S2E36 Bullying, Building Confident Kids, and Bridging the Communication Gap for Big Topics Bookend Homeschoolers

What an episode we have for you this week! It ended up twice the length because we just couldn’t delete any of the good info Adam brought us, but it’s more than worth it… we promise! Today we have Adam Brooks on the show to share with us about bullying and all that is involved, can lead up to it, how to handle it, how to prepare our kids for it, and more. Seriously, this may be our best episode. Listen to every minute, even if you have to break it up, because you will learn so much and add to your parenting tool bag in many many ways! We have some powerful, humorous, and amazing Homeschooling Moments the Week to start you off.
0:50 Guest: Adam Brooks
1:13 Homeschooling Moment of the Week: Rachel (Sam stepping in to defend Gideon)
4:10 HSMotW: Adam (sitting through a 5th grade music concert)
5:12 HSMotW: Mindy (hearing humpback whales under water)
6:17 Adam Brooks: Speaker, Educator, Advocate, & Communication Enthusiast
7:00 Topic Talk: Bullying+
7:15 Wrong mindset that can make bullying unexpected
8:41 Types of bullying
8:55 Terms to clarify: drama, bullying, and harassment
11:52 Problems with zero tolerance policy
13:00 How can parents lessen the risk of bullying, if anything?
17:30 How many times do we need to talk about big topics?
19:00 Compounded conversations are the worst
20:00 A big tip to help our kids talk to us about big topics
22:36 When should you talk about big topics?
25:26 How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims
26:00 Drive-A-Logue Big topic help for family communication
50:31 A problem with us, questions, and kids
33:25 What are signs that our kids are being bullied?
35:00 How to navigate when kids don’t want to talk a change in their behavior?
38:00 What if we are coming to this late in our kids’ bullying experience?
42:00 What can we say/do if the bullying is happening? Cheerleader vs Coach vs Referee
44:35 Also, and! Not Yes, but!
46:00 Group/crowd bullying and instigator(s)
48:30 Unselfie by Dr. Michele Borba
50:25 What should we avoid doing?
54:00 Rachel shares a personal struggle in their home, knowing others may relate: How to handle when one child is provoked by a sibling intentionally to get responses AND cause the other child to be the “bad kid” ?
56:25 Rosalind Wiseman and Cultures of Dignity
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57:25 Teaching kids to recognize their cues, triggers, feelings, etc. and what to do to help work stress, anger, frustration out
59:30 Saving Our Sons: A New Path for Raising Healthy and Resilient Boys by Dr. Michael Gurian
59:44 Why we shouldn’t have our sons write down what happened, they felt, etc.
1:01 How oxytocin affects us in being able to rationally talk through something and the only two things that can bring that hormone level down
Bookend Homeschoolers on IG
Mindy at gratefulforgrace on IG
Rachel at colemountainhomeschool on IG
Adam Brooks on IG and his site and at Drivalogue
If you work at a school/center/camp/RTC, we humbly suggest you hire Adam for a talk. Or two.