more stable and vibrant society. 
In addition to working with her own clients, she provides consultation services through ZenFounder, an organization dedicated to supporting entrepreneurs’ mental health and relationship needs.
 
You can find her on her website https://www.brookebergman.com/