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Each month, Sara and Jay explore topics in sex health, relationships, queer identities, BDSM, kink, sex work, and more. This podcast is only for listeners 18 and older.

Queer Sex Ed Podcast Queer Sex Ed Podcast

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 243 Ratings

Each month, Sara and Jay explore topics in sex health, relationships, queer identities, BDSM, kink, sex work, and more. This podcast is only for listeners 18 and older.

    Building Trans Justice Into Sex Ed

    Building Trans Justice Into Sex Ed

    Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice.
    We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53.
    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/IicmJZnuTvGPk7Ojfgieqg
    Segments:
    1:30 - Intro
    4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic
    20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present
    28:43 - Patreon Message
    32:30 - Main Topic Intro
    38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education
    44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation
    49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed
    56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum
    59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From
    1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself
    Show Links:
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear
    https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play
    https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/
    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439 
    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407 
    https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed
    https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/
    https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness
    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a
    http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html
    https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/
    https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/
    https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/
    Sex Education Guidelines:
    https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/
    https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf
    https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/
    https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/
    https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html

    • 1 hr 27 min
    Trans Justice and Sex Ed

    Trans Justice and Sex Ed

    This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice.
    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg
    Segments:
    1:30 - Intro
    3:22 - Accountability Corner
    17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion
    25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion
    35:09 - Patreon Message
    36:40 - Main Topic Intro
    41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed?
    54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better?
    1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered 
    1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed
    1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class
    Show notes:
    www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe
    www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart 
    www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay
    www.zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e
    www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21
    www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9
    www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11
    www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53
    www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615
    www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/
    Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version: https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf
    www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html
    www.medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc
    www.nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns
    www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html
    www.siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/

    • 1 hr 41 min
    Genital Torture and Trans Bodies

    Genital Torture and Trans Bodies

    Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before!
    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ
    Segments:
    1:30 - Intro
    7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance
    14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance?
    22:40 - Patreon Message
    25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play?
    29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"?
    33:23 - Types of GT Play
    52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT
    1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips
    1:23:04 - Negotiating GT
    Show notes:
    https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/
    https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days
    https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras
    https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know
    https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure
    https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/

    • 1 hr 37 min
    Dysphoria & Sex as a Trans Person

    Dysphoria & Sex as a Trans Person

    Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience.
    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/FM-xOB1SR4ek6UXYWOjcRg
    Segments:
    1:30 - Intro
    2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria
    20:09 - Dysphoria Tips
    45:46 - Patreon Message
    47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person
    59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm
    1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips
    Show notes:
    https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/not-all-trans-folks-dysphoria/
    https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-navigate-gender-dysphoria-during-sex
    https://www.buzzfeed.com/kaichengthom/the-search-for-trans-womens-orgasms
    [NSFW] https://crashpadseries.com/
    [NSFW] http://troublefilms.com/
    http://instar-books10.mybigcommerce.com/nerve-endings-the-new-trans-erotic/

    • 1 hr 36 min
    QSE Listener Questions 6

    QSE Listener Questions 6

    Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again.
    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw
    Segments:
    2:35 - Season 2 changes to QSE
    6:18 - Endometriosis and Testosterone HRT
    20:11 - Identity-based Humiliation Play and Slurs
    32:26 - Patreon Message
    36:32 - Oral Herpes Transmission and Communicating Boundaries
    53:21 - STI Risk with New Tongue Piercing
    1:05:53 - Wrap Up
    1:09:51 - Bonus! An Anti-Fascist Rant
    Show notes:
    [Last Week Tonight, Bias in Medicine]
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TATSAHJKRd8
    https://www.history.com/news/chamberlain-kahn-act-std-venereal-disease-imprisonment-women
    https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html
    Editors note: I accidentally left the same small clip of audio in the show at the end twice. I don't know how it happened, but I can't redo it without redoing the entire time-coded transcript so I'm leaving it in. I'll try and be more careful in the future.

    • 1 hr 31 min
    Body Changes on Hormones

    Body Changes on Hormones

    This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone.
    Segments:
    3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing
    13:13 - Patreon Message
    14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT
    25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex
    36:26 - Effects of Testosterone
    49:17 - Effects of Estrogen
    1:01:10 - Effects of Spironolactone
    1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone
    1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel's Recent Post About Hysterectomy
    1:26:12 -  Wrap-up and Tease for Next Week

    Show Links:
    www.vice.com/en_us/article/59dxw3/a-guide-to-muffing-the-hidden-way-to-finger-trans-women
    Direct link to buy F*****g Trans Women by Mira Bellwether: https://payhip.com/b/hRtK
    https://www.wpath.org/publications/soc
    www.hrc.org/resources/safer-sex-for-trans-bodies
    www.transhealth.ucsf.edu/trans?page=guidelines-home
    www.instagram.com/p/Bz57jmKjtTj/ (SERIOUS CW for body gore and bloody images. This is the Buck Angel post Jay is responding to around the 1 hour 15 minute mark. I feel we describe it well enough in the show to make our larger point without needing to see the actual picture, but I know some people will want to see the original thing for context.)
    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019/2020 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.
    You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

    • 1 hr 33 min

Customer Reviews

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243 Ratings

243 Ratings

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This podcast is a beautiful collaboration!! My friend recommended to me during a time when I was navigating a lot of newness in my queer identity and relationships and listening gave me some incredible insights, access/exposure to information around queerness and honestly a huge sense of comfort when I was feeling super confused. A really believe this is a resource for everyone.

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I’m constantly begging people to listen to your episodes on transmedicalism. Thank you so much for this gift to the community, it is truly a treasure.

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