Pandemic Mama

Irina Gonzalez from Parenting in Hard Mode
Pandemic Mama

The Pandemic Mama podcast is a limited-series podcast that features honest conversations about having a baby during COVID-19 times. Created and hosted by Irina Gonzalez, a journalist, editor, and bisexual Latina mom with ADHD whose work centers on intersectional identity and its impacts on parenting and mental health. For ongoing conversations about raising Gen Alpha kids and nurturing social justice-minded families, sign up for the Parenting in Hard Mode newsletter at https://irinagonzalez.substack.com/ Listen to interviews with Nathalie Walton (co-founder and former CEO of Expectful—now owned by Babylist), Carmen Perez (civil/human rights activist and co-founder of the Women’s March), Hannah Howard (Editor-in-Chief of ParentCo and author of Feast: True Love in and out of the Kitchen and Plenty: A Memoir of Food and Family), Conz Preti (Parenting + Health Senior Editor at Business Insider), Bre Scullark (model and entrepreneur), Jesus Triviño (Latin Pop Culture Expert and Senior Director at TIDAL), Dr. Erin Watson (family medicine and emergency medicine physician and author of Pregnancy During A Pandemic, We Can Survive This Together: A Pregnant Doctor’s COVID-19 Survival Guide), Kelly Fitzgerald Junco (sober writer and therapist-in-training aka @thesobersenorita on Instagram), Blair Briody (journalist and author of The New Wild West: Black Gold, Fracking, and Life in a North Dakota Boomtown), Maria Piedrabuena (award-winning multimedia journalist and publisher at Tu Prensa Local), Amanda McCraken (freelance writer and host of The Longing Lab podcast), Jenn Chowdhury (multi-platfrom journalist and communications specialist), and more. irinagonzalez.substack.com

  1. MAY 22

    How to Be a Unicorn in Suburbia

    Welcome! Parenting in Hard Mode is a community and safe space for BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, neurodivergent, and differently-abled parents who are raising Gen Alpha kids (born 2010-2024) and nurturing social justice-minded families—all while taking care of our mental health. Allies welcome, too. Please subscribe to connect with fellow parents through empathy and compassion. Let’s build our virtual village together. Growing up, I always felt like I was “different” than other kids. I don’t know if it’s because I’m an immigrant (my family came to the U.S. just after my 8th birthday), have a unique background (half Russian, half Cuban), or if even back then I had a subconscious understanding that I’m queer and neurodivergent. Or perhaps it’s just a little bit of childhood trauma due to being parented by a narcissist who early on called me “weird,” the “black sheep of the family,” and often wondered why I couldn’t be “normal.” As a teen, I rebelled against those labels thrown on me by the people who supposedly love me unconditionally (hint: not a possibility for narcissists) by instead embracing my weirdness, the things that made me unique, and constantly saying that normal doesn’t exist. I even came out as bisexual to my family and friends when I was 16 years old in 2002, something that my friends embraced and my parents got angry about and then pretty much ignored. (I wouldn’t know I’m neurodivergent until age 35.) Basically, all the positive things I said about the things that made me “different” fell on deaf ears at home, but I embraced them nonetheless. As soon as I could, I escaped my hometown of southwest Florida to go to college in New York City—and I found my people and myself there. Being different was a strength there, and finding community with other Latinx people, with other queer people, with other different people was easy. It’s where I felt most at home and still do. But life circumstances took me out of the city that I’ll always call home after 12 happy years, and it’s now been eight years since I truly felt like I belonged where I lived. Leaving New York was the right decision but one that still pains me—especially because living in another big city isn’t an option either. For a while, I lived in my suburb-without-an-urban-area-nearby hometown in Florida—where I met and fell in love with my husband and had our child—and now live outside of Denver. Close enough that it’s not difficult to visit but far enough that going to the city needs to be planned out and, well, I kinda need a good reason to do. “I’m stuck in the burbs” is something I’ve often said to my closest friends, most of whom still live in NYC. Or “I’m in suburban hell” when I’m having a particularly frustrating day feeling not quite like myself. My feelings about leaving New York are still complicated and there are still many things I grieve about my life there—many of which involve the diverse communities I was a part of while living there. Whether it was singing karaoke at Marie’s Crisis while spotting Danny Strong joining in nearby or attempting to try every single burger at Burger Bash during NYC Wine & Food Festival back when it was hosted by Bobby Flay or taking the N train through three boroughs to visit Flushing Chinatown and my favorite panaderia in Sunset Park all in one day, there is just something about the city that I haven’t found anywhere else. And as I recently realized in therapy, NYC was probably a spectacular place to live in as someone with undiagnosed Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). There are a million things I can think of off the top of my head that made my life in my 20s pretty perfect for my ADHD brain—and almost all of those things are not possible in my life today. I don’t regret where my life has taken me or the way my chosen family changed over the years, but I still miss the things that made me feel the most “me”

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The Pandemic Mama podcast is a limited-series podcast that features honest conversations about having a baby during COVID-19 times. Created and hosted by Irina Gonzalez, a journalist, editor, and bisexual Latina mom with ADHD whose work centers on intersectional identity and its impacts on parenting and mental health. For ongoing conversations about raising Gen Alpha kids and nurturing social justice-minded families, sign up for the Parenting in Hard Mode newsletter at https://irinagonzalez.substack.com/ Listen to interviews with Nathalie Walton (co-founder and former CEO of Expectful—now owned by Babylist), Carmen Perez (civil/human rights activist and co-founder of the Women’s March), Hannah Howard (Editor-in-Chief of ParentCo and author of Feast: True Love in and out of the Kitchen and Plenty: A Memoir of Food and Family), Conz Preti (Parenting + Health Senior Editor at Business Insider), Bre Scullark (model and entrepreneur), Jesus Triviño (Latin Pop Culture Expert and Senior Director at TIDAL), Dr. Erin Watson (family medicine and emergency medicine physician and author of Pregnancy During A Pandemic, We Can Survive This Together: A Pregnant Doctor’s COVID-19 Survival Guide), Kelly Fitzgerald Junco (sober writer and therapist-in-training aka @thesobersenorita on Instagram), Blair Briody (journalist and author of The New Wild West: Black Gold, Fracking, and Life in a North Dakota Boomtown), Maria Piedrabuena (award-winning multimedia journalist and publisher at Tu Prensa Local), Amanda McCraken (freelance writer and host of The Longing Lab podcast), Jenn Chowdhury (multi-platfrom journalist and communications specialist), and more. irinagonzalez.substack.com

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