S2 Ep6. The Love Drum Philosophy with Jessica Lightbourne

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In this powerful episode, Aderonke Bademosi Wilson sits down with Jessica Lightbourne, a coach, mother, and advocate for love-driven living. Jessica shares her journey of resilience, authenticity, and the transformative power of choosing love over fear.

One of the core philosophies that Jessica lives by is what she calls The Love Drum Philosophy. She defines herself as a lover, emphasizing love as her core value. For Jessica, love is about wholehearted living, blending spirituality, creativity, and compassion. She explains, "Love means choosing courage, authenticity, and passion—even when fear arises."

Motherhood has been one of Jessica's greatest teachers. Raising her 22-year-old daughter has helped her develop commitment, emotional intelligence, and the ability to balance freedom with responsibility. As she reflects on her journey, she shares, "Motherhood showed me love is showing up—even when it’s uncomfortable."

Jessica's transition from a legal career to coaching was a pivotal moment in her life. Now, as a coach, she helps others align with their values and live authentically. Her father, a natural coach, was a major influence on her decision to pursue this path. She describes coaching as "loving, listening, and asking: Are you choosing love or fear?"

Throughout her life, Jessica has faced and overcome many challenges. Her time in Cuba, where she handwashed clothes and took bucket baths, along with caring for her ailing father, taught her resilience. She also fulfilled her father's dream of visiting South Africa’s Robben Island. In her words, “Leadership is living your vision despite circumstances.”

Entrepreneurship has also been a significant part of Jessica's journey. Leaving her 9-to-5 job took courage, but it was supported by community and faith. Her non-negotiables now are journaling, particularly her morning pages, and staying physically active. As she puts it, “Confidence comes from doing brave things—you build evidence you won’t die.”

Jessica also shares her vision for the future, where artificial intelligence (AI) is infused with love, equity, and diversity. She urges that we input compassion into AI systems to counteract bias, asking, “How can we skew AI toward humanity? Start by choosing love in every interaction.”

Jessica's journey and insights are filled with wisdom. Some of her most notable quotes include: "My limitation has not limited me," "Confidence comes from doing the brave thing," "Declarations are magic—your brain can’t tell reality from fiction," and "Entrepreneurship is a faith walk."

For those seeking inspiration, Jessica recommends the book The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, a guide to reclaiming creativity and self-discovery through 12 transformative steps.

Takeaways from Jessica’s conversation include choosing love daily by replacing fear with passion and ego with spirit, declaring your intentions with specific goals to manifest change, prioritizing self-care through journaling and movement to sustain energy and clarity, and leading with humanity by infusing technology and relationships with empathy.

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